The secret of how to flirt with a woman is to believe that it’s okay to do so.
You’ve got to have confidence in the way that you’re flirting with her, otherwise it will come off as awkward, weird or forced. Flirting is sexy to a woman when the guy believes in himself and isn’t afraid to show his attraction for her in a discreet way.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, women actually prefer guys who can flirt because it’s a much more discreet, classy and exciting way of showing your interest in each other.
Where Guys Go Wrong
The main point that guys screw up with women is not believing in themselves.
For example: A guy might approach a woman in an apologetic way, “I don’t suppose you’d be interested in a guy like me, but…” and expect her to be impressed by how unassuming he is. Yet, women are attracted to confidence not shyness or self-doubt.
If you want to know how to flirt with a woman, you need to get serious about being a genuinely confident man. Anything less than that and your attempts to flirt will never work as well.
Here are some mistakes to avoid…
1. Putting on an act
Have you ever noticed how easy it is for actors in movies to charm women with simple lines?
That’s because it’s a movie.
The actors are reading scripted lines and the women are simply responding in the way that it says they should in their script.
James Bond and other smooth characters may be able to charm women with a simple line and a gentlemanly approach, but don’t think that women will be impressed by that corny stuff in real life.
Pretending to be someone you’re not doesn’t go down well with women and will simply cause them to raise their guard and feel awkward around you. If your body language, vibe, behavior and actions don’t match up to your words in a natural way, a woman usually won’t respond positively to any form of flirting because she’s going to feel like you’re acting.
When a woman meets an insecure guy hiding behind a fake front, she’s not going to think, “Wow, what a sweet guy. He’s trying to hide his shyness and insecurity from me by putting on an act…how cute!” Instead, she’s usually going to think, “I’ve got to get away from this guy.”
Likewise, if a woman is interacting with a shy, anxious guy who is spitting George-Clooney-type lines in the hopes that it impresses her, she’s not going to think, “Wow! This guy is hot. He’s just as suave as those guys in the movies!”
Instead, she’s probably going to think, “This is weird. What’s wrong here? Why can’t this guy just be himself? Why is he putting on this act around me? Does he think that he needs to impress me a lot because he doesn’t think he is good enough? Fine, if he thinks that he isn’t good enough, then I’m going to believe him that he’s not good enough.
2. Using flirting at the wrong time
Flirting works best if you are simultaneously making the woman feel attracted to you based on your confidence, vibe and body language. If you try to flirt with a woman who isn’t attracted to you, she will usually find it weird, out of place and will reject you or show that she isn’t feeling the same way.
For example: If a nervous, self-doubting guy is being friendly and nice to a woman to a woman during a conversation and he then suddenly throws in flirtatious line or sexual innuendo, it’s usually not going to go down well. The woman is going to be feeling turned off by the fact that he is nervous and self-doubting around her and will feel as though he’s just another typical nice guy who is hoping that she will “give him a chance” for being nice to her.
Watch this video to understand why being too nice to a woman will often result in a guy getting rejected…
As explained in the video above, there is nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but you also have to make sure that you are triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you. Attraction has to be established first and then everything else flows along smoothly after that.
3. Giving too many friendly compliments
One of the biggest mistakes that guys make when trying to flirt with women, is to keep everything nice and safe.
For example: He might give her compliments like, “That’s a nice dress. Where did you get that?” or “You have great fashion sense” or “I like your hair” or “You have beautiful eyes.”
There’s nothing wrong with those compliments, but they aren’t the type of compliments that get straight to the point and make a woman feel sexually turned on by you.
If a woman is already turned on by you, then it’s fine to use compliments like that, but if she isn’t feeling much, she’s not going to care about your opinion of her fashion sense because you are just another guy who likes her, but who she doesn’t feel much attraction for.
As long as you’ve made a woman feel attracted to you first, the best compliment to give her is to look her in the eyes, then look her up and down and then look her back in the eyes and say, “You’re sexy…I like you.”
That gets straight to the point and there’s no confusion then about whether or not you find her sexy, so she doesn’t have to play hard to get to check and see how much you like her.
You’ve put it out there and you’re not afraid to say it, which is actually attractive to her because you’ve got balls.
Contrast that with a guy who gives a woman lots of “nice” compliments and pretty much goes along with whatever she says. If she likes something, he does too and if she hates something and he secretly likes it, he says that he hates it too.
If a guy is overly-attentive and seems a bit too agreeable, he runs the risk of coming across as insincere…and a bit of a creep. Women feel weird around guys like that.
Most women are attracted to confident guys who know who they are and what they stand for in life, so they’re not turned on by guys who constantly change their opinion to fit in with others. If you want to know how to flirt with a woman, you need to know how to be a genuinely confident guy who is secure in who he is, what he’s about and what he’s got to offer.
You’ve got to believe in yourself. It’s the most important thing you can offer to women. They need to see that you’re strong and that you have the type of confidence in yourself that will allow you to push forward in life and survive, thrive and prosper even if life gets challenging.
Being the Type of Guy That Women Want to Flirt With
Women are only interested in flirting with guys who make them feel attracted and turned on. Some women are open to a bit of friendly flirting with nice guys who don’t make them feel attracted, but that doesn’t mean she is interested in anything romantic or sexual.
If you want a woman to desire you in a sexual way, you have to focus on triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you during interactions. Here’s how it works…