At The Modern Man, I often hear guys who say something like, “I want to meet a girl. I’ve tried to talk to women, but I can’t work out where I’ve been going wrong” or, “I want to have a girlfriend so bad, but women don’t seem to be interested in me.”
So, what is the real problem? Why do so many good guys find it difficult to meet girls or get themselves a girlfriend? Watch this video to find out…
As you will discover from the video above, if you want to meet a girl so you can get laid or get a girlfriend, you have to first focus on your ability to attract the women you meet. If girls don’t feel attracted to you, they’re not going to be interested in much more than just a polite, friendly conversation with you.
Yet, what if you don’t have the confidence to approach girls in the first place?
Watch this video to understand how you can begin building up your confidence to be able to walk up to a woman and start a conversation that leads to a phone number, kiss, sex and relationship…
As you will discover from the video above, it’s up to you as a guy to give yourself opportunities to meet and attract women. You can’t expect them to actively approach you because you look good.
Most women will never approach a guy and simply wait and hope to be approached by a guy who has the confidence to begin an interaction with her. Women prefer to do it that way because it helps ensure that they meet a confident guy, rather than a woman making the mistake of approaching a nervous, insecure guy and giving him a chance to be with her.
The cold, harsh truth is that any guy who says, “I want to meet a girl” must be prepared to do something about it if he wants to make it happen. He can’t expect girls to take pity on him and guide him through the process of a pick up.
Yes, some very good looking guys will get approached and hit on by women (often not the types of women they really want), but most guys (including myself) aren’t good looking enough to get approached by women, so we have to walk up to women ourselves and make them feel attracted to us for other reasons (e.g. our confidence, charisma, charm, humor, etc).
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use that to get consistently positive results when meeting girls…
As you will discover from the video above, most girls place much less importance on a guy’s look that people realize.
As a guy, you are lucky that you can actively make women feel attracted to you for reasons other than looks. When you begin attracting women in other ways (e.g. by displaying confidence, being charismatic, etc), you will see that it’s actually very easy to attract the girls you meet.
Most girls are much more flexible and open about what they will find attractive in a guy than most guys realize.
What Have You Been Doing So Far to Meet a Girl?
If you are saying, “I want to meet a girl,” what have you actually being doing to make it a reality?
For example: Have you been going to places where you can meet single girls (e.g. bars, singles events, parties, shopping malls, etc) and actively approaching women?
To meet girls and get to the point where you’re having sex and enjoying a relationship with them, you not only need to go to places where girls go, but you also need to approach and attract them.
If you’re currently sitting around at home wishing that you could meet a girl or wishing that you had a girlfriend, then you are in the right frame of mind to begin making that happen, but you also have to be willing to take some sort of action to get a result.
For example: Sitting around and hoping that a girl will suddenly appear in your life one day is a mistake that many guys make.
A guy might think, “Well, if I keep working out at the gym and building up my muscles, girls are surely going to notice me one day” or “If I stick with my career and eventually make enough money to buy my own home, women will then like me because I’m set up and able to support them.”
Guys (and men) literally waste years or even decades of their life thinking like that. They hope that one day, they will be good enough for women. Yet, what they don’t realize is that most women are much easier to attract than they will ever admit.
Most girls act like they are so good and only deserve a rich, tall, male model for a boyfriend, but most of them happily hook up with, get into a relationship with and even marry a guy who isn’t tall, rich or handsome.
It doesn’t matter what you look like, you really can attract girls and get laid and get a girlfriend. That’s not to say that a guy can pick up EVERY woman on the planet, but who needs every woman on the planet anyway?
The truth is, a guy can literally choose from millions of beautiful girls who would happily have sex with him and get into a relationship with him. However, he must learn how to make women feel attracted to who he is as a guy, rather than hoping to attract and keep a woman based on his looks.
These days, a lot of guys fall into the trap of believing that the way women are shown to think, behave and act in TV drama shows, music videos and in movies is exactly what they’re like in real life.
Without ever being shown the real truth about what women can feel attracted to, some guys get sucked into wasting years of their life trying to improve their in the false belief that this will make them irresistibly attractive to women.
Yes, women do appreciate it when a guy looks good and there are some women who will only accept a male model type of guy as a lover or boyfriend, but most women really don’t place much importance on looks.
Most women (not all) are not so shallow that they’re only interested in how a guy looks. Instead, what they’re really interested in and turned on by is who a guy is on the inside and how that then comes through in his personality, vibe, attitude, behavior and actions around her and in life.
To most girls, a guy’s inner qualities are of far more importance than outer appearances. When a guy fails to recognize that, he usually goes through much of his life feeling unwanted, unloved and unworthy around beautiful women.
He simply doesn’t understand that he is good enough for women and simply needs to begin to display the personality traits and behaviors that trigger a woman’s feelings of attraction for a guy.
Give Girls What They Want and They Will Give You What You Want
One of the problems that guys encounter when trying to become more successful at meeting and picking up girls, is that they don’t really know what girls want.
If you ask a girl what she likes in a guy, she will almost always just talk about superficial things like looks, height and money.
If she is an honest girl and says that she likes a guy to be confident and believe in himself around her, that doesn’t mean that she is going to applaud a guy for being confident.
In fact, most girls will tease a guy and try to break his confidence if he appears confident around them. Why? They are testing to see how real his confidence is because girls know that guys often put on an act of being confident.
If you want to meet a girl and get to kissing, sex and a relationship, you’ve got to be able to give her what she really wants. You can’t learn that by asking her to teach you because women don’t want to be a guy’s teacher on how to be a man.
Girls expect you to know how to be the type of guy that they feel attracted to and respect. If you don’t know how to be that guy, they simply reject you or keep you in the friend zone.