Arousing a woman is easy.
A woman’s attraction for a man is based on him displaying the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive and arousing to women.
If you display those traits and behaviors, the woman becomes aroused.
It doesn’t matter if the woman is 18, 28, 38 or 48 – there are certain personality traits and male behaviors that will be arousing to her.
So, here are 7 ways to arouse a woman whether you are approaching a woman for the first time, on a date with her or in a long term relationship or marriage…
1. Have a masculine vibe
One of the easiest ways to arouse a woman is to make her feel girly and feminine in comparison to your masculine vibe and behavior around her.
If a guy is approaching a woman for the first time, he will have a more masculine vibe if he can be confident, calm and present in the moment.
Just like we men are naturally attracted to the feminine things about women (e.g. their tits, feminine facial features, hips, higher pitched voice, girly or feminine behavior or body language, etc), women are naturally attracted to the masculine things about us.
So, when you interact with a woman and have a masculine vibe, it makes her feel naturally attracted and aroused by you, as long you are letting her experience the full extent of your masculine vibe, rather than a supressed version of it.
For example: Many guys supress their masculine vibe to be more neutral and friendly around a woman and some guys supress their masculine vibe so much that they end up coming across as feminine.
They then wonder why gay guys look at them and while very masculine women give them flirting glances. The guy is supressing his masculinity so much that he naturally becomes attractive to gay guys (who think there might be a chance to seduce him) and unattractive masculine women who want a more feminine guy that they can control.
If you want to arouse a feminine woman (most women), you need to come across as being masculine and this applies whether you are approaching a woman for the first time, you’re on a date or are in a long term relationship or marriage with her.
Your masculine vibe is the easiest way of making a woman feel attracted and aroused by you, so you should maintain that as at least the default thing that you do to be attractive to women.
2. Touch her with presence
For a man to be present, he can’t be “in his head” and worrying about things.
He needs to be there in the moment and experiencing it without questioning himself or worrying about things.
When he can do that and just be present in his body rather than his head, he will present in a way that is attractive to women.
Presence is a way of demonstrating to a woman that you’re a confident guy. It’s one of the traits that is naturally attractive to women no matter where you are in the world.
Touching a woman with presence means that you’re not all up in your head and worrying about whether she likes you or not. You’re not wasting time over-thinking everything and worrying about what she is saying or doing in response to you.
You’re just there in your body and are present and confident in the moment, which arousing for a woman to be around.
When a woman is touched by a man who is present it is highly arousing, compared to a guy who touches her when he is worried, nervous or anxious about getting rejected (i.e. when meeting new women) or turned down by her (i.e. when in a relationship and trying to initiate sex).
When a man touches a woman with presence it makes a woman feel aroused because it takes confidence to be able to interact with her in that way.
3. Be charming
Being charming essentially means that you make a woman feel attracted to you, while also being nice to her at the same time.
This is a lot different than just being a nice guy when you meet women, or being a good boyfriend or husband to your woman when in a relationship.
Charming behavior is arousing for women because they not only feel attracted to you, but they also feel as though you’re respecting them and not only looking at them in a sexual way.
You see her as being special and she means something to you. Best of all, she sees you as special and you mean something to her because you are making her feel attracted to you, as well as being nice to her.
Being nice to a woman on its own is not enough to make her feel aroused. You have to make a woman feel attracted first and anything nice that you do on top of that is appreciated and seen as charming, lovable and endearing.
4. Very briefly brush your cheek, chin or nose against the side of her face as you whisper something in her ear
This is a very easy and simple way to make a woman feel aroused.
If a guy is talking to a woman for the first time, he might say, “Hey, come here…” and lean into her to whisper something in her ear.
As he begins to whisper something like, “Hey…I just wanted to whisper something in your ear…I’ve been talking to you for like 2-3 minutes and you haven’t even offered to buy me a drink…where’s your manners?” he will briefly brush the side of his face (or his chin/cheek/nose) against the side of her face in a soft, sensual way.
She will then smile and most-likely begin laughing and the guy will too.
She will feel aroused by the whisper and the physical contact of their faces brushing against each other, but she’s also going to feel attracted to him because he’s being funny and had the balls to say something like that to her.
If a man is in a relationship or marriage with a woman and is trying to arouse her to have sex, he can wait for a moment where they are laughing and smiling together on the couch.
He can then put his arm around her or just lean in and say, “Come here…I want to tell you something…I’ve got to whisper it” and then lean in, brush his face against hers and say, “You’re beautiful.”
After that, he shouldn’t expect anything from her other than a smile and some laughter. He should pull back, smile and look her in the eyes for a moment and then look away.
He needs to just relax and let her experience the arousal and then get on with whatever they were doing, without expecting her suddenly want to have sex.
She will be sitting there feeling attracted and slightly aroused and will be more likely to want to have sex that day or night.
5. Make her feel sexy in your eyes
Most women insecure about their physical appearance even though they act as though they are confident about it.
According to a study conducted by Dove Cosmetics, 96% of women don’t think they are beautiful.
So, it’s always important to make a woman feel sexy in your eyes. If you don’t, then all sorts of unnecessary problems will emerge.
When approaching a woman for the first time: If a guy doesn’t make a woman feel sexy in his eyes, she will be insecure about what he really thinks of her. To make sure that he really likes her and finds her sexy, she will play hard to get and make him work for her attention. Yet, the more he does that, the more desperate he seems and the less she is attracted.
So, to cut through all the nonsense and insecure mind games, a guy needs to first make a woman feel attracted to him and when they have a good moment together (e.g. laughing, smiling), he needs to be direct and say, “You’re sexy, I like you.”
In a long term relationship or marriage: A woman will often avoid affection or sex if she doesn’t feel sexy and desirable in her boyfriend or husband’s eyes.
So, a man needs to make his girlfriend or wife feel like she is the sexiest woman on Earth in his eyes. When she feels sexy and appealing in his eyes, she is going to feel more comfortable to be affectionate and intimate without having to stress and worry about how she looks.
Always aim to make your woman feel as though she is the sexiest woman on Earth to you. There’s nothing wrong with saying that other women are pretty or beautiful, but never say that they are prettier or sexier than her.
Making her feel sexy, appreciated and noticed is an important important to keeping a relationship together these days. It’s very easy for a woman to use a dating app like Tinder or make an online dating profile and look for a new guy if her current guy doesn’t make her feel noticed, sexy and appreciated.
Unlike women of the past who had to stick with a man for life because they couldn’t earn their own money and it was shameful to get divorced, today’s women can come and go as they please. To keep a relationship together in today’s world, you’ve got to make sure that you take care of your relationship and don’t take your woman for granted.
6. Smile and hold eye contact with a sexual vibe
Rather than just looking at a woman with a friendly, nice guy smile when you meet her or looking at your girlfriend or wife in a friendly, happy way, you need to add in the sexual element.
Look at her as though she is sexy to you and maintaining that feeling in your mind and body, while you hold eye contact with her and smile.
If you are looking at a woman and thinking that she is sexy, it will come through in your body language and vibe. It will come through correctly and she will get it. She will understand what your smile means.
If you’re meeting a woman for the first time, it will make her feel a bit shy and girly in response to your direct masculinity and she will likely smile and ask, “Whaaaat?”
You don’t need to answer her question. She knows what is going on. Just wink at her, look away and smile.
If you’re in a relationship or marriage, she will be used to your body language and she will know what it means. Let her feel the arousal that comes with that type of smile and don’t expect anything else from it.
She will feel attracted and aroused by you as a result and the fact that you’re not trying to get sex at that point will create sexual tension between you and her.
As you may know, sexual tension is released via kissing and sex. So, the more sexual tension you build up between you and a woman, the more desire she will have to release it with kissing and sex.
7. Display real confidence
Whether a woman looks at a guy from across a room or interacts with him in person on a date in when in a relationship, she can feel turned on if she sees that he is a truly confident man who is free of insecurities.
Confidence (noun): Belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.
Insecurity (noun): Lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt.
A truly confident man doesn’t need to put on an act of being confident. He has absolute belief in himself and his abilities and doesn’t need to hide behind insecurities.
Women are instinctively turned on by this because we live in a challenging world and it isn’t always easy to survive, thrive and prosper.
While we men feel aroused by the healthy, youthful looking appearance of a woman, women feel aroused by our emotional strength.
Displaying the emotional strength of being confident applies whether are you attempting to arouse a woman that you’ve just met, are on a date with or are deep into a relationship with.
It’s your inner qualities that turn her on the most now and in the long run.
These days, a lot of guys waste a big percentage of their life pumping iron in the gym and hoping that if they just build up enough muscle, they will be so physically attractive to women that women will approach them, seduce them into having sex and then remain attracted in a relationship.
That’s not how it works.
Yes, muscles and a good body can be attractive to women, but we men can attract and arouse women with less effort simply by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women.
There’s nothing wrong with staying in shape if you want to do that, but don’t make the mistake of thinking that improving your physical appearance will solve all of your problems with women or with the woman you’ve already got.
The majority of women feel much more attraction and arousal based on how a guy’s personality and behavior makes her feel, rather than whether or not he has big biceps or a toned stomach.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use it to arouse a new woman you meet, or the woman you’ve been with for years…