When it comes to process getting you ex back when she’s already dating another guy, you will probably hear many different opinions about what you should do.
For example: Some people might say,
- If your ex girlfriend is dating another guy, it’s absolutely impossible to get her back. Just forget about it and move on.
- Of course you can get her back. Nothing is impossible when it comes to love and relationships.
- Just give her space and if she comes back, it’s meant to be.
- People can’t get back together after a break up, especially if one of them has already moved on.
- People can get back together after a break up, even if one of them has already moved on.
As you can see, people have opinons, but that doesn’t mean they know what they’re talking about.
From my years of experience helped men to get women back, I can tell you with absolute confidence that you can win her back.
I know that because I’ve already helped 100s of guys to get a woman back after she had already hooked up with or fell in love with a new guy.
Watch this video for an intro on how it works…
Getting her back is possible, so make sure that you remain confident and don’t give up just because another guy is in the picture.
The Truth About Winning Her Back
Here’s what you need to know about how to win your ex girlfriend back from another guy …
1. She might be open to leaving him for you right away, but it usually takes a couple of weeks to complete the ex back process in cases like this.
If a woman can’t deal with the pain of a break up, she might hook up with a guy that she’s not really that attracted to (e.g. a really nice guy who treats her like a princess) in order to make herself feel a little bit better.
She might say to herself, “Well, my new guy isn’t so bad. At least he is really sweet and he treats me well. This way, I have someone to go out with and I don’t have to be alone. Even if things don’t work out between us, it won’t be that big of a deal to me anyway, because he’s not the guy I see myself with for life. He’s good enough for now because he’s keeping my mind off my ex.”
In some of these cases (e.g. if a woman is still in love with her ex and is only dating a new guy to make him jealous), all it usually takes is one phone call and one meet up and she then jumps back into a relationship with him and leave the new guy (the rebound) behind.
However, in cases where a woman who doesn’t have any feelings for her ex anymore (e.g. because he became really insecure during the relationship and turned her off during the break up process), it will usually take a week or two before she opens up to the idea of being back in a relationship with him.
Watch this video to understand how he can change her mind…
It is possible to make your ex girlfriend see you as being a better option than the new guy, even though that might seem difficult or impossible to you right now.
After all, she has probably been saying things to you like, “Leave me alone. I have a new boyfriend now” or, “I’m much happier with him than I was with you.”
Yet, her feelings for him are not set in stone. They can change.
You can make her feelings for him change and cause her to realize that she should be with you instead.
If you want to make her feel that way so you can win her back, the main thing that you need to focus on from now on is using every chance you have to interact with her (even if it’s only via text or social media) to trigger her feelings of desire by making her smile, laugh and enjoy the idea of interacting with you again.
Then, get her to meet up with you in person, re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction and get her back into a relationship with you.
Don’t worry about the new guy. He is with your girlfriend. Get her back and he will then have to find himself another woman.
2. You need to give her the attraction experience she wanted with you, but never told you about.
In most cases, when a woman breaks up with a guy, her very next boyfriend is going to be someone who is pretty much the opposite of her ex and who is giving her the attraction experience that really she wants.
For example: If a woman’s ex was insecure, needy and self-doubting in the relationship with her, her new guy will be confident and self-assured.
He might not be perfect in every way, but she will be happy to finally get to be with a guy who is confident and doesn’t need her constant reassurance and encouragement to feel good about himself.
Another example is if a woman’s ex was too nice and allowed her walk all over him and treat him like crap. In cases like that, her new guy will usually be a lot more emotionally dominant than her.
Another example is if her ex lacked drive and ambition in his life. Her new guy will be a go-getter who has a purpose and is going places.
So, if your ex girlfriend has a new man in her life, it’s very likely that she’s attracted to him because he’s making her feel attracted in the ways that you were not.
He’s giving her a part of the attraction experience that was lacking with you.
Yet, that doesn’t mean the new guy is perfect.
It simply means he’s not making the exact same mistakes you made in the relationship with her.
He would still be making mistakes though.
Most guys aren’t perfect when it comes to dating, attraction and relationships, so over time, she will begin to notice that he is behaving in ways that are unattractive to her.
For example: He might be more confident than you were, but he might then fall into the habit of taking her for granted and not caring about her feelings.
When she realizes that her new guy isn’t what she thought he was, she will likely dump him.
This is why you need to be proactive and make sure that you are interacting with your ex, so she can experience the new and improved version of you.
She will then begin comparing you to her new guy and may think, “Why do I feel so confused all of a sudden? I thought my new guy had the qualities I was looking for in a man, so why do I miss my ex. My ex has really changed. He’s no longer the same guy that I broke up with. Maybe I should give him a chance. Maybe I was wrong to end it with him. Maybe I was just being selfish and didn’t realize that I had a great man. All he needed was a bit of patience from me and he would have changed. He has changed now and I don’t know why, but I am attracted to him again.”
3. If she seems happy with the new guy, it doesn’t mean that they will last.
Most relationships start out happy, but end within 1-2 months.
Think about it…
How many of the women that you’ve been with have you stayed with for life? None.
The same goes for women.
They have many relationships and most of them don’t last, because most guys don’t really know how to keep a relationship together for life.
So, either he will dump her or she will dump him.
Of course, if your ex girlfriend is sincerely happy with her new guy and is definitely planning on settling down with him, the only other option you have is to get her to hook up with you “one last time” so you can disrupt the relationship between them, before it’s too late.
Just get her to meet up with you, make her feel attracted to you again and hook up with her.
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4. Most guys who are good with women (i.e. they can attract and pick up women by choice rather than luck) don’t settle down with women easily, so he will likely dump her if she isn’t what he really wants.
When a guy knows that he can have pretty much any woman he wants, he’s not going to settle down very quickly.
I know this personally because I hooked up with more than 250 women before I accepted my girlfriend’s marriage proposal.
Here’s what happened…
So, when a guy is good with women, he won’t just settle down with any woman he hooks up with.
In many cases, a guy who is good with women will hook up with a new woman every week or two, so it’s obviously impossible for him to commit to them all.
Instead, a guy like that is just going to enjoy having sex and hanging out with her and then, when the novelty of the relationship wears off and he becomes bored, or meets another woman that catches his attention, he will just break up with her and move on.
However, regardless of whether your ex girlfriend’s new guy is good with women and is only with her for now, or he’s the type of guy who wants to be with her for life, your main focus needs to be on fully understanding what caused your ex to break up with you in the first place and fixing those things about yourself.
Then when you interact with her again (e.g. on the phone or in person) she will see that you’ve changed the things about yourself that she felt turned off by.
She will then start to feel respect and attraction for you again and when that happens, she will be more willing to leave her new guy for you, or at least kiss you and have sex with you again to see how she feels.
5. He is not better than you.
If you think her new man is better than you, you are already unattractive to your ex, because women are turned off when a guy feels inferior to other guys in terms of attractiveness.
Knowing that you are better than him is not about telling her that you’re better than him, but letting her sense that you are so confident that you don’t even see him as being competition.
Don’t worry; I understand that some guys don’t have the confidence to think of themselves in that way.
Yet, you can build that confidence in a matter of days if you start thinking in the right way.
You’ve got to realize that you are a great man in your own right, regardless of what her new guy is like.
Yes, you made some mistakes, but that is who you were before, not now.
When you accept and believe that you are more than good enough to be her man, the idea of her having a new boyfriend won’t bother you anymore.
You will realize that you can easily win your ex girlfriend back from another guy based on who you are as a man (e.g. confident, emotionally strong, ambitious, charismatic), rather than on whether you’re good looking enough or rich enough, or any other superficial reasons.
Don’t sit around thinking about him being better than you.
That is not going to help you win her back.
You’ve got to be confident and know that you are better than him, regardless of how well she speaks of him.
4 Mistakes to Avoid Making if You Want to Win Her Back
Getting an ex back is actually a lot easier than some guys might think.
However, what causes a lot to guys to say, “I could never win my ex back from her new guy. I’ve tried everything she just doesn’t want me,” is trying to get her back and failing after making a whole bunch of rookie mistakes.
1. Being her platonic friend who doesn’t flirt with her or make her feel attracted.
Sometimes, a guy might say to himself, “I really want to win my ex girlfriend back, but she’s with another guy. If I stay friends with her and make sure that I’m there for her when she’s having a fight with her new boyfriend, or is having a bad day, she will eventually see that I’m the one she can depend on and she will realize that she still loves me and she will dump him for me. I will show her that I’m a much more caring man that he could ever be and she will then realize that no guy will treat her as well as I do.”
He might then hang around her all the time being a nice, helpful, reliable friend.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that it’s not what is going to cause a woman to suddenly say, “What have I done? Why am I with another guy? My ex is just so sweet and dependable all this time, even though I’ve been enjoying a new relationship. I’m going to dump my new boyfriend now to get back together with my ex, because I can see now that no one can love me as much as he does.”
It would be nice if women worked that way, but they don’t.
Women don’t reward niceness with love, sex and devotion.
Women only appreciate niceness from men that they respect and feel sexually attracted to, not men who are sucking up to them with the nice guy act.
Rather than rushing back to her ex, a woman will usually just enjoy having a shoulder to cry on when she’s feeling down or having a bad day, but will continue having fun, kissing and having sex with her new guy.
So, don’t do that to yourself.
You deserve to have her back in your arms. You don’t need to be the nice friend in the background.
Be her friend yes, but not a platonic friend.
Watch this to understand the right way to be her friend…
If you are going to be her “friend,” you need to actively make her feel respect and sexual attraction for you again by using every interaction you have with her to make her smile, laugh and feel good to be around you.
Don’t pretend that you don’t find her sexually attractive anymore, or that you’re not interested in getting her back.
If you only focus on making her feel neutral, friendly feelings for you (e.g. because you don’t want to scare her off, or because you want to show her how much you care about her as a person), she probably won’t see any reason to break up with her new guy to get back with you.
Always remember: A romantic relationship between a man and a woman has to have a basis of sexual attraction and respect.
If that isn’t there, it’s just a friendship and that is not a romantic relationship.
So, make sure that you flirt with her and make her feel attracted.
There’s nothing wrong with flirting with her.
In fact, there’s everything right with it.
You’re simply being a confident, emotionally masculine man who is doing what is required to re-spark a woman’s respect, attraction and love for you.
That’s a good thing.
2. Saying bad things about the new guy.
It’s only natural that when a guy sees his ex girlfriend in the arms of another guy, he will feel a bit rejected, annoyed, jealous, upset and even angry.
He may think, “I don’t see what she sees in him. He looks like a loser. I thought she had better taste than that,” or “I can’t imagine how she would go from being with me, who treated her like a princess by always taking her to the most expensive restaurants in town and buying her all the things she always wanted, to being with that douchebag. He’s always dressed in denims and t-shirts. He looks cheap.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
If you say something like that to your ex, rather than make her say, “You know… you’re right. My new guy is a loser! I’m going to dump him now so that I can be with you,” she will likely just assume that you’re being emotionally immature and behaving that way because you can’t have her anymore.
Unfortunately, emotional immaturity is not a turn on for most women. Confidence and emotional maturity is what turns a woman on.
So, even if her new guy isn’t very confident or mature or isn’t as cool as you are, don’t start bad mouthing him to her. If you do, he will suddenly seem the better man compared to you because you will appear jealous and he will seem like the “winner” in the situation.
What should you do instead?
Don’t look at him as competition.
Instead, focus on re-sparking your ex girlfriend’s feelings of respect and attraction by behaving in some of the ways that are attractive to women (e.g. confident, charismatic, emotionally strong and mature).
Then, she will be the one making the comparisons and thinking of you as being better than him, rather than looking at you as being the sore loser.
3.Thinking that telling her how much she means to you will change how she feels.
It can be very painful for a guy to see his ex girlfriend happy with another guy.
Yet, him telling her things like, “I still love you so much. You mean the world to me. I can’t imagine my life without you in it. I know you’re with him now, but that doesn’t change how I feel. I will be here for you no matter how long it takes for you to realize that no one can love you like I do,” won’t make much difference to her if she doesn’t feel respect and attraction for him.
Instead she will likely think, “Yeah right! Now he’s telling me he cares, but what about all the times when we were together and he made me feel like crap? Well, good for him if he still loves me. I have a new guy and I don’t care that he cares.”
In most cases, a woman doesn’t care how much she means to her ex, if she doesn’t have feelings for him anymore.
For her to care about how much he cares about her, the feelings have to be mutual or at least fairly even.
So, if you want to win your ex girlfriend back, don’t waste time telling her how much you care for her, because if she’s not feeling respect and attraction for you right now, it’s just not going to matter to her.
You need to actively trigger her feelings for you first, before you tell her that you care, otherwise it won’t make a difference to her and it won’t make her want to leave her new relationship for you.
4. Not doing enough to make yourself become emotionally independent of her.
There’s no doubt that you really want to win your ex back, otherwise you wouldn’t be trying to convince her to get back together even though she has a new guy, right?
It’s totally fine, normal and natural for you to want her back…even though some people might tell you that it’s “wrong.”
Watch this video to see what I mean…
So, don’t worry that others might not understand how you feel about her.
You want her back and it’s totally normal and natural.
However, sitting around and needing her back so you can feel happy or confident again isn’t a good idea.
What you need to do is get to the point where you want her back, but don’t need her back.
Needing her back means that you are feeling lost and can’t live a normal, healthy life without her.
On the other hand, wanting her back implies that you’re getting on with your life, doing all the things that make you a better, more fulfilled and interesting man, but it would also be nice to have her back.
If she gets the sense that you want her back, but don’t need her back to feel better about yourself, she will feel some respect and attraction for you because of it, which will make it even easier to win her back from the new guy.
You Can Do it
No matter how impossible it might seem to you right now, winning your ex girlfriend back from another guy is actually a lot easier than you might think.
Remember: When you focus on saying and doing the types of things that trigger a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction, her guard naturally comes down.
All of that is within your control.
So, are you going to give up on her or get her back?