Here are 5 optional paths that you can now follow, with only one of them resulting in you getting her back.

Which path will you choose?

1.Quickly improve your ability to attract her. Then, re-attract her, get her back and enjoy an even better relationship with her this time around

If you truly believe that your ex is the love of your life, then one of the best decisions you will ever make is to focus on getting her back for another chance at the relationship.

Getting another chance is not about chasing after her, or making the kinds of mistakes that will turn her off even more (e.g. begging and pleading with her to change her mind, promising her that you will change anything that she wants if she will just give you one more chance, telling her that she’s the love of your life and that you can’t function or be happy without her).

Instead, getting another chance is about using a different approach to her now, so you can regain her respect, attraction and love.

When she feels a renewed sense of respect, attraction and love for you, she will naturally open herself up to the possibility of you and her being together as a couple, or at least hooking up again to see how she feels.

What should you change about your approach to her?

That depends on who you are, what mistakes you’ve made in the relationship and what she really needs to experience with you to feel a renewed sense of respect, attraction and love.

For example: Here are some of the changes that your ex might want to see in you, so she can feel attracted to you again.

  • You now maintain your confidence around her at all times, rather than letting what she says or does make you feel insecure, unsure of yourself or unworthy of her.
  • You’re now a lot more loving, caring and attentive, but you aren’t doing it out of desperation. You’re doing it because you have changed and want to be that way now.
  • You no longer allow her to push you around and get away with disrespecting you or behaving badly (e.g. throwing tantrums, sulking) like you used to. Instead, you now have the ability to laugh at her when she’s being a pain in the butt, rather than getting angry or annoyed at her.
  • You’re a much more emotionally masculine guy, rather than being too emotionally sensitive and copying her way of being like you used to (e.g. being dramatic, or creating drama like a girl by getting annoyed over little things, sulking, being emotionally sensitive).
  • You’re more emotionally dominant than her now, rather than being timid or hesitant around her.
  • You now have a plan for your life and are motivated, focused and active in making that plan a reality, rather than being a grown man who still behaves like a teenager (e.g. wastes his spare time by watching too much TV or playing video games, distracts himself by hanging out and doing nothing with friends, rather than following through on his goals).
  • You now truly believe in yourself and in your value to her, rather than feeling like you’re not good enough for her.

Once you’ve made some adjustments, you are ready to begin re-attracting her and getting her back.

Just know that when you interact with her on a phone call and in person, she will be able to sense the changes in you simply by listening to how you talk and interact with her now.

Quickly improve your ability to attract her. Then, re-attract her, get her back and enjoy an even better relationship with her this time around

In person, she will also notice it by observing your body language (e.g. you’re calm, relaxed and confident rather than nervous, tense and insecure) and sensing your energy.

It will naturally come through and be visible to her, so don’t even need to tell her that you’ve changed.

In fact, you shouldn’t tell her that you’ve changed because it can come across as though you’re trying to sell yourself to her, which she can see as being a desperate attempt to get her back.

So, just let her sense the changes in you and naturally feel attracted and drawn to the new and improved you.

When she does, she will feel a strong surge of respect and attraction for you again, even if she initially tries to deny it to herself.

As a result, her defenses will then come down and she will open back up to having romantic feelings for you again.

In most cases, a woman will then want to give you another chance because she worries that she will regret it if she lets you go now that you’re so much more attractive and appealing to her.

That is the path that will lead you and her to getting back together.

Unfortunately, most guys don’t approach the ex back process in that way, so they end up losing the love of their life.

For example: If you don’t use the above approach, another path you may go down now is to…

2. Be drowned by the painful emotions and lose so much confidence in yourself that you can’t re-attract her or attract a new, quality woman

Be drowned by the painful emotions and end up losing so much confidence in yourself that you can't re-attract her, or attract a new high quality woman

There’s no denying that being dumped by the love of your life can be very painful.

It’s also understandable that you may go through a period of time where you feel sad, depressed and even a little bit hopeless.

Yet, the question you need to ask yourself is this…

Are you going to remain stuck at that stage and end up losing more and more confidence in yourself, or are you skip wallowing in self-pity and just get on with being a better, stronger version of yourself that she will find attractive?

The thing is, sometimes a guy feels so hurt and emotionally damaged after being dumped by the love of his life, that he allows those negative emotions to erode his feelings of value and self-worth as a man.

For example: He might…

  • Start believing that his ex is too good for him and that she deserves a man who is better than him.
  • Lose confidence in his attractiveness to other women, because he begins to feel like he’s not attractive or lovable enough as a man.
  • Begin thinking that he will never be able to get his ex back, so why bother trying.
  • Begin thinking that he got lucky with his ex and that his luck has now run out.
  • Start believing that he will need to accept a less attractive woman because an attractive woman won’t remain interested in him.
  • Believe that there’s just no way she could ever feel attracted to him again because he screwed up so badly.

Yet, thinking like that only makes him more unattractive to his ex and to other attractive women that he may meet along the way.


Attractive women are instinctively attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the emotional weakness.

In other words, when a man is emotionally strong in his relationships with women, he is going to be confident, have high self-esteem, be self-assured, be determined to succeed, be assertive and he’s going to believe in his attractiveness and value to her.

That’s appealing to women.

Unattractive women do tend to enjoy it when a guy is weak, because the unattractive woman feels as though she may be able to keep him in a relationship due to him not even knowing his own value.

Yet, the majority of attractive women want to be with a guy who has high self-esteem, knows that he is good enough for her and can maintain and even further strengthen his confidence while in a relationship with her.

So, if you fall into the bad habit of thinking that you’re not good enough, it will naturally start to eat away at your confidence.

As a result, not only will you be less attractive to your ex, but you will also find it difficult to attract other high quality women who are looking for a truly confident man.

You may then end up having to accept a lower quality woman that you’re not sincerely attracted to, or in love with.

Don’t let that happen to you.

Sure, if you need to, go ahead and allow yourself to some of the pain of being dumped by the love of your life.

Yet, on’t allow those emotions linger for too long and cause you to start feeling insecure and unworthy of her, or other quality women.

Once you’ve allowed yourself to experience some of the pain of losing her, just pick yourself up and start moving forward with confidence, knowing that you can re-attract your ex, or other quality women if you choose to do so.

Another way of saying that is, if you want to get your ex back, you need to believe that you can.

Believing that you can starts filling you up with the kind of confidence that causes you to think, talk, behave and act in ways that are attractive to her (i.e. you’re self-assured, have high self-esteem, don’t doubt yourself when around her, are comfortable flirting with her and making her want you again sexually).

So, go ahead and show her (not tell her) that you know you are the man for her.

She is the love of your life and you are the love of her life.

Believe it.

Be confident.

Believe in yourself and in your value to her and let her sense that as you interact with her.

You will then be able to re-attract her back, or attract a new woman if you prefer to do that instead.

The choice is yours.

Another path you may go down now that you’ve been dumped by the love of your life is to…

3. Ignore her and hope that she comes back to you one day

Ignore her and hope that she comes back to you one day

Sometimes, when a guy gets broken up with, he may think, “If I give her some space, she will calm down and begin seeing things differently. She will start to miss me and realize that I wasn’t that bad after all. Then she will change her mind about us and give me another chance.”

He will then cut off all contact with her (i.e. he doesn’t text, message her on social media, phone or visit her) for a few weeks or even months, in the hope that it will make her want him again.

Yet, that almost never works.

Here’s why…

Ignoring a woman who has dumped you and who no longer has strong feelings for you, is usually a waste of time because she doesn’t feel motivated to want to get you back.

In most cases, rather than missing her ex who is ignoring her, a woman will feel relieved that he’s not trying to get her back.

For example: She may think something like, “What a relief that he’s not texting me or calling me. I thought he’d make things difficult for me by begging and pleading and asking me to give him another chance but it looks like he got the message and is leaving me alone. At least now I can focus on moving on with my life and make a fresh start, without having to deal with an ex. Maybe I will go out with the girls tonight, get tipsy and flirt with some guys. This will be fun! I’m single again! I’m free! I can do whatever I want!”

Of course, at some point, a woman may become curious about why her ex hasn’t been contacting her.

In some cases, she might then text or call him to see what he’s been up to.

Yet, that doesn’t mean she wants him back, or that she hasn’t been sleeping with new guys and enjoying the single life.

In face, if she interacts with him (after weeks or months of him ignoring her) and realizes that he’s still stuck at the same level he was at when she dumped him (e.g. he’s still insecure and needy, he still doesn’t know how to make her feel attracted when he interacts with her and instead makes her feel friendly, neutral or even negative feelings for him, he’s still too emotionally sensitive), it will only confirm to her that she made the right decision to break up with him.

So, if what you really want to achieve is to get the love of your life back, don’t waste time ignoring her.

Sure, it’s fine to give her a few days of space to allow for things to calm down between you, but anything longer than 7 days is usually too much and can lead to her…

  • Having enough time to get over the pain of the break up and believe that she might be better off without you.
  • Feeling attracted to other guys (and liking it).
  • Finding herself another guy and moving on with him.
  • Believing that you don’t care about her anymore.
  • Getting annoyed with you for not having the balls to get her back and make the relationship better this time around.
  • Wanting to get revenge on you for not trying to get her back. She then hooks up with a new guy and posts photos of him and her all over her social media accounts.
  • Blocking your number, so you can’t reach out and contact her when you eventually feel like doing it.
  • Planning to mess with your head if you do contact her again (e.g. pretend to be interested initially and then reveal that she’s in a relationship with a new guy and is happy). That way, she can get back at you for hurting her by ignoring her.

So, rather than ignoring your ex and hoping for her to come running back to you one day, I recommend that you approach it in a mature, manly way.

That is where you call her or interact with her in person and actively make her have sexual and romantic feelings for you again (i.e. by letting her experience the new and improved you, flirting with her to build up some new, sexual tension), but don’t come across as though you’re pushing for a relationship.

When you replace her old, negative thoughts and memories of you with new, positive feelings (e.g. respect, sexual attraction, excitement, love), it stops the process of her getting over you and makes her feel drawn to you again.

She immediately starts to feel like she might regret it if she doesn’t give you another chance.

Another path you may go down now that you’ve been dumped by the love of your life is to…

4. Get over her and start dating new women right away

Get over her and start dating new women right away

You might decide that even though you really do love her and want her back, you don’t need her back to feel happy and fulfilled in your life.

So, rather than sitting around waiting for her to come back, you may then focus on getting over her by hooking up with new women and enjoying casual relationships.

Eventually, you might find another girl that you love and want to be with and your ex will start to become a bit of distant memory.

Yet, if she is the love of your life, it’s possible that you may not ever fully get over her.

Some men take years and even decades to get over the love of their life, whereas others always miss her and wish they could have gotten her back and had another chance at the relationship.

The choice is yours though.

If you want to get over her and move on, you might…

  • Start focusing on your big goals in life and make progress towards achieving them.
  • Begin going out to clubs and bars with your single friends to meet, attract and hook up with new women.
  • Begin having sex with new women and experiencing different kinds of love with them.
  • Ask women that you’ve always been attracted to out on dates (e.g. someone at work or university, a woman in your neighborhood or apartment building).
  • Start spending more time doing things that you always wanted to do, but avoided because of your relationship with your ex (e.g. travel, start a new hobby, join a meet up group in your area).

Another path you may go down now that you’ve been dumped by the love of your life is to…

5. Become so traumatized by the break up that you avoid relationships with women and end up feeling lonely and disconnected for many years

Become so traumatized by the break up that you avoid relationships with women and end up feeling lonely and disconnected for many years

Sometimes a guy will be so badly affected by a break up that he can’t deal with the risk of getting his heart broken again and as a result, avoids relationships by distracting himself with other things (e.g. video games, projects, work, hanging out with friends).

Even though he finds other women attractive, he’s just too afraid to get hurt again, so he never seems to be able to get himself to do what it takes to make a relationship happen.

At times, he may think to himself, “Love doesn’t last, so why even bother giving your heart to a woman, only for her to rip it out and throw it in your face when she’s had enough of you? I never want to go through what I experienced with my ex. It’s just too painful. I’m better off without a woman in my life. Besides, I have more important things to focus on like my work/studies.”

As a result, he may end up being alone for years and feeling bitter that he is missing out on love and good times, while other people seem to be enjoying it and getting on with it in their lives.

Don’t let that happen to you.

The truth is that you can’t hide from relationships and love, just because things didn’t work out with your ex.

Longing for connection

You will always feel the need to have a connection with women and to be intimate with them.

Yes, she has broken your heart, but if you want her back, or if you want to enjoy a relationship with a new woman that will work, you need to be fearless when it comes to love.

You have to be courageous enough to get the woman you want, regardless of what might happen.

You can’t hide from it.

It will always be there.

You will always have that desire.

Additionally, throughout life, you will always be faced with situations that you don’t like or that are challenging for you.

The sooner you can accept that and get into the habit of facing your challenges head on and succeeding, the better your life will be.

You will be one of the men who others look at and think, “How does he do it? His woman respects him, is attracted to him and loves him. He has become successful in his career. He gets things done. How does he do it?”


He doesn’t hide from the challenges of life.

He faces them head on, succeeds and then goes onto enjoy the next level of success that comes after that.

You can do that by starting now with the challenge of getting your ex back.

Start with the first step: Re-attract her.

Then, continue on with the next step: Let her sense that she will be missing out if she doesn’t give you another chance.

Then, continue on with the next step.

Before you know it, she will be in your arms, kissing you, telling you that she loves you and never wanting to leave you.

You can do it.

2 Common Problems You May Encounter When Trying to Get Her Back

1. None of your family or friends want to help, or they simply can’t offer you the help you need because they don’t know how to achieve what you want

In many cases, family and friends get caught up in the middle of a break up whether they want to or not.

For example: A guy may turn to his parents, brothers or sisters after being dumped by the love of his life.

If he asks them for help to get her back, they will usually try to talk him out of the idea by saying things like, “There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Just give it some time. You will find another girl and move on. Don’t worry about her. If she wants you back, she will come back.”

Alternatively, mutual friends may be reluctant to help, because they don’t want to pick sides and seem to favor him over his ex.

In the end, the only one who can help you is yourself, or someone like me who has helped men from all over the world to get an ex woman back.

Start by watching this, if you haven’t watched any of the other videos I’ve put into this article for you…

What do you really want?

Do you want her back?

Do you want to move on?

Remember: It’s your decision whether or not you want to get her back, or move on with a new woman.

It’s also up to you to take action and start making this happen.

I can show you the way, but you’ve got to follow through on the steps to get her back.

2. No one seems to understand how much she means to you and why you want her back so badly

Most people you talk to about your break up will try and make you feel better by telling you that you’ll get over it, or meet another girl one day.

They have good intentions, but it can be very annoying to see that no-one really understands how much she means to you and how difficult it will be to find another girl like her.

She is unique and the connection you and her shared can’t be replicated with another woman.

Yes, you could love another woman, but it wouldn’t be the same.

Most people just don’t get that, or don’t want to talk about it.

So, do yourself a big favor and stop discussing your break up with people who will just tell you to get over it, or to focus on meeting new women.

Of course, if you want to meet new women, then go ahead.

Yet, if you want to get her back, don’t go discussing your break up with people who aren’t going to support you or help you achieve that.

You know what you want, so just focus on making it happen.

Men all over the world get ex women back every day.

It’s normal, common and you might just be the next guy who does it.

She’s the love of your life.

The choice is yours.

Move on without her, or get her back?

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