Okay, so there’s a girl that you really like, but for some reason you can’t seem to get her to feel the same way about you. She is friendly with you and she likes you, but she doesn’t want to have a sexual relationship with you, right?
So, what is really going on?
2 Common Mistakes That Turn Women Off Having Sex With a Guy
When a guy has a crush on a girl and really likes her, he usually makes the following mistakes that stop the girl from wanting anything other than a friendship.
1. He is way too nice to her
There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but it’s not the thing that will make her want to have sex with you or be your girlfriend. Why? Watch the video below for the answer…
2. He is too easy to impress
If a woman is attractive, most of the guys that see her will be willing to have sex with her. Many of those will also be willing to have a relationship with her.
Why? A man’s initial attraction to a woman is mostly based on her physical appearance. If a woman looks good, most guys will be willing to have sex with her, which then leads the woman to be more attracted to guys who offer her a bit of a challenge.
Using the Wrong Approach on a Woman Almost Always Leads to a Rejection
If you don’t start by making a woman feel attracted to you first, she will almost always reject you when you show interest in kissing her, having sex with her or being her boyfriend.
You absolutely have to start with attraction. Attraction comes first and everything else follows that. When a guy attempts to seduce a woman incorrectly (i.e. by being a nice guy, pretending to be an innocent friend and then eventually asking her out), he will usually get one of the following responses:
- “Sorry…I’m not looking for a relationship right now.”
- “I like you, but don’t rush me.”
- “Give me some time. I don’t know what I want right now.”
- “I only like you as a friend.”
- “I don’t want to run our friendship.”
So, what does she mean by those statements?
She is trying to tell you that she doesn’t feel sexually attracted to you. She might like you as a person, but liking a guy in a friendly way isn’t what makes a woman want to have sex with him.
Sexual attraction is what makes a woman want to have sex and unless you are making her feel that, anything that you say about “seeing each other” or “dating” or “going out” will seem weird, awkward and even wrong to her.
If you try to get a woman into a relationship before you’ve even made her feel sufficient sexual attraction for you, she might also say that you’re “coming on too strong.” It will feel strange to her that you’re wanting her to commit to being your girlfriend, even though you haven’t kissed her or had sex with her yet.
In the early 1900s, approaching women in that way was the right thing to do because almost all women didn’t have sex before marriage. In today’s world, you have to make a woman feel attracted to you and then at least kiss her (but preferably have sex with her first), before you even get to talking about seeing each other again or starting a relationship.
Today’s women don’t need men like women did in the past and unless you know how to properly attract women, most women will reject you. The flow of a sexual courtship HAS changed and if you use the approach that men used in the early 1900s, you can expect to be rejected almost every time.
Using the Right Approach on a Woman Almost Always Leads to Success
If your current approach to the woman you like hasn’t been working, you have to stop doing that and start doing what will actually work.
Here’s what you need to do:
1. Focus on attracting her
Stop trying to get this woman to LIKE you as a person and start making her feel sexually ATTRACTED to you. A woman liking you as a person is not the step before starting a sexual relationship with her.
If you want this woman to feel sexual feelings and want to begin a sexual relationship, you have to make her feel sexually attracted to you. If she only likes you as a friend, another guy can come along and instantly take her from you by making her feel sexually attracted to him.
2. Adjust your interest level
It is fine to be 100% sexually attracted to a woman that you’re seducing, but it is not fine to be 100% interested in her prior to starting a sexual relationship.
Instead of being 100% interested (otherwise known as “being too keen”), allow your interest level in her to rise and fall based on how well she is treating you. For instance, if you’re talking to her and she only gives short answers or says, “Uh-huh…uh-huh” and doesn’t even care what you’re saying, then stop talking to her.
Pull back your interest and do something else.
Don’t reward her bad behavior with increased interest. If she isn’t behaving in the way that you want, pull back your interest. That is an example of the challenging behavior that women LOVE from guys.
3. Stop acting like a friend
Being a woman’s nice friend is not the way to become her lover or boyfriend.
You’ve got to talk to her in a way that makes her feel turned on, as well as directly show your sexual interest (e.g. by the way you look at her) or express it, (e.g. by smiling at her and telling her that you think she’s sexy).
If you act like a friend, you will be in the friend zone with her and all it will take for another guy to steal her from you is for him to attract her, kiss her and then have sex with her. If the guy knows what he is doing and doesn’t make the mistake of acting like an innocent friend who isn’t sexually interested in her, he will usually begin having sex with her right away.
4. Make her chase you
Women want to feel LUCKY to be chosen by YOU.
They do not want to feel as though they are doing you a favor by going out with you. To make a woman chase you, she first has to feel attracted to you. From there, you need to raise and lower your interest level based on how good she is being to you. You also need to be confident so that other women feel attracted to you and she notices it.
When women see that other women are attracted to you, their attraction for you skyrockets. It’s just how a woman’s brain works, so use it to your advantage.
We men usually decide if we want to have sex with a woman based on her appearance alone, but women take many different factors into account, including whether or not other women like you. If a woman senses that you are desperate and can’t attract other women, she won’t feel special or lucky to be with you.
She will feel as though you only like her so much because other women aren’t interested in. She will then feel like she’d be doing you a favor by hooking up with you, which will turn her off on a deep level.