The love, respect and attraction that a man and a woman feel for each other needs to be taken care of, because a relationship is not a static thing.
A relationship is always changing and transforming and as a man, it’s your responsibility (not the woman’s) to make sure that you guide both you and her into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction over time.
Why it is the man’s responsibility to keep a relationship on track?
Women don’t want to have to lead the man that they are in a romantic, sexual relationship with because it makes her feel like his big sister, teacher or a mother figure in his life.
When a woman feels that way about her boyfriend, she loses respect for him and then stops feeling sexually attracted to him.
She then stops feeling like she is in love and as a result, she loses interest in him and the relationship.
A woman wants to be able to relax into her feminine role, rather than having to take on the masculine role of being the leader, boss or the person responsible for all the big decisions.
She wants to be free to feel like a girl, think like a girl and behave like a girl around her man, rather than having to feel, think and behave like a responsible man.
A woman will sometimes take on the masculine role because her boyfriend can’t and she may even feel like she is enjoying it initially, but after a while, she will realize that her boyfriend doesn’t make her feel very feminine.
She will feel like more of “the man” in the relationship, which isn’t what she really wants.
A woman wants to be able to feel girly and feminine around her man because he is so masculine in his thinking, behavior and the way he takes action in life. She wants to relax into his masculine direction and be free to be the woman she is deep down.
The Start Doesn’t Make it Last
Unfortunately, most guys end up taking their girlfriend for granted and assuming that because things felt good at the start of the relationship, she will stick around and put up with him for life.
Yet, most modern women know that they can easily break up with a guy and find a replacement boyfriend almost instantly, so they usually don’t put up with it for long.
To keep a relationship together, you’ve got to build on your girlfriend’s feelings for you, rather than just taking them for granted and expecting her to deal with being unhappy and turned off.
If a guy takes his girlfriend for granted, expects her to guide and lead the relationship or behaves in ways that are a natural turn off for women, then the respect, love and attraction between him and her will NOT last.
Eventually, he will find himself saying, “My girlfriend is losing interest” and wondering why it is happening.
So, if you’re in a situation where you have recently noticed that your girlfriend is losing interest, you’re probably feeling worried about losing her and afraid of feeling the pain of being dumped.
You may be asking yourself, “Is there anything I can do to re-spark her feelings for me before she breaks up with me?”
Fortunately, the answer is “Yes!”
By understanding what is causing your girlfriend to lose interest in you and then making the appropriate changes to the behaviors and attitudes that are turning her off, not only can you re-spark her feelings for you, you can even make her fall even deeper in love with you than before.
Here’s what you need to do….
Step 1: Avoid These Classic Mistakes
When a guy is faced with a potential break up because his girlfriend is losing interest, he might begin…
1. Asking her what’s wrong.
It seems like a good idea, but it’s not what she wants you to do.
She wants you to understand how to be the kind of man she really wants, without her having to explain everything to you.
That might seem a little annoying because she has the answers, but won’t tell you.
Yet, she doesn’t want to take on the role of being your guide in life about how to be a man.
If she takes on that role, she fears that she will have to keep helping you and teaching you for life, which will be unattractive to her sexually.
She will literally feel turned off by the fact that she is with a guy who needs to be coached by his own woman on how to be a man.
Yet, you probably don’t see it that way or can’t understand why she just won’t tell you.
After all, what’s simpler than asking her, “Why are you pulling away from me? Why are you so cold? Don’t you love me anymore?” or even, “What do you want me to do to make you love me like you used to?” and then getting her to tell you what you can do to make things right.
However, a woman doesn’t want to hear these things from her man. She doesn’t want to have to be his “teacher” or “mother” and have to teach him how to behave like a man.
She doesn’t want to have to give her man a list of things he needs to do to make himself attractive to her because she wants him to be able to work that stuff out himself. She wants him to already know how to be a real man because if he can’t do that on his own, she will have to take the lead in the relationship and show him how to do it.
Naturally when a woman has to lead in a relationship and has to teach and guide her man on how to behave like a real man, she will slowly lose respect and attraction for him. She will also stop feeling feminine and taken care of, and eventually her love for him will start to die.
2. Promising to change.
Another normal reaction that many guys have when they notice that their girlfriend is losing interest, is to try and appease her by telling her what she wants to hear.
Telling her, “I can see your feelings for me have changed. Tell me what you want me to do and I promise I’ll do anything. I just don’t want to lose you” seems like the right thing to do.
He assumes that if he sincerely apologizes and then promises to give her what she wants, it will change her feelings for him. Yet, this doesn’t work.
Just like she doesn’t want to have to teach him how to behave like a real man, she also doesn’t want him to promise her that he WILL change one day.
A woman wants to know that her man is clear about what is causing her to lose interest in him, without her having to tell him, and that he’s already taken steps to fix those behaviors.
Promises can be easily broken and she doesn’t want to stick around hoping that ONE day he’ll change and be the man she wants him to be.
3. Hanging on to her like glue.
What’s the first thing most of the guys who say, “My girlfriend is losing interest” do?
They become clingy, needy and insecure.
They instinctively attach themselves to her like glue, hoping that if they hold on to her tightly enough she will have a change of heart.
They’re hoping that she willthink, “Wow! How could I have missed how much he loves me? The way he clings to me must mean we’re meant to be together forever. Yes, I see it now… I was wrong in thinking I’m losing interest. In fact, I’m more in love with him now than ever before! Yayy for clingy, needy guys!”
However, in the real world this just doesn’t happen. Why? Women are attracted and drawn to the strength in men.
When a guy becomes needy and clingy he only comes across as being mentally and emotionally weak and that turns a woman off.
In the end, rather than make her feel more love and attraction for him, his clingy, needy behavior only manages to push her even further away.
Step 2: Identify and Fix the Behaviors That Are Making Her Lose Interest
We’ve established that a woman isn’t going to tell her man what behaviors are causing her to lose respect, attraction and love for him because she doesn’t want to have to be his teacher.
This is why, if you want to turn things around with your girlfriend before it’s too late, the first thing you have to do is identify what behaviors and attitudes are turning her off.
- If you’ve been clingy, needy and insecure, you need to work on building your self confidence.
- If you’ve been neglecting her and taking her for granted, you need to make her feel loved, appreciated and cared for.
- If you’re the kind of guy who is afraid of the future, you need to start making goals for yourself and you need to start moving up through the levels of life despite those fears.
- If you’ve allowed your girlfriend to “wear the pants” in your relationship, you need to take the lead and behave like a real man.
Whatever, the cause for your girlfriend to lose interest in you, it’s up to you to find what is relevant in your relationship.
However, knowing the cause is not enough. You also have to take action and fix those things. Once your girlfriend sees that you have changed, it’s only normal that her feelings for you will change too.
It’s Up to You to Turn Things Around
Right now your girlfriend might not be feeling much respect and attraction for you, but feelings can change.
When you change the way you’re behaving and communicating with her to a way that makes her feel more attracted to you, she will naturally begin to think and behave differently.
You don’t have to change into someone you’re not just to please her.
Instead, you simply need to understand that fixing your lack of confidence, insecurity, clinginess, etc., is a benefit to you in all areas of your life.
Even though you might be a great guy already, you can do better and be better.
Your life isn’t complete yet.
You still can grow, improve and become an even better man that you already are.
So are you just going to sit around saying, “My girlfriend is losing interest” and feeling like there’s nothing you can do about it, or are you going to take action right now to make her regain her respect, attraction and love for you?
What you need to realize is that times have changed.
Men all over the world are starting to learn how to be truly attractive to women.
If you don’t understand how to maintain and build on your girlfriend’s attraction for you, don’t be embarrassed to learn about it.
When you start making her feel attracted to you in new ways, you will be amazed at how much better of a girlfriend she becomes.
All of a sudden, she goes back to the sweet, warm, loving girl that you used to know.
Yet, this time, she falls more in love with you than ever before because you are an even better man that you were before.