Here are 6 ways to get over her, so you can then get her back into a relationship with you, or move on without her if you want to do that instead: 

1. Prove to yourself that you can easily attract other high quality women like her

For most guys, doing that seems very difficult, but it’s actually very easy once you understand how a woman’s attraction really works. 

To begin with, don’t make the mistake of thinking that a woman’s attraction for a man works like a man’s attraction for a woman.

In other words,  in order to attract women, you don’t need to change your physical appearance (e.g. get a makeover, buy new clothes and shoes, go to the gym and build some muscle, change your hairstyle).

Remember: Although guys are attracted to a woman’s physical appearance and if a woman was to lose some weight and pretty herself up, her ex would feel attracted to her again, it doesn’t work that way for women.

Instead, a man’s physical appearance is only one aspect of what attracts a woman.

However, the most powerful attraction skill of all is a guy’s ability to make her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with him (e.g. desirable, sexually attracted, happy, excited).

This is why, if you want to attract high quality women and still re-attract your ex if you want to, you need to be able to attract them in the ways that are important to them.

For example: Some of the things that most women look for in a man and which determine whether she feels emotionally attracted to him or not, are…

  • Does he maintain his confidence with her, especially when she tries to test him by being warm and friendly one minute and then being cold and pretending not to be interested in him anymore the next, or does he crumble and become insecure and nervous?
  • Does he make her feel sexy and desirable in contrast to his masculine vibe and approach, or does she feel friendly feelings, or even worse, nothing at all when she interacts with him?
  • Is he a bit of a challenge around her so she feels like she has to work to impress him and maintain his interest and attention, or does he fall all over himself and make it too easy for her to get him to commit to her, so she feels bored and unexcited?
  • Is he emotionally independent and has his own goals, dreams, interests and hobbies in life, or is he clingy, needy and stifling?
  • Does he create a dynamic where he is a good man to her, treats her well and makes her feel adored and appreciated while still motivating her to be a good woman back to him too, or does he make her feel like pulling away from him and feeling less respect and attraction for him as time goes by? 
  • Does he believe in himself and in his value to her, or does he feel that he’s not good enough for her so he puts her on a pedestal and allows her to dominate him?

These are the kinds of attraction skills that a woman looks for and finds most attractive in a man.

So, when you think, act and behave in some of these ways around women, it becomes easy for you to attract them.

At the same time, you automatically become more attractive to your ex (i.e. because you’re now more like the man she always wanted you to be, women are automatically attracted to men who are wanted by other women).

As a result, not only do you feel good about yourself for being able to get any woman you want, you also now have what you need to re-attract the woman that you love and get her back.

Another thing you can do to help you get over being dumped by the woman that you love is…

2. Don’t waste time grieving over her 

Some guys never get over their ex woman and miss her for years or even decades. 

A guy like that might close himself off and stop dating other women altogether, because at the back of his mind he’s always thinking things like, “She was the love of my life. What is the point of dating other women? I want her, not someone else. Besides, no other woman can compare to her. I just know it.”

Alternatively, he might settle for a woman he’s not that attracted to or in love with, because deep down, he doesn’t believe another woman can be good enough compared to his ex.

He then goes through life in a relationship that is dull, boring and sad.

In some cases, he might even get dumped by the woman because she gets fed up of being in a relationship where her guy is secretly longing for his ex.

Don’t let that happen to you.

The fact is, grieving the loss of the woman you love isn’t a practical solution and in many cases, it can end up making you miss her even more. 

So, what should you do instead?

Take steps to get what you really want (e.g. another chance with your ex, or to get over her and move on with another high quality woman).

The choice is yours.

Remember: Even if your ex is currently saying things like, “I have no feelings for you anymore. Please accept that and leave me alone,” it doesn’t mean she will continue to feel that way a week from now when you actively reawaken her feelings for you again.

So, don’t waste years of your life missing her and wishing things could have been different, if what you really want is to get her back right now.

Instead, take action right away and start the ex back process.

A week or a month from now when she’s back in your arms again, you will be glad that you did.

3. Contact her, catch up with her as a friend, re-attract her and make her want you and then walk away 

For example: Imagine that you’re on a call with your ex right now.

Rather than approach the conversation in a way that’s likely just going to leave her feeling neutral towards you, or even thinking that she made the right decision to break up with you, use it instead to spark some of her feelings of romantic and sexual attraction for you.

So, instead of calling her and saying something along the lines of, “Hey, I just called to see say hi and see how you’re doing,” and then have a straightforward conversation with her after that, which will do nothing to make her feel attracted to you, you can instead use an approach that can make her feel drawn to you again in a good way.

What is that approach?


Humor makes people relax and open up, which is what you want your ex to do.

It then becomes easier for you to re-spark her feelings for you and make her want to see you in person.

So, focus on making her smile and laugh when you talk to her over the phone, rather than being too neutral or polite and not having any effect on her feelings for you as a result.

Then, when she seems happy and at ease, you can get her to agree to meet up with you in person for a quick cup of coffee as friends.

As long as you’ve been building her feelings of respect and attraction for you, she will likely agree.

However, even if she initially plays a bit hard to get and says things like, “Oh, I don’t know,” or “I’m not sure that’s a good idea,” don’t let it bother you.

Just maintain your confidence and tell her that you’re both mature adults and that there’s nothing wrong with two ex’s meeting up as friends to say hello in person.

At that point, she will likely agree and you can go ahead and make arrangements that suit you both.

At the meetup, just focus on building her sexual and romantic feelings for you (e.g. by flirting with her to create a spark between you, showing her via your actions, behavior and the way you respond to her that you’re at a different level now, maintaining your confidence when she pretends not to be interested anymore).

Then, when you sense that she’s feeling relaxed, attracted and happy to be interacting with you again, you can say something along the lines of, “Well, I’ve got to go now, but it was good seeing you again. Take care. Bye,” and then get up and leave (obviously after you and her have both said goodbye).

Of course, you don’t need to walk away permanently. 

Instead, just leave the interaction with her wanting more. 

She will then either contact you to initiate another meetup, or she will be excited and willing to see you again when you contact her (usually after about a week).

You can then fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.

Important: Don’t ignore her longer than that, because she will then likely assume that you’re over her.

She may then try to move on too, usually by hooking up sexually with another man.

Another thing you can do to help you get over being dumped by the woman that you love is…

4. Don’t write her a letter explaining how much you love her, how good your life is now, or anything else like that 

When a woman breaks up with a guy, it’s usually because she no longer feels enough respect, attraction and love for him to justify sticking around.

So, him pouring his heart out in a letter and telling her how much he misses her and how difficult his life has been since she left him, is probably not going to matter that much to her.

Essentially, she doesn’t have feelings for him, so his feelings for her don’t matter to her anymore.

On the other hand, if a woman gets a letter where her ex is telling her how happy he is without her, she’s likely going to get annoyed with him for trying to make her feel bad for dumping him.

She may then try to get revenge on him, by hooking up with other men and posting about it on social media to make sure that he finds out.

As a result, he’s the one who ends up losing out, not her.

Alternatively, she might call him up and say something along the lines of, “I thought we could maybe work things out between us, but in your letter, you said that your life is so good now, so I guess I don’t have a chance with you anymore. That’s too bad. I hope you’re happy though. Bye.”

If he then quickly tries to stop her from hanging up by saying something like, “No, no! I was just saying that. The truth is, I miss you and I can’t move on without you. So, if you want to work things out, I want that too,” she will know that he was just lying to her.

She will then lose even more respect for him for not being man enough to just try and get her back if that’s what he really wants, rather than trying to play mind games with her.

So, if what you want is to get your ex back, then focus on that, rather than writing letters that can easily be misinterpreted or ignored.

Contact her, reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you and get her back.

That’s almost always more effective than anything else.

Another thing you can do to help you get over being dumped by the woman that you love is…

5. Don’t discard all of your photos of her 

Doing that might feel like it can help you get over being dumped by the woman you love, but in reality, it’s quite a wimpy way to handle life. 

You don’t need to delete photos and unfriend a woman to get over her and then get her back, or move on if you want that instead. 

The more manly way to approach it is to focus on feeling genuinely happy in your life without her.

Until you can accept that you can be happy, regardless of whether your ex is in your life or not, you will be unable to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you when you next interact.

Additionally, you will struggle to find a replacement woman if you prefer to do that.

Remember: Women are attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, the ability to cope with whatever difficulties life throws at them) and turned off by emotional weakness (e.g. insecurity, being unable to handle challenging situations like getting dumped by the woman he loves).

So, if you interact with your ex (e.g. on a phone call or in person) and she senses how depressed you feel without her and that you’re struggling to get on with your life, she will most likely interpret it as emotional weakness and lose even more respect and attraction for you.

On the other hand, if you interact with a new woman and she picks up on your defeatist attitude (i.e. you’ve given up hope of being able to get over being dumped), she will automatically feel turned off and want nothing to do with you.

That will likely just reinforce your negative belief about yourself that you’re now unlovable.

So, don’t let that happen to you.

If you want your ex back, you must take action and think and act in ways that will make you feel positive, optimistic and genuinely happy with or without her.

You’ve just got to do it if you want her back for real, or if you want to find another, high quality woman.

When you focus on taking action to become genuinely happy without your ex, you are taking your mind off being dumped and improving yourself as a man at the same time.

Then, the next time you interact with her, she will see that you’re not a lonely, depressed guy who has been sitting at home alone, missing her and staying stuck at the same level, which will make her begin to feel some respect and attraction for you again.

She will then likely open up to interacting with you more to see where things go.

Additionally, when you interact with other women, you will automatically come across and a confident, emotionally strong, emotionally masculine man, making it easy for you to have your pick of beautiful women if you want to. 

Another thing you can do to help you get over being dumped by the woman that you love is…

6. Don’t take up pointless hobbies to distract yourself 

In some cases, a guy might try to hide his pain by pursuing random hobbies.

Unfortunately, though, that won’t work. 

The truth is, your love and desire for your ex is much stronger than a pointless hobby that won’t bring her back.

So, rather than wasting your time messing around with hobbies that don’t matter to you, a better approach is to take action to get her back.

In other words, call her on the phone, spark some of her feeling for you and get her to meet up with you so that she can fully experience the new you.

At the meetup, make her feel attracted in new and exciting ways.

For example: 

  • Show her by way of your behavior, conversation style and actions that you have already leveled up as a man (e.g. if you were insecure before, you’re now more confident and self-assured, if you were boring and predictable before, you’re now more of a challenge, if you placed her needs ahead of your own despite her bad behavior before, you now stand up for yourself to her and put her in her place in loving, but assertive manner).
  • Make her feel feminine and girly in your presence by thinking, talking, behaving, feeling and acting like a masculine man, rather than being extra nice or neutral around her.
  • Make her laugh and smile and feel good to be around you again, rather than making her feel tense, stressed out or annoyed.
  • Flirt with her to create some sexual tension between you so she wants to release that tension with kissing and sex, rather than being too polite or neutral and making her feel indifferent towards you as a result.

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