Women can feel turned off and turned on by many different things about men.
For example: When meeting a guy for the first time, a woman will feel turned off by a guy who:
- Is too nice to her.
- Is too easily impressed by her.
- Doesn’t know how to have an exciting, interesting and sexually arousing conversation with her.
- Doesn’t know how to trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction.
When in a relationship, a woman will feel turned off by a guy who:
- Becomes too clingy or needy.
- Is insecure or too emotionally sensitive.
- Is unable to control his feelings of jealousy.
- Takes her for granted.
- Ruins her feelings of respect for him.
- Destroys the love that she initially felt for him.
Women Are Easy to Turn On When You Understand Where They’re Coming From
When a guy asks, “What turns women off?” he usually hasn’t been enjoying the type of success with women that he wants. He might be a great guy and have really good intentions with the women he meets, but they just don’t seem to be interested.
Can you relate to that? Are you a good guy with good intentions, but just aren’t getting the respect, love and attention that you know you deserve with women?
If so, watch this video…
As you will discover from the video above, a lot of good guys don’t really know how to attract women, which is one of the things that women hate about most single men…
When you understand where women are coming from and what type of world they live in compared to men, it suddenly begins to make sense as to why women reject guys like they do.
A woman hopes to meet a guy who has the ability to turn her on by making displaying the personality traits and behaviors that will naturally attract her (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, humor, masculine vibe, etc).
However, most of the guys that she meets will turn her off because they will display personality traits and behaviors that aren’t naturally arousing (e.g. nervousness, self-doubt, polite conversation, being too nice, etc).
When a woman meets a guy like that, she immediately tries to let him know that she isn’t interested. She might ask him to leave her alone, turn away from him to talk with her girlfriends or give him cold, short responses to his questions in the hope that he feels uncomfortable and leaves.
Not knowing how to handle a situation like that, guys often begin trying harder to impress the woman, which then makes him look desperate in her eyes…and desperation in a man is a definite turn off.
So, to avoid all the mind games and bitchy behaviour, you’ve got to interact with women in ways that trigger their feelings of sexual attraction and respect for you as a man. You can’t go through life expecting women to just like you because you’re a good guy.
As you will discover from watching the videos on this page, most women select a man based on how much sexual attraction he makes her feel, not how nice or intelligent he is.
Don’t Worry So Much About Your Looks
Yes, there are some women out there who only want a very good-looking guy for a boyfriend.
However, the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are open to being with all different types of guys as long as the guy makes her feel enough attraction for other reasons (e.g. he is confident, charismatic, charming, alpha, funny, etc).
If you believe the advertisements or so called “articles” in glossy men’s magazines, you will be tricked into thinking that all women are turned on by “beautiful” men who keep themselves groomed to perfection and wear all the latest designer clothing and bling.
Yes, the perfect looking guys in the magazines are going to be physically attractive to a lot of women, but looks are not the most important thing to the majority of women in this world…
There’s no harm in making the most of your physical appearance (e.g. working out at a gym, wearing good clothes, styling your hair in a cool way, etc) or presenting yourself well, but most women are not turned on by how a guy looks on the outside, they’re turned on by who he is on the inside and how that comes through in his personality, vibe, behavior, actions and attitude.
A guy might look like a movie star, but if he behaves in a shy, anxious way around a woman that he likes, his lack of confidence will be a turn off for her and his looks alone won’t hold her interest.
Of course, some women (usually unattractive women or manipulative women who just want to use a guy for a while before dumping him) do like it when they find a good-looking guy who is nervous and self-doubting.
In those cases, the woman often assumes that she will be able to control him during a relationship with the threat of a break up and will keep him wrapped around her little finger, while she remains open to meeting other guys.
As a man, your looks may help you some initial interest from women, but the majority of women place much more importance on how your personality, behavior, vibe and attitude makes them feel.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works…
Some guys make the mistake of wasting a lot of time (often years or decades of their life) working their ass off to hopefully create a certain look (e.g. a perfect gym body) or get to a certain financial status in life (e.g. buy a car, buy a house, etc) so they can feel good enough for women.
Yet, here’s the thing…
You are already good enough for most women. You really are. Most women are much more flexible and open about what they find attractive in a guy and while there are some women out there who will only accept a guy who looks like a model and is super rich, the majority of women are willing to accept much, much less.
Women Like Good Guys, Not Super Nice Guys
Growing up, some guys get told by well-meaning relatives and friends that the way to attract a woman is to be super nice and to “treat her like a lady” at all times.
This may have been good advice back in the early 1900s up to the 1950s, but it’s not good advice for today’s world. Why?
Today’s women don’t have to save themselves for marriage anymore. So, women now select men based on how much sexual attraction he makes her feel. If he also happens to be a good guy, then that is a bonus, but if he isn’t (i.e. he is a bad boy), she will usually go along with having sex with him and work out what to do later.
Think about it this way…
You might want a girlfriend who is nice, loyal, caring and trustworthy. The sort of girl you could proudly introduce to your parents, friends or co-workers.
Yet, if you go to a strip club and watch a sexy stripper dance, you’re most-likely still going to be willing to have sex with her, even though she might not be a trustworthy “girl next door” type that you could introduce to friends and family.
The same happens when you look at porn. It doesn’t matter what you think you want or you’ve been going around saying that you want in a woman, when you look at women in porn, you feel attracted to them and you then act on that attraction.
If you want women to want you in a sexual way, you’ve got to focus on triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you. Being extremely nice to a woman doesn’t create those feelings and here is why…
Women do like nice guys, but only if he is also making her feel sexually turned on. If he’s just being super nice and hoping that she “likes” him enough to give him a chance, he will usually get rejected when he tries to make a move.
When a guy is being super nice to a woman, she often becomes suspicious about what he really wants. “Is he just being friendly and nice because he’s such a good guy…or does he actually want to have sex with me?”
If a woman gets the sense that you really do want to have sex with her, but you’re acting like an innocent nice guy, she will put her guard up around you. She will feel uncomfortable and almost always reject you if you touch her, use sexual innuendos or attempt to escalate to a kiss or date.
To avoid getting that reaction, you have to start with attraction.
Attraction comes first and you then do everything else (e.g. phone number, kiss, sex, date, relationship) after that.
Most guys never get taught that, so they often resort to trying really hard to be as nice as possible to hopefully get a woman to like them enough.
Yet, all it takes for him to be instantly replaced is another guy to come along and make the woman feel sexually attracted. She will then turn her attention to him, kiss him, hook up with him and the nice guy will be left behind to feel depressed about being rejected yet again.
The truth is, regardless of what women SAY they want (e.g. “I want a nice guy who cares, listens, is sweet to me” etc), they don’t want to be put on a pedestal and worshipped by a nice guy.
Yes, women do like guys who are nice, sweet and who listen to her, but ONLY if she is sexually attracted to him. If she isn’t sexually attracted to him, then she might like the nice guy as a friend, but she isn’t going to want to do anything sexual or romantic with him.
When being nice to a woman, you also have to make sure that you’re being nice in an attractive way…
For example: A guy might think he is being “nice” by asking her where she’d like to go on a date or which restaurant she’d like to eat at, but if he behaves in that way, he is showing her that he doesn’t have what it takes to confidently lead the way like a man.
There’s nothing wrong with sometimes asking a woman where she wants to go, but on a first date, women expect a man to lead the way. Ironically, they actually see that as him being “nice.”
He is being nice because he isn’t expecting her to be the man and the lead the way. He’s being charming by letting her relax into being a feminine woman who is being swept off her feet by a masculine man.
Don’t Try So Hard to Impress Women
Following on from the above, guys who are way too desperate to please women (e.g. always trying to say the right thing, being super nice, etc) will often behave in a way that makes him come across as insecure.
Just like desperation, insecurity of any sort in a man is a complete turn off for women.
For example: A guy who is desperate to please might turn up for a first date with a bunch of flowers or make some other kind of romantic gesture. That kind of approach might get a woman swooning over a guy in a Hollywood movie, but for real women living in the real world, it’s actually a total turn off.
Why? Well, it’s not a question of whether or not she likes flowers, but more a question of why a guy should feel the need to make such a dramatic gesture on a first date.
A woman is going to wonder why he feels the need to buy her things, rather than feeling as though he is more than enough of a present for her on the first date.
Of course, if a guy is very confident, charming, charismatic and really knows how to attract women, then he can do whatever he wants. If a guy like that gets a woman flowers, she will feel lucky that she is getting that type of attention and respect from him.
However, if a guy lacks confidence, doesn’t really make her feel much attraction and is already a bit too much of a nice guy, she’s not going to be impressed by the gesture.
She will almost certainly feel turned off by the fact that he’s trying to buy her love with gifts, rather than make her fall in love with who he is as a guy.