In this post, I will provide you with 15 interesting things that you can ask a girl to get to know her.
However, I want to warn you of something very important first…
If your real aim with this girl is to begin a sexual relationship with her, then don’t waste a lot of time trying to get to know her.
If you act like an innocent friend around her who isn’t interested in anything sexual, a girl will usually remain open to hooking up with other guys and will only see you as yet another friend in her life.
If another guy comes along and makes her feel sexually attracted and turned on, he can actually kiss her and begin a sexual relationship with her…without wasting a lot of time getting to know her a lot first.
Triggering her feelings of sexual attraction and then kissing her is the shortcut to getting a girl into a relationship with you.
So, I will now provide you with 15 examples of things that you can ask a girl as you get to know her, as well as explain some ways that you can make her feel sexually attracted at the same time.
15 Examples of Things to Ask a Girl to Get to Know Her
The first example of something you can ask her to get to know her better is…
1. So, what do you like to do for fun these days?
This is a question that puts a girl on the spot and she will often try to come up with an answer to impress you.
Making her feel like she needs to impress you is a GOOD thing, because most of the guys she meets will want to be with her just because she looks good, which is one of the things that women really hate about most single men…
As you will discover from the video above, most guys are immediately interested in girls because of their looks and don’t need the girl to say or do anything else to impress them.
Hot girls hate that, so if the girl you like is attractive, don’t be too easy on her. Make her have to work a little to impress you first.
2. What would you do if you could be a guy for one day?
This will give you a great insight into what she thinks of guys and whether or not she is sexually open around you.
Make fun of her answers in a playful way. For example: If she says that she’d like to know what it feels like to pee standing up, you can say, “Come on…you can do better than that. We guys do more than just piss standing up.”
If she says, “I would treat women with respect and make them feel good about themselves,” you can jokingly say, “You’d make a horrible guy. You’re too nice” and then laugh with her.
3. What’s something about you that you wish people would know?
When you ask a girl this question, she will usually tell you the thing that she is most proud of about herself, which will give you an insight into what is important to her.
When she shares that you with you, she will feel as though she’s really getting to know you in a way that matters to her.
4. Okay, so you’re smart, beautiful and sexy. There has to be something wrong with you. Do you have an extra toe or something?
It’s important to say something like this to a girl because most girls are insecure about their attractiveness and if they aren’t sure that you’re truly interested, they will usually play hard to get.
So, to cut through all the mind games, just tell her that you think she is smart, sexy and beautiful and then make her feel attracted by adding in some humor.
Talking to a girl in this way will make her feel much more attraction for you than just giving her a nice compliment like, “You’re smart, beautiful and sexy. How can you not have a boyfriend?”
If you haven’t been making a girl feel much attraction for you prior to giving her that compliment (i.e. you’ve just been nice, friendly and polite), she’s not going to be excited about your sexual interest in her.
Instead, she will feel as though you are just giving her that compliment because you’re awestruck by her and hoping that if you kiss her ass enough, she will give you a chance to be with her.
Yet, if the girl that you like is attractive, she’s going to hate it when nice, friendly guys suck up to her in the hope of getting a chance to be with her sexually and romantically.
Always remember: The most important thing you need to do if you want to be successful with girls is to make them feel sexually attracted to you first. Sexual attraction comes first and everything else flows on naturally and easily after that.
Don’t waste time trying to get to know a girl for days, weeks or months and think that everything will be fine. A guy who knows how to attract girls and pick them up will be able to hook up with her on the first night or first date.
If you want this girl to be your lover or girlfriend, then you must be willing to make her feel attracted.
…and that means you need to be able to make her FEEL something other than nice, polite, friendly feelings around you.
By saying something like, “Okay, so you’re smart, beautiful and sexy. There has to be something wrong with you. Do you have an extra toe or something?” you have started out by giving her a compliment and then made her her laugh by talking about her potentially having a 6th toe.
Essentially, you are saying that she is beautiful, but are wondering, “What’s the catch? There has to be something wrong with you” in a joking way.
She will feel attracted to you for being confident enough to say something like that to her and she will also feel attracted to how you can make her laugh and feel good.
By suggesting that she has a 6th toe, you’re not being mean or making her feel bad. Instead, you’re showing her that you’re not only a good guy, but you also have balls and a sense of humor.
5. If you could click your finger and be on vacation/holiday anywhere in the world right now, where would that be?
This is a great thing to say to a girl because it immediately gets her thinking about being somewhere that would make her feel happy.
When she feels happy about the place she is describing, part of that positive feeling will become associated with you. She will feel good around you, which will make her feel attracted to you.
6. If you could instantly change something about how you look physically, what would that be?
This is good to ask a girl because it gives you an insight into what she thinks about herself.
For example: She might say, “Nothing…I love everything about myself” and you can then jokingly ask, “Are you sure? You wouldn’t change your [name a piece of her clothing or jewelry]”
You can then have a laugh with her and say, “No, I think you look great. Everything about you is perfect” in a half serious way.
She will then feel as though she’s not sure if you are being serious or not, which will make her feel attracted to you because you have the confidence to mess with her like that during a conversation.
7. So, are you the kind of girl who is closer with her family or her friends?
This is a good question to ask a girl to get to know her because it gives you an insight into how she thinks at this point in her life.
Right now, she might be very focused on all the relationships she has with her friends, but that doesn’t mean that she won’t switch at some point and become very family oriented.
Asking her this question is about understanding who she is today and why.
For example: She might be more interested in relationships with her friends right now because she doesn’t want to settle down and just wants to have fun and see where life takes her.
A girl like that won’t like it if a guy comes on to strong and seems like he wants to get married and start a family asap.
So, whatever her answer to the question is, make sure you follow up and ask her why she is closer with her family/friends at this point in her life.
8. What’s your favorite food on a day when you’re feeling hungover? I usually end up eating [insert what you eat when hungover]
Asking a girl this question will let you know how playful or serious she is about life.
For example: You might ask a very serious, health-conscious girl this question and she may reply with, “Oh, I don’t drink…I hate alcohol” compared to an easy-going girl who says, “I usually have a pizza…and then regret eating it later on…lol.”
If you want to have a relationship that lasts, it’s important for you to find a girl who is compatible with you who are. You don’t have to be exactly the same, but you have to be able to appreciate each other and let each other be who you want to be.
For example: A girl might only drink alcohol on special occasions, but just because she is strict in that way, she shouldn’t expect you to be and vice versa. To make a relationship last, you’ve got to be able to love each other for who you each are and get along effortlessly, rather than trying to control and change each other all the time.
9. On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you want to jump on me and start kissing me right now? By the look of your smile, I’d say it’s a 9 or a 10…wow, you move fast.
This is something that you ask a girl in a joking way…of course.
Smile and be confident and easy-going when you ask it. Maintain eye contact with her and use it as a way to laugh together, rather than being serious or tense about it.
If she denies wanting to kiss you, just smile and say, “Yeah right…I see the way you look at me” and then laugh with her.
Don’t make it a serious thing.
She will feel attracted to you for having the confidence to say such a thing, as well as for how girly and under pressure she feels in response to your masculine approach.
She will feel slightly dominated by you during this interaction, which will turn her on.
10. I was naked in front of you right now, where would you look first?
She will most-likely smile and possibly gasp in shock when you ask her that type of question.
She will also probably look at your crotch/groin and when she does, you can say, “Oh you’re naughty…I have to watch myself around you.”
You can then joke by pretending to be disappointed in her. Shake your head and say, “I’m disappointed in you…I thought you were a good girl, but it looks like you just see me as a piece of meat like other girls do. It’s all about sex for you girls these days…I have a personality too you know?”
Essentially, you’re taking on the typical role of the girl who has to reject a guy for just wanting to have sex, which is going to be very funny for her.
11. Have you figured out your calling in life yet or are you just going to continue being extremely beautiful?
This is a good question to ask a girl when you’re getting to know her, but don’t expect her to come up with a detailed answer.
Most people don’t really know what their purpose is in life, which is why they often feel depressed when they reach 30-50 years of age and realize that they’ve been wasting their life.
When you ask a girl this type of question, she will either:
a) Be completely clear with her answer and know exactly what she wants.
b) Give a fantasy answer like, “I want to be a movie star” even though she’s not doing anything to achieve that dream.
c) Say, “I don’t know yet.”
d) Laugh and say something like, “Yes, I’m just going to be beautiful.”
Her answer will tell you what kind of girl she is.
If she’s very career focused and is trying to achieve big dreams in her life, then she’s going to want a guy who isn’t going to feel insecure about her achieving things in life because he is also following through on his biggest dreams and ambitions in life.
If she doesn’t really care about her calling in life and just wants to have fun, she’s not going to want to spend any more time talking about life goals and plans and will just want to enjoy herself around you.
12. If you had a chance to go back in time and give your 15-year-old self some advice, what would you tell her?
We all get wiser as we age, so this is an interesting question for anyone to answer.
If you ask a girl this question, she will usually think about something that she wish she knew when she was younger (e.g. don’t worry so much about what people think, follow your dreams, etc).
When she shares that type of thing with you, she will feel closer to you because it’s not something that she will tell everyone.
13. Are you a good cook or are you just hot?
This is a great question to ask a girl because it makes her laugh and also makes her feel like she needs to impress you with the answer.
Many girls these days are hopeless at cooking and are secretly embarrassed or worried about it, so if she says, “I can’t cook” a great response is to then smile and say in a joking, but half-serious way (to get her attention), “Well, I liked you up until that point, but now you’ve lost me. It’s over between you and me.”
If she says that she can cook, you can say, “Wow…so, you’re hot and you can cook. Nice, I’ve hit the jackpot. When are you making me some food?”
A girl will feel attracted to you when you talk to her in this way because it makes her feel girly in response to your masculine approach. It’s also funny and it takes balls to say something like that to a girl, which they respect and feel attracted to.
14. So, who do you think should make the first move – the guy or the girl? …and when are you going to kiss me? I’ve been talking to you for 5 minutes already.
Of course, this is to be said in a joking way. It’s not a serious question that you seriously need the answer to. You’re just messing around and helping to make sure that she knows what your intentions are with her.
Remember: If you’re aim to get to know this girl is to begin a sexual relationship with her, make sure that you’re not acting like an innocent friend who just wants to get to know her.
Make her feel attracted to you and then bring up sexual things, so she is clear that you aren’t just intending on being another friend.
15. What’s one thing about girls that you wish guys would understand?
Her answer to this question will give you a great insight into where guys mess up when trying to pick her up or keep a relationship together with her.
For example: She might say, “We might seem strong, but we are usually more fragile and sensitive than guys realize.”
A lot of guys make the mistake of believing the confident front that girls put on. Yet, most girls are much more sensitive, insecure and fragile than they seem.
For example: When Dove Cosmetics did a global survey of women, they found that 96% of women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful.
So, don’t assume that the beautiful girl you like is confident and secure about how she looks. In most cases, girls are even more insecure than guys are about their looks.
Beginning a Sexual Relationship With Her
If your real aim of getting to know this girl is to begin a sexual relationship with her, make sure that you focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you.
Don’t waste too much time trying to get to know her before you kiss her and begin having sex with her.
If you act like an innocent friend, another guy can easily come along and steal her away from you by making her feel sexually attracted and then kissing her. After he has kissed her, the door is then open to have sex with her and when that happens, a relationship will immediately begin.
Watch this video to understand how a girl’s attraction for a guy works and how you can use it to begin a sexual relationship with this girl you like…