How can you seduce your ex girlfriend back into a relationship with you?
The first thing to understand is that seduction is about sexual attraction and arousal.
To seduce a woman, you must be displaying attractive traits and behaviors such as confidence, emotional masculinity, charisma and humor.
You must also be building up sexual tension to make her really want you in a sexual way.
So, in this video, I’m going to explain where guys go wrong when they’re trying to seduce their ex woman into a relationship and I’m also going to explain what you should do instead.
I’ll also be providing some examples on how you can make your woman feel sexually attracted to you. So, let’s begin.
Where guys go wrong…
1. Trying to seduce only via text
Texting is a very big and important part of modern life for many people.
However, when it comes to getting an ex woman back who doesn’t feel attracted to you anymore, texting really isn’t the best idea.
It’s way too easy to come across as appearing desperate or insecure via text.
For example, if your ex doesn’t feel sexually attracted to you and she has lost a lot of respect for you, how do you think she’ll be reading your text messages?
Do you think she’ll be reading your text messages and feeling like she felt when you were first dating, where she had a crush on you and she was falling in love with you?
Alternatively, do you think that she might be reading your texts in a bit of a negative light?
She might be thinking about how you behaved leading up to the breakup and potentially after the breakup and how that turned her off.
You can use text to make your ex feel some attraction for you, but don’t rely on it as your number one way of trying to seduce your ex girlfriend back into a relationship with you.
When a guy focuses too much on using text to get his ex woman back, what often happens is that she begins to play hard to get.
She doesn’t want to look too easy via text.
She feels like she’s making it too easy for him, she’s seeming too keen.
So, she stops replying in a friendly way, she stops being as open, she stops laughing at some of his jokes and she may even stop replying to some of these texts.
If a guy then reacts in an unattractive way, it will turn her off even more.
For example, if he starts texting her and asking, “What’s wrong? Is it something I said? Why aren’t you replying to me?” or something along those lines, she then feels turned off by him.
Women are not attracted to desperation in men.
Women are attracted to confidence in men.
Women are attracted to self-esteem and self-belief.
So, when a guy is doubting himself and worrying that he’s losing her because she’s not replying in a nice way or she’s not replying much at all, then she actually feels turned off by him.
Of course, not all guys end up being insecure or needy via text.
Many guys make the mistake of simply texting their ex woman in a neutral or friendly way. It gets boring very quickly.
Here are some examples…
The first example is where a woman texts her ex guy and says, “Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I got the job I applied for. Yippee!”
A man might then reply in a neutral way, just like a friend and say, “Oh, wow. Congrats. I’m so happy for you.”
Now, there’s nothing wrong with him saying something like that.
The only problem is that it’s not actively making her feel sexually attracted to him.
It’s not making her feel aroused.
He’s simply being nice to her and behaving more like a friend.
If you want to seduce your ex woman, you have to say something that will create a spark inside of her.
As you may know, women are attracted to guys who can make them laugh.
This is why adding in some humor to your texts will always help to create some sparks between you and your ex.
So, rather than just being neutral and saying, “Oh, wow. Congrats. I’m so happy for you,” he can reply with something like, “Cool. With all the extra money you’ll be earning, you can take me out to an expensive dinner and wine and dine me :P”
She’s most likely going to reply with a “Haha” or an “LOL.”
She will then start to feel differently about her ex.
He makes her laugh and he makes her feel good.
She feels like she wants to keep talking to him and she’s starting to feel like she wants to be around him in person.
As a result, he is beginning to seduce her.
By the way, some guys might be worried about sending their ex woman a text like that.
Some guys might think it’s rude to say something like that to her.
However, guys who understand how to attract women know that that kind of text will work.
Women feel naturally attracted to guys who are confident and not afraid of them.
The guy is still being a good guy to her because he’s only joking.
He’s not being an asshole and saying, “Hey, buy me things, girl. Take me out to dinner and wine and dine me. I deserve it. I’m a good man.”
He’s not saying things like that.
He’s joking around with her.
He isn’t worried that he’s going to say or do the wrong thing.
He’s a confident guy who has the courage to joke around with her, rather than being on his best behavior all the time.
Here’s another example…
A woman texts her ex guy and asks, “How are you?”
He then replies, “Good. How are you?”
She then replies, “Yeah, good,” and he replies with, “Cool. So, what’s news?”
Now, there’s nothing wrong with texting like that, but once again, it doesn’t create a spark of sexual attraction.
It doesn’t arouse the woman.
If you want to seduce your ex woman, you have to say something that is going to create a spark.
So, say, for example, an ex woman sent a text to her guy asking, “How are you?”
Now, the ex guy knew that her favorite food was fish and chips.
So, he decided to mess with her a little bit, get her laughing and make her feel attracted.
She texts him, “How are you?” He replies, “Ummm…can’t tell you.”
She then might reply with something like, “Why?” and then says, “I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”
At that point, his ex woman might be silently panicking and imagining him with a new woman and beginning to feel like he has moved on before her.
Alternatively, she might reply with something like, “What? Tell me.”
He can then reply with, “I’m eating fish and chips. It’s so damn delicious. Haha :P”
She is most likely going to reply with a “Haha” or an “LOL.”
As a result of his confident and humorous approach to her, she is going to feel a spark with him.
She’s going to start to feel attracted.
The attraction that she is feeling is going to start to make her think of him in a more positive light.
She’s going to start to miss him and want to see him in person.
As a result, he’s beginning the process of seducing her back into a relationship.
2. Not being assertive enough with their seduction attempts
So, let me give you some examples here of how you can re-attract your ex woman and where other guys go wrong.
Sometimes, when a guy meets up with his ex woman, they meet each other and then she gives him a side hug like that.
She doesn’t actually give him a full hug.
He then accepts that and just gets on with the interaction.
He missed an opportunity there to make her feel attracted by pointing out that she gave him a side hug.
A guy who knows how to make a woman feel attracted in a situation like that will be assertive and he will make her feel attracted.
He won’t just accept her lead.
He won’t follow her lead in the dynamic.
She gave him a side hug, “Oh, I’ve got to accept that. Now, I’ve just got to sit down and be a good boy.”
Be a man about it, be more assertive.
You meet up with her, she gives you a side hug and you go, “Oh, I get the side hug now, do I? Come here. Give me a proper hug. Come here,” and bring her in for a proper hug.
You take control of the situation.
What does that do to her?
It makes her feel attracted to you.
It makes her feel some respect for you.
You’re being confident and manly, but you’re also being a good guy.
You’re not being a whiny, asshole-type of guy.
You’re not sulking.
You’re not saying, “Huh? Why did you do that? We went to hug and you just gave me a side hug. That’s not fair. Give me a proper hug. Come on.” in a sulky manner.
You’re not being that sort of guy.
You’re being a confident, masculine guy.
You’re saying, “Come on, what’s that? A side hug? Come here, give me a proper hug.”
You are then in control of the situation.
She then feels feminine in comparison to your masculinity. You are the man. She is the woman.
The masculine and feminine dynamic is one of the most important parts of making a woman feel sexually attracted to you.
If you don’t have the balls to be masculine around your ex woman, then you’re not going to be making her feel sexually attracted to you.
So, make sure that you don’t make the mistake that other guys make where they’re not assertive enough with their attempts to seduce their ex woman back into a relationship.
Another example is where a guy is in the friend zone with his ex woman.
She contacts him often, she calls him up and he simply answers the phone like a friend.
He’s always there to answer, he’s always there to be nice and be available to her and it doesn’t create a spark inside of her.
She just feels friendly feelings for him as a result.
He’s not being assertive enough in his attempts to seduce her.
In most cases, a girl like that doesn’t even know how to seduce her back into a relationship, so he’s just doing whatever he thinks he can do.
He thinks, “Alright, I’m just going to keep being nice to her, keep being there and hopefully, eventually, she will come back to me. Hopefully, eventually, she will realize that I’m the one for her.”
Yet, then he gets his heart broken into a million pieces when she suddenly tells him that she has met a new guy and they’re together now and they’re dating and she no longer wants to be with him.
He had a chance to re-attract her while he was in the friend zone, but he wasn’t assertive enough about his attempts to seduce her back into a relationship.
He was just playing the friend.
So, what could he have done instead?
Well, rather than answering the phone like a typical friend every time, he should mess with her.
He should play with the situation and get her laughing and smiling.
For example, she calls him up and he answers and he says, “Who’s this? What do you want?” rather than just answering with, “Oh, hi. How are you doing today? How have you been? How’s things? Is everything okay?” and talking to her like a friend.
Alternatively, he might want to answer the phone the way that I used to do it when I was dating.
I’m married now, but when I had multiple women in my life and they would call me, sometimes I would answer the phone and speak a completely random language.
It wasn’t a real language, just a random made-up language to confuse the woman.
So, the woman would call and I would answer and say something like, “Aji bang do wong dai naaa. Baj bah lor. Why you call me? Hello. Why you call me? Who are you?”
The girl will start laughing and think that she called the wrong number.
I would then say, “Hey. What’s going on, girl? How are you doing?”
As a result, the girl feels attracted.
You have the confidence to joke around with her rather than being a good boy all the time and being on your best behavior or being boring and just being neutral all the time.
“Hey. How are you doing? How’s things? How have you been? Oh, right. Yeah, this is what happened to me. What happened to you? Blah, blah, blah.”
Just standard friend stuff.
So, if you want to seduce your ex girlfriend back into a relationship, make sure that you’re willing to be a bit more assertive with your attempts to seduce her.
Don’t hold back.
Be a bit more ballsy, be a bit more confident and let her really enjoy the interactions with you.
3. Trying to seduce her and then losing confidence when she tests him by acting like it’s not working on her
Women behave this way whether you are picking them up, in a relationship or getting them back after a breakup.
When you’re picking women up, they don’t always make it obvious that they’re attracted to you.
Some women require a lot more confidence in a guy than other women.
If a woman requires a guy that has a lot of confidence so you can handle a woman like her, then she’s usually not going to make it obvious that she’s enjoying the interaction.
She’s going to be a little bit cold, a little bit aloof and not laugh at all the guys’ jokes.
She wants to see whether or not the guy is going to crumble under that type of pressure.
If he can’t handle that, then he can’t handle a woman like her.
Now, when it comes to getting an ex back, sometimes a guy will try to seduce his ex girlfriend back into a relationship and she will act like it’s not working as a way of testing his confidence.
He will then believe that it’s not working, start doubting himself and begin to look insecure and unsure of himself around her.
As a result, she will feel turned off by him.
As you may know, women are attracted to confidence and turned off by emotional weakness in men.
So, make sure that when you’re seducing your ex girlfriend back into a relationship, you don’t give up at the first sign of resistance.
You don’t doubt yourself when she is playing a little bit hard to get.
4. Trying to be romantic before she’s fully re-attracted
The way that it works is that women only appreciate romance from guys that they are sexually attracted to or aroused by.
If a woman doesn’t feel sexually attracted to a guy and he’s trying to be romantic and trying to be sweet and all that sort of stuff, she isn’t going to be enjoying it.
It’s going to be a one-sided romance.
It’s not a mutual, romantic feeling.
So, if you want to seduce your ex girlfriend back into a relationship, make sure that you focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you first.
If she’s not feeling turned on and aroused by the changes in you and how you are now making her feel, then she’s not going to enjoy your attempts to be romantic.
Attempts to be romantic can include sending her a card, sending her flowers, telling her how you feel, writing a long letter or email explaining your feelings for her and generally being sweet and giving and nice to her.
She’s not going to appreciate that.
So, a general rule to go by is to focus on sexual attraction first and then do everything else after that.
You can make her feel sexually attracted to you by being a new and improved version of yourself.
For example, if a guy got dumped because he was too insecure, he is now so much more confident.
If a guy got dumped because he wasn’t manly enough, he’s more assertive and manly now.
It makes her feel attracted and it makes her feel turned on.
After she feels that way, her guard comes down and she begins to open up to sex and a relationship.
5. Trying to play too many mind games with her
For example, acting uninterested when talking to her, not answering her phone calls or cutting off contact for 30 or 60 days.
Each of those approaches can backfire because the woman can simply stop showing any interest, go cold or seek revenge by hooking up with a new guy and making her ex feel bad for attempting to mess with her head.
So, if you want to seduce your ex girlfriend back into having sex with you and having a relationship, don’t waste time playing too many mind games with her.
It almost always backfires, especially when the woman is no longer attracted to her guy anymore.
On the other hand, seduction is something that happens very quickly.
It’s an immediate feeling that a woman begins to have in response to how a guy is behaving.
So, if a guy is behaving in an insecure or a self-doubting way, then her immediate response to that is going to be to feel turned off by him.
However, if a guy is behaving in a way where he’s being confident, emotionally masculine, he’s making her laugh and he’s being charismatic, her immediate response to that is going to be to feel attracted to him.
It’s actually a natural reaction.
It happens automatically.
She doesn’t have to think about it or decide whether or not she wants to feel attracted to a guy.
It’s just something that begins to happen inside of her.
She begins to feel attracted to him, she begins to feel drawn to him and he can seduce her back into a relationship with him.
Some guys don’t know how to attract a woman on purpose and have relied on getting lucky their entire life, whereas, other men don’t actually think that it’s the right thing to do to be actively seducing her.
Some guys think that the right thing to do is just to be nice, be patient, wait, be friendly and hope that she eventually opens up and wants him sexually.
Alternatively, some guys think that they need to play mind games like cutting off contact for 30 or 60 days or not answering any of her phone calls or replying to her in an uninterested way and so on.
What I want you to know is that seduction is something that happens very quickly.
It’s something that you can control.
When you’re interacting with your ex woman, you are either making her feel sexually attracted to you and aroused by you, or you’re not.
It all comes down to the approach that you’re using when you’re interacting with her.
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System
When you watch the program, you will learn how to quickly and easily seduce your ex woman back into a relationship.
This applies whether she is your ex girlfriend or ex wife.
The same rules apply.
You make her feel sexually attracted to you, you build up sexual tension between you and her and she wants to get back with you.
You then give her another chance with you.
Using the Power of Attraction to Get Her Back
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that what each guy needs to change in order to get his ex woman back is different, but it’s still really about the same thing.
It’s always still about attraction.
For example, sometimes a guy gets dumped for being insecure in a relationship.
He wasn’t manly enough for his woman.
On the other hand, sometimes a guy is very confident and he’s very manly, but he gets dumped by his woman because he took her for granted or he wasn’t open enough emotionally.
Each guy has to change or improve something about himself and offer that to her in a way that is attractive and appealing to her.
So, while each guy has to change something different about himself in order to be attractive and appealing to his ex again, it’s still all about attraction.
When you make her feel sexually and romantically attracted to you again, her guard comes down and she opens back up to you.
You can then get her back into a relationship with you.