5 possible reasons why a woman will say that she’s sorry for giving you the impression that she wants to get back with you are:
1. She thought you’d changed, but you haven’t
In most relationships, a woman doesn’t decide to break up with her guy until after she’s given him at least one or two chances to change and improve.
She will usually start off by hinting at what is bothering her.
For example: If she feels her guy is too jealous, she might say things like, “Don’t worry. You’re my man and I don’t want anyone else,” or “I love you and I wouldn’t do anything to hurt you. You need to trust me.”
If he doesn’t pick up on her hints, or simply just ignores by telling himself something like, “I know she’s annoyed with me now, but she loves me. She’ll forgive me no matter what I do. She loves me,” her hints will then begin to turn into arguments and fights.
Eventually, if she notices that no matter what she says to him, or how many fights and arguments they get into about the same thing, he always falls back to his old pattern of jealousy, she will begin to lose respect for him.
As a result, her feelings of love and attraction will begin to fade away, until she finally decides to break up with him.
Naturally, when a guy gets broken up with, his first instinct is to usually rush into saying and doing whatever he thinks will convince his ex to give him another chance.
Yet, in most cases, what he thinks is the right thing to do, turns out to be something that turns her off even further.
Classic mistake 1: Pouring his heart out to her in the hopes that it will make her overlook his flaws and give him another chance
For example: A guy might say something like, “I know I messed up pretty badly, but in my defense, I only behaved that way because I love you so much. I was being jealous because the thought of losing you was more than I could bear. No matter how much I tried to protect our relationship, I ended up losing you anyway. I messed up. Please forgive me. I can’t imagine my life without you in it. You were my reason for being and without you nothing makes sense or feels right anymore. I promise that I will never let you down again. Please just give me one more chance.”
Yet, rather than feeling amazed by his declaration of love for her, she just feels turned off by how needy and dependent he is of her love.
She can sense that if she gives him another chance, he won’t change and will continue on being the jealous guy that he was and still is.
Alternatively, he might…
Classic mistake 2: Buying her flowers, a gift, or even go as far as proposing to her to show how much she means to him
Sending flowers to an ex after a break up is a pretty common mistake most guys make, but in extreme cases, a guy may even propose to his ex in a desperate attempt to make her change her mind.
He’s secretly hoping that the thrill of getting married will overshadow all the negative things about him and the relationship that she didn’t like.
Yet, it doesn’t.
She doesn’t want to get married to a guy who is only proposing out of desperation.
She also doesn’t feel impressed by flowers or a gift from a guy that she doesn’t fully respect or feel attracted to.
He’s doing it all backwards.
To get an ex back, you have to start by reactivating her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
Only when her feelings are back, will she actually appreciate a nice gesture like flowers or a gift.
Additionally, only when the relationship has been back together for a while and is happier than ever, will she then feel good about saying, “Yes” to a marriage proposal.
Classic mistake 3: Sending her emotional texts or e-mails
For example: A guy might text something along the lines of, “I’ll do anything to make you change your mind. Please give me one more chance. I can’t handle being apart from you,” or “Being without you is torture. I know I stuffed up, but please give me a chance to make it up to you. I promise never to behave the same way again. I know I said it before, but this time it’s 100% for real. Please, forgive me. I’m begging you!”
Alternatively, he might text her something like, “You mean the world to me. I just want you to know how special you are to me. You are the best woman I’ve ever met. I love you more than anything. All I think about is you. The love we shared was so strong. Don’t you agree? I want you back. I need you. You are everything to me. Please just see that.”
Yet, that approach just doesn’t work in most cases because a woman will say to herself, “He’s just being desperate because he’s feel hurt and rejected after being dumped. He probably also doesn’t want to lose me because it would mean that he’d have to go out there and face up to finding a new woman. If I give in and give him another chance, I bet he’s going to go back to being the same guy he was before.”
Sometimes it does work though.
Sometimes, a woman still has feelings for her ex and thinks, “Maybe he is different now. Maybe I should give him another chance” and she then drops her guard (e.g. by sending him a sweet or friendly response to show her interest, or agreeing to meet up with him in person).
A guy might then assume that if she’s open to seeing him again, it must mean that she wants to get back together again and he then gets excited.
He starts imagining them getting back together and everything being happy and loving again.
He gets his hopes up and can’t wait to see her.
Yet, if she meets up with him and she realizes that he hasn’t changed (e.g. he appears jealous when she talks about how happy she is without him, he becomes insecure and self-doubting), she will close herself off from him and do her best to move on as quickly as possible.
If he then calls her up and asks, “What’s going on? Why are you ignoring me? I thought we were working things out between us,” she will say something like, “As far as I was concerned, it was just a meet up to say hi as friends. I’m sorry for giving you the impression that I want to get back with you. It’s over between us. Please accept that and move on.”
The guy is then devastated and can’t understand why she didn’t give him another chance.
Here’s the thing though…
If you want your ex to get back with you, the first step is to make some changes to yourself to attract her in the ways that are important to her.
- You’re less insecure and self-doubting now, which means you don’t feel the need to get jealous or control her anymore.
- You’re more emotionally independent, which means that you don’t need her to be gentle and nice with you to feel okay about yourself.
- You’re more emotionally mature now, which means that you aren’t seeking her pity or letting her walk all over you like she used to.
When she experiences those kind of changes in you, she naturally drops her guard and opens up to being with you romantically and sexually.
Where a lot of guys go wrong is thinking that because the things he has already tried (e.g. pouring his heart out, sending flowers, proposing) didn’t convince her to give him another chance, then nothing else will.
Yet, that’s just not true.
When your ex can see for herself that you really have changed this time, her feelings for you will also begin to change.
Even if she tries to deny it to your face, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling rushes of respect and attraction for you for being man enough to change and improve so quickly.
Another reason why your ex might have said that she’s sorry for giving you the impression that she wants to get back with you is that…
2. She was thinking of getting back with you, but met a new guy who made her feel more respect and attraction than you
Some women can’t cope with the emotions of a break up and don’t like the idea of being single for very long.
A woman like that might think to herself, “I miss him and I hate being alone. Maybe my expectations were too high. Maybe if I give him another chance, things would be different this time.”
If her ex then tries to get her back (e.g. calls her on the phone, asks for another chance, promises to change), rather than make it clear to him that she’s not interested, she might let him believe that she’s open to giving the relationship another chance to see how she feels (e.g. does she stop feeling lonely and stop missing him).
This may go on for weeks, especially if the guy is trying to get her back via text, or if he’s still making the same old mistakes that turned her off in the first place.
He might think that she will remain faithful to him and give him another chance, but if another man comes along and makes her feel more respect and attraction for him, she will almost certainly open up to that.
For example: The new guy makes her feel attracted in ways that her ex can’t because he’s more emotionally masculine and makes her feel feminine in his presence, he is more goal oriented and focused in his life or he is more emotionally dominant and takes the lead in the relationship.
All of a sudden, she will pull away from her ex and focus her attention on the new guy instead.
If her ex then says something along the lines of, “Hey, what’s going on? Why are you being so cold and distant all of a sudden? I thought we were making progress towards getting back together again,” she will then say something like, “I’m sorry for giving you the impression that I want to get back with you. Please just leave me alone.”
Her ex is then left feeling confused and probably even a bit annoyed at her for giving him mixed messages.
So, if your ex gave you the impression that she wanted to get back with you and then suddenly changed her tune, she may have met a new guy recently who is giving her the kind of attraction experience she wants (e.g. he’s more confident and emotionally masculine).
Yet, that doesn’t mean that the new man is perfect and that you can’t get her back.
In fact, when you make some attractive adjustments to the way you think, act and behave around her, you will be ready to properly re-attract her.
Giving her the kind of attraction experience that she really wants is the best way to get her to start paying attention to you and missing what you and her had.
Don’t try to get her back by offering her what you want to give, when it’s not what she actually wants.
For example: She might want you to be more confident, make her feel feminine and girly when she’s in your presence and not put up with her bad treatment of you.
Yet, you might want to send her flowers, be extra nice and sweet to her and let her have even more power over you.
That’s not going to work.
You have to give her the kind of attraction experience that she really wants.
Additionally, if you are able to attract her in ways that her new guy can’t (e.g. You make her laugh, whereas he’s too serious. You get on well with her friends and family, but he doesn’t. You take her dreams and ambitions more seriously than he does), she will begin doubting her decision to break up with you.
She will then start to look at you in a positive light and realize that you probably are the right guy for her after all.
When that happens, she will open back up to you and help you to get a=the relationship back together with her.
Another reason why your ex might have said that she’s sorry for giving you the impression that she wants to get back with you is that…
3. She wanted to take things slow, but you put too much pressure on her to commit
Sometimes, a woman might feel unsure about whether she wants to get back with her ex or not, so she will say to herself, “Okay, I’ll just take things slowly with him and see if things are different this time.”
She wants to see if her ex has changed and improved of the things that turned her off in the relationship (e.g. he has stopped being so jealous and controlling, he has become more focused and emotionally mature, or he has become more emotionally independent).
If he makes changes that are important to her, she will then be happy to get back with him and give the relationship another chance.
However, if she notices that nothing is changing, she will stick to her decision to be broken up and just focus on moving on.
Sometimes, a guy will be so eager to get his ex woman back that he begins to pressure her into committing to a relationship, even though he hasn’t made real changes to himself and allowed her to feel attracted to that.
For example: When a guy interacts with his ex, rather than simply making her laugh, smile and feel happy to be talking to him, so she then naturally drops her guard and opens up to him, he turns her off by constantly wanting to discuss the relationship and work things out between them.
He might say things like, “I messed up before, but I want you to know that I’m really sorry for what happened. I promise that when we get back together again, things will be so much better between us. Just tell me what I should do, so I don’t repeat the same mistakes as before. I promise to do anything you want. I will do whatever it takes to make you happy and make you love me again. So, the sooner you tell me what to do, the quicker we can get back together again and be a happy couple again.”
Yet, that’s not what a woman wants to hear.
In fact, rather than make her think, “This is great! I feel so good about getting back with him because he’s willing to do anything I say to make me happy. I’ve got myself a slave! I can now control him!” it actually turns her off even more. Why?
Firstly, a woman doesn’t want to be pressured into a relationship with a guy on the basis of his promises to change.
Secondly, if a woman has to tell a guy what to do to make her feel attracted, it makes her feel like she has made a mistake getting into a relationship with him because he doesn’t even yet know how to be a man.
As a result, she begins to feel attracted to men who don’t need her to explain to them how to act, think and behave like a real man.
Then, her ex starts to look like a confused guy who still hasn’t fully grown up and become a man.
If she had been giving him signs that she might be interested in getting back together, she suddenly stops doing so.
She then says something like, “I’m sorry for giving you the impression that I want to get back with you. It’s over. I thought I made that clear. Please just accept it and leave me alone now.”
That’s a horrible situation for a guy to be in.
So, to avoid that, what you need to do is stop trying to get her back into a relationship right away and focus instead on having fun together.
The more you make her laugh, smile and feel good to be around you again, the more she will be able to relax and reconnect with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
Then, getting back together will happen naturally, because it’s feels good for both of you.
On the other hand, if you put too much pressure on her to tell you what to do to get her back, she will just pull away from you even more.
Another reason why your ex might have said that she’s sorry for giving you the impression that she wants to get back with you is…
4. She was only trying to be nice to let you down slowly, but you saw it as a sign that she wanted a relationship
Sometimes, a woman is a just a really nice person and doesn’t want to leave her ex feeling heartbroken and unable to move on after the relationship.
So, rather than make a clean break from him where she totally ignores him and refuses to have any contact with him whatsoever, she will try to let him down slowly by staying in touch and being nice, sweet and friendly towards him.
In her eyes, she’s just being a decent, caring person and is doing her best to make sure that he feels good about himself and remains confident enough to move on with another woman.
Of course, most guys don’t recognize that when it’s happening.
Additionally, it’s totally understandable that a guy who still cares for his ex and wants her back, might mistake her good intentions as meaning that she clearly wants him back.
So, when a woman realizes that she’s accidentally been leading him on and giving him the wrong idea, she may then say to him, “I’m sorry for giving you the impression that I want to get back with you. It’s over. I’m not interested in giving it another chance.”
It sucks to hear that, right?
You can change her mind.
Even if your ex was only being nice to you to let you down slowly and isn’t currently interested in getting back together again, you can change how she feels and make her want you back.
When you reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for you (e.g. by making her smile and laugh when you interact with her, showing her that you’ve moved past the level you were at before, making her feel feminine and girly in you presence) she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
Best of all, it happens naturally and automatically without you having to try to convince her of anything.
She feels attracted to you and drawn to you and naturally wants to give you another chance.
A final reason why your ex might have said that she’s sorry for giving you the impression that she wants to get back with you is…
5. She was leading you on until she was ready to move on
In some cases, a woman is simply the kind of person her only cares about her own feelings.
She may think to herself, “I’ll keep him around thinking he has a chance and move on before he does. That way, he is the one who is hurt and left behind, not me.”
She might then string him along for a while, until she has fully moved on and is ready to say, “Sorry, I didn’t mean to give you the impression that I wanted you back. I was just being friendly. I wish you all the best with your future. Goodbye.”
A guy is then left devastated and the way she treated him might scar him for life, or for many years to come.
He may develop a fear of relationships and not only avoid trying to get his ex back, but avoid getting into relationships with other women as well.
Don’t put yourself through that unnecessary pain.
If your ex has hurt you by breaking up with you and leading you on, you can get her back, as you will have discovered if you’ve watched any of the videos on this page.
For now, let’s have a look at some of the ways that a woman may lead her ex on after a break up…
- She likes his posts on social media.
- She calls him on the phone to talk for hours.
- She meets up with him every time he asks.
- She hugs and sometimes even gives him a kiss when she sees him.
- She says things like, “I miss you,” or “Life doesn’t feel the same without you.”
- She turns to him for help when she has a problem.
Naturally, when an ex woman is behaving in that way, a guy might think to himself, “This is great! She clearly still has feelings for me. By the look of things, we should be back together again soon. I’ve just got to be patient and she will be mine once again.”
Then, when he works up the courage to say, “So, does this mean that you want to start over and be in a relationship again?” she will then say something, “I’m sorry for giving you the impression that I want to get back with you. You need to forget about us as a couple. That is over.”
It’s very confusing for a guy to be lead on like that by a woman.
In many cases, he might then lose control of his emotions and start seeking pity, becoming upset or trying harder to suck up to her to get another chance.
Yet, doing those things just turns her off even more.
So, don’t let yourself get caught up in a situation like that.
Instead, simply take charge of the ex back process by using every interaction you have with her from now on as an opportunity to re-spark her feelings for you.
The more you make her feel respect, attraction and love for you, the less she will be able to stick to her decision to lead you on until someone better comes along.
She will begin to want you back for real and you can then gently guide her back into a relationship that is better than ever before.
Believe in yourself.