Here are 5 tips to help you get her back:
1. Understand that we all live and learn
Everyone makes mistakes in a relationship.
In some cases, a mistake can even cause a temporary break up.
It’s completely normal, natural and common for a couple to get into an argument and nearly break up, or actually break up and feel like it’s final.
However, just because you overreacted and turned her off to the point where she dumped you, it doesn’t mean that you can’t work things out and get her back.
You made a mistake by overreacting and you now know better.
So, don’t keep beating yourself up about what happened.
You’ve become a better man from it already.
That’s a good thing.
So, focus on the fact that you learned a very important relationship lesson and have become a better, more mature man as a result.
Let go of the old version you who overreacted to a text on your girlfriend’s phone and move forward based on the man that you are now.
To get her to appreciate the new you, begin replacing the negative feelings that she experienced (e.g. betrayal, anger) with positive feelings (e.g. trust, respect, attraction).
When you rebuild her feelings of respect and attraction for you again, everything changes.
Her defenses come down and she opens herself up to getting back together again because her feelings for you have changed for the better.
Then, the idea of remaining broken up over a simple misunderstanding will start to feel silly to her.
She may then begin thinking things like, “Maybe I overreacted when I dumped him. Sure, he blew things out of proportion when he saw that text on my phone, but is it worth losing a great guy over? I’m not so sure anymore. I think he realizes his mistake. Maybe he does deserve another chance.”
When that happens, she will naturally start to want to get back together and you can then make it happen.
Another thing you can do to get your girlfriend back after overreacting, is to…
2. Apologize to her for overreacting and then laugh about what happened
If you haven’t already done so, make sure that you apologize to your girlfriend for how you behaved.
Don’t go on and on about it though.
Keep the apology simple, brief and sincere.
Don’t make the mistake that some guys make by saying things like, “I’m so sorry! Please forgive me. I was such a jerk. I hate myself for not trusting you. It’s just that you mean everything to me and the thought of you with another guy made me go crazy! Please give me one more chance. I’m sorry. Please believe me. From the bottom of my heart, I am sorry. I have never been this sorry. Please. I’m so sorry.”
Instead, just give her a short, sincere apology and then change the conversation to be about laughing at how you overreacted.
For example: You might say something along the lines of, “I really am sorry for overreacting to that text on your phone. It was silly of me to lose it like that.”
You can then laugh and add something like, “Although I don’t get why you broke up with me though. Think about how safe our house would be if you just put up a sign on the front door saying, ‘Beware of the crazy boyfriend. He bites!’ We’d have the safest house in the neighborhood! That’s got to be a good thing, right?” and have a laugh with her about that.
By laughing at yourself, it gets rid of the seriousness of the situation and also lets her see that you’ve changed and realized your mistake.
Then you can say, “Seriously though, it really was such a silly reaction from me. I’m embarrassed now that I behaved in that way. Yet, as you would most likely agree, that’s in the past now. I’ve learned my lesson. I know it was silly. It was immature. I now know better. Maybe it’s too late for me to know better and I’m okay with that, but I know better now. I get it that I reacted in an immature way. It was so silly.”
When she can see for herself that you have become a more emotionally mature man, she won’t be able to stop herself from considering the idea of giving you another chance.
Another thing you can do to get your girlfriend back is…
3. Re-attract her on a phone call or in person, but don’t ask for another chance
On a phone call and in person is where the ex back process really speeds up because you can quickly make your ex girlfriend feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you based on how you interact with her.
Unlike texting, on a phone call or in person, she can experience the new you via the tonality of your voice and the way you react to what she says and does.
She can quickly see for herself that the guy she dumped is different than who you have become now.
She goes from telling herself, “I will never forgive him for overreacting like that and not trusting me to be a faithful girlfriend,” to thinking things like, “He’s so different now…I can see that he gets it. He knows that he was silly to react in that way. He has learned his lesson. So, maybe I overreacted by dumping him and saying that it was over for good. I’m really starting to wonder now if I made a mistake by breaking up with him.”
So, don’t be afraid to call her and meet up with her in person to reactivate her feelings for you.
It’s so much quicker and easier to get a woman back that way, compared to just texting her.
For more info, watch this video I made about texting an ex…
BTW: When you re-attract her on the phone or in person, don’t ask for another chance right away.
If you push her to get back together before her feelings are fully reawakened, she may continue to focus on her negative feelings towards you and decide that she made the right decision to dump you.
So, just relax and concentrate on making her feel good to be interacting with you again (e.g. by using humor to break down her defenses, flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you, maintaining your confidence around her even when she’s blaming you for the break up).
The more sparks of respect and attraction she feels for you, the more she opens back up to being your girl again.
Another thing you can do to get your girlfriend back is…
4. Give her 3 to 7 days of space
Giving her a few days to a week of space is a great way to calm things down between you and your girlfriend and give her a chance to miss you.
Giving her up to a week of space is important if you’ve been going overboard with texting, messaging or calling her to apologize for overreacting to the text on her phone.
So, if you haven’t done so already, stop all interactions with her for a few days.
Just relax and know that she is going to be thinking about you and wondering what you’re up to.
She’s not going to immediately forget about you in a few days to a week.
Give her a chance to breathe and realize that you’re not so bad after all.
When you give her a few days to a week of space, it proves to her that you are now in control of your emotions.
At the same time, it gives her a chance to stop focusing on all the negative things about you that have been turning her off (e.g. You behaved like a jealous, controlling boyfriend. You were being desperate and needy after the break up) and begin missing the things about you that she really does like and feel attracted to (e.g. the way you make her feel loved and appreciated when she’s with you, your sense of humor, how you and her want the same things in life, your unique personality that she always loved).
The more she remembers her reasons for loving you and wanting to be with you in the past, the less she will be certain about her decision to break up with you in the present.
She might then contact you during the 3-7 days and you can then quickly re-spark her feelings for you and get her back.
However, if she doesn’t reach out to you, don’t worry.
Just take the lead by contacting her after 7 days and then start re-attracting her and getting her back from there.
By the way…
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that 3 to 7 days is not enough time to let things cool down between you and then end up not calling her for weeks or months instead.
It’s plenty of time!
If you take longer than a week to get in touch with your girlfriend, she might decide that you’re not interested in her and then focus on getting over you and moving on (usually by hooking up with another guy).
Don’t let that happen to you.
3 to 7 days of space is more than enough time.
Another thing you can do to get your girlfriend back is…
5. Let her experience the new and improved you in person
The more time you take to meet up with her in person, the longer it will take to get her back.
So, don’t put off catching up with her by hiding behind texts, social media messages or endless phone calls.
You have to get to an in-person meet up so she can experience the new, emotionally mature you for herself.
Here’s the thing…
Right now, your girlfriend is probably going to be on her guard and thinking things like, “I don’t know if I can trust him again” or, “He’s got issues and I’m not sure if I want to be in a relationship with a jealous man who loses it every time I talk to, or text another guy. I probably need to just move on.”
So, rather than trying to get you back, she’s going to wait to see if you change or remain the same.
If you and her interact and you’re still the same guy, her guard is going to remain up.
BTW: A woman can sense insecurity based on how a guy talks, behaves, moves, reacts and so on.
It can’t be hidden.
Women are very good at picking up insecurity.
So, if you want her back, you’ve got to quickly improve and stop being the insecure guy you were in the relationship.
If you need help with that, I recommend that you watch Get Your Ex Back Super System
When your ex sees you in person and can sense the inner changes that you’ve already gone through in just a week, she will be amazed.
She will naturally feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, even if she tries to hide it or never admits it or even suggests that she’s feeling it.
For example: One way that you can show her you’ve changed is to let her see that you don’t become jealous or insecure anymore if she mentions other guys.
If she says something like, “I was hanging out with my friend David the other day. He’s so funny. He’s kind of cute…I don’t know” just maintain your composure and even laugh at her attempts to make you jealous.
You can laugh and say, “Oh no, I’m so jealous” and have a laugh with her about that.
Then, change the conversation and let her see via your body language and vibe that you are totally fine.
You don’t care.
You know that whoever David is, he’s not as good as you.
You are way better than him.
He doesn’t even compare.
That will come through in the subtleties of your body language, vibe and behavior and she will like it.
All of a sudden, she may then begin thinking something like, “Maybe this break up was a mistake. I thought he was an emotionally immature guy, but he’s obviously used the time apart to change and become the kind of man that I always wanted him to be. Maybe this break up woke him up. He’s the sort of guy that other women will be attracted to now. They will see what I can see. I will end up losing him and regretting. So, I can’t be angry with him anymore. Maybe we should get back together again after all.”
You can make her feel that way.
However, you must do it face-to-face, not via text.
It’s the only way you’ll be able to convince her (without using words) that you really have changed and become a better man since she dumped you.
She will hear it in your voice and see it for herself in the way you act, behave and respond to her and she will know that it’s not an act.
As a result, she will feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and then, getting back together will become something she really wants too.
Where Guys Go Wrong After Being Dumped For Overreacting to a Text On Their Girlfriend’s Phone
Okay, so you overreacted to a text on your girlfriend’s phone and she dumped you, right?
Well, you can’t change how you reacted in the past.
Yet, you can change the present and the future.
It all depends on how you think, act and behave from this point onwards.
You’re either going to be saying and doing things that will get your girlfriend back, or saying and doing things that will make the break up permanent.
The choice is yours.
That’s why you need to make sure you don’t make any of the following mistakes:
1. Feeling ashamed of your overreaction, rather than accepting, learning from it and then feeling good about the fact that you’re becoming a better man
You might feel justified in telling yourself things like, “I’m such an idiot! How could I do this to the woman I love so much? I should be ashamed of myself for doubting her loyalty. I deserved to be dumped,” but that’s not going to change what happened.
In fact, the only thing it will accomplish is to kill your confidence and prevent you from taking steps to get your girlfriend back.
So, promise yourself that you’re not going to dwell on the negative side of what happened anymore and start looking at the positive side.
What is the positive side of what happened?
Essentially, making that mistake helped you become a better, more emotionally mature man.
That really a good thing.
It’s not something to be ashamed of.
It’s something to be grateful for.
So, focus on that.
Focus on how cool it is that you’ve leveled up as a man by learning, first hand, that a guy shouldn’t overreact to texts on his girlfriend’s phone.
Instead, a man should maintain his cool by not looking at other guys as competition for his girl.
It’s fine to be annoyed and even dump a woman if she is actively flirting with other guys or cheating, but if she’s not doing that and you overreact, then you fail the test.
You show her that, deep down, you are insecure and see other guys as being better than you.
That’s not what a woman wants.
A woman wants to be with a man who knows his value and as a result, doesn’t worry about other guys trying to get her attention.
That may sound like it would be difficult to do, but it’s not.
When you honestly know how to attract a woman in a relationship and build on her attraction to the point where she falls more and more in love with you, other guys simply do not compare.
It would be a huge loss for her if she ever strayed, because most guys out there have no idea how to deepen a woman’s feelings over time.
Most guys let the relationship go stale and the sex dries up.
Women know this.
So, when you’re the sort of guy who easily deepens his woman’s feelings over time, you have nothing to worry about.
If she ever strayed, it would be her loss, her mistake and she would be the one regretting it for the rest of her life.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Cutting off contact for 30 to 60 days and expecting her to chase you and try to get you back
Sometimes a guy feels so embarrassed by his behavior that he thinks, “After the way I overreacted to a text on her phone, I’m almost 100% sure that my girlfriend won’t want to hear from me. So, rather than calling her and trying to get her back, I’m going to back off for a while and let things cool down between us. Then, when she’s calmed down, she might start to miss me and we can then work things out.”
He then cuts off all contact with her (i.e. he stops texting, messaging, calling or seeing her) for several weeks or even months in the hope that she will come back to him.
Yet, here’s the thing…
When a woman has lost touch with her feelings of respect and attraction for a guy, she’s usually not going to run after him if he cuts off contact.
Instead, she’s usually just going to accept that the break up is final and will focus on moving on with a new guy instead.
Even in cases where a woman still has feelings for her ex and regrets dumping him, if he stops interacting with her, she usually begins to doubt his feelings for her.
As a result, she feels unsure about contacting him in case he rejects her, so she lets him go and moves on with a new guy instead.
So, if you want your girlfriend back, don’t ignore her for 30 to 60 days and assume that she will want you back.
If you do ignore her for that long, you might be shocked to find out that she has moved on and is happy now without you.
That would suck, right?
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Not getting to the core reason for your jealousy and insecurity to then fix it
If you want to get your girlfriend back into a relationship that lasts, it’s best that you get to the core of what caused you to overreact to the text.
For example: Some questions you can ask yourself are…
- Why did I lose confidence in my attractiveness to her?
- Why did I assume that she would be more attracted to another guy and want to leave me?
- Why am I insecure with her, but probably wouldn’t be that insecure with another girl?
When you understand what really caused you to overreact, you can then change and improve so that you can get her back.
One thing is for sure though…
Don’t wait too long to make a move.
Women can easily move on after a break up, especially when the guy turned her off by being very jealous or insecure.