Here are 3 ways you can respond to make her feel more attracted and want to be with you again:
1. Say, “Good for you”
Say that in a joking way of course.
Let her see that in a moment like that, where she’s being open and vulnerable, you don’t turn into a soppy romantic guy, or act extra nice and polite.
Instead, you have the balls and the social intelligence to know that women love it when a man uses moments like that to playfully mess with them.
If you have the balls to do that, she then naturally feels more sparks of respect and attraction for you, which opens her up to interacting with you more often, or just meeting up with you so she can get you back.
Another way you can respond is to…
2. Say, “Really, I thought about you a couple of times after we broke up, but then forgot about you. What’s your name again?”
Once again, you’re only joking.
By responding in that way, you are showing her that you’re emotionally strong enough to risk making a joke to calm the tension between you and remove any nervousness she may be feeling about opening up to you further.
She can then laugh at your joke and feel like you and her are getting along as though you are boyfriend and girlfriend again, which makes her just want to be with you.
Another way you can respond is to…
3. Say, “No you don’t. You think about me all day, all night and even when you’re in the shower.”
Then, have a laugh with her about that.
Side note: Many women masturbate in the shower using soap and imagine having sex. This is why I mentioned the shower, but you don’t have to mention masturbation to her. She will think of that herself.
Back to the example…
Approaching the conversation in a joking manner way helps to get rid of any distance between you (as a broken up couple) and brings you back together as though you are a couple again, where it’s totally fine to joke around with each other.
That’s what works.
Yet, it’s not what she will probably be expecting from you.
For example: Sometimes a woman will hope that her ex says, “Yes, I think about you every day too. I’ve been missing you non stop” when she says that she thinks about him every day.
She hopes that she will get that confirmation, so she can then reveal more of her feelings to him.
There is a problem with that approach though…
The thing is, women feel attracted to men for very subtle reasons and the way that a guy replies, responds or reacts to a woman can completely change the level of attraction she has for him.
For example: Many women say, “I want a nice guy,” but then when a man is nice, they feel bored.
What they really mean is, “I want a guy who is challenging in a playful way, so I feel the need to impress him and maintain his interest too. I also want him to have some balls, but still be a good guy.”
Yet, they can’t go around saying that because people will judge them in a negative way (e.g. friends, family or coworkers might say, “No girl. He needs to impress you. You don’t need to do anything. You’re a woman. Men need to treat us like a princess at all times”).
So, it becomes this big secret that women have to keep from men, from their family, coworkers and some friends.
The reality is that, women will say things like, “Men should be nice at all times. Men should be very sensitive,” but when men behave like that, women don’t feel attracted to them and instead, place them in the friend zone.
This is why, if your ex has said that she thinks about you every day, it seems like the logical, nice thing to do to then say, “Yes, I think about you every day too.”
Yet, that takes the challenge and attraction out of the equation because you are simply satisfying her need right away.
It’s like there is suddenly no chase for her now.
So, what a lot of women will do when they get a response like that, is then say, “But, I need more time to think. I don’t know if we should get back together. I think we still need time apart.”
Then her ex guy is left thinking, “What the heck? She said she was thinking about me every day. Why doesn’t she want to get back with me?”
If he then starts chasing her, appearing desperate or appears to have lost confidence in his attractiveness to her, she then loses respect and attraction for him based on him being emotionally weak.
A woman’s attraction for a man is a very subtle thing and if you get it wrong, you get friend zoned.
So, I recommend that you replying, respond or react in a way where you are playfully teasing her.
In this way, her attraction and desire to be with you will increased.
Of course, it might not seem that way right away.
For example: If she is a bit of feisty woman, she might act (yes, act) like she is angry or hurt by what you have said, to test your confidence and balls.
She might say something like, “How dare you say something like that to me? I can’t believe I opened up to you and you’re just turning it into a joke. You’re such a jerk!”
Deep down, she will be wondering things like, “Wow. That’s not what I was expecting from him. I thought he would get all emotional with me and begin telling me how much he misses me and how much he wants me back. Instead, he was a little cheeky and I like it. He really seems to have changed a lot since we broke up. It makes me want to see if we can work things out between us after all.”
Yet, on the surface, she might initially pretend to be shocked by what you’re saying.
Don’t ever lose confidence when a woman puts on an act like that, even if it looks serious.
It’s never serious when you’re making a joke.
If you let a woman make it serious, she loses respect and attraction for you for getting walked all over by a woman.
On the other hand, if you simply laugh, remain confident, continue being a good man and get on with talking to her, then her respect and attraction for you will go through the roof.
A lot of guys don’t know how to handle women in that way and as a result, they struggle to attract new women or keep relationships together for their entire life.
So, don’t make the mistake of thinking you have to be nice, sweet and romantic to get your ex back.
Be a good guy, sure, but have some balls and occasionally playfully challenge her as you’re talking to her.
3 Potential Reasons Why an Ex Woman Will Say That She Thinks About You Every Day
Now, up until this point in the post, it has mainly been a case of your ex wanting you back for real and that is the reason why she said that she’s been thinking about you every day.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Sometimes a woman will tell her ex guy that she thinks about him every day, even though she has NO intention of getting back with him, or isn’t yet sure if she wants to.
For example: In some cases…
1. She is stringing him along until she finds a replacement guy
Sometimes a woman doesn’t want to completely cut her ex out of her life in case she struggles to find a new man.
She doesn’t want to find herself in a situation where her ex man moves on before she does and seems happy, leaving her feeling like the one who has been rejected and left behind.
So, she will continue to string her ex along by saying things like, “I think about you every day.”
Meanwhile, while he’s sitting at home thinking that she wants him back and that he just has to be patient, she focuses on finding herself a replacement man as quickly as possible.
Then, when she does find a new man, she can tell her ex the news, “Sorry, but I need to tell you something. I’ve met someone and we’re dating. He’s a really great guy and I like him, so I don’t want to mess things up by keeping in touch with my ex boyfriend all the time. You understand, don’t you? I do wish you all the best and I hope that you meet someone too. Take care. Bye.”
Her ex is then left feeling confused and wondering how he could have misunderstood her feelings for him so badly.
In many cases, it’s because he has stuck to just texting her and didn’t get to an in-person meet up, where they could actually hug, kiss and then potentially have sex and get the relationship back together.
Instead, he was trying to achieve everything via text.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Take control of the situation by making her fall back in love with you in person, before she starts moving on with some other guy (in person).
Some of the ways you can begin making her fall back in love with you in person, are by…
- Maintaining your confidence regardless of what she says or does to make you feel unsure of yourself around her.
- Being a good man, but also being confident and assertive when interacting with her.
- Making her laugh, smile and feel happy to be around you again.
- Believing in yourself and in your value to her, rather than doubting yourself and then making her feel turned off as a result.
- Flirting with her to create sexual tension, rather than acting like just a friend and then losing her to another guy who does make her feel attracted.
- Showing her that you’re a new and improved man who she can now truly look up to, respect, feel attracted to and love, rather than repeating the same old mistakes as before.
When you interact with her in person (or at least on a video call or audio call), she can sense that you really have changed and more importantly, she really does feel differently about you now.
She experiences a new kind of respect and attraction for you, which then causes her to want to spend more time with you.
By spending more time with you, she opens back up to you and you get her back, as long as you are building on her feelings and avoiding old mistakes.
Another possible reason why a woman will say that to her ex is…
2. She’s just saying it to be nice
Sometimes, a woman is a nice person and doesn’t want to give her ex the impression that as a soon as she broke up with him, she forgot all about him.
Instead, she wants to make him feel like, even though they’re no longer a couple, she still thinks about him every day because she cares about him.
In her eyes, she’s just being a nice, caring person and is doing her best to make sure that the break up won’t be too hard on him.
Of course, it’s understandable that when a guy hears that his ex girl still thinks about him every day, he might start thinking, “Yes! Maybe that’s her way of telling me that she wants to get back together again. I’m going to tell her that I feel the same way and try to get another chance.”
Yet, when he asks for it (especially via text), she turns him down and says, “I think it’s best that we have some space for a while. I still need to figure out what I want” or some other vague reason women use to maintain distance from an ex and give themselves enough time to find a new man.
He accepts her request for space, continues to miss her every day and builds up his hopes of getting her back, only to then be disappointed when she moves on with someone else.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Simply remain in contact with your ex and use the interactions you have with her to reawaken her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
When you do that, she will want you back for real.
Interacting with her means that at some point, you need to call her on the phone and meet up with her in person so you can build on her feelings and get her back.
Don’t sit around hoping that everything will happen via text and that she won’t secretly move on behind your back.
Another possible reason why a woman will say that to her ex is…
3. She does think about him every day, but isn’t sure she wants to get back together
Sometimes a woman does miss her ex in a way (e.g. the feeling of safety, security and comfort that comes with being in a committed relationship) and that can cause her to think about him every day.
At times, when she is remembering some of the good times they shared, she might even consider getting back together with him.
Yet, if she interacts with her ex and notices that he’s still stuck at the same level he was at when they broke up (e.g. still lacking masculinity in the way he approaches interactions, still too needy, still insecure), she may think something like, “Hmmm…although I do miss him, I can see that nothing about him really has changed. So, if we got back together again, we’d probably just experience the same problems as before. Then, we will more than likely end up breaking up. I just don’t want to put myself through all that again. So, I will have to accept that it’s not going to work between us and focus on trying to get over him so that I can move on.”
A woman will usually then begin going out a lot more with her single friends to places where she knows she will meet other guys, accepting dates from guys who are interested in her, or joining online dating sites or using dating apps like Tinder, Hinge and Bumble to help herself move on.
Before her ex knows it, she will have moved on and he will feel rejected and left behind once again.
This is why, if you want your ex to give you another chance, you need to show her (not tell her) via your attitude, conversation style, behavior and actions that you’ve made some changes to yourself and can now attract her in the ways that are important to her.
For example: Some of the changes a woman might want to see in her ex before she gives him another chance are…
- He is an emotionally stronger and more emotionally masculine man now, rather than an emotionally sensitive man who makes her feel like she needs to be gentle with him.
- He’s no longer a pushover like he used to be and now takes the lead in a loving, but assertive way, rather than letting her walk all over him.
- He is now focused on his goals, dreams and ambitions like a real man, rather than being too emotionally dependent on her and being a clingy and needy guy as a result.
- He now makes her feel like a sexy, feminine woman when interacting with her, rather than treating her like a neutral friend.
When you show your ex (not tell her) that you’ve learned from your past mistakes and are now a better man, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her.
She will then naturally drop her guard and open up to giving the relationship another chance, rather than feeling like she would be wasting her time if she did.
Essentially, you need to make her feel as though she would be getting to experience a new type of respect, attraction and love for you and that it really would be different.
When she senses that, she doesn’t want to miss out on it and end up looking back with regret.
As a result, she opens up and give you and the relationship another chance.