A woman can’t ever be truly over you if she once loved you.
She will always have a place for you in her heart and you can reactivate her original feelings for you again if you interact with her and let her experience the new and improved version of you that is so much more confident, masculine and charismatic.
You have improved since the break up, right?
Of course you have.
You are now a better, more emotionally attractive man than you were before, so she is going to feel attracted to the new and improved you, even if she tries to hide it.
This is why it’s so important to interact with her on the phone and in person to let her experience the new and improved you.
If she won’t answer your calls or see you in person, you can start with text.
If she’s blocked your phone, you can start via social media.
If she’s blocked you via social media, you can get her to unblock you.
Whatever your starting point is, you must get to the point where you can interact with her on a phone call and in person.
That’s when you can truly reactivate her feelings and make her reconnect with her old feelings of love for you.
3 Ways to Reactivate Your Ex’s Feelings For You
How she feels about you now is not how she will feel about you when you interact with her and re-attract her.
So, don’t worry about if she’s over you right now. That doesn’t matter.
What matters is that you interact with her and make her reconnect with her feelings for you.
3 ways you can do that is by…
1. Making her feel feminine and girly in your presence
In a relationship, it’s the man’s responsibility to maintain and grow the love and attraction between him and his woman.
A big part of that is continuing to make her feel like a real woman around him (i.e. she feels feminine and girly, she’s free to be emotional, she feels like his girl rather than his friend or buddy).
If a guy stops treating his woman like a sexy, attractive, feminine woman that he desires and can’t keep his hands off and instead treats her more like a friend or a roommate, she will eventually start to resent it.
A woman knows that her physical appearance is the most attractive thing to a man, so if her own man stops making her feel as though she is physically attractive, she will feel horrible about herself and want to get that validation from other men (i.e. she will cheat on him or break up with him and then hook up with another guy).
This is why it’s so important to always look at your woman as your girl.
Look at her as a sexual being, or sexual object, while also being respectful, loving and caring towards her.
Don’t fall into the trap of just treating her like your buddy or partner in life.
Look at her as your girl, so she can look up to you as her man and feel girly and feminine around you as a result.
Why is that important?
The less feminine and girly a woman feels around her man, the less sexual attraction she feels for him.
Her attraction literally shuts off and she starts to look at him as being annoying and a turn off.
Over time, she may begin to say to herself, “Why do I feel this way with him now? It used to be so good. I want to be with a man who knows how to make me feel desirable and turned on. I just don’t feel attractive in this relationship anymore. We’re more like friends than anything else. He just doesn’t understand how to treat a woman like a woman” and she will then break up with him.
So, if you want to reactivate your ex’s feelings, you must ensure that you are making her feel feminine and girly every time you interact with her from now on.
How can you do that?
Essentially, by being more emotionally masculine than her, thereby allowing her to fully relax into being a feminine, girly woman around you.
For example: She complains about her hard day at work and starts gossiping about people at her office and you laugh (important) and say, “Oh, you’re such a drama queen, aren’t you? There’s always some big problem going on in your life every day” and then laugh at her in a loving way.
She then feels as though there is a clear difference between you and her (i.e. you are a man who doesn’t complain and gossip like a girl and she’s a little drama queen who always seems to have some problem going on in her life).
Another example is where you and her go to a café and you say, “Okay, let’s sit over there” and choose the table, rather than needing her to be the leader and asking, “Where do you want to sit?”
The more you make her feel girly and feminine in comparison to your masculinity, the more she will start thinking, “I thought I was over him, but I’m not. I still love him. Why do I find him sexy all of a sudden? Why am I feeling this way?”
Another way to reactive your ex’s feelings is to…
2. Use Humor to make her smile and laugh to bring down her guard
Another very effective way to make a woman reconnect with her feelings is by making her smile, laugh and feel happy to be interacting with you again.
When she is laughing and smiling, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to hold on to negative feelings for you and she unavoidably drops her guard and opens herself up to the positive feelings that she’s been ignoring for so long (e.g. love, respect and attraction).
Here’s an example of how to use humor to diffuse a potentially difficult situation between you and your ex.
Imagine that you’re talking to your ex on the phone and she says something like, “I’m sorry, but I’m truly over you now. You need to forget about me and move on.”
She will likely be expecting you to get upset and possibly even react by begging and pleading with her for another chance, telling her how much you still love her, or possibly even getting angry with her.
Instead, you can shock her (in a good way) by being emotionally strong and taking the risk to joke with her by saying something like, “Forget about what? Sorry, who are you again? I forgot who I was speaking to” and have a laugh with her about it.
She’s asked you to forget about her and you’re playfully saying that you’ve forgotten who you were speaking to, as though she’s not that important and you weren’t really paying attention to the phone call.
You can then say, “Oh, Vanessa…I remember now! My ex girlfriend…yeah, I remember you. I really liked you as a girlfriend, until you started cooking for me. That’s when everything went downhill” and have a laugh with her about that.
When you use humor and get her smiling and laughing, she can’t stop herself from feeling attracted to you for having the balls to joke around with her in a moment that may have previously made you feel unsure of yourself.
When she senses your confidence and notices that you’re being a good guy (i.e. you’re not being an asshole when joking with her), she won’t be able to maintain negative emotions for you in that moment.
Her guard will come down and she will then become more open to interacting with you again, meeting up with you in person, reconnecting with her feelings of love for you and getting back together.
3. Be confident and emotionally masculine around her, even when she’s being cold and unfriendly towards you
When a woman breaks up with a guy, she will usually make it difficult for him to interact with her from then on (e.g. by ignoring his texts, messages or e-mails, refusing to answer his calls, ignoring him on social media, blocking him on her phone or social media).
Naturally, that makes it a lot more difficult for a guy to get her back and he might start thinking, “This must mean it’s truly over between us. She won’t talk to me or even answer my texts. It’s hopeless! I’ve lost her foreverrrrrr!”
It’s not over.
There is always a chance to get an ex back.
I know that because I’ve personally helped 100s of men to get ex women back and many of those cases started out when the woman hated the man and didn’t want anything to do with him anymore.
Feelings aren’t set in stone.
You can literally change how a woman feels about you.
So, when a guy thinks that there’s no chance of getting his woman back, he has become insecure, which is going to turn his ex off (e.g. she will sense his insecurity when she talks to him) and turn off other women that he meets as well.
Where Guys Go Wrong
Just as easily as you can reactivate your ex’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you, there are certain behaviors that can cause you to become insecure and then turn her off when you next interact with her.
So, if you want to succeed at getting her back, try to avoid making the following mistakes…
1. Stalking her social media posts for clues about whether she is over him
Sometimes a guy might say to himself, “I still love my ex and want her back. I need to know if she is truly over me or not.”
He may then start checking all her media posts in the hopes that he will pick up some hint that she still cares about him (e.g. because she mentions his name somewhere, or she still has photos of him posted on her profile, she talks about being sad, she posts a sad song on her profile, she likes a photo that talks about losing the one that got away).
Here’s the thing though…
Women often post things on social media and feel certain about it at the time, but then feel completely differently 10 minutes later or the next day.
Women tend to make decisions and act based on the emotion that they’re feeling at that point in time, but they don’t always take what they say and do so seriously.
…and that there is one of the most important things that you need to understand about women.
Don’t take them so seriously!
Women don’t want you following their lead and hoping that they give you clear signs and clues about their feelings.
This principle applies when picking up women, being in a happy relationship and getting an ex back.
Women are always the same in this regard.
What they want is a man who doesn’t get caught up in their emotional outbursts, random expressions of interest in things and how often they change their mind.
A woman wants a man who believes in himself and his attractiveness to her (and other women) no matter what she says or does.
She does want or need him to tell her that though.
She wants to see evidence of that based on how he talks, behaves, takes action and reacts to her and the world around him.
That’s what really counts.
So, don’t waste time spying on your ex’s social media posts in the hopes of finding some sign that she still cares about you.
Instead, make her care.
Interact with her (e.g. via text, social media, e-mail, on a phone call and especially in person) and actively reactivate her feelings for you.
That is what works when getting a woman back.
Another classic mistake that guys make is…
2. Thinking that his only chance is to wait and hope that she sends him a signal that she wants him back
A guy might sometimes waste a lot of time waiting for a signal from his ex that will show him that she’s still not truly over him and wants him back.
He might then give her a lot of space (i.e. where he’s not interacting with her in any way for weeks or months), in the hopes that she will realize how much she misses him and then contact him and tell him that she’s ready to give the relationship another go.
Yet, that rarely happens and in most cases, rather than send him a signal that she wants him back, a woman usually just assumes that he’s not interested in her anymore and she moves on.
What you need to understand is that most women don’t give clear signals of interest when a guy is trying to get them back.
Even when a woman isn’t truly over her ex and is still missing, she might not give him any signals to let him know how she feels.
Why? Se doesn’t want to look desperate or as though she’s being too easy about getting back together.
She wants to keep the pressure on him, so there is a higher chance that he will actually change and become the kind of man that she could stick with for life this time.
So, if you want to get your ex back, don’t waste time waiting for a clear signal from her that’s she not over you and is hoping to get back with you.
Instead, be emotionally courageous enough to take the lead by contacting her and beginning the ex back process, rather than waiting around for signals from her.
Don’t wait for her to make it easy for you.
Women don’t respect or feel attracted to guys who need women to guide them along and make things easy for them.
She wants you to be emotionally courageous like a real man and get her back, even though she might act a little cold and distant initially as a way of testing your confidence and not making herself seem too eager.
Another classic mistake that guys make is…
3. Not improving his ability to attract her in the ways that she really wants
This is probably one of the biggest mistakes that guys make.
For example: A woman might break up with a guy because she feels more emotionally dominant than him and as a result, she doesn’t respect him anymore.
To get her back, he might say to her, “Please give me another chance. I promise to change. I’ll do whatever you want me to do to make you happy. Just tell me what you want and it’s yours. I will do or change whatever you want as long as I can get another chance with you.”
He’s hoping that she’ll feel flattered and happy that he’s willing to do anything for her.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that he’s behaving in the exact same way that turned her off in the first place (i.e. submissive and needing her to lead him).
That’s not what she wants from him.
She wants him to be more emotionally dominant and have the balls to stand up to her like a real man.
Standing up to her doesn’t mean being mean or disrespectful towards her.
Instead, it’s about being more emotionally masculine than her so that she can relax into being a feminine woman around him.
So, if you want to get your ex back, you have to attract her in the ways that she really wants, not in the ways that you think she wants.
- If you were too insecure, needy and clingy in your relationship with her, start being more confident and emotionally strong.
- If you stopped making her feel attracted to you, start attracting her in new and exciting ways.
- If you lacked drive and determination on your life, set yourself some big goals and make progress towards achieving them.
- If you allowed her to walk all over you, decide to be more emotionally dominant around her from now on.
Fully understand the real reasons why your ex broke up with you in the first place and then immediately begin to change those things about yourself.
When she can see for herself that you’re now the kind of man she can look up to respect and feel attracted to, her walls will come down and she will then say something like, “You know…I was never truly over you. I saw you as the one that got away. I’m glad we’re back together now. I love you.”
That’s what you can look forward to.