With the latest statistics showing that around half of all marriages will end in divorce, it’s no surprise that many people are now asking, “Is marriage obsolete?”
According to the findings of a recent survey, 25% of Americans now believe that marriage is becoming obsolete. This is a viewpoint shared by young people in particular with 44% of those in the 18 to 29 year-old age bracket considering marriage to be a thing of the past.
Yet, is marriage really obsolete? Could it really be the end of marriage as we know it?
Well, the fact that around half of all marriages end in divorce indicates that around half of all marriages survive and there’s plenty of evidence to suggest that many of those marriages remain happy for life.
We’ve all seen those couples who’ve been married for 40+ years yet still remain madly in love with one another, right? Of course, not all couples who stick together are happy in their marriage and there are those who simply resign themselves to putting up with what they’ve got rather than going through a divorce.
So, if you’re asking, “Is marriage obsolete?” because you’re questioning whether or not it’s going to be right for you or because you’re in a marriage that’s already on the verge of breaking down, you may also be wondering what it is that the couples who stay madly in love have over those who simply put up with each other in an unhappy marriage.
What is it that makes the difference between a happy marriage and a marriage that ends in divorce or a couple living separate lives?
In the video below, Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) explains why he decided to accept his girlfriend’s marriage proposal, as well as how he has been able to maintain a happy, passionate, loving relationship, despite the 15 year age difference between himself and his now wife (he recently married her).
As you will see from the video above, marriage isn’t something to be afraid of if you go into it with the right mindset and you also have the ability to deepen a woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you over time.
One of the most common reasons for a marriage breakdown is simply a lack of understanding over what it takes to make a marriage work in the real world.
These days, guys get bombarded with misleading messages when they watch how TV “marriages” work and they get sucked into believing that the way to keep a woman happy in a marriage is to let her “wear the pants” and to put her in the position of taking charge.
This is not what real women living in the real world want. Sure, it makes for some comedy moments for TV viewers (i.e. when the wife is yelling at the cowering husband or when the husband seems like a total idiot compared to his smart, sensible wife, etc), but it’s not the way successful marriages in the real world work.
In the real world, a woman wants to feel like a woman in a relationship (i.e. feminine, emotional, girly at times, irrational at times, etc) and it takes a man who knows how to be a traditional masculine man to make her feel that way.
These days, a lot of guys make the mistake of being too neutral with their woman (i.e. the guy is neither very masculine or very feminine, but is somewhat in between) by losing touch with their masculinity.
The more that a woman is made to feel neutral or masculine around her man, the less like a woman that she feels and the resulting imbalance in the sexual dynamic causes the all-important sexual spark to fade. Without a clear masculine/feminine dynamic between a man and a woman, the sexual desire cannot remain alive.
Another mistake that husbands often slip into making in a marriage, is taking their wife for granted. A good example might be showing up late for dinner on a regular basis, not making her feel sexy and noticed or often calling her at the last minute to say he’s going to be late because he and a friend are heading out for a drink on the way home.
Adopting an attitude of, “I’ll get something to eat when I’m out” or, “Keep dinner in the oven and I’ll get it later” might seem harmless and unimportant to him, but if it’s something that he makes a habit of doing, he will gradually make his wife feel that her efforts and her contribution to the marriage are unimportant – therefore she’s unimportant to him.
Marriage is Not Obsolete
Marriage was created help ensure stability in personal, family and community relationships. Rather than having no trust in the other person’s devotion and loyalty to you, marriage offers a new level of perception and emotional connection that can only be understood by those who have actually gotten married.
Prior to getting married, many guys see marriage as only being beneficial to women, but in reality, it’s a good deal for both men and women. As long as the man is able to deepen his woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time, the experience of their love and relationship becomes more amazing for both of them.
Even though marriage seems like an out-dated idea to those who haven’t tried it, the fact remains that it is a beneficial tradition when approached correctly. Many people know this, which is why marriage doesn’t like it will become obsolete anytime soon.
There have been some changes to how and when people get married, but it’s still happening in record numbers all over the world.
Today’s women are much less dependent on men than previous generations of women, which has changed the average of when a woman gets married. The average age for a woman to get married has risen to 26 years compared to back in the 1950s when the majority of women married in their teens.
This may make it appear as though modern women aren’t interested in marriage and only want to date and have sex with men all their life, but statistically speaking, most women eventually settle down and get hitched.
The average age for men to get married is now 28 years, highlighting the fact that many couples don’t immediately move out of their parent’s home into their marital home, but instead live independently or live together before considering tying the knot.
Many couples live together and have children without ever marrying and evidence suggests that more and more men are choosing not to settle into a life of sticking with one woman.
How about you? What is your relationship goal with women?
The choice to marry later in life has led to statistics showing that there are now more unmarried people in the 25 to 34 year-old age bracket in America than married people in the same age bracket.
Interestingly, for those who do choose to marry, stability is no longer considered the main reason for doing so and virtually every couple questioned gave love as their number one reason for getting hitched.
Is Marriage Right For You?
The bottom line is that whether or not marriage is right for you will depend entirely on your individual view of life and what’s important to you. It will also depend on whether or not you have actually experienced the type of true love that makes both you and the woman feel like you would never, ever want to split up.
You don’t ever have to get married if you don’t want to. You can decide to sleep with new women for life, or get in and out of relationships for life.
The world has changed and the days of having to marry to be able to hold your head up as a respectable member of society are gone. Likewise, the days of being labelled a social outcast for living together or having children out of wedlock are gone.
As a modern man, you have a choice to make…
Go down the traditional path of relationships by getting married to one woman and staying with her for life.
Have sex and relationships with many new women throughout your life and never get married.
Either way, you can be happy and you can enjoy your life. You can enjoy your life with or without marriage. It all comes down to what you really want and what makes you the happiest as a man.