When a woman wants to sleep with you, she won’t always make it obvious.
For example, sometimes a woman will:
- Pretend not to be interested in you because she wants to see if you remain confident in your attractiveness to her.
- Pretend not to be interested because she wants to see how sincere your interest is in her (i.e. are you just trying to get her interested to feel good about yourself, or do you actually like her and want to be with her?)
- Show a lot of sexual interest in random guys just to get attention (e.g. at work, university, etc). She will make the guys chase her and try to get with her, but she will reject them and even act offended for assuming that she was interested in sex.
- Think that she is making it obvious that she wants to sleep with you (e.g. she’s talking to you, laughing at all your jokes, etc) and will be confused about why you’re not making a move on her.
In other words, don’t waste your time trying to look for signs that a woman wants to sleep with you.
What you need to do is very simple…
Once you have kissed a woman, the doors to sex will then open. A kiss instantly changes things from being friendly to sexual.
Anything that you say or do prior to kissing her really isn’t that important.
For example: If you spend an hour talking to a woman before kissing her, it is pretty much the same as spending 10 minutes talking to her before locking lips.
The kiss is the point where things really change.
You can talk to a woman all you want, but unless you get to a kiss – it’s usually just going to be another conversation with a guy who made her feel some attraction, but didn’t do anything about it.
To get what you really want with a woman, you need to make her feel attracted, connect with her a bit (sometimes it only takes 30 seconds, sometimes it takes 30 minutes) and then kiss her.
Once you’ve kissed her, it’s pretty obvious what is going to follow on after that when you go home together or have a first date.
BTW: Don’t assume that the woman you are talking to has never hooked up with a guy very quickly.
A study in the USA found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date and a European study found that 70% of women have experienced a one night stand.
In other words, sex usually happens very quickly these days, so don’t waste time trying to get to know a woman for a long time before you make a move.
Wait Too Long and She Will Be Gone
Rather than getting to a first kiss and then taking it from there, some guys waste time waiting for extremely obvious signs that a woman wants to sleep with them.
For example: A guy will almost be hoping that the woman will say something like, “I can’t wait any longer! Kiss me now!!” or “I want you so bad…let’s go have sex.”
What these guys are unaware of is that that most women would rather miss out on having sex with a man, than have to be the one to take on the masculine role and make the first move.
Women are sexually attracted to a man’s confidence and masculinity. This is why women will only give a guy a certain “window of opportunity” to make a move on her.
If, in that time, he shows himself to be too insecure, nervous or shy to take advantage of that opportunity, she will lose interest.
Women are instinctively attracted to guys who are more alpha in how they think, behave and take action in life. We live in a very challenging world and it’s not always easy to survive, thrive and prosper.
Instinctively, a woman knows that she will most likely live a better life and be safer with a guy who isn’t afraid to make a move and go after what he wants in life.
So, if you wasting time hoping to get some 100% definite signs a woman wants to sleep with you, most women are just going to lose interest and open themselves up to another guy instead.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been getting to know a woman for weeks or months, she can easily get snatched up by a guy who knows how to make her feel instant attraction for him and then get to a first kiss.
Following through on the feelings that you ignite inside of a woman is extremely important to your success with women. You need to create a spark and then turn it into a passionate fire with kissing and sex.
If you just talk to her and act like an innocent friend who isn’t interested in her in a sexual way, the fire will die out before it has a chance to even begin.
Dating is Not Like it Used to Be
In the past, sex was a taboo subject; especially for women.
Women were expected to remain “pure” until their wedding night, and then sex was something that they were expected to do for the purposes of having children only.
Sex was definitely not supposed to be fun and women weren’t supposed to enjoy it.
Heck, it was even seen as wrong to have oral sex.
Oh, how times have changed.
In today’s world, women are free to have sex whenever they want, and with whomever they want, without being labeled sluts or whores if they do.
Sex is now seen as a good thing and women are free to enjoy random sexual encounters with as many men as they want before they get married. That is, if they ever do settle down and get married at all.
Here’s the thing…
Sex feels just as good for women as it does for men.
Women today want to be kissed, touched and be turned on by a guy. They want to have sex and experience orgasms because it’s fun and enjoyable.
They are free to do whatever they want.
Yet, despite all the changes to society, most women still don’t want to be the ones taking the lead in a sexual courtship.
Women still want men to lead the way.
Women are attracted to the emotional strength of men and turned off by the weakness. They are also attracted to a guy’s masculinity in how he thinks, behaves and takes action.
So, when a guy is confident (i.e. emotionally strong) and masculine enough to approach her, attract her and lead the way to kissing and sex, it is a huge turn on for her.
She can just relax into feeling like a feminine woman as she surrenders to his attractive masculinity.
This is the type of sexual seduction that women welcome from men. They want it. It’s erotic, it makes her happy and makes her feel alive.
Waiting around for signs a woman wants to sleep with you is not the way to seduce her.
You’ve got to actively make her feel attracted to you and then guide her from a conversation to kiss, sex and into a relationship (if you want one).
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use it to get women to want to sleep with you…
When a woman feels sexually attracted to you, her sexual defenses go down and she opens herself up to you.
The more attraction you make her feel, the more desire she has to want to get physical by kissing you and having sex with you.
Here’s the thing though…
Even though a woman is VERY attracted to you, she can still act like she’s not interested in having sex with you.
In most cases, a woman does that to test a guy’s confidence in himself, make sure that his interest is sincere (to avoid being used for just sex) or because she is insecure and is trying to gain some power over him by making him chase and try hard to sleep with her.
So, don’t waste time looking for signs a woman wants to sleep with you.
You’ve got to make her feel attracted, connect with her and then get to a first kiss.
Attracting Her With Your Confidence
Women are naturally attracted to confident men because confidence is a sign of emotional strength.
Women’s attraction to confidence goes all the way back to when women were reliant on strong, confident men to protect them from predators (especially during childbirth) as well as from being hurt, raped, taken or killed by other men.
Women’s preference for confident men helped the human race to survive and even become eve more resilient and brave over the generations.
Although a modern woman no longer needs a man with big muscles to protect her from animal predators or roaming tribesman, her sexual attraction is triggered when she encounters a confident, emotionally strong man.
A man’s weakness (e.g. insecurity, shyness, anxiety, etc) is not beneficial to a woman because it doesn’t make her feel protected and safe.
If a woman interacts with a guy and senses that he lacks confidence, it makes her feel as though she needs to be gentle with him and if like got really challenging, she would have to be the strong one and take care of him.
Regardless of how convenient modern life feels (e.g. with our supermarkets, smartphones and electricity), a woman still has the natural instinct to be with a confident man who will be able to remain strong if life got challenging.
She wants your confidence, just as much as you want her beauty.
Instinctively, men know that the more beautiful a woman is, the more beneficial she will be in his life because:
- A beautiful woman will produce better-looking children.
- Sex with her will be more enjoyable.
- He will feel proud to show her off.
- Guys will respect him more because she is beautiful.
On the other hand, a woman’s attraction for a man doesn’t revolve around his looks.
Yes, there are some women who only want a good-looking guy and don’t care about anything else, but those women are the minority.
Most women feel much more attraction for a guy’s personality and inner qualities than his looks.
Instinctively, a woman knows that a man’s looks are not what will keep her feeling safe and protected.
She knows that his level of confidence, masculinity and social intelligence is what will directly impact his ability to survive, prosper and protect himself, her and any children they may have.
This is why a guy can be really good looking, yet still not be able to make a woman feel sexual attraction for him or be able to make her want to sleep with him.
Guys who aren’t good looking usually go through life thinking that they are failing with women because of their looks.
Guys who are good looking and still can’t get a girlfriend usually go through their life thinking that something must be wrong with them or with women, because everyone says to him, “You’re so handsome” but he’s still single and get a girlfriend.
So, what is the real reason why guys fail with women?
Watch this video to find out…
As you will discover from the video above, guys make up all sorts of excuses for their lack of success with women.
Yet, the real reason why they are failing is very simple.
3 Things You Can Do to Make a Woman Want to Sleep With You
Getting a woman to want to sleep with you is all about making her feel attracted, connecting with her and then getting a first kiss.
Here are 3 ways to help you get to that point…
1. Flirt and use body language to create a sexual vibe.
Flirt (verb): Behave as though you are attracted to someone, but for fun rather than with serious intentions.
Flirting is one of those skills that every man can have, but few guys ever take the time to learn.
In fact, because a lot of guys don’t know how to flirt, they usually just write it off as “playing pointless mind games” or “being childish,” and refuse to even think about flirting as a way of building attraction between themselves and a woman they want to sleep with.
Flirting is a safe and discreet way of building the sexual tension between a man and a woman.
It’s a way of showing your sexual interest in each other without having to say something obvious and direct like, “I like you and I want to have sex with you. So, how about it?”
Of course, we men would love it if women were that easy and you could just say, “Hey, let’s have sex” but women have to act like they aren’t very easy when it comes to sex.
For you and for themselves.
- For you: So you will be able to trust her when you get into a relationship. You know that she’s not easy when it comes to sex and can control herself.
- For her: So other people don’t look at her as being slutty and think less of her.
Flirting is an easy way to spark some sexual attraction and create a unique, sexual connection between yourself and a woman.
Without flirting, an interaction between a man and a woman might as well be an interaction between a brother and sister, or an innocent conversation between two friends.
Flirting changes the vibe from friendly to sexual.
So, if you want a woman to want to sleep with you, don’t hold back on flirting with her.
2. Build up the sexual tension between you.
Building up sexual tension is a lot like fishing.
A man throws out the “bait” (i.e. sexual attraction and flirting), and then carefully reels in the “fish” (i.e. the woman).
Sometimes, a woman will be ready to be reeled in immediately, while other times you will need to gradually reel her in (seduce her).
It’s all part of the fun of picking up women.
3. Release the sexual tension with kissing and then sex.
It’s all good and well to flirt and build sexual tension, but if a guy doesn’t make a move when the time is right, a woman may think:
- He’s too scared to takes things further.
- He’s sexually inexperienced and doesn’t know what to do after the initial stages of foreplay.
- He’s just trying to get me interested to make himself look good in front of his friends, but he’s not going to do anything.
Whatever the case, a woman won’t sit around feeling sexually frustrated for too long while she waits for a guy to make his move.
If you take too long, she will usually release her sexual feelings with another guy who makes her feel some attraction and has the confidence to make a move much quicker.
Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late
Women hate it when guys don’t have the confidence to make a move when the time is right.
It’s so disappointing for women when they meet a guy, feel attracted and then the whole thing fizzles out because he’s too busy looking for extremely obvious signs that she wants to sleep with him.
So, instead of waiting around looking for signs a woman wants to sleep with you, all you need to do is make her feel attracted, build up the tension and then release it via kissing and sex. She wants it just as much as you do, but she needs you to lead the way.