If you want to ask out a friend, you need to ensure that she is sexually attracted to you first.

Most women are not willing to go on a date or get into a sexual relationship with a guy that they only see as a friend.

You’ve got to start turning her on by way of your vibe, body language, conversation style and behavior around her. When she is attracted to you, she is almost certainly going to be excited to say, “Yes!” when you ask her out.

Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use that to ensure your friend says, “Yes!” when you ask her out…

Some women (i.e. unattractive women, desperate women) will agree to go on a date with a guy that they don’t feel much attraction for, but that doesn’t mean that the date will feel comfortable rather than awkward and will lead to kissing and sex.

If you want to effortlessly go from being in a friendship to being in a sexual relationship, you’ve got to make sure that she is feeling turned on by you.

What to Say When You Ask Out Your Female Friend

How to ask out a female friend

Okay, so let’s assume that you do know how to make her feel sexually attracted to you and she’s hoping that you now ask her out.

What should you say?

First, you need to get rid of the friendship act that is currently playing out between you and her. Change the dynamic to a man and a woman who are sexually attracted to each other and wanting to take things further.

What can you say to establish that? As long as she is attracted to you first, you can tell her that you find her attractive. However, how you say it depends on how confident she is about her attractiveness to you.

If she is shy and is insecure about her attractiveness:

You: [Immediately after you and her have a laugh together] Hey, by the way….I want to let you know…I like you…I like you more than just a friend…there’s something about you that I really like.

If she is confident and knows that she’s hot:

You: [Immediately after you and her have a laugh together. Look her up and down in a masculine way where you are checking her out and then smile and say] You’re sexy…

Essentially, what you need to do is cut through all the BS friend acting that is going on between you and her at the moment.

If she is attracted to you, then she’s going to be hoping that you have the balls to ask her out. So, don’t hide your sexual interest in her behind the act of being a nice friend.

What to say to ask her out:

You: Anyway, I was thinking…we should catch up sometime soon just you and me. I’m going to be busy on Friday, but what are you doing this Saturday or Sunday?

Then arrange a time for you and her to meet up just the two of you (e.g. for lunch during the day, for drinks at night, or even at your place or her place to “hang out” and have something to eat).

What if You Ruin the Friendship By Asking Her Out?

Worried about risking their friendship if he asks her out

You won’t.

As long as she is attracted to you, she is going to be happy when you ask her out.

If the worst case scenario happens and she says, “Sorry, I just want to be friends” you can use that response to make her feel attracted to you. How?

Simply remain confident in yourself, smile and say, “Yeah right…I know you like me…I can see it in the way you look at me.” She will then smile or laugh and you can then say, “See…you’re doing it again.”

Here’s the really cool thing about saying that…

Women are automatically attracted to guys who display confidence in themselves in that way. A woman may act like she isn’t attracted, but she will be. Confidence is universally attractive to women, so make sure that you always remain confident in yourself around this girl you like.

She might try to make you feel uncomfortable or to doubt yourself, but that is simply to test your confidence. Women always test a guy’s confidence in himself and if you are the type of guy who can remain confident no matter what a woman says, you will laugh at how easy it is to attract women.

Are You Just a Nice Friend to Her?

Some of the guys who ask me for advice on how to ask out a friend, usually have a secret crush on a woman they’ve known for some time.

In these cases, the guy will have been “just friends” with her for a while, but will have secretly hoping that she eventually develops feelings for him and makes it obvious that she now wants to be his lover or girlfriend.

Here’s the thing though…

If she really liked you and wanted to be in a sexual relationship with you, she would have already made that pretty obvious by now. So, if you’ve just been a nice friend to her, then you will need to change her perspective of you by making her feel sexually attracted BEFORE you attempt to ask her out.

Otherwise, it will just feel awkward and she will most-likely reject you because of that awkwardness.

Watch this video to understand why being too nice to a woman often leads to rejection…

As you will discover from the video above, you haven’t done anything wrong by being a good friend to this woman you like.

However, you can’t expect a woman to have strong, sexual feelings for you if you’ve only been a nice friend towards her. Niceness is not a sexual turn on for women.

If a woman is sexually attracted to a guy and he is ALSO nice to her, then she will see his nice behavior as charming and she will feel excited about their budding romance. However, if she isn’t sexually attracted to a guy and only sees him as a friend, she will see his nice behavior as nothing more than polite, nice gestures that a nice friend would make.

Real Life vs. Hollywood Movies

In the movies and on TV, the nervous, shy, extra-helpful male friend will usually end up making the beautiful, intelligent, confident woman fall in love with him by the end of the movie or TV series.

Yet, in real life, if a woman doesn’t feel sexual attraction for a guy and only sees him as a friend, she isn’t going to rush over and kiss him like the girls in the movies always seem to do.

Basing some of their dating behavior on the fictional characters from TV and the movies, some guys make the mistake of trying too hard to be “liked” by a woman they’re interested in.

Hey, but I'm nice like the guys in the movies. What's the problem? Why don't you like me?

He hopes that by being super nice and doing favors for her all the time (like the “loveable losers” in Hollywood movies do), she will eventually fall madly in love with him and they will then live happily ever after.

That sort of crazy stuff happens in movies and TV sitcoms, but real life is not like the movies.

Some women (i.e. unattractive or desperate women) will accept a guy who is essentially kissing her ass and hoping for a chance, because she knows that the majority of guys aren’t interested in her and would leave her after having sex once or a few times.

However, if a woman is attractive, she will almost always reject a guy who is trying hard to get a chance with her, even though he isn’t doing anything to make her feel attracted.

Why? Watch this video to understand why women reject guys like that…

As you will discover from the video above, if a woman is attractive, most guys will be willing to have sex with her simply based on her appearance.

It’s very easy for women to get guys interested in them because we men initially select women based on appearance. If you want to be the guy who stands out, you’ve got to make HER feel attracted to you and then only allow her to get a chance with YOU if she impresses you enough.

Does She Feel Turned On By You?

Regardless of whether a woman is only interested in casual sex, a brief relationship or a lifetime commitment, she is going to feel the most attracted to you when she notices that you have the kinds of traits that offer the best benefit for her survival, prosperity, happiness and protection.


A woman’s attraction is directly linked to how capable a man is of surviving, thriving and prospering in this world. This is why many good looking guys often go years without having a girlfriend, while average looking guys are able to hook up with hot girls all the time.

While it is true that some women pick men purely based on looks, the majority of women pick a man based on how much sexual attraction he makes her feel for reasons other than looks (e.g. his confidence, charisma, attitude, personality, etc).

Want some proof of that? Watch this video…

As you will discover from the video above, the majority of women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a man than most guys realize.

If you want your female friend to feel excited and hopeful that you will ask her out, try to make sure that you are at least displaying these attractive qualities around her…

1. Confidence

A man with confidence stands out as a man who feels secure in who he is.

He is relaxed and comfortable just being himself and doesn’t have to try hard to be liked, or pretend to be someone he’s not in an effort to impress anyone because he knows that he is already good enough.

Being shy and nervous around women does not make you the confident guy that they’re looking for as a potential lover or boyfriend, but they might take you “under their wing” as a friend.

Sometimes, a nervous guy will put on an act of being confident in the hope that it will trick women into liking. However, women are looking for genuine confidence and they can spot it a mile away.

If you like your female friend in a sexual way, you’ve got to be confident enough to show that to her. Being a super nice “best friend” to her when you are really interested in having a sexual relationship makes you seem like someone who can’t fully be trusted.

If a woman feels like you are putting on an act, she will put her guard up and play hard to get or will reject you when you try to ask her out in indirect ways (e.g. “What do you look for in a boyfriend?” or “Do you think that you and I could ever be anything more than friends?”).

You’ve got to have the confidence to be honest and say, “You’re sexy, I like you” in a moment where you and her are laughing and having a good time together.

Reminder: Don’t try to ask her out before she is sexually attracted to you. You’ve got to make sure that she feels sexually attracted to you first, otherwise she will most-likely reject your advances because she will only see you as a friend.

2. Masculinity

True masculinity is a quality that makes women effectively feel “weak at the knees” and marks you out out as a strong, alpha male who has what it takes to provide for a woman, protect her and make her feel like a real woman.

A woman will feel like a “real woman” when she feels girly, feminine and free to be emotional around you. On the other hand, if you make her feel like “one of the guys” around you or like a nice, neutral friend, then you’re not making her feel like a real woman.

These days, a lot of guys are confused about what it means to be masculine. Not knowing what else to do, most guys go to the gym and try to build up their physical masculinity, never realizing that muscles on a nervous, self-doubting guy is as appealing as lipstick on an unattractive woman.

Sure, her lipstick might get your attention, but once you get a good look at the rest of her, you realize that she’s not attractive.

Likewise, a guy’s muscles might get a woman’s attention, but if he doesn’t have the inner qualities (i.e. confidence, emotional masculinity, charisma, etc) that women place most importance on, then most women are not going to find him attractive.

Most women are not impressed by guys who think that masculinity means to act tough or put other guys down to make himself look good. They see right though that and know that the guy is insecure and that being his girlfriend or wife would most-likely lead to a life of trouble and conflict.

In today’s world, the most important part of your masculinity are how you think, behave and take action around others and in the world. You can have big muscles if you want to, but a woman is not going to be interested if you lack the inner qualities that are so important for a man’s ability to survive, thrive and prosper in today’s world.

If you lack emotional masculinity, your friend may be able to feel a bit of attraction for you due to other traits (e.g. you’re funny, intelligent, etc), but if she is beautiful and could easily get other guys interested, she will most-likely say, “I think that we should just remain friends” when you ask her out.

3. Social Intelligence

A guy who has the ability to socialize and make friends with others is a guy who has what it takes to provide for a woman and protect her through his ability to connect with others.

In other words, he’s not a loner and if times get tough, he will be able to turn to his wide group of friends or people he’s just met in the situation to help him, her or their offspring.

Social intelligence sparks an instinctive sexual attraction in women that they cannot control or turn off. They feel drawn to “cool” guys, popular guys and guys with a lot of friends because attraction is directly linked to a woman’s need to find a guy who will be able to survive, thrive and prosper in this world.

Being socially intelligence suggests to her (but does not guarantee) that a guy would be better at surviving, thriving and prospering than another guy who lacks the social intelligence to get other people to like him and support him.

When a woman notices that a guy is socially intelligent, she instantly realizes that he would be in demand by other women. She knows that she will have to impress him and may even need to compete for him with other girls and since women love the thrill of the chase, this makes him even more attractive and appealing.

If your female friend or coworker thinks that you are shy and find it hard to get along with others, it will dampen her feelings of sexual attraction for you.

Of course, some women do like to accept weak men for a relationship or marriage, but that doesn’t mean he won’t be dumped, divorced or cheated on when she eventually gets bored of pretending to love him and want to be with him.

Some women also want to have a weak man who will devote himself to her and will never want to leave, because she is afraid of being dumped and feeling the pain of rejection.

As nice as that may sound to some of you guys reading now who are thinking, “Yes!! I want a girl like that” here’s the problem…

A woman like that is more-likely to cheat on you and leave you if she meets a better man. Getting a woman into a relationship is the easy part, but deepening her love, respect and attraction for you over time is another story altogether.

Stop Trying to Be Her Nice, Innocent Friend and Start Turning Her On in a Sexual Way

If you don’t stop acting like a friend towards her, you run the risk of ending up being friend zoned and replaced by another guy who gets right to the point and makes her feel sexually attracted.

Asking out a female friend

It’s not the year 1800 or 1900 where you need to slowly court a woman into a sexual relationship with you.

Old standard dating procedure

In today’s world, sex happens very quickly, so you need to get to the point or you will be sidelined by another guy who understands how to get things done with women in the modern dating environment.

If your female friend is attracted to you right now, then she will be hoping that you have the balls to ask her out or at least move in for a first kiss.

If she is attracted to you, she will rarely reject any moves you make on her, but if she does play hard to get, it will usually just be her way of testing your confidence and confirming that you really do like her before she opens up and says that she likes you too.

If you want to learn the shortcuts to getting into a sexual relationship with her, make sure that you don’t leave my site before learning a few more of my powerful attraction secrets…

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