If you’re looking for options on what to do when your girlfriend breaks up with you, here they are:
- Get her back and then make the relationship better than it was before.
- Make her so jealous that she tries to get you back.
- Move on without her by having sex with new women or finding yourself a new girlfriend.
So, what do you want to do?
Do you want to get her back or move on?
Do You Want to Get Her Back?
If you want to get your girlfriend back after a break up, make sure that you avoid the following common mistakes…
If your girlfriend has decided to break up with you and you want her to change her mind and take you back, the first thing you need to do is figure out why she chose to break up with you.
Watch this video for some examples of why a woman will break up with her boyfriend…
Until you know what really made her feelings for you change, you won’t be able to fix what she really wants you to fix, improve or change about yourself.
Whatever you do, make sure that you don’t promise to her that you can change or that things will be different if you have not figured out what it is that needs to change.
Younger women, women who don’t have much experience with relationships or unattractive women will often accept a guy back if he promises to change, but they won’t keep accepting him back and over and over again for life.
Every woman reaches a point in her life or relationship experience where she realizes that she needs a ready-made man, rather than guy who is still working out how to be the man in a relationship.
A classic mistake a lot of guys make is begging and pleading to be given a second chance along with promises such as, “I can change,” or requests like, “Please! Just tell me what it is you want me to do and I’ll do it. I’ll do whatever you want to make you happy. Please give me a chance!”
This is a mistake on two different levels.
1. Most women don’t believe a guy when he says that he can change
Firstly, promising that you can change (when you don’t even know what she really wants you to change) is seen as an empty promise because she has no way of knowing if you are capable of improving, adapting, fixing or changing things about yourself to be the man she really wants.
You’re just saying that you can change, but if she’s been in relationships before, she will know that most guys say that and then don’t even know how to change or what she really wants them to change.
For example: A lot of women will break up with a guy when she realizes that he’s not enough of a man for her. Yet, what does that mean? How do you be “enough of a man” for a woman?
Essentially, you need to:
- Make her feel feminine in comparison to your masculinity (i.e. how you think, feel, behave, take action in life), rather than making her feel neutral like a friend or making her feel more dominant and masculine than you are.
- Rise up and reach for your true potential as a man, rather than hiding from life behind her and the relationship.
- Love and appreciate her for who she really is deep down, rather than always trying to change her or get her to be more like you.
- Make her feel proud to be your girlfriend when you are around other people together, rather than making her feel embarrassed by the way you behave or by the way you let other people treat you.
The list goes on and on and it’s something that a guy either knows or he doesn’t. If you don’t know what it takes to be seen as a real man when in a relationship with a woman, all of that is explained in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
2. Begging and pleading are not attractive traits in a man.
Women are attracted to the emotional strength of men (e.g. confidence, high-self esteem) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecurity, neediness, clinginess, desperation, etc).
Sometimes, a guy hopes that by begging and pleading, it will show his girlfriend how much he cares and how much she means to him.
Yet, when a woman is breaking up with a guy, she’s usually at a point where she doesn’t care how much she means to him. It’s not about his feelings anymore; it’s about how she feels and she’s no longer feeling enough respect, attraction and love for him to be in a relationship.
If a guy wants his girlfriend to care about how he feels, he needs to stop focussing on what he wants (i.e. to get her back, get another chance) and focus on what she wants (i.e. to see him change and become the sort of guy that she would be willing to forgive and then feel respect, attraction and love for again).
It’s actually pretty easy and quick to get done.
Break ups are very common and according to certain studies, it has been found that approximately 50% of couples break up and get back together again.
That percentage is growing higher and higher every day thanks to the internet and people like me who are dedicated to helping guys to get a woman back.
Over the past 4 years, I’ve helped more than 1,000 guys to successfully get a girlfriend, fiancé or wife back (via my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System or my phone coaching service), even when the woman starts out saying that she hates him and never wants anything to do with him again.
How is it possible to turn situations like that around? Watch this video to find out…
From this moment onward, start being the type of guy that she would want to forgive and take back.
Promising to change or pleading for another chance is not being the sort of guy that she will be excited to take back.
In most cases, a woman will need to hear her boyfriend apologize for his mistakes, explain how he understands why she really broke up with him and ask for her to forgive him.
When she does forgive him, she will then naturally open herself back up to feeling respect and attraction for him again and when she does that, she will automatically begin to reconnect with her loving feelings for him.
If you’re not sure what to say or do to get your girlfriend to forgive you and give you another chance, all of my proven to work examples are provided in, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
Do You Want to Move On Without Her?
Sometimes a relationship will end and both the man and woman will feel like it’s best to just move on and find someone new.
If that’s how you’re feeling about your girlfriend right now, what you need to do is get yourself ready to attract other women.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to attract other women and even attract your girlfriend when you interact with her again…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much or little attraction women feel for you.
For example: If you interact with a woman and come across as nervous, insecure and unsure of yourself, she will naturally feel turned off by you.
However, if you interact with a woman and come across as relaxed, confident and sure of yourself, she will naturally feel attracted to you.
So, now that you know more about how a woman’s attraction for a man works, what do you want to do about your girlfriend?
If you want to move on without your girlfriend now that she has broken up with you, it’s important that you start trying to learn from the experience so you can become a better man for your next relationship.
These days, a lot of guys get dumped by many women throughout their life because they never really learn how to be the kind of man that women really want.
This is something that is happening to modern men, but it wasn’t so hard for men in the past.
For example: In the past, women were completely dependant on men for money, shelter, food and protection. Women couldn’t work and earn their own money and it was also highly shameful to get divorced.
So, even if a woman was unhappy when she got married (most people didn’t date and lost their virginity when they got married), she had to stick with her man for life.
Of course, that’s not the way today’s world works.
Women are now free to get in and out of relationships as often as they like, until they find a man who makes them feel the way that they really want to feel when in a relationship.
Right now, the most important thing for you to do is to ensure that you are capable of being the kind of man that women feel intensely attracted to and want to stick with for life.
If you’re not that guy, you will experience break up after break up. I know this because I’ve been helping guys to get women back for years and even if a woman marries a guy, it doesn’t mean that she will stick with him for life.
The couples that you see who are still happy, madly in love and excited to be together are those who have been able to deepen the love, respect and attraction over time in the relationship.
That’s what you need to do these days to be able to keep a relationship together. You can’t just take a woman for granted anymore, like men in the past could.
Men in the past could treat a woman badly for life and she’d still have to stick around and put up with it.
In today’s world, you’ve actually got to be the sort of man that a woman wants to stay with and if you’re not, she simply won’t stick around.
Should You Avoid All Contact With Your Girlfriend From Now On?
One of the most common pieces of advice that you will hear if you’re attempting to get your girlfriend back or to move on is to avoid all contact with her.
Yet, you have to be careful with that piece of advice because it only applies to some situations.
If you want to move on, then it makes sense not to contact her at all. Just meet some new women and get to a place where you are happy without her and then it’s fine to contact her if you want to at that point.
However, if you want to get her back, you should get in contact with her and arrange a time to meet up in person so you can apologize to her, explain how you now understand why she broke up with you and ask her to forgive you.
It’s fine to wait a couple of days before reaching out to her to ask for the meet up, but if you leave it too long, most women will simply use that time to move on without you.
Additionally, if she feels as though you’re not contacting her because you’re playing games with her and trying to make her contact you, she will usually go out and party with some girlfriends, get drunk and hook up with a guy.
Either that, or she will flirt with other guys at work or university and start dating and having sex.
I know this because I deal with new ex back cases every day and in most cases, the guy has gone way too far with the No Contact Rule.
Watch this video to understand why the No Contact Rule is usually a bad idea…
As you will discover from the video above, not contacting your girlfriend may work in some cases, but a lot of women will simply use that space and time to begin moving on without you.
Should You Rekindle the Love With Her or a Find Love With a New Woman?
One of the great things about love is that it is everywhere.
There is no shortage of love to be experienced with women. There are literally millions of women who would be perfect for you.
However, only you can decide if you want to experience love with a new women or rekindle the love with your girlfriend.
If you feel as though the love that you’ve been experiencing with your girlfriend is what you want for life, then you should go through the process of getting her back, which I explain in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
On the other hand, if you feel as though the love and relationship wasn’t good enough and you know you deserve better, then you should start guiding women through the simple pick up process that I call, The Flow