You can still be a nice guy and get laid or get a girlfriend.
You just need to add in one extra thing into your interactions with women.
The extra thing is sexual attraction and I’m going to explain how to do that as we go through this video, so let’s begin with tip number 1.
1. Make her see you as a charming guy, rather than just a nice guy
The way that it works is that if a guy is just nice to a woman, then she’s going to have friendly, nice feelings for him.
She’s not going to be feeling sexually attracted and turned on by his niceness.
Yet, if he actively makes her feel sexually attracted and turned on as he talks to her and he is also nice to her, then she sees him as a charming guy that she has a sexual and romantic interest in.
Some women refer to guys like that as charming guys, whereas other women just say things like, “I don’t know, there’s something about him. I like him.”
The something about him that she likes is that he’s making her feel sexually attracted, based on how he’s talking to her, behaving around her and getting her to behave around him.
So, the basic equation to remember is that when you make a girl feel sexually attracted to you, plus you are also nice to her at times, then she’s going to see you as charming.
Make her feel sexually attracted + Be nice to her = Charming
That’s how it works.
On the other hand, if you’re always just nice to a woman and are trying to show her that you respect her, you’re a gentleman and just want to be nice to her, then she’s not going to have sexually aroused feelings for you.
Of course, there are some exceptions to that fundamental rule.
Sometimes a guy is famous and he’s a nice guy and women still feel attracted to him.
Sometimes a guy is really good-looking and he’s a nice guy and women still feel attracted to him.
Yet, in pretty much every other case, if a guy is just being nice to a woman then she’s only going to have friendly feelings towards him.
She’s not going to be feeling like there’s something about him that is making her feel attracted and turned on.
2. Make her feel sexually attracted to you, based on how you talk to her, behave around her and get her to behave around you
If you want to be a nice guy and still get laid or get a girlfriend, you have to be willing to say and do things that make a woman feel attracted.
If you’re not willing to do that and are only willing to be nice, then most women aren’t really going to feel a spark with you, even though they could feel a spark with you if you were willing to say and do some things that would make them feel that spark.
So, say for example you’re eating lunch with a woman that you’ve got a crush on.
Maybe you work with her, you go to university with her or she’s a female friend of yours and you want to make her feel attracted to you.
You’re sitting down having lunch with her, you finish eating lunch and then she says to you, “Hey, can you put all this in the trash for me?” and expects you to just grab her rubbish, put it in the rubbish bin for her and be a typical nice guy who does whatever the woman says.
Now there’s nothing wrong with a man putting some things in the rubbish or the trash for a woman.
There’s nothing wrong with that at all.
Yet, where the problem occurs is where a man is doing those things in the hope that it makes the woman like him in a romantic way.
He’s hoping that a woman will see that he’s a really nice guy, he is reliable, he will treat her well and he will respect her and she then will grant him access inside of her panties.
Yet, that’s not how women work.
So, what can you say and do instead to continue being the good guy that you are, but also say and do something that makes her feel sexual attraction for you?
When she says, “Hey, can you put this in the trash for me?” you can joke around with her at that point.
You can playfully mess with her.
You can smile and playfully say something like, “Yeah, sure, I’ll put that in the trash for you, but what are you going to do for me in return? Are you going to wash my car or cook me dinner or something like that?”
You can then have a playful conversation with her about her potentially cooking you dinner, or washing your car to repay you for your gentlemanly behavior.
You can have a playful conversation with her about it.
It doesn’t have to be serious.
If a guy is in the friend zone with a woman who secretly likes him, then she will be happy about the fact that he is suggesting they do something together other than just eating lunch.
So, they might go out to dinner together, cook dinner together at home, she might cook for him and so on.
If she secretly has a crush on him, she might say, “Alright, I’ll cook dinner for you. I can do that” or if she’s a playful, feisty type of woman, she might say, “No, you have to cook dinner for me.”
Then, the nice guy can say, “Alright. Well, look, how about this, we’ll cook dinner together.”
That way, he’s not being pushed around by her.
He’s still being a good guy, but he’s not getting walked all over by her.
Another example response to her saying, “Hey, can you put all that in the trash for me?” is to say, “Put all that in the trash for you, huh? How about I put you in the trash? How about that, huh?” and then pretend to throw her in the trash (i.e. pretend to pick her up like a basketball, but obviously don’t actually pick her up. Just pretend to pick her up as though she is a basketball and then air throw it in the direction of the bin).
If a guy is generally being a good guy around a woman and he also has the confidence to playfully mess with her like that, then she’s going to see him as being a good guy, but she’s going to be thinking, “Hmmm…there’s something about him. I like him. Why do I feel attracted to him?”
She’s going to have that feeling of wanting something sexual to happen between him and her because he is creating a spark between them, rather than just being a nice, neutral friend all the time.
Another example is where you don’t wait for her to tell you to put the rubbish into the bin.
Instead, when you’ve finished eating, you can stand up say something like, “Alright. Well, look, I’m going to go to the toilet, so can you put all this stuff in the bin and I’ll catch you outside?”, or tell her that you’ll meet her back at the table or something like that.
Essentially, for the most part, you are treating her well and being a good guy, but you also have the balls to tell her to do something for you.
Most women don’t go around admitting that they like that in a guy, but when you see a woman feeling happy and attracted around a guy, you will see that the guy has the balls to playfully mess with her and in some cases, if he wants to, he can tell her to do something for him.
“Hey, can you go get me a drink from the cafe over there?” or, “Hey, can you get the sugar from the table over there?” or whatever it may be.
Now, on the same note, there’s nothing wrong with a man going and doing that for a woman.
If she says to him, “Hey, can you go get the sugar off the table over there?” there’s nothing wrong with a man saying, “Sure,” and going and getting it.
However, the problem is when a guy does those things because he hopes that the woman will see him as being really nice and he’ll be the good guy that she can finally rely on.
He hears her talk about how bad other guys are and he hears her say that she wants a nice guy.
So, he wants to show her that he’s really nice and he’s willing to do anything to hopefully get a chance with her.
Yet, that’s not what makes a woman want to get into a sexual relationship with a guy.
The most important piece of the puzzle is sexual attraction and then, if you’re also a good guy, then that is seen as a very welcome bonus.
She will feel lucky to have finally met a guy who is a good guy, but also makes her feel sexually attracted and turned on based on how he talks to her, behaves around and gets her to behave around him.
3. Don’t make her feel as though she is more valuable than you, or that you would be lucky to get a chance with her
Some nice guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman will be flattered and swept off her feet if a man shows her how special he thinks she is.
If he looks at her as being amazing and as though he would be so lucky to get a chance with such an amazing woman like her.
He will give her compliments, he will talk about how amazing she is, he will say how lucky a guy would be to be her boyfriend and so on.
Yet, what that does is that it gives a woman a false sense of superiority over the nice guy.
She ends up feeling as though she is better than him and more valuable than him, even though she isn’t.
He makes her feel that way based on his approach to interactions with her.
He thinks that the way to get a woman to like him is to make her feel so special and to essentially suck up to her and hope to get a chance with her.
Yet, that is a disastrous path to go down with a woman.
Sometimes it can work, but the guy will usually end up in a relationship where the woman is in charge, she’s dictating everything and he has to put in loads of work and suck up to her to hopefully get some sex, affection and attention from her.
If you don’t want to end up in that type of predicament with a woman, then just make sure that you avoid making her feel as though she is more valuable than you.
The solution is to be a good guy and focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you.
Make her feel so sexually attracted to you and want you so much that she tries to get a chance with you.
She is hoping that something happens between you and her.
Then, it becomes about you allowing her to get a chance with you.
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
When you read or listen to The Flow, you will learn exactly what to say and do to start conversations, keep conversations going, keep conversations interesting, connect with women, make them feel sexually attracted to you, get to a phone number, kiss, date, sex and into a relationship.
The Flow is everything that you need to know to go from hello to sex with a woman that you find attractive.
Most Women Are Looking For a Good Man
One final point that I want to make for you in this video, is that there’s nothing wrong with being a good man.
Most women are looking for a good man, but you just have to understand that niceness on its own isn’t what makes a woman wet.
The way that it works is that if you focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you as you talk to her and you are nice to her, then she will appreciate the fact that you are a good guy.
She will really appreciate the fact that the guy that she is feeling sexually attracted to and has a romantic interest in, is also a good guy.
It’s exciting for a woman to find a guy like that.
In most cases, when a woman meets a nice guy, she doesn’t get to have that feeling because he’s just being nice.
He might also be too nervous around her or too neutral and just be like a friend to her, when what really needs to happen is that there needs to be a sexual spark between the man and the woman.
It can’t just be about being nice, being friendly and hoping that somehow, niceness and friendliness will make her wet.
If you want to make her feel sexually attracted, you have to be willing to say and do some things that make a woman feel that way.
By the way, if you’re watching this video now and you’ve used some of my techniques to get laid or get a girlfriend, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.
While I always appreciate comments like, “Great video,” “Awesome video,” “Thanks Dan!” and so on, in this video, I would also like to hear from the guys who have used my techniques to get laid or get a girlfriend.
So, if you’ve used my techniques to get laid or get a girlfriend, leave a comment below and be an inspiration for other guys who are stuck with being nice or neutral around a woman.
Let other guys see that it’s okay to be playfully ballsy, or to playfully mess with a woman during a conversation and more importantly, that it works.
You end up attracting the woman and, in many cases, you can get laid or get a girlfriend.
So, if you have a success story to share, I would love to hear it below.
I look forward to reading it and personally congratulating you on your success.
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