It’s never too late to contact her.
Of course, it’s always much better to get in touch with her before any of the following happens…
1. She gets married and starts a family with a new guy
If a woman falls in love, gets married and starts a family with another man, chances are pretty high that she won’t be expecting her ex to contact her and try to get her back.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t contact her if you want to.
Yet, if she’s happy, then she’s not going to be interested and she will likely say something along the lines of, “Why are you contacting me after all this time? Don’t you know that I’m married now? What we had together ended long ago and there’s really nothing left for us to even talk about. Please don’t contact me again, because I don’t want my husband to get upset. Goodbye. I wish you all the best.”
Naturally, there’s also a chance that your ex is unhappy in her marriage.
For example: According to some research, having a baby can increase the likelihood of a break up or divorce by up to 37% due to the stress of raising a child.
Also, according to statistics, divorce in the US, Australia and UK is between 40-50% percent.
So, if your ex is currently married but experiencing difficulties in her relationship with her husband due to the stress of a new baby, or because they’re not getting along, not attracted or no longer in love, then it’s possible that she will be happy to hear from you again.
If that’s the case, then you can focus on reactivating her feelings for you and getting her back after she goes through with her divorce.
It is possible to get an ex back in a situation like that, but it’s always better not to let things get to that point (i.e. waiting until she marries and moves on) before you make a move to get your ex back.
So, don’t waste a lot of time ignoring your ex for additional weeks or months.
Instead, just make a move.
Remember: The longer you take to contact her, the more time you’re giving her to get over you and move on with another man.
In most cases, you only need to give a woman 3 to 7 days of space to allow for things to calm down between you and her and make her open up to interacting with you again.
During that time, you should focus on improving your ability to attract her, so that when you do interact with her again, you will be able to re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Only when she experiences new, exciting feelings for you, will she truly drop her guard and allow herself to hang out with you more often to see where things go from there.
On the other hand, if you just sit around wondering, “When is it too late to contact an ex? Should I give it another few weeks to see if she contacts me? Will she think I’m desperate for contacting her after all this time/” then you may miss your chance with her completely.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Stop waiting around and start re-attracting your ex right now, before it’s too late.
Another sign that it might be a little too late to contact an ex is if…
2. She moves overseas and is loving her new life
When a woman emigrates to another country and starts a whole new life there, it’s almost certain that she’s not going to want to take any of the old baggage from her past with her.
Instead, she’s going to want to make a fresh start by meeting new friends, dating new guys and generally getting involved with her new country and lifestyle.
So, if she’s happy, moving on and enjoying her new life in a different country, she’s very likely not going to be thrilled to hear from her ex guy all of a sudden.
Instead, she’s probably going to be on her guard and feeling reluctant to interact with him again.
Of course, even in a situation like that, it’s not too late to contact an ex and get her back.
Many guys do get their ex woman back long distance, but if you want to do it, you have to be willing to contact her, re-attract her and either go and meet up with her in person, or get her to meet up with you.
Just be ready for the potential that she might initially be a bit resistant to meeting up with you again.
For example: Even if she’s somewhat happy to hear from you again, she’s probably not going to give it all up to come running back to you because you got in touch with her.
Yet, if you get in touch with her and begin reawakening her sexual and romantic feelings for you, she may decide to come back for at least a holiday to see how she feels when she’s with you again, or you can go and visit her.
You can then use the time together to show her that you’re a new man and allow her to feel attracted to that.
If you do it right, she will begin to feel as like if she doesn’t get back with you, she may lose the love of her life and regret it for life.
Another sign that it might be a little too late to contact an ex is if…
3. She becomes a lot more successful than you financially
Some women are totally fine with being with a guy who isn’t as successful as them, but an ex who has remained at the same level and hasn’t made any progress towards achieving his major goals and dreams in life is usually a bit of a turn off for most women.
Here’s the thing…
A woman usually won’t care about being with a guy who earns less money than her, or has a less impressive career, as long as she can see that he has a life purpose that he’s working towards (i.e. big goals, dreams or aspirations).
Yet, if she sees that her ex man is just drifting through his life without any ambition, interests or goals, she usually won’t be excited if he contacts her, unless she is still totally attracted to him and missing him.
If she isn’t missing him, she will usually say something along the lines of, “Look, it’s really nice of you to contact me after so long, but I don’t think we should talk to each other again. We’re different people now. We’re no longer compatible. I wish you all the best with your life. Bye.”
So, if you want to contact an ex who has become more financially successful than you since your break up, then make sure that you at least make some progress on your important goals and ambitions in life before contacting her.
You don’t have to achieve anything big, but at least start making some progress if she has been making big progress in her life.
Then, when you contact her and she sees that you’re making an effort to move up through the levels of life like she has been, you become someone she can look up to, respect, feel attracted to and feel compatible with.
She may then become open to interacting with you again to see how she feels, because you are now more of the kind of man she sees herself being with.
From there, you can then use interactions with her to reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you and get her back.
4 Common Mistakes to Be Aware of When Contacting an Ex Again
If you want your ex back (even if it has been a long time since the break up), the best approach is to just go ahead and contact her and begin re-attracting her.
Unfortunately, where a lot of guys go wrong, is being too hesitant (i.e. waiting additional weeks and months) to the point where they end up missing out on their opportunity to get her back.
Don’t let that be you.
From this moment onwards, your thoughts, behavior and actions will determine whether you will be successful in getting your ex back or not.
So, make sure you’re not doing any of the following things and unintentionally reducing your chances with her:
1. Having an opportunity to get her back, but not being man enough to start the ex back process with her
In most ex back cases, all it takes to get a woman back is for the guy to contact her and reactivate some of her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for him.
The woman then begins to open back up to the idea of giving him another chance, or at least starts to consider it.
Unfortunately though, most guys don’t realize that, so they let the opportunity pass them by due to feelings of fear and doubt.
For example: A guy may think, “It’s just too late to contact her now. I had my chance and I didn’t take it. If I reach out to her now, she will probably reject me because she will almost certainly have a new man in her life by now. Even if she doesn’t, any feelings she may have had for me will be long dead. It’s hopeless. I have to accept that what we had is truly over and try to move on, even though I feel that she was the one for me.”
Here’s the thing…
If your ex is single and you contact her and reactivate some of her feelings, you and her can get back together and enjoy a new relationship with each other.
On the other hand, if you don’t contact her at all, she will almost certainly find someone else soon, fall in love with him and have a happy and gratifying relationship with him instead.
Alternatively, if your ex already has a new man and you contact her and seduce her, she may dump him and decide that she’d rather be with you.
Conversely, if you do nothing, she may end up being with him for months, years or even decide to marry him (even if she isn’t very happy. So many men and women do that).
Whichever way you look at it, taking action NOW means you could win her back, but doing nothing guarantees that you almost certainly won’t get her back and she will probably move on with a new man.
This is why, if you want your ex back for real, don’t sit around wondering any longer if it’s too late to contact her.
Instead, start going through the ex back process.
Get her back.
2. Assuming that she couldn’t possibly feel attracted to you again
When a guy doesn’t know how to re-attract his ex woman, he will naturally feel a bit unsure of himself and his value to her.
He may think something along the lines of, “Well, it’s been quite a while since we broke up. What if I contact her now and she doesn’t attracted to me anymore at all? I will just make a fool of myself and put her in the awkward position of having to tell me that she’s not interested. Maybe it’s better if I just let things be the way they are. Besides, if she still had any feelings for me at all, she would have reached out to me by now.”
As a result, he avoids starting the ex back process.
He may then spend the rest of his life thinking things like, “If only I had the courage to contact her before it was too late, we could have been together now. We could have been happy again.”
Alternatively, if he does pluck up the courage to contact his ex, he might get rejected because she will sense his lack of confidence and feel turned off by it.
Here’s the thing…
Women are attracted to confident men who believe in themselves.
Likewise, women are turned off by insecure men who doubt themselves.
So, if you’ve been waiting a long time to contact your ex and have been doubting your chances of attracting her again, you must begin to build your confidence back up right now.
Believe that you are good enough for her right NOW.
When you believe in yourself and in your value to her (and to other women as well), not only will your ex feel naturally attracted to you again, but it will also be easier for you to attract other women as well.
Stop doubting yourself.
You can make her feel attracted to you again.
You can create a new spark with her.
3. Assuming that not contacting her will make her eventually miss you and want you back
If your ex hasn’t started missing you and contacted you by now, chances are pretty high that she’s not going to contact you if you wait even longer.
Firstly, even when a woman still has feelings for her ex and is in fact missing him, if she doesn’t hear from him first, she will often take that as a sign that he’s no longer interested in her.
Then, rather than contact him and make a fool of herself if he says something along the lines of, “Why are you contacting me? Aren’t you the one who wanted to break up? Well, it’s over. I’ve moved on and have a new girlfriend now,” she just tries to move on without him.
Additionally, in cases where a woman has disconnected from her feelings for a guy (i.e. because he was needy, insecure), not hearing from him for a long time doesn’t make her miss him and desperately want him back.
Instead, it usually comes as a relief to her to not have to deal with a desperate, needy ex who is trying to get her back.
She just focuses on getting on with her life and finding herself a new man who is capable of fulfilling her emotional and sexual needs.
So, if you actually want to get back together with your ex for real, don’t waste any more time waiting for her to make the first move.
You need to be the one who contacts her and begins re-attracting her.
Call her on the phone or meet up with her in person and actively reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you, so she naturally feels drawn to you and wants to hug you, kiss you, have sex with you and get back together.
What have you got to lose?
You and her could be happy again.
Just do it.
4. Assuming that she would think you are desperate for contacting her
She will only feel that way if you’re contacting her in a desperate way (e.g. if she doesn’t respond to your messages or calls you continue to contact her over and over again saying things like, “Please answer me. I really need to hear from you!”, if you sound needy when you interact with her, if you beg for another chance).
On the other hand, if you contact her and she gets a sense that you’re confident and happy without her (based on your attitude and the way you talk and behave), she’s not going to think you’re desperate.
Instead, she will feel respect for you for getting over the break up in such an emotionally strong way and getting yourself to the point where you are happy, confident and enjoying life.
When she feels respects for you you, she will naturally start to feel sexually attracted to you again and from there, it’s only a matter of time before she will allow herself to let down her guard and reconnect with her feelings of love for you too.
So, don’t be afraid to contact her.