Getting an ex back is a lot easier than most guys might think.
To show you how it’s done, here are 5 success stories of what men did to get an ex woman back and why it worked.
The following success stories are based on the most common of the 100s of ex back cases that I’ve personally worked on with clients.
1. He regained her trust by changing, improving and letting her experience it in person. Then, they got back together.
A woman’s trust in who you are as a man is very important in a relationship.
If she can’t trust in you to be a confident, loving, emotionally strong man, her guard starts to go up and she no longer wants to give you all of her love.
So, when a guy behaves in ways that turn a woman off during a relationship (e.g. he is too insecure and clingy, is jealous and controlling, lacks purpose in life outside of the relationship with her, takes her for granted) her feelings of trust, respect, attraction and love for him will decline over time.
Initially, she may try to convince him to change by dropping hints about his behavior or throwing tantrums to show him how upset and unhappy she is with the relationship.
Yet, if the guy doesn’t pick up on her hints and takes action to change those things about himself, or if he simply ignores her hints and assumes that because she loves him so much she should put up with anything, she will eventually break up with him.
So, when a guy gets his ex back in cases like those, it’s usually because he has changed the things about himself that were turning her off and in the process regained her respect and trust.
For example: A guy got broken up with by his woman because he was jealous and controlling in the relationship with her.
He was clinging to her and acting like a controlling bully by forbidding her to go out with her friends, or accusing her of cheating or wanting to cheat every time she interacted with another guy, (e.g. at work, at university, on Facebook).
So, what is an example ex back success story for a situation like this?
To show her that he had changed and regain her trust, the man called her and invited her to a meet up.
Naturally, she wasn’t convinced that anything about him would be different, so she was resistant at first, saying things like, “I don’t think that’s a good idea,” or “You broke my trust and I just don’t have feelings for you anymore. I don’t think it’s a good idea that we meet” or, “I don’t think I’m ready to meet up yet. I think I need more time.”
However, rather than get disheartened and give up, the man simply focused on sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for him by making her smile, laugh and feel happy to be talking to him over the phone.
By triggering some of her feelings, she lowered her guard and then said, “Yes” to meeting up with him.
Yet, just because she agreed to see him again, it didn’t mean that she was 100% ready to get back together with him.
She needed to see for herself the changes she experienced over the phone.
So, at the meet up, she pretended to be interested in getting back together with him one minute, and then acted cold and indifferent the next minute to see how he would react.
Rather than being insecure and emotionally weak like he would of in the past, he remained confident and simply smiled and laughed at her behavior and then continued to interact with her.
She then tried to make him jealous by saying something along the lines of, “I don’t know if I want to get back together with you. I’m actually having a lot of fun now. I’m going out to clubs with my single friends and I’m meeting many interesting guys.”
She was testing to see if he would react like his old self by getting jealous, angry or throwing a tantrum at her.
Instead, he just smiled and said something like, “Good for you. I’m glad you’re enjoying yourself.”
This really surprised her and she may have begun to wonder, “Why isn’t he getting jealous? Does he have a new woman who is prettier than me, or has really just changed and become more of a man now? If I had said something like that to him before we broke up he would have gone through the roof. Yet, now he’s smiling and even telling me that it’s a good thing. He’s really changed. I actually like the new him. He’s fun to be around now.”
The more time that she spent hanging out with him, the more she got to experience the new and improved version of him.
He suddenly seemed more attractive to her than ever before and her feelings of trust and respect for him began to grow.
He then asked her to get back together again and see how it goes and she said, “Yes.”
2. He gave her a week of space, used that time to improve his ability to attract her, contacted her, met up for coffee and got the relationship back together
Most guys don’t know what to do when they get broken up with by the woman that they love, so they just give up on the idea of getting their ex back, or ignore her in the hopes that she will eventually come back on her own.
Yet, that rarely works, because the longer a guy spends ignoring a woman, the more time she has to get over him, and potentially hook up with another man.
Giving a woman a week of space is the perfect amount of time because it allows things to cool down after the break up, but doesn’t give her too much time to forget about you and move on.
When a guy contacts his ex woman (e.g. via text message, e-mail, on social media, or on a phone call) to invite her out for coffee after giving her a week of space, he is much more likely to get her back than a guy who has been ignoring his ex for 30 or 60 days.
However, contacting an ex after a week of space isn’t the magic answer to getting her back.
A guy who contacts his ex within a week must prepare to attract her on the phone or in person before she will be open to the idea of getting back together again.
For example: A guy meets up with his ex for coffee.
At the meet up, he actively sparks her feelings of attraction by flirting with her and by being confident, charismatic and charming.
He also lets her experience the changes he’s made to himself since the break up (e.g. if he was insecure and allowed her to dominate him before, he is now masculine and emotionally strong, if he was lacking in drive and ambition, he is now rising through the levels of life and reaching for his true potential as a man).
She feels respect and attraction for him again, and they get back together again.
I’ve heard back from many guys who’ve gotten their woman back in ex back cases like this.
As long as you get some face-to-face time with her and properly re-spark her feelings, she won’t be able to stop herself from at least hugging and kissing you at the end of the meet up or during it.
When that happens, the next step is sex and getting the relationship back together.
You’d be surprised at how often that happens.
3. He gave her the attraction experience she was looking for all along and she then cancelled the divorce.
A wife will seldom give up on her marriage unless she absolutely has to (e.g. her husband has become very abusive, he is taking her for granted and making her life a living hell by expecting her to do everything for him).
Marriage usually lasts for life, but a husband stops making his wife feel the way that she wants to feel in the relationship (e.g. loved, appreciated, attracted, feminine, safe) she will usually decide to divorce him and have to deal with the stigma that is attached to being a divorcee.
For a man to stop his wife from wanting a divorce, he has to change the way he interacts and communicates with her in ways that triggers her feelings of attraction and respect for him again.
For example: Some of the ways that he can do that include…
- Reacting differently to what she says and does (e.g. if she nags him about not helping with the housework, rather than get upset about it, he understands that she’s feeling taken for granted and then focuses on making her feel loved and appreciated. Alternatively, he turns it into something for them both to laugh about, rather than taking it so seriously and he then helps her with some of the housework).
- Focusing on making her smile, laugh and feel happy to be around him, rather than just being neutral and not really caring about making her smile and laugh.
- Making her feel feminine, girly and taken care of in the relationship, rather than making her feel neutral or worse, feel like more of the “man” in the relationship.
- Showing her via his thinking, behavior and actions that he’s fixed some of the issues that have been turning her off (e.g. he’s more confident and is no longer being insecure, he now takes the lead in the relationship rather than expecting her to decide on everything).
In response to his new, attractive behavior, she naturally begins to feel more respect and attraction for him as a man and starts to ask herself, “I still love him and he’s clearly changed for the better, so do I really want to go through with the divorce?”
She then drops her guard, opens herself back up to the love in her heart and cancels the divorce.
Once again, I’ve heard back from so many clients and customers who’ve avoided a nasty, expensive divorce just by going through the steps in my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System
4. He got a new job, started being more mature, met up with her, reactivated her feelings and got the relationship back together.
A woman wants to know that her man is someone she can look up to, respect and rely on for life.
So, if a guy is sitting around and letting his life pass him by, she is likely going to be thinking, “What am I doing here? I’m stuck in a relationship with a guy who is wasting his life away and dragging me along with him. He’s so immature. He’s just wasting all of his spare time playing video games or watching TV. He’s stuck in a dead-end job and has no ambitions or goals for his life. I don’t want that anymore. I want a man who has a plan…a man who has bigger goals and ambitions and will make it happen, so I can feel safe. Imagine if I got pregnant with him…what kind of life would be have? He’s not even striving to achieve a better life. He’s just so comfortable now that we’re in a relationship. He has no idea how bad life could get for us if one of us lost our jobs, one of us got sick or if we couldn’t afford to take care of any children we had while paying rent or a mortgage. I’ve just got to leave him before my life gets any worse.”
Most women like the idea of being with a man who is rising through the levels of life by reaching for his true potential as a man.
So, when a woman realizes that her guy has no plan for his life, she will most-likely break up with him because his lack of purpose is a big turn off for her and makes her feel unsafe.
Of course, that doesn’t mean she won’t be able to feel respect and attraction for him ever again.
When she can see that he’s no longer the same immature guy that she broke up with, her feelings for him naturally change.
For example: A guy got broken up with because he was immature and lacked drive and direction in his life.
However, rather than sit around feeling sad and depressed about it, he decided to make some improvements to himself.
He then called up his ex and said something like, “I’ve had a lot of time to think about why you broke up with me, and I now understand that what I did wrong. I was just hanging around waiting for life to happen and wasn’t making any progress. That was childish and immature and I can see why you stopped respecting me as a man. I now understand that’s not how a real man behaves in life. However, I also want you to know that I’m not that same old guy anymore. I’ve made some real positive changes in my life and things are going well for me now. I have a new job that I love and I have big plans for my future. Thanks to you, I’ve learned from my mistakes and I’m moving forward in my life and becoming a better man. I just wish I didn’t have to hurt you during our relationship to realize that. I’m not asking for you to take me back, but I do want you to know that I love you and I have changed because it was the right thing to do.”
By saying something like that to his ex, he accomplishes 2 things:
- He shows her that he’s no longer the same guy that she broke up with and he’s now a new and improved man.
- He triggers her feelings of respect and attraction for him for being so mature, confident and forward moving, which makes her drop her guard and open up to the idea of getting back together with him again.
After saying that to her, he made a point of meeting up with her in person, so that she could experience the new him face-to-face.
At the meet up, he continued to spark her feelings for him by behaving in some of the ways that are naturally attractive to women (e.g. confident, charismatic, charming) and by showing her his new, mature side.
She may have then begun to wonder, “What is going on here? This isn’t the childish, immature guy I used to know who lacked purpose and direction in his life. Not only does he now have goals and dreams that he’s working towards, but he’s also so much more confident and self-assured. Wow…I never thought he would change, but here he is, a completely different man from the one I broke up with. I’m so impressed that he took charge of his life in this way. I could definitely see myself in a relationship with him now.”
She felt a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him, her guard came down and they got back together again.
Of course, admitting your mistakes to your ex doesn’t always make her instantly change her mind about breaking up with you and come running back, but it does soften her negative feelings (e.g. anger, pain, indifference) and allow her to feel some level of respect and attraction for you again.
5. He apologized for his mistakes, got her to forgive him and gave her a week of space. During that time, he improved his ability to attract her and then met up with her, had sex with her and they got back together.
Forgiveness is powerful.
When you get a woman to forgive you it makes her drop her guard and stop focusing on the negatives of the relationship.
Forgiveness really changes a woman.
After forgiving her ex, she almost always becomes more open to interacting with him on the phone and in person.
Then, when she can see (by what he says, how he behaves and how he interacts with her) that he’s at a different level now from what she remembers, she allows herself to feel respect and attraction for him again.
When she allows herself to feel attracted to him and respectful towards him, that’s when she starts to feel drawn to him.
However, to get to the point where his ex is forgiving him, he first has to apologize to her for his mistakes.
For example: He might say to her, “I know I stuffed up. I can see now why you felt like you had to break up with me. I understand now that at the time, breaking up was the right thing to do for both of us. It definitely allowed me to see the things about myself that needed improving and to have the time to become a better man. I just want you to know that I’m not the same old guy that you broke up with and I’m sorry for the pain I caused you. I’m not asking you to take me back at all, but I am asking you to forgive me. Can you forgive me? If you can, it will make you feel better and allow you to move on easier and it will also make me feel better because I truly am sorry for being such an idiot in our relationship, especially near the end. So, what do you say? Can you forgive me?”
When she forgives him, he then backs off and gives her a week of space.
During that time, she starts to think about all the changes that she experienced in him during their interaction.
She may then think to herself, “That’s definitely not the guy I broke up with. He’s definitely changed. I actually like the man that he’s become now. It feels good interacting with him again.”
After a week, he calls her and continues to say and do the types of things that trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for him.
He gets her smiling and laughing over the phone and when he asks her to meet up with him, she doesn’t hesitate to say yes.
At the meet up, he makes her feel even more attracted by displaying some of the personality traits and behaviors that are attractive to women, such as confidence, charm, charisma and the ability to make her laugh even when she’s being cold and distant.
She feels great and they kiss, have sex and get back together.
Have You Been Using a Failing Ex Back Approach and Expecting Winning Results?
If you want to win your ex back, you can’t use a failing strategy (e.g. ignoring her for 30-60 days, begging for another chance or trying to get her to feel pity for you because you love her so much).
To get her back, you’ve got to give her the kind of attraction experience that she wants and can’t get with other guys.
When a guy has tried everything that he knows (e.g. ignoring her, begging, trying to convince her), he may get to a point where he feels like there’s no hope of getting his ex back.
He might say, “I’ve tried everything but nothing is working. I will never be able to convince my ex to give us a second chance.”
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that he’s not getting her back because he has been is saying the same old things and using the same old tricks, rather than focusing on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for him.
For example: A guy might be calling his ex and begging and pleading with her to take him back.
He may be promising her that he really will change and telling her things like, “I can’t live without you. You mean the world to me. I promise that things will be different this time if you’ll just give me a chance” or “How can you let our love die? Doesn’t what we had together mean anything to you? I still love you and you don’t appreciate that, then there’s something wrong with you.”
Yet, none of what a guy is saying really matters to a woman if she’s lost respect and attraction for him (e.g. because he became very insecure in the relationship).
On the other hand, if he changes the way he communicates and interacts with her in a way that sparks her feelings of respect and attraction for him again, it makes the negatives of the relationship seem less serious to her because she is now seeing him in a more positive light.
So, if your ex is currently saying, “Forget about it. I don’t have feelings for you anymore and I don’t want to get back together again,” it means that the way you have been talking to her and interacting with her hasn’t sparking those feelings inside of her.
Yet, that doesn’t mean that you can’t start to trigger those feelings inside of her.
When you make some adjustments to the way you talk, behave and interact with her in a way that sparks her feelings, everything changes.
She drops her guard and getting your ex back becomes a matter of when rather than if.
So, when you do want your ex back?