Sometimes it can mean that she is the one, but sometimes she remains single for other reasons.
If you want her back for real, here’s what you need to be aware of:
1. When a woman breaks up with a guy, she usually does it after being turned off for quite a while
In most cases, it’s not a snap decision for a woman to end a relationship.
So, even though she might be upset because she originally thought her guy was the one too, she doesn’t have strong feelings for him anymore because he turned her off and didn’t change.
As a result, she can then move on if she wants to.
Here’s the thing…
If you still care for your ex and want her back, don’t base your decision on whether she stays loyal to you after the break up.
That doesn’t prove anything other than that somewhere along the line you stopped making her feel sexual and romantic feelings for you and she is now looking for a man who can.
Yet, nothing says that man can’t be you.
If you interact with her and reawaken the kinds of feelings inside of her that she’s longing for (e.g. respect, desire, excitement, love), she will quickly change her mind about you.
Remember: It’s not the woman’s role to chase a man back who she dumped.
So, if you want her back, you have to be the one who makes it happen.
You need to call her on the phone, or even better, meet up with her in person and spark some of her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you again (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to be around you again, showing her via your actions and behavior that you’re a new and improved man, flirting with her to create some sexual tension).
When she starts feeling new, positive emotions towards you again, she is then naturally more inclined to stay loyal (i.e. because she’s open to the idea of getting back together with you).
However, if you just expect her to stay loyal without doing anything to reawaken her lost feelings for you, there will be nothing stopping her from hooking up with the first guy who comes along and makes her feel the way she wants to feel in a relationship with a man.
Another reason why is…
2. If she hooks up with a guy while drunk, she may regret it in the morning and miss you
After a break up, a woman will usually feel pretty depressed, so her natural instinct may be to push those feelings aside, by going out and having a good time with her friends.
Secretly she may be hoping that by distracting herself with music, dancing and alcohol, she will forget about how sad she is feeling.
In some cases, this may lead to a woman drinking too much and ending up in bed with another guy.
Yet, that doesn’t mean she’s not the one.
Especially if she truly regrets her actions in the morning and wakes up feeling guilty and missing her ex.
The important thing for you to understand is that just because your ex might have made a mistake, it’s not a sign that you should give up on her and move on.
Instead, if you want her back, just make it happen.
Call her on the phone or meet up with her in person and make her feel so much respect and attraction for the man you are now, that the idea of being with any guy other than you, will make her feel sick to her stomach.
Another reason why is…
3. If you use the No Contact approach and expect her to come back, it just doesn’t work on most women, including a woman who is the one for you
Even if a woman still has strong feelings for her ex and is secretly hoping they will get back together again, if he cuts off contact with her for weeks or even months (i.e. because he’s hoping to making her come running back to him), she might not stay loyal to him. Why?
When he ignores her, rather than chase after him, she might instead feel hurt by what she perceives as his rejection of her.
She may then begin thinking things like, “I guess I didn’t mean that much to him after all if he can cut me out of his life so easily. He didn’t even have the decency to call me, or even just text me, to see how I am after the break up. I would be a fool to sit here pining for him seeing as he doesn’t even care about me anymore. In fact, based on his current behavior, maybe he never cared for me at all and I was just too in love with him to notice. Well I’m not going to let this break me. I’m going to find myself another guy as soon as possible and move on.”
She then starts to actively go out with her single friends to places like bars or clubs where she knows she can meet men who will be willing to hook up with her, so she can feel better about herself.
Alternatively, she begins to accept dates with some of the guys that were interested in her when she was with you that she rejected before.
In some cases, a woman might even get angry with her ex for using the No Contact approach on her (i.e. because women know that this is a common trick that some guys use to get an ex back) and she decides to hook up with another guy to get revenge on him.
So, if you want your ex back, don’t ignore her in the hope that she will stay loyal to you and prove that she’s the one.
If you do, not only will you likely be disappointed, you also risk the chance of actually losing your ideal woman over a silly expectation.
Another reason why is…
4. If she sees you as the one, she might also believe in the cliché of, “If he’s the one, he’ll try to get me back. If he doesn’t, I should just move on.”
So, while you might be waiting to see if she will remain loyal to you to decide whether you should get her back, she may be waiting to see if you’ll put in the effort to re-attract her.
If you don’t, she will then likely think something along the lines of, “I guess I was wrong about him. He’s not doing anything to get me back, so I suppose I need to accept that he’s not the one and move on.”
She will then usually hook up with another guy (even if he’s not the perfect match for her), to help her get over you and move on.
Remember: If you want her back, you need to be courageous enough to make it happen.
You don’t need her to remain loyal after the break up to prove that to you.
You know it in your heart.
So, stop asking, “If she stays loyal after the break up she’s the one. True or False?” and just get her on a call with you right away and start re-attracting her.
Then meet up with her in person and blast open her hidden feelings of respect, attraction and love for you and get her back.
Another reason why is…
5. She’s not obligated to stay loyal because she’s no longer in a committed relationship
Think about this…
If you met a sexy, beautiful woman who showed interest in you, would you stay loyal?
You might say “Yes” now, but what if it was you who dumped your ex?
Does that change anything?
Of course it does.
The person who dumps usually has a clear reason why.
In a woman’s case, it’s because she lost respect, then stopped feeling attracted and then fell out of love with her guy.
In the same way, if you dumped your ex and didn’t want to be with her anymore, would you stay loyal because you used to think that she was the one?
Chances are high that you would not.
Instead, you would hook up with the next beautiful woman who came along and made you feel attracted to her.
In the same way, if your ex broke up with you, hooking up with another guy who makes her feel respect and sexual attraction for him won’t be that big a deal to her.
In fact, it will likely be something she will welcome, because she will have missed feeling strong sexual and romantic feelings for a guy.
This is why, if you want your ex back, make your decision to get her back based on that, not on her loyalty to you after the break up.
Where Guys Go Wrong When They Believe a Woman is the One
If you waste a lot of time wondering whether or not she is the one, you might actually miss out your chance of getting your ex back.
That’s what happens to a lot of guys and they end up regretting it for a very long time, if not for the rest of their lives.
So, don’t let that happen to you because you’re making the following mistakes…
1. Believing in relationship fantasy ideas that don’t apply to real life relationships
It sounds nice to create a fantasy about the one and wish that life worked in that way, but it’s not how the real world works.
In fact, the idea of there being one true love for everyone, is something that only exists in romantic movies and romance novels, because it’s fun to escape the reality we live in and live in a world where there is one perfect person for everyone.
Yet, that’s not how relationships function in the non-fictional world.
Instead, in the real world, if a man can’t maintain his woman’s feelings of respect, attraction and love for him (e.g. because he becomes too insecure and needy, starts taking her for granted, treats her more like a neutral friend than an attractive woman, gives her too much power over him), she will usually break up with him, even if she once said things like, “I love you so much! I think you’re the one.”
Here’s the thing…
A relationship stays together when both people decide that they want to stay together because it feels good, not because they used to be in love and believed they were soulmates (or the one).
So, rather than trying to prove to yourself that your ex is the one because she stays loyal after the break up, you need to instead make her reconnect with her old feelings of respect and attraction for the new and improved version of you.
The more respect and attraction she starts to feel for you again, the more her feelings will begin to change.
She starts to see you in a new light and suddenly, she becomes open to the possibility that maybe you’re the one for her after all.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Thinking that all women are alike (i.e. if a woman does this, then it means that)
It would be great if all women thought and behaved in the same way.
Unfortunately they don’t.
So, although one woman might break up with a guy and get into a relationship with someone else right away, while another woman stays single for months afterwards, it doesn’t necessarily mean either one of them is more likely to be the one.
So, don’t give up on your ex based on whether she was loyal to your after the break up or not.
What matters most, is that if you believe she’s the one for you, you don’t let her go.
You need to interact with her every chance you get and reactivate her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you, so that she begins seeing you as the one for her too.
That’s what matters.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Feeling entitled to her loyalty because things used to be good
Sometimes, after a break up with a woman he perceives as being the one a guy might think to himself, “I can’t even imagine how she could possibly hook up with another guy after what we had together. Our connection was so unique, that I’m pretty sure she will never find that with anyone else.”
He’s then bitterly disappointed if she quickly hooks up with another man and he then begins to doubt his own judgment (i.e. he wonders if it’s possible for her to be the one after all seeing as she didn’t stay loyal to him after the break up).
Yet, here’s the thing…
If the feelings are not mutual in a romantic relationship, loyalty is lost.
It doesn’t mean she is a bad person, or that she didn’t love him.
It’s just how romantic relationships work.
She has to focus on finding and keeping a man that she can stick with, rather than staying loyal to a guy who isn’t yet able to be the man she wants.
So, rather than sit around debating whether it’s true or false that she’s the one if she stays loyal after the break up and focus instead on making her see you as the one.
How can you do that?
By interacting with her and making her feel such strong surges of sexual and romantic attraction for the man you’ve become, that she starts to fear losing you.
Then, not only will she start to see you as being the one for her, it will also be easy for her to be loyal to you.