To begin with, here is just some of the support I’ve received for this article about talking to a woman who is wearing headphones.

1. Support from women in the media:

Jenny McCarthy

Jenny McCarthy (Hollywood actress) interviewed me on Sirius XM radio and showed her support for my article.

“I have my headphones on and it’s usually a “do not disturb” thing for me, but if I was a single person, I would have no offense to a guy coming up to me and wanting to talk to me.”

“What a good thing you’re doing Dan. What a great thing you’re doing.”


Joy Pullmann

Michelle Andrews has written an article on MamaMia showing her support for my article: When Did a Man Asking a Woman to Remove Her Headphones Become an Act of War?

“If I’m deeply consumed in music and a man wants to ask me on a date, he should go for it. He has every right to spark a conversation with me and see if I’m interested.”


Joy Pullmann

Joy Pullmann has written an article on The Federalist showing her support for my article: Even Women With Headphones May Want A Man To Chase Them

“Many women love a man who has the balls to ask them out, to plan our interactions, to say affirmatively what he wants in life and go after it. Wimpy pajama boys are a total turn-off. Many, perhaps even most, women would like something in between—strong yet not overpowering, someone who listens. Yet the whiners are telegraphing to men that we want the wimpy end of the spectrum. They need to stop ruining it for all of us.”

“Dan has some great tips.”


Amanda Prestigiacomo

Amanda Prestigiacomo has written an article on The Daily Wire showing her support for my article: Feminist Magazine: It’s ‘Sexual Harassment’ To Talk To A Woman Wearing Headphones

“Feminists will not rest until they have successfully turned every last man into an Obama-approved Pajama Boy.

In their latest stunt aimed to neuter men while simultaneously infantilizing women, feminist magazine Bust blogger Patricia Affriol warns all those with a Y chromosome that they mustn’t ever speak to a woman who is wearing headphones.”

But, let’s be honest, if Affriol is anything like the feminists we’ve previously witnessed in media, we’ll soon find a piece penned by her complaining about the lack of male attention she receives while wearing headphones.

2. Random examples of how women show support for me on social media:

Headphones support on social media

Female support on Facebook for Dan Bacon - The Modern Man

How to talk to women who are wearing headphones

3. Female support via e-mail:

“I just wanted to show some support for you and your team after the infamous headphones article. I’m a married woman from Texas–maybe Australia and Texas are the only places where people still have common sense and women are attracted to confident men! The feminist culture is doing so much harm to both genders, so I’m thankful for guys like you not backing down when faced with overwhelming criticism. Please know that for every person who criticizes you, there are hundreds who support you but just don’t speak up. The insecure, hateful people only sit at their keyboards and anonymously hate you because they have nothing better to do (like a day job), and it makes them feel better about their pathetic selves to try and destroy someone else–especially someone who stands against their perfect little false reality where there are no genders at all. Anyway, keep the faith. Obviously your audience isn’t made up of creepers and rapists, and anyone with half a brain will know that you aren’t encouraging negative behavior. Much love from Texas! J Foley”

“In the wake of all the buzzfeed and Twitter attention, I wanted to give my support for what you do. I’m a woman and read the headphones article…and you were spot on with your advice. I’ve been married for a while now, and seeing the nastiness people, specifically women, were posting scared me. Are women that vicious now? Are men not allowed to be part of the world and do what the hell they want as well? S Lytle”

4. Customer support:

“Hey Dan, Ben and Stu,

You guys have my support.

Buzzfeed are one of the many prime examples of what is wrong with today’s media. No wonder so many guys are afraid to approach women. Seeing this story [about your headphones article] break into the news, most guys would believe that ALL women think that way, but it’s just a very small percentage of women, namely the angry feminists.

I just want to say that if it weren’t for you guys I’d have never lost my virginity (did so a month before I was 26) till I was probably in my late 30s or 40s.

Thanks to the Flow, Dating Power, Better than a Bad Boy and Mastery Methods and Mindsets and little bit of 21 Ways to Get a Girlfriend I’ve also developed my own high standards about the type of woman I want. I have a girlfriend now and we’re very happy together.

Thanks again Dan, Ben and Stu. You guys are champs!

PN, USA”

Thanks for all the support.

Here’s the article…


How to Talk to a Woman Who is Wearing Headphones

How to talk to a woman who is wearing headphones

These days, many women walk around playing with a smartphone and are often wearing headphones and listening to music at the same time.

In some cases, wearing headphones means that she wants to block out the world and be left alone.

Yet, in other cases, if a woman wearing headphones and also happens to be single and hoping to meet a boyfriend (or even a new lover), she will usually be happy to take off her headphones to say hi if normal, confident guy comes up and says hello to her.

How to talk to a woman who is wearing headphones

Who knows? They could be a perfect match and end up getting into a happy, loving relationship that lasts for life.

Alternatively, they might not be a match and if that’s the case, there’s no problem.

The guy can simply say, “Anyway, nice chatting to you. Have a great day” and leave the interaction.

Approaching and Talking to a Woman Who is Wearing Headphones

To begin with, smile and say, “Hey, how’s it going?” in a confident, easy-going manner to start a conversation with her.

Most women are polite and friendly and will take off their headphones to talk to you at that point, so just start talking and have a conversation with her.

How to talk to a woman who is wearing headphones

For example:

Man: Hey – how’s it going? I was walking along and saw you with your little headphones on and thought – wow, she’s pretty! So I thought I’d come over and say hi. I’m Peter, what’s your name?

Woman:  Jessica.

Man: So, Jessica…let me guess. You were listening to heavy metal music, right?

Woman:  No, I was listening to [whatever she was listening to] 🙂

How to talk to a woman who is wearing headphones

Man:  Oh, that’s cool. You had me worried there. I thought you were like a heavy metal girl who likes head banging at concerts. I mean, you really do look like a heavy metal girl.

Woman: Really? 😲

Man:  No, of course not. Just kidding 😄

Woman: [Most likely smiling or laughing at that point]. 😄

Man: [If you’re in a shopping mall or city street, let her know that you have something else to do besides talk to her, so she understands that you’re not going to stand there talking to her for 30 minutes] Anyway, so I’m out doing a bit of shopping at the moment. I’m going to get [whatever you are there to buy or browse for]. How about you?

If it’s clear that she is interested in talking to you, have a chat for a while before exchanging phone numbers and parting ways.

For example:

Man: Anyway, so it’s been good chatting to you, but I’d better get going and do my shopping. Would you like to talk again sometime?

Woman: Sure, that would be nice.

Man: [Take out your phone] Okay, cool. What’s your number? I’ll give a call sometime to say hi.

After getting her number, you can say something like, “Okay cool. I’ll be in touch” and then leave the interaction.

On the other hand, if it seems as though she doesn’t want to talk to you, or if she says that she has a boyfriend or anything similar, simply say, “Okay, nice to chat to you. Have a great day. All the best” and leave the interaction.

Approaching Women

Most women are passive when it comes to dating

As you may have noticed, women usually don’t go around actively approaching men in public places or even in bars or clubs.

Despite all the great advancements in gender equality, men are still the ones expected to approach.

If a man doesn’t have the confidence to approach a woman that he finds attractive, she will rarely walk over and talk to him first…even if she likes him.

Of course, some women do approach men that they find attractive (e.g. in response to a dare by friends, when very drunk), but those are rare occasions and not the norm.

So, as a man, if you want to meet a woman that you find attractive, you have to be willing to take a chance to say hello.

I want to say hi, but she wears headphones

Who knows?

You and her might be a perfect match and get into a happy, loving relationship that lasts for life.

The only way the both of you will find that out is if you have the confidence to say hello to her.

Additionally, if you and her do end up liking each other, getting into a relationship and enjoying a happy life together, she’s not going be angry at you for talking to her when she was wearing headphones.

Instead, she will be glad that you had the confidence to say hello, otherwise you and her would never have met.