In most cases, when a guy contacts me to say, “My ex doesn’t want me back,” he has already made many of the classic mistakes that cause a woman to lose interest in getting back with a guy.
For example: Watch the video below to understand 5 classic mistakes that guys make and what you need to do instead to begin changing the way your ex feels about getting back with you…
You can get your ex to want you back by beginning to create the types of magnetic feelings that have been missing from her interactions with you.
For example: If one of the reasons why she broke up with you was due to your emotional insecurity, you need to get on the phone with her (not send her a text) or have an interaction in person and let her experience the new, improved version of you who is now more emotionally strong than ever.
Another example is if she broke up with you because her feelings of respect and attraction died. In that case, you need to actively start saying and doing things that are going to trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, your ex will only truly become open to taking you back if you can guide her through that 3 step, emotional process.
Where Guys Go Wrong
For many guys, the realization that their ex is no longer even open to the idea of reconciliation or that she has moved on and is with another guy can be emotionally devastating.
This can then lead to desperate patterns of behavior, which then turn the ex off even more. Why? Women are attracted to the emotional strength of men and turned off by the weaknesses.
If you want your ex to feel a natural attraction for you, it is critical that she gets to see that you are so much more emotionally strong, appealing and attractive. Emotional attraction is much more important than physical attraction when getting a woman back and luckily, this is something that you can fix and improve very quickly.
So, if you’re a guy who is saying, “My ex doesn’t want me back,” and you’re desperate to get her to change her mind, make sure that you avoid the following mistakes…
1. Don’t Beg or Plead With Her
Many guys feel so much love, desire and need for their woman that when she finally decides to break up the relationship, he goes into a state of emotional panic and desperation.
In his mind, he hopes that if he can just show her how much he cares, she will feel pity for him or feel guilty for wanting to break it off and will give him another chance.
Sometimes it does work for a short while and a woman says that she will agree to see him every now and then and assess how she feels. Yet, if the guy doesn’t fix the core reasons why she was breaking up with him in the first place, the woman simply moves to the next stage and breaks off the relationship completely.
The thing is, your ex actually chose to become your ex for a reason. So, if you launch in to hounding her with calls and text messages effectively begging to be given another chance, you’re wasting your time and you’re making it even less likely that she’ll ever change her mind.
To get your ex to reconsider her decision, you need to figure out what happened to cause her to dump you in the first place.
The exact reasons for a relationship break up are going to different in each case, but the bottom line every time is that a women breaks up with a guy when she has fallen out of love with him, and a woman falls out of love when she has lost respect and sexual attraction for a guy.
So, if your ex has lost respect and sexual attraction for you, which part of begging and pleading do you think is going to change things? Exactly – it won’t. Desperation is not an attractive trait in a man and begging and pleading are a complete turn off.
If you’re feeling devastated by the realization that your ex doesn’t want you back, do not make the mistake of begging and pleading with her to be given a second chance.
Instead, figure out what happened to cause her feelings for you to change and then take action to turn things around by making the improvements to yourself you need to make to show her that you’ve learned from your mistakes and you’ve become a better man – a man she can respect and feel sexually attracted to again.
2. Don’t Promise Her the World
When a guy finds that his woman isn’t willing to give him another chance, he often slips into the trap of promising her the world in a desperate attempt to get her to rethink her decision.
For example: He buys her an engagement ring and promises to marry her, he promises to take her away on an expensive vacation, he promises to move to her town or city, etc.
Whether it’s promising to buy her something she’s always wanted or promising her that you can change, none of it actually changes anything because none of it addresses the real reasons why she chose to end the relationship.
What about your thinking, behavior, attitude, vibe, actions and your approach to life and the relationship have caused her to lose so much respect and attraction for you? What are those things and what have you already done to fix them?
Most women aren’t willing to give a guy another chance if he promises that he will fix his problems. Instead, she wants to see that he has already fixed them or is making really serious efforts to fix them and has already made good progress.
Until you take action to make improvements and become a better man, the promises that you make to your ex are often going to be seen as meaningless because she has lost respect and sexual attraction for you and likely doesn’t believe you at this point that you will actually change.
Words alone can’t change the way your ex feels about you. You have to begin developing the qualities that make you a more sexually attractive man who has the ability to make her feel the way that she really wants to feel in a relationship.
In a relationship, a woman wants to be able to relax into being a feminine, emotional sensitive woman who is being protected by her masculine, emotionally strong man. If your attitude or behaviour during the relationship led to her seeing you as a weak, wimpy guy, any promises of change that you make are worthless until you can show her that you’ve made those changes.
If you’re anxious to get your ex to want you back, you must avoid saying things to her like, “I promise I can change; tell me what you want and I’ll do it” because by doing so you’re simply highlighting the fact that you don’t actually know how to be the type of man that she needs.
A woman doesn’t want to be stuck with the responsibility of teaching her how to be the type of guy that she needs in a relationship. Instead, she expects that a guy either knows it naturally or seeks help to learn how to be the man she needs.
However, she doesn’t want to be the one who has to teach a guy how to be a man, because it makes her feel like she’s a mother figure, a big sister or a teacher to the guy, which then ruins her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for him.
A woman wants to be with a man that she can look up to and respect. A man that she can rely on to always “be the man” and know how to make her feel the way that she needs to feel when in a relationship.
3. Don’t Brag About Other Women Liking You
Some guys make the mistake of bragging to his ex about having other women interested or about dating other women.
The thought is that by letting his ex know that he has been with other women, it will make her feel jealous and keen to have him back. Yes, that does work sometimes, but not for all situations.
For example: If a woman broke up with a guy because he wasn’t able to make her feel the type of attraction that she was looking for in a relationship, she usually won’t become interested in him again until she can see that he now has the ability to attract other women.
However, if a woman broke up with a guy who cheated on her or who took her for granted and wasn’t willing to commit (until she broke up with him), then she’s not going to be impressed by him hooking up with other women. In many cases, she will just use that as motivation for her to hook up with guys and find a new guy who loves her and appreciates her.
What does work for all situations is when a guy learns from the experience of being dumped and takes action to become a better man in the way that will appeal to his ex. Rather than bragging about being with other women, he focuses on developing and displaying the types of qualities that make him irresistibly attractive to women.
When his ex sees photos of him on social media looking confident, masculine and more charismatic around other people, she is going to be intrigued by the changes in how he is coming across.
When he talks to her on the phone and makes her feel attracted in new and exciting ways by what he is saying and how he is saying it, she is going to be even more intrigued by the way that he is now making her feel.
Then, when he gets her to meet up with him in person and uses techniques to get her respect back and re-attract her, she is going to be blown away by the way that he is now able to make her feel. She will realize that he understands what he was depriving her of and is able to effortlessly give that to her now.
That is when an ex begins to want you back. She feels differently and when she feels differently, she begins to think differently.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, when you change the way that you talk to and interact with your ex, she will change the way that she thinks and feels about you.
The more you can trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you as a man, the more she will begin to reconnect with her feelings of love for you.
So, rather than trying to tell your ex that other women are interested in you in the hopes that it will make her jealous, simply focus on quickly becoming the type of guy who is naturally attractive to women. She will pick up on that when she observes you or interacts with you and it will immediately begin to make her question her decision.
Getting Your Ex to Want You Back
You can get your ex to want you back (even if she has moved on) by taking action to become an irresistibly attractive man who has the qualities she’s looking for and wants in a man.
She is not going to come running back to you when that happens. Instead, you need to get her on a phone call, get her to agree to meet up with you in person and then re-attract her at the meet up.
If she has blocked you on social media or is no longer answering your texts or calls, it doesn’t mean that you can’t turn that around.
In my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System, I provide text messages that ensure your ex will reply back and agree to talk on the phone. Then, on the phone, you will know exactly what to say and do to get her to agree to meet up with you.
At the meet up, you will be armed to the teeth with my persuasive attraction techniques that she will literally be helpless to resist. Women cannot stop themselves from feeling attracted to certain traits in men and I’m going to explain exactly how you can trigger those feelings in her.
Ready to begin?