Here are 7 of the most common reasons why a woman will break up with a boyfriend for being too dependent on her:
1. The relationship ended up feeling more like a burden than a benefit to her
A relationship should make both people feel better together, than they would if they were alone.
So, if a woman always finds herself having to ‘be there’ for her man emotionally (e.g. help get him out of bad moods, calm his anxieties, support him through challenging times, keep him organized), it can feel like the relationship is no longer fulfilling it’s purpose for her (i.e. to make her feel happier, more content and more fulfilled in life).
Then, rather than being a benefit to her, the relationship becomes a burden that she is carrying.
She knows that the only way to get rid of that burden, is to break up with her boyfriend and try to find a new man who can make the relationship feel like more of a benefit to her (e.g. he makes her feel in love, safe, protected, proud to be with him, relaxed, optimistic about their future).
2. The relationship made her feel like a mother or big sister to him, which then killed her feelings of attraction
For example: A guy might expect his woman take care of him the way his mother, or big sister did when he was young.
The guy usually won’t see his actions as being those of a child or brother, but a woman will and it will turn her off.
Women instinctively know that a manly man doesn’t need a woman to pat him on the back and tell him, “It’s okay…I’m here” if he’s going through a tough time in life, or if he encounters a new challenge in his journey through life.
A manly man gets on with doing whatever needs to be done, to continue moving forward in life and achieving his goals and ambitions.
He doesn’t need to cry about it, whine, or seek pity.
He remains emotionally strong, focuses on the solution and then works on doing whatever needs to be done.
As a result, his woman can look up to him, respect him and feel proud to be his woman.
If his woman happens to cheer him on and say something like, “I believe in you. You can do it honey” then that’s great, but he doesn’t need her to do that in order to feel motivated enough to start, or remain motivated and complete the task, or achieve the goal.
So, if a woman finds herself in a relationship with a guy who regularly needs her to hold his hand as he goes through a challenging time, or pat him on the back and try to help him overcome his fears so he feels brave enough to take action, she will naturally feel like more of a mother, big sister or mentor to him.
She then won’t be able to relax and be a real woman (i.e. girly, feminine, emotional, submissive) around him.
Instead, she will become more stern, withdrawn and essentially behave like ‘the man’ in the relationship.
Before long, she will realize that she is deeply unhappy with the relationship because her boyfriend is way too dependent on her to be the strong one.
As a result, she will break up with him and try to find a more emotionally strong and emotionally mature man.
3. He needed her a lot more than she needed him
Although a woman wants to be loved, appreciated and even a little bit needed by her man when in a relationship, but she doesn’t want to be his main source of happiness, or reason for living.
So, if a woman gets a sense that her boyfriend has become needy to the point where he can’t do much in his life without her, she will naturally start to feel overwhelmed by the pressure.
She may also begin to feel more valuable as a person than he is (i.e. because he needs her more than she needs him).
When that happens, she will begin to focus on his flaws and things about him that she doesn’t like.
Eventually, she will feel a lot more attractive and valuable to him and therefore, it will feel unfair to her to have to put up with his dependent behavior (e.g. needy, clingy).
4. His need for emotional support from her made her look at him as not being manly enough
Initially, a woman will usually accept it when a boyfriend needs her emotional support and will hope that he learns from the experience and becomes a stronger, more manly man as a result.
Yet, if she notices that he becomes even worse over time (e.g. he cries to her when faced with difficult situations at work, with his family or friends), she will begin to feel annoyed and frustrated that she’s wasting her time with a guy who doesn’t know how to be a real man.
If she also notices that the boyfriends or husbands of her girlfriends aren’t like that, it can make her feel very jealous and unhappy.
She may then wonder, “Why do I always have to be the emotionally stronger one in the relationship? Why do I always have to prop him up and make him feel good about himself? It’s not fair. I need a man, not a boy in a man’s body. He hasn’t grown up yet and I don’t know if he ever will.”
She can then begin to feel embarrassed when with him around friends or family, because she knows that they can see he’s not an emotionally strong man and secretly feel sorry for her for settling for him.
If he doesn’t man up, she will break up with him and try to find a man that she can be more proud of.
5. His idea of being a good boyfriend was largely based on what he’d seen on TV or in movies, even if he still doesn’t like to admit that to this day
In the West for example, women are usually depicted as being more dominant than men in relationships and are usually in control of the relationship dynamic (e.g. she makes the decisions, expects the guy to do what she tells him to do, is a self-made, independent woman, is in control of whether or not sex happens).
Men are usually depicted as being out of control of their emotions, following a woman’s orders, in some cases they even crying and acting wimpy.
In the East, the roles are reversed.
Women as usually depicted as being submissive and following the man’s lead, while the men are usually more dominant and controlling.
Depending on what type of movies and shows people watch on a regular, they will often unknowingly model their behavior on what they’ve seen.
As a result, in the West, many guys take on an approach of being nice, sweet, shy and hesitant around women.
From his perspective, he sees himself as being a good boyfriend, based on what he’s seen.
Of course, a guy usually won’t admit that he is copying what he has seen on TV and instead, will say that it’s just who he is.
Unfortunately, what guys like that don’t understand is that women will watch those types of relationship dynamics on TV and in the movies and enjoy it because it’s funny, weird or awkward, but they want it in their own relationship.
In the real world, women are always feel more attracted and in love when with a man who is a good man, but is also dominant or assertive in a loving way.
Essentially, he’s a man that she can look up to, respect and follow because he’s emotionally strong, is a good man and doesn’t become emotionally sensitive or unstable like a woman (or like men in movies, or in TV drama shows).
So, if a guy ends up acting like one of the guys from a movie or TV show, a woman will feel like he is too dependent on her emotionally.
No matter what he does for her, what he buys her or how nice he is to her, she won’t be able to respect him, feel attracted to him or love him.
6. She doesn’t want to be with a guy who needs her to keep propping him up, or encouraging him along the way
Most men don’t want to be with a woman who refuses to take on a more traditionally female role (e.g. respectful towards her man as the leader of the relationship, likes to cook and clean, likes to please him sexually and ensure that he is taken care of) and has to constantly be encouraged, or pushed to do it.
Likewise, most women don’t want to be with a guy who can’t handle the challenges of life and needs her to keep patting him on the back and encouraging him along, so he can be happy, confident and forward moving.
Even though women rarely admit this when asked (i.e. because they don’t want to have people say, “No girl. You’ve got to be strong. Be an independent woman. That’s what the feminists fought for. Don’t follow a man. Make him follow you”), it’s what her instincts are hardwired to want in a man.
So, when a guy is needy and leans on his woman too much, it turns her off on a deep, instinctive level.
7. She used that as an excuse to avoid explaining why she no longer feels attracted
Sometimes, a woman will find herself in relationship where nothing seems to be wrong (i.e. the guy treats her well, they don’t argue or fight, people always comment on how great they seem together, he loves her, she is well taken care of).
Yet, even though everything seems to be perfect, deep down she just doesn’t feel happy with him.
She knows that something is missing, but can’t explain it; even to herself.
Eventually, she decides to just break up with him, but because she doesn’t want him to talk her out of her decision, she says that it’s due to him bring too dependent on her.
In that way, it makes him feel as though it’s his fault for being too needy, so he’s more inclined to accept the break up.
She can then move on and try to find a man who makes her feel more attracted.
What a guy like that usually doesn’t understand, is that it’s not enough to be nice and treat a woman well.
If you want a woman to stick with you for life, you need to know how to make her feel naturally attracted and turned on by you, based on how you talk to her, behave around her and get her to behave around you.
If you don’t know how to do that, women will always lose interest in you in a relationship and will want out, regardless of how much you’ve done for them.
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