Have you ever had the experience where you meet a pretty girl and she is interested in you and open initially, but as you start to talk to her, her interest level rapidly begins to decline?
It’s something that you said.
It’s the way that you reacted to something she said.
It’s the way that you’re approaching the interaction and so on.
She was initially open, she was initially interested, but then, she lost interest.
So, the question is, why does that tend to happen with the girls that you’re the most attracted to, the ones that you really like, the ones that you really want to be with, the pretty girls that you think, “Wow, this girl is special. I like her. I really want to be with her”?
Essentially, what happens is that for most guys, when they meet a pretty girl or an attractive woman, they are influenced by what is known as the halo effect.
The halo effect is essentially when a person looks at another person who is attractive, or very likable for some reason and they assume that that person is a good person and deserves a lot of respect and better treatment than other people.
So, what happens for a pretty girl or an attractive woman, is that most guys who meet her automatically feel the need to treat her better than they treat other people and other women.
“She’s special. She’s different. She’s a pretty girl. She’s an attractive woman. She needs to be treated really well.”
Yet, when a guy reacts like pretty much every other guy that she has met in her life who felt the need to treat her really well just because of how she looks, then she will assume that he isn’t on the same level as her socially.
He doesn’t feel like he is good enough as is and he feels as though he needs to treat her really well in order to be accepted by her, in order to be liked by her.
So, if you want to easily attract pretty women, you’ve got to be able to communicate with her in a way that makes her feel as though you and her are on the same level in terms of value or ideally, you are a much cooler, more valuable person than her.
Now, a lot of guys automatically think, “Yeah, to do that, you need to be rich.”
Yet, the fact is that most guys aren’t rich.
Most guys are just getting by.
However, they’re still able to attract pretty girls and attractive women for sex and relationships.
So ,you don’t need to be rich and successful in order to convey equal value or higher value than a woman.
Rich and successful men are attractive to women, that is true, but if guys who weren’t rich and successful couldn’t make women feel attracted to them by conveying equal or higher value, then pretty much no guy out there would be able to get laid or get a girlfriend.
No guy in school.
No guy in university.
No guy just starting out in a job.
No guy working at a coffee shop, working as a tradesman and so on.
What you’ve got to understand is that you can actually attract pretty girls and attractive women as you talk to them.
It’s about how you come across when you’re talking to her.
It’s not possible to attract and pick up every pretty girl and every attractive woman in the world.
There are some pretty girls out there and attractive women that will only accept a celebrity or a very rich and successful guy, that is true, but the majority of pretty women out there happily hook up with, get into relationships with and even marry normal, everyday guys who are just getting by in life.
So, if you want to easily attract pretty girls and attractive women, you need to be able to convey at least equal status with her or ideally higher status, higher value than her.
You can do that based on how you talk to her.
For example: Imagine that you’re talking to a pretty girl that you like, or an attractive woman.
You really like her and you’re being influenced by the halo effect.
You’re looking at her and thinking, “This girl is special. She’s pretty. She’s different. I’ve got to treat her better.”
Come to your senses in that moment and realize that pretty much every other guy that she has met has felt that way.
He’s felt the need to treat her better because she’s higher value than him.
She’s a pretty girl, so in order to be able to get her, he needs to suck up to her.
No, no, no, don’t do that!
Convey at least equal value with her like you’re on her level, you’ve got equal status to her, or better still, convey higher status than her (based on how you talk to her).
For example: You’re talking to her and she starts talking about music and you then ask her what her favorite pop singer is.
She mentions some female singer that you may like or not like.
How can you make her feel attracted to you based on how you respond to that?
How can you convey equal status or better still, if you really want to attract her, make her sense that you are actually higher value than her?
You’re a high-status guy. So, what are you going to say?
Well, most guys are just going to try to get along with her and be nice to her.
They want to show her that they’re a good guy and that they’ve got something in common with her.
She says that she likes a certain female singer and the guy says, “Oh, that’s really cool. Yeah, she’s got great music. What’s your favorite song?”
He’s being influenced by the halo effect.
He feels like he needs to treat her better because she’s attractive.
No, don’t do that.
The kind of response that is going to make her see you as a high-value guy is where you have the balls to playfully reject her based on her choice of music, or playfully mess with her about it.
You’re not afraid to playfully mess with her or playfully reject her about things like that.
You’re not on your best behavior.
You’re not worried that the attractive girl isn’t going to like you.
You know that she likes you because you’re a high value guy.
Of course, she likes you.
So, if you have that type of confidence, you’re going to be able to say something like this, “Really, you like that singer? You dork. I thought you were cool up into that point. You disappoint me girl,” or something like this, “Oh, right, I get it now. You’re a cool girl, but you’ve got lame taste in music.”
Of course, you’re only joking with her.
You’re playfully rejecting her about that and you’re playfully messing with her.
You don’t need to actually be serious when you say to her that she’s got lame choice in music.
It’s not a serious thing.
Instead, you have so much confidence in yourself that a girl like her would like you that you’re not trying to suck up to her.
You’re not thinking, “I need to treat her better because she’s pretty. She’s special. She’s different.”
You’re a cool guy, you’re a valuable guy, you’re at least on her level, but in reality, you’re actually higher value than her.
As a result, you have the confidence to be able to say things like that to her and not worry that she’s going to lose interest in you.
Best of all, she’s not going to lose interest in you because of that, due to the fact that pretty girls and attractive women love it when a guy has the confidence to playfully mess with them.
It makes her feel like the guy is at least on her level or in many cases, that he is higher value than her.
You’ve got to think about her experience as she’s been going through her life.
Ever since she became a woman and started getting the attention of men, men have been reacting to the halo effect.
They’ve been looking at her and thinking, “She’s pretty. She’s beautiful. She’s nice. I need to treat her better than other women.”
That is simply the halo effect in action.
It doesn’t mean that the guy is needy or desperate though.
Instead, it simply means that he is being influenced by the halo effect and reacting to it like pretty much every other guy reacts to it when he meets her.
“She’s pretty, she’s special. This girl is amazing. I really like her. She’s different to other girls. I’ve got to treat her really well and hopefully she’ll like me because of that.”
By the way, according to science, an interesting thing about the halo effect is that it’s not just about physical appearance.
It essentially comes down to characteristics about a person that make you like them, or make you see them in a favorable light.
For example: According to the Encyclopedia of Educational Psychology, in the classroom, teachers are subject to the halo effect rating error when evaluating their students:
“A teacher who sees a well-behaved student might tend to assume this student is also bright, diligent and engaged before that teacher has objectively evaluated the student’s capacity in these areas. When these type of halo effects occur, they can affect students’ approval ratings in certain areas of functioning and can even affect student grades.”
Another example from Applied Social Psychology, in the work setting, the halo effect is most likely to show up in a supervisor’s appraisal of a subordinate’s job performance:
“The supervisor may give prominence to a single characteristic of the employee, such as enthusiasm and allow the entire evaluation to be colored by how he judges the employee on that one characteristic. Even though the employee may lack the requisite knowledge or ability to perform the job successfully, if the employee’s work shows enthusiasm, the supervisor may very well give him or her a higher performance rating than is justified by knowledge or ability.”
The same thing happens with pretty girls and attractive women.
For most guys out there, they are immediately influenced by the halo effect and they look at a pretty girl or an attractive woman and think, “She’s nice. She’s a good person. She’s not like other girls. She’s special. She deserves to be treated really well.”
Then the guy talks to her and he tries to show her that he’s a good guy, not realizing that pretty much every guy that she has met in her life has done the same freakin’ thing.
He’s been influenced by the halo effect and even talks to her in a nice way.
He tries to show her that he’s a good guy, so he can hopefully get a chance with her.
He gives her special treatment.
He makes her feel extra comfortable.
He’s extra generous.
He’s extra considerate towards her.
Yet, by doing that, he reminds her of pretty much every other guy who has tried to get a chance with her by being really nice to her and trying to get along with her in the hope that she will like him because of that.
The guys who stand out and make her feel attracted are the ones who don’t look at her as being a higher value than themselves simply because she’s pretty.
Instead, those guys believe in themselves as being a valuable man and they communicate that based on how they talk to her and interact with her.
Now, as I said, it’s not possible for an average, everyday guy to attract every pretty girl and every attractive woman in the world.
Some pretty girls and some attractive women have very high standards, that is true, but the vast majority of attractive women out there will happily hook up with and get into a relationship with a normal, everyday guy and in many cases, with a guy who isn’t even on the same level as her in terms of looks.
For a lot of attractive women, as long as the guy is able to attract her with his confidence and let her sense that he is on the same level as her in terms of value, then she’ll be open and interested.
If he can convey that he has higher value than her based on how he talks to her and interacts with her, then it will be even easier for him.
So, from now on, when you meet a pretty woman, don’t be stunned by the halo effect.
Don’t look at her and think that she is better than you because you see her as being attractive or pretty.
Additionally, don’t assume that you have to treat her nicer than other women due to the fact that she is pretty.
Instead, it’s totally fine to treat her well and be a good man, but make sure that when you interact with her, you communicate in a way that makes her realize that you see yourself as being at least on the same level as her in terms of value, but ideally, you see yourself as being higher value than her.
Based on you having that type of confidence in yourself, she will then naturally feel attracted to you because women are naturally attracted to men who display high status behavior.
When you have that type of confidence, she’ll at least feel as though she’s met a guy who is on her level, but if you do it right, she will feel as though you’re actually a bit cooler than her.
She knows that most women would find your level of confidence attractive and as a result, she then naturally feels as though she would be lucky to get a chance with you.
Okay, I hope you enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
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Notice How You React to Attractive Women From Now on
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is this…
Be aware from now on when you’re out and about in social situations, or you’re out in a public situation of how you react when you see a pretty girl or an attractive woman.
Think about how you look at her in terms of other women and how you feel like you should treat her in comparison to other women.
What you’ll realize is that you’re also being influenced by the halo effect.
If you talk to her and you treat her better than you treat other women and you feel like she deserves more respect and better treatment, then you’re going to be like pretty much every other guy that she’s met in her life who is trying to get a chance with the high-value girl.
To attract her and make her want to be with you, you should at least convey equal value and equal status to be on her level.
Ideally, though, you should convey higher status or higher value than her based on how you talk to her and interact with her.
That is what works to attract the vast majority of pretty girls out there.
Try it and you’ll see.