You shouldn’t walk away from your ex if she keeps rejecting you.
Instead, you should give her 7 days of space and use that time to improve your ability to attract her.
If she has been cold and distant when you’ve tried to talk to her on the phone or in person lately, you must prepare to be able to get her to smile or laugh, so her guard comes down and she opens back up to you.
For example: If a guy got dumped by his woman and was begging for another chance and not accepting the break up, he can change his approach and surprise her.
After giving her 7 days of space, he can call her and if she answers, he can say something like this in a playful, easy-going manner, “Hey ex girlfriend…how’s things?”
She will most likely smile and may possibly even laugh that he’s referring to her as his ex girlfriend and it will be a surprising change from how he was when she dumped him.
“Please baby! Don’t do this. I love you! I will do anything. Please give me another chance.”
Remember: A woman’s attraction to a man is based on how he makes her feel when she interacts with him.
So, if you have been turning your ex off with your approach lately, you need to change your approach to change how she feels.
Watch this video for some more examples…
Using humor is the easiest way to stop her from being so closed off and start making her feel like you’re not so bad after all.
So, if you are serious about making your ex stop rejecting you and getting her back, you have to improve your ability to attract her and using humor is a great place to begin.
Women love it when a guy has the confidence to make her smile and laugh when she is being cold and distant.
It takes balls to do that and women respect it.
However, if you decide to “play it safe” and just talk in a nice, polite, reserved manner when you call her next, she’s probably just going to keep rejecting you.
Why Walking Away Could Be the Biggest Mistake of Your Life
Many people assume that to get an ex back, all you really need to do is get the heck out of her life, give her some time to forget about how bad things were and hopefully start to miss you.
Yet, that doesn’t work in most cases.
Watch this video to understand why…
Walking away can work if the woman still has strong feelings for her man, but if your ex has been constantly rejecting you, then the chances are high that she is pretty turned off by you right now, true?
So, walking away isn’t going to make her come running back.
Of course, it’s understandable that some guys get to the point where they think that walking away is the only option.
He might say to himself, “It’s hopeless. My ex won’t give me a chance to explain to her, or even apologize. She just keeps rejecting me. I guess it really is over between us. I probably should forget about her and walk away. Maybe then, when she realizes that I’m really gone, she might start missing me and want me back.”
Yet, walking away doesn’t work on a woman who doesn’t have feelings for her ex anymore.
After all, why is she going to come running back when she’s completely turned off by his unattractive approach?
Watch this video for a common, unattractive approach the guys use when trying to get a woman back…
Have you made the mistake covered in the video above?
Don’t worry – you can recover from it.
Just don’t be that guy anymore.
Your ex will begin to see you in a more positive light when you truly do change and become the man that you know you should be.
That’s what she is waiting for.
She might be pissed off with you and annoyed right now, but that will settle down if you give her 7 days of space and use that time to improve your ability to attract her.
Don’t wait longer than 7 days though because the whole, “ignore her for 30-60 days” trick just doesn’t work on most women.
Of course, sometimes a woman might feel curious that her ex isn’t contacting her after he tried so many times to get her back, so she may decide to call him or contact him after a few weeks to a month to find out what he’s up to.
However, if she calls him up and experiences the same old guy making the same old mistakes that caused her to break up with him in the first place, she will just think, “Yeah, I thought so. Nothing has changed here. He’s still the same jerk that I broke up with,” and it will probably be the last time he’ll ever hear from her.
In most cases, when a guy walks away from his ex, she will use the time to fully get over him and move on.
She may even hook up with another guy and fall in love with him, while her ex is still alone and pining for her and thinking, “I wonder if she misses me as much as I miss her? I wonder if she’ll finally realize that we were meant to be together and call me? Maybe I just need to wait a few more weeks and she will really miss me and then call me.”
Meanwhile, she is totally fine and getting on with her life without him.
So, if you want to get your ex back, don’t waste time walking away and giving her the silent treatment in the hopes that this will make her come running back to you.
The only proven way to quickly make an ex change her mind is by changing how she feels as you interact with her in a more attractive way.
For example: If a woman has been able to dominate her ex and make him feel insecure by the way she talks and interacts with him, to open herself up to the idea of getting back together with him again, she is going to need to see that he now remains confident and emotionally strong now matter what she says or does.
He now has the balls to turn her tests into something that they can laugh about together, rather than crumbling at the first sign of resistance from her.
So, if in the past when she said something like, “I don’t want to be with you anymore. How many times do I have to tell you?” he reacted by getting upset, or begging and pleading and saying things like, “Please baby! I know you’re really mad at me right now, but don’t push me away. I’m so sorry for the pain I caused you. Please give me a chance to make it up to you,” he now remains calm and turns it into something to smile and laugh about together.
For example: If your ex says, “I don’t want to be with you anymore. How many times do I have to tell you?” you can jokingly ask, “Well, how many times have you said it already? Maybe 50, or is it 100 times?”
Then you can jokingly say, “Well, let’s see if we can get to 200 and then I’ll consider taking a hint, but until then, I’m going to call you and see if you’ve changed your mind, even by a few percent” and then have a laugh with her about it.
You can add in, “I’m hoping that by tomorrow or the next day, you will like me at least 5% more and then you’ll stop saying no and will meet up with me so we can have a laugh” and then have a laugh with her about that.
By approaching a serious conversation in a funny way, it decreases her anger and annoyance and makes her start to see you in a different (more positive) way.
Even if she tries to fight it, she won’t be able to stop herself from beginning to feel even just a little bit of respect for you, for having the confidence and the social skills to make her laugh and smile in a serious moment like that.
However, that doesn’t mean making a joke is going to wipe the slate clean and make her forget about everything that happened between you and her in the past.
It’s just a great way of making her drop her guard and open up to interacting with you again.
So, after you make her smile and laugh, you then need to be a bit more serious and show her that you respect her decision.
You might say to her, “Okay, look…I get it…we’re not getting back together ever. I accept that, so don’t worry. However, I think that we are mature enough to catch up and say hello and have a laugh. What do you say? How about a coffee tomorrow or the next day?”
Most women will then agree and meet up with you.
If she doesn’t, then change your suggestion to just be friends who can say hello from time to time, so her guard comes down and she is more open to meeting up with you the next time you suggest it.
You can say, “Okay, well how about we at least stay in contact as friends from time to time. We’re not going to ever get back together, but we can at least be nice to each other, right?”
She will then say something like, “Yes, I suppose so,” or “Okay, I guess we can be friends.”
That’s what you want.
It’s an opening, a window of opportunity for you to bring her guard down further and show her that you really have changed.
From then on, every time you interact with her (e.g. via text, on social media, over the phone, or in person), you need to use the friendship to re-attract her and get her back.
Don’t Act Like a Nice, Supportive Friend Who Has No Sexual Interest in Her
The point of staying friends with your ex is because it gives you a good reason to interact with her and build up her sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
The mistake that some guys make, is that once they decide to be friends with their ex, they fall into the trap of thinking, “Friends means friends. I can’t then do anything other than be a nice friend, otherwise I will jeopardize our friendship. If I try to flirt with her or show her that I still want to get back together again, she might get angry and cut me out of her life completely. At least by being her friend, I have an excuse to be around her. Then, if I’m really, really nice to her and make myself an important of her life, she will hopefully realize that she can’t live without me. She will then suggest that we should get back together again.”
He might then make himself available to his ex’s every beck and call, help her out with whatever she needs (e.g. run errands for her, lend her money, fix things around her house) and maybe even become her shoulder to cry on when she gets dumped by another guy.
Secretly, he’s holding on to the hope that if she gets hurt by some other guy, it will open her eyes to the fact that he’s the only guy who truly loves her and the only one who will treat her right.
She will then come running back to him.
That’s how it works in Hollywood movies, but it rarely plays out that way in real life.
In real life, if you are not actively making your ex feel sexually and romantically attracted to you again, then she’s probably never going to look at you and think, “Wow, my ex is being so nice to me! He’s such an awesome friend. He’s sweet, reliable and nice. That’s all I really want in a man. All that sexual desire and romantic passion stuff is overrated anyway. Boring is good! I just need a nice friend.”
It just doesn’t work that way.
Women need to feel that tingle downstairs and want to be with you sexually and romantically, rather than just feel nice and comfortable in a friendly way.
So, don’t put yourself in the position of being her nice, supportive, non-sexual friend.
If you waste your time being neutral around her (e.g. because you don’t want to scare her away, or you want to show her how much you care about her and that you’re prepared to do anything for her), then she might keep you around as a friend.
Yet, that doesn’t guarantee she will ever want to get back with you, or that she will stop seeing other guys just because you and her are good friends now.
If another guy comes along and makes her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with him (i.e. turned on, excited) and has the confidence to make a move on her, she may hook up with him without giving her friendship with you a second thought.
Don’t let that happen to you.
You can’t expect your ex to change how she feels about you if you don’t make her feel new positive emotions (e.g. respect, desire, love) to replace her currently neutral or negative emotions about you.
If you and your ex are going to be friends, focus on reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you, by displaying some of the traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women (e.g. confidence, emotional masculinity, humor, maturity, determination,) every time you interact with her.
Don’t suppress your attractiveness.
Be the kind of guy that makes her smile and have that twinkle in her eye because she’s feeling sexually attracted.
The more she experiences the new, more attractive version of you, the more difficult it will become for her to keep thinking of you as “only” a friend.
Even if she tries to stop herself from wanting you, thoughts like, “Why am I feeling like this about him?” or “Why do I feel so excited when I’m around him?” begin to flood into her mind.
She will feel drawn to you in a way that feels interesting, exciting and exciting to her.
So, as you can now see, there is a much better option to get your ex back than simply walking away and hoping that she cares.