If a woman says to a guy that she’s not looking for anything serious, it can mean that:
- She’s not feeling enough attraction for him and is only interested in sex, but she will keep her eyes open for other guys.
- He is coming on too strong with a relationship vibe, even though they haven’t yet had sex.
- She is currently dating other guys and doesn’t want to get into a serious relationship right now.
- She is playing hard to get because she wants to gain some power over the guy and make him work harder to impress her first.
- She is playing hard to get because she wants to use his desperation to get her into a relationship as a way to feel more confident about herself around other guys
- She is playing hard to get to be able to brag to her girlfriends that a guy is chasing her and won’t give up.
- She knows that he doesn’t have what it takes to keep her interested in a long term relationship.
- She is focused on her studies or work and doesn’t want the distraction of a committed relationship right now.
- She’s doesn’t want to get into an argument or create any drama by directly rejecting him, so she just says, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now” to let him down softly.
In other words, there can be many reasons why a woman will say that she’s not looking for anything serious.
So, how can you get past it?
How can you get her to change her mind and decide that she wants to a serious relationship with you?
You’ve got to make her feel like she wants it more than you do. You’ve got to stop trying to convince her that she should get into a relationship with you and instead make her feel the type of respect, attraction and desire that she needs to feel before she will consider a relationship.
The Easy Way to Make a Woman Want to Have a Relationship With You
There are men (I’m one of them) who can instantly make a woman want to begin a sexual relationship and then become an exclusive couple, even if she had been telling other guys that she wasn’t looking for anything serious.
How do guys like me do it?
I make the woman feel sexually attracted and turned on, but then let her see that I’m not 100% sold on her yet.
She has to impress me further, before I will allow her to get a chance to be with me.
This is what women refer to as being a challenge and here is why they like it so much…
Have you ever seen a guy interacting with a woman and it was obvious they had instant chemistry?
The sparks between them started flying as soon as he started talking to her.
The woman was immediately laughing, giggling, flirting with him and touching him in suggestive ways and it was clear to both of them (as well as to those watching) that they were going to hook up sexually.
You may have watched them exchange phone numbers or start kissing and then leave together; obviously to begin a sexual relationship.
All this happened right away and it was clear that at no point during their interaction, did the guy have to convince her to like him.
He didn’t have to waste time trying to get to know her. She was attracted to him and excited about potentially getting to be with him.
He wasn’t trying hard to impress her and hope that she would choose him. He simply attracted her and then offered her the challenge that so many men deprive women of.
Guys Who Waste Time Trying to Get to Know a Woman First
Have you ever seen a guy talking to a woman for hours, or trying to get to know her over a period of weeks or months in the hope that she would eventually “like” him enough to give him a chance?
He was trying to get her to want a sexual relationship with him, but because he wasn’t doing much (or anything) to make her feel sexually attracted to him, nothing happened between them other than a friendly banter.
In other words, he placed himself in the friend zone.
She didn’t friend zone him; he did it.
He ACTED like he just wanted to be friends. In other words, he lied to her and pretended to just want to talk and hang out.
Here’s the thing though…
Women aren’t stupid.
Women usually know when a guy is crushing on them and if the woman isn’t feeling sexually attracted and turned on by him, she’s not going to want to have sex with him or begin a relationship just becsause he’s been nice to her.
Watch this video…
When a guy who has been acting like a friend eventually plucks up the courage to bring up the idea of a relationship, a woman will usually respond by saying something like, “I really like you and I think you are a great guy, but I’m not looking for anything serious.”
Why do women say that?
A woman will say she’s not looking for anything serious, because there is no attraction between her and the guy.
He’s just being a nice friend to her…and expecting that he will be rewarded with boobies and sex because of it.
That’s not how it works man.
Guys who lack experience with women often make the mistake of thinking that because a woman “likes” him as a person, she will then want to have sex with him and be in a relationship with him.
Yes, that’s how it works in the movies and with unattractive women, but not with hot women in real life.
If a woman is attractive, pretty much every guy is going to want to have sex with her at least once. Many of those guys will also want to have a relationship with her.
Guys feel an instant attraction to a woman’s looks and since most guys are starved for sex, they are usually ready and willing to bang any half decent woman around.
Women know this.
…and it annoys them.
As you will discover from the video above, most guys that an attractive woman meets won’t even know what to say or do to make her feel attracted and turned on.
They are just hoping to get lucky or be liked enough to be given a chance to be with her.
…and that is a huge opportunity for you.
When you are the guy who turns women on, you are the guy who doesn’t hear the dreaded, “Sorry, I’m not looking for anything serious” or “Sorry, I’m not looking for a boyfriend right now.”
Instead, you hear, “You’re sexy…I like you” and your phone is bombarded with text messages and phone calls from women who want to see you.
Making Her Want it
A woman’s desire to be in a relationship with you is based on your ability to make her feel the way that she wants to feel around a guy.
In other words, you need to make her feel attracted and turned on by you.
Some guys make the mistake of assuming that women are attracted to men for the exact same reasons that men are attracted to women.
So, when a woman says she’s not looking for anything serious, the guy immediately assumes that it’s because he isn’t good looking enough for her.
Why do guys think that?
Men are mostly attracted to women because of how they look, which is why men have always jerked off to porn.
Guys don’t need to get to know the woman first and find out what her personality is like. Just the look of her butt, tits, pussy or face is enough to get a rock hard boner.
“Ooh, look at those tits.”
It’s instant for us. Physical attraction is usually more than enough for most guys to be willing to have sex with a woman.
Most guys decide “Yes” or “No” instantly when they see a woman, but almost all women (I’d estimate about 95%) do not operate in the same way.
The more beautiful a woman is, the more likely a guy will want to have sex with her and will want to be in a relationship with her…even if she’s not very intelligent and doesn’t have a good job.
On the other hand, although a woman can initially feel attraction for a man’s looks, in most cases, her attraction for him will switch off if he can’t actively turn her on when he interacts with her…even if he’s a supermodel hunk.
Women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a man.
It really isn’t all about looks, like it is for us when we feel attracted to women.
While a man will choose a woman mostly because of her good looks, a woman will be attracted to him for a variety of different reasons that have nothing to do with his looks (e.g. his ability to make her laugh, his confidence, his masculinity, his social intelligence, etc).
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man REALLY works and how you can use it to your advantage from now on…
As you will discover from the video above, most women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are open to feeling attracted to all different types of guys.
Most women do not select men based on looks, money, social status and penis size. Instead, they select men based on how much attraction his personality and inner qualities make her feel.
Where Guys Go Wrong With Modern Women
Modern women don’t view sex and relationships like their more conservative and oppressed predecessors.
Today, a woman doesn’t have to stay a virgin until her wedding night before she can have sex. She also doesn’t have to settle on being with a man who doesn’t make her feel any attraction, simply because he’s her husband.
Today, if a woman is even moderately attractive, she can have her pick of men from bars, clubs, at work and via online dating and dating apps like Tinder.
This is why, unless a guy can make her feel a lot of attraction for him, she won’t be worried about losing him and will keep “shopping around” until she finds the kind of man who makes her feel the way she wants to feel (i.e. excited, attracted, challenged, etc).
Where many guys go wrong with a woman they like is…
1. They are too easily impressed by her.
Women know that all they really have to do to make a guy want them is to dress nicely, wear a short skirt, put on some makeup and basically just look pretty.
Without even trying, chances are, different guys will hit her on several times in a day or night just because she looks good.
So, when yet another horny guy comes along and says, “You’re so beautiful. You’re different from all the other women I’ve met. I really want to take you out on a date some time,” she responds by saying, “That’s sweet, but I’m not looking for anything serious.”
He’s essentially behaving like every other guy who’s approached her in the past. She knows that her looks have already done all the work for her and she doesn’t have to do ANYTHING else to impress him.
He wants her just because she looks good.
For her, this is boring.
There is no challenge, no excitement and no chemistry. She knows that he already likes her and chances are, no matter what she says or does (even if she’s a bit bitchy or acts dumb around him), he’s probably still going to want to have sex with her.
She realizes that a sexual courtship with him is going to play out in the same old boring way (i.e. the guy is attracted, takes her out on a date, tries to get her into a relationship, she feels bored by the lack of challenge, dumps him, he texts and calls her for weeks or months trying to get her to see him again, etc).
She doesn’t want to go through that over and over again with guys.
It’s just so typical.
The guy gets what he wants and she is just expected to go along for the ride because he is nice and he treats her well.
It’s not 1905 anymore though man.
Women can do their own thing. They can make their own money. They don’t need a man to pay for dates and wine and dine them to show that he can take care of them.
What you have to understand about today’s women is that they want to feel sexually attracted to you first.
Even though women don’t admit it to others, they start relationships by having sex first and then seeing how they feel.
For example: A study in the USA found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date and a European study found that 70% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand anymore.
In other words, have sex with her first and then take it from there. Stop trying to get her to commit to a serious relationship upfront.
A woman doesn’t want to feel as though you’re just another guy who can’t attract other women and are trying to lock a girl down in a relationship so you can finally feel good about yourself.
A woman wants to be with a man that can easily attract other women, but will have a relationship with her if she impresses him enough after sex.
Of course, this applies to attractive women, not unattractive women.
Unattractive women love it when a guy gets serious about wanting a relationship before sex. Hot girls hate it.
2. They lack self confidence around attractive women.
One of the most important qualities that women are attracted to in men is confidence. Yet, the one quality that most men lack (especially around beautiful women) is confidence!
Being confident and having high self-esteem is not about being arrogant or being a jerk, but rather it is about having belief in yourself and your abilities.
Confidence (noun): Belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.
Insecurity (noun): Lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt.
Confidence in your attractiveness and appeal to her is so damn important.
You’ve got to believe that you are good enough for her.
When a guy doesn’t believe that he is good enough for a woman, he will either be really nervous around her or act like he just wants to be friends with her, rather than letting her know right away that he finds her sexually attractive.
That’s not to say a guy must be vulgar or crass (that’s not a sign that he’s confident, just that he’s sleazy and doesn’t really know how to attract a woman), but he must be clear about what he wants.
For example: If a guy makes a woman feel attracted to him, he can then say to her, “You’re sexy…I like you” to cut through the BS and get straight to the point.
She is attracted to him and he is attracted to her, so there is no need for games now.
Yet, some guys don’t have enough confidence in themselves to feel like it’s okay to say that.
So, what will a guy like that do instead?
He will hope that if he’s nice enough to her she will eventually end up liking him, which will then lead to her feeling sexually attracted to him and wanting to be his girlfriend.
Yet, what he doesn’t’ realize is that liking someone is not the same as feeling intense sexual desire for them.
You Can Change a Woman’s Mind About Not Wanting Anything Serious
You may have started out today thinking, “What do women mean when they say that they’re not looking for anything serious?” and feeling like it will next to impossible to get this woman that you like to feel the same way as you do.
Hopefully now you realize that the amount attraction and desire that she feels for you is pretty much within your control.
For example: If a guy is trying to be liked by a woman and hoping to get a chance with her, then he’s not going to be making her feel much or any sexual desire.
However, if he switches his focus to making her feel sexually attracted (e.g. by being confident, making her feel girly in response to his masculinity, being charismatic, being a challenge, etc), that is when things will change.
She will go from not wanting anything serious, to wanting to have sex with him and then secure him into a relationship.