This usually happens when you’ve continually tried to get a woman back, but have never actually improved your ability to make her feel respect and attraction for you as a man.
She eventually gets to the point where she feels like you just don’t understand what she wants, so she tells you to move on.
The good news is that even if things are looking hopeless right now, and even if your ex is saying things like, “Forget about us getting back together again, it’s just not going to happen,” or “You need to move on because you have no chance with me ever again,” when you make some adjustments to the way you are talking to her and interacting with her, her feelings for you will naturally begin to change.
She will begin to open up to you once again because the feelings of respect and attraction will naturally make her drop her guard and look at you with a new perspective.
Even if she tries to fight it, deep down she will likely begin thinking, “I know I told my ex to move on, but suddenly I don’t feel so angry at him anymore. I actually enjoy being around him now. I don’t remember why I was so angry and turned off…I just miss him now. What does this mean? Does it mean that we are meant to be together? Is it a sign?”
To begin the ex back process, you simply need to make her feel small sparks of respect and attraction for you again via the way you talk and interact with her.
You build on her renewed feelings as you guide her back into a relationship with you.
Sometimes, it only takes one or two interactions to get a woman back who is telling you to move on, but in really extreme cases, you might need to have 3 to 4 attractive interactions with her before she fully drops her guard, opens back up to you and gives you another chance.
However, if you don’t change your approach from today onwards and instead continue to interact with her in ways that turn her off, then getting her back becomes a very difficult, if not impossible thing to do.
She’s just going to be saying, “Sorry, but you really need to move on. I just don’t feel the same way about you as you feel about me. You need to find a new woman,” because you’re not saying and doing the types of things that are making her have feelings for you.
Asking Her if There Will Ever Be a Chance of Getting Back Together
When a guy is in a position where the woman that he loves is telling him to move on, it’s only natural that he won’t want to accept that.
He might then plead with her, “Do you think that sometime in the future we can get back together again? At least give me some hope to hold on to. I will wait as long as it takes.”
In a way, he’s hoping that she will realize how much he cares for her so she then says, “Wow, you really love me don’t you? How silly of me for breaking up with you. No other guy would love me as much as you do. I simply have to give you another chance. I’m sorry for being so blind to the fact that you care so much about me.”
It would be nice if a woman’s psychology worked that way, but it doesn’t.
When a woman doesn’t have feelings for a guy, she won’t really care that he so cares for her, or if he’s not dating other women and getting on with his life.
It doesn’t matter to her.
She might say, “I really appreciate how much you care,” but she’s just saying that to be nice.
What she’d really like to say is, “You don’t know how to make me feel respect and attraction for you any more. You have been turning me off for a while and you’re still turning me off. If you don’t change, you will never have a chance of getting me back. If you do change, then who knows, I might just open back up to you.”
Yet, she’s not going to say that because he will then say, “Tell me what I need to change and I will do it.”
She would then have to be his teacher in life about how to be the type of man that she and pretty much every other woman on the planet wants and needs (i.e. a real man).
She’s not going to put herself in that position. She wants a ready made man who knows how to make her feel deeper respect, attraction and love.
If he doesn’t know how to be that man, he needs to learn from his male friends or family members or find a male role model (i.e. me) to help him.
To avoid getting into long discussion with him about if there will ever be a chance of getting back together, a woman will usually just say, “No” or she might say, “Maybe” if she wants to string him along (to make herself feel better as she moves on because he still wants her) or because she simply doesn’t have the courage to say no.
The fact is, asking, begging, or pleading with a woman for a second chance rarely works. Why?
When a guy is asking a woman if there will ever be a chance for him to get her back, he almost always hasn’t changed anything about the way he’s communicating with her to make her feel like getting back with him will be in her best interests.
He’s still being a turn off and doesn’t even know what to change to start making her feel respect, attraction and love for him again.
So, because she doesn’t have feelings for him at that point and doesn’t feel attracted to him, she’s not going to be saying “Yes” or “Maybe” to the idea of getting back with him unless she doesn’t have the guts to tell him how she really feels.
Here’s what you need to remember…
You do not have to wait around hoping that your ex will hopefully change her mind about wanting you back someday.
You can get her back very quickly.
When you rapidly transform yourself and then interact with her to reactivate her feelings, she will naturally open up to the idea of being with you again.
All it usually takes is to make her feel a small spark of respect and attraction for you again.
You can do that by making some changes and improvements to the way you are behaving, talking to her, and the way you respond to the things she says to you.
For example: When your ex tells you to move on, rather than react in your usual way (e.g. get upset, beg her not to say that, get angry with her, seek pity), you can react in a way that will spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you (e.g. be confident and make her laugh and smile).
When you interact with her in ways that spark her feelings, everything changes.
Will Moving On With Another Woman Make Her Come Running Back?
Trying to make her jealous by going out with another woman rarely works if your ex doesn’t have feelings for you, because she’s just not going to care about what you’re up to.
It might make her feel a bit of pain for a moment, but when she remembers how turned off by you she was, that painful feeling will turn into the pleasurable feeling of relief when she realizes that it probably means that you’re over her and won’t be trying to get her back.
A woman notices that her ex boyfriend is with a new woman and decides to contact him to see if he has really moved on or is only trying to make her jealous.
She texts him something like, “I miss you. Lately, I’ve been wondering if we should get back together again, but I see that you’ve now moved on, so maybe it’s too late for us.”
If he then jumps on the idea and says, “Me too! This new woman means nothing to me. It’s you that I really want,” she will know that he was just doing it to make her jealous, the emotional pain will go away and she will likely lose even more respect and attraction for him as a man.
So, if you are thinking about going out with another woman to make your ex jealous, just remember that if she currently doesn’t have strong feelings for you, she’s probably not going to care at all.
If you want her back, you need to focus on quickly transforming yourself to become more emotionally attractive to her (i.e. more confident, charismatic, emotionally masculine).
When she can see for herself that you really have changed and are now the type of guy she can look up to and respect, she will naturally begin to open up to you.
All you need to do then is guide her through the rest of the ex back process and she will no longer be your ex.
The Way She Feels
When a woman is telling her ex to move on, it’s usually because her feelings of respect and attraction for him have been replaced by more negative feelings like anger, disappointment and resentment.
She doesn’t believe that he has the know how or the willingness to put in the effort to quickly change and improve himself as a man, so she just tells him to move on and leave her alone.
In her mind, your ex still thinks that you’re the same guy who she left behind.
However, if you interact with her and let her see that you really have changed, she won’t be able to stop herself from opening up to you again, even if it’s just a little bit at the start.
She will naturally feel attracted to you because she will no longer be seeing the things about you that were turning her off.
Basically, when you don’t react in the same way as you always used to (e.g. with insecurity), she has nothing to fight against.
All her excuses (e.g. you’re so insecure, you don’t listen to me) begin to fall away and she starts to allow feelings of respect, attraction and love to come flowing back into her heart and mind again.
An Example of How to Spark Her Feelings For You Again
By now, you’ve probably realized that the only thing that works in getting your ex back is to reactivate her feelings for you by letting her experience the new and improved version of you.
She needs to see for herself that you really have changed before she will let herself open back up to her feelings of respect, attraction, and love for you again.
So, how can you spark her feelings for you?
In a situation where your ex is being cold and unfriendly towards you, what usually works the best is to focus on making smile, laugh, and feel good to be interacting with you rather than letting her create drama or negative feelings between you and her.
When you make a woman smile and laugh when she is being cold, she will instantly enjoy talking to you again and won’t be able to hold on to her negative, angry feelings about you for long.
For example: If a guy is talking to his ex on the phone and she is being cold, giving short answers to his questions, and generally being a bit of a bitch, it’s easy for the guy to become upset and give up on trying to talk to her.
However, if he lets her get to him, he will miss out on the chance to spark her feelings again.
So, imagine that you’re talking to your ex on the phone and she says something like, “Look, I want my stuff back. Get it through your head that it’s over between us.”
You can reply with something like, “Okay, sure. When do you want to pick up your stuff?” but nothing about that will make her smile, laugh, and spark her feelings of attraction.
On the other hand, if she says, “Look, I want my stuff back. Get it through your head that it’s over between us,” you can respond by saying something like, “No problem. Of course, it will cost you $10 per item.”
She might then flip out and say, “What?” at which point you can laugh and say, “Only joking. I’ll get everything ready for you so you can pick it up whenever you want. I’ll only charge you $1 per item, plus tax” and then laugh and say, “Just kidding. I’ll get your stuff ready for you. When you do want to come around to pick it up?”
She will then most likely laugh about getting caught out with your joke and begin to wonder what has brought about such a sudden change in you.
She will feel curious about your newfound relaxed and confident attitude towards her, which will naturally make her feel some respect and attraction for you again.
When that happens, she then opens herself up to the idea of talking to you again.
From there, you just need to build on that spark of attraction she is feeling for you, and guide her back into a relationship with you.