The secret of how to get women in bed is:
- Make her feel attracted to you.
- Build up the sexual tension between you and her.
- Kiss her.
- Get her back to your place or go to her place.
- Kiss, build up the sexual tension and release it with sex.
Do you know how to make a woman feel attracted to you when you meet her? Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much desire a woman will feel to get into bed with you.
The more attraction you make her feel (e.g. by being confident, charismatic, making her feel girly in response to your masculinity, using humor, etc), the more attracted and turned on by you she will become.
Where Guys Go Wrong
A lot of guys get confused over what women are looking for in a man and what it takes to be seen as a sexually attractive because they usually look for answers in all the wrong places.
For example: TV commercials will tell you that you need to wear “men’s moisturizer” and get a special deodorant and if you’re naive enough, you’ll rush out to buy the latest scent in the hope that it makes you more sexually appealing to women.
Yet, if you pay attention, you will see that guys who never spray a drop of cologne on themselves are still able to get laid like rockstars with hot, sexy women. Why? Most of what a woman feels attracted to about a guy is based on his personality, confidence, vibe and attitude.
So, be careful about believing that superficial things like colognes, shirts and shoes will be the final piece of the puzzle that helps you get women in bed.
Movies and TV sitcoms will make you believe that you need to have six pack abs, be a super hero and “save the day” for women to swoon and want to have sex with you. Yet, in the real world, all you need is confidence and the ability to attract women with your personality.
These days, millions of confused men waste time believing that wearing certain clothes or colognes, or styling their hair in a certain way will make them irresistibly attractive to women.
Sure, you might get some extra looks from women when you put in an effort to look good, but if you’ve already tried dressing well yourself and improving your appearance to hopefully get laid, you will know that a woman looking at you for a second or two isn’t the same as her coming home with you for sex.
Women aren’t going to desperately want to have sex with you just because you’re wearing a certain designer label.
Yes, women are going to notice how a guy presents himself on the outside and make their judgements about that, but what they are really interested in is who the guy is on the inside and his behavior, conversation style and confidence around them will reveal that loud and clear.
For example: A guy might spend hours getting himself ready to go out for a night out on the town. He has a huge collection of expensive designer outfits, watches and shoes to choose from and he’s made sure that he got his “image” right by trawling through the pages of his “men’s style” magazines for hints and tips on the latest look.
He then goes out on the town and can see that women are noticing his sharp look. However, when approaches women in the hope of getting one of them into bed, he fails yet again because he doesn’t really know how to make women feel attracted to who he is.
Women notice his self-doubt, confusion and nervousness and they can tell by what he is saying (or not saying) that he is just another low self-esteem guy in nice clothing. As a result, he’s unable to hold the attention of the attractive women he approaches and none of them are showing any sexual interest in him.
Thinking that it’s all about his fashion sense and looks, he has failed to work on what is really important and what really matters: Himself!
Women are not interested in having sex with a guy’s clothes or hairstyle, they are interested in having sex with a confident guy, who is masculine (mentally and emotionally) and has the social intelligence to be able to keep a conversation going and keep it interesting.
The fact is, how a guy looks can only get him so far. Women might fall for “the sharp-dressed man” on TV and in the movies – but you’re in the real world.
In the real world, women will fall for you if you are confident, charismatic and cool, which is why you always see “ugly” guys with beautiful women. It’s not about looks. Just accept it. If you think it’s about looks, then you’re just another confused modern man who’s been brainwashed by the advertising you’ve seen on TV.
It’s Not About Faking it Until You Make it
Have you ever heard someone say, “Fake it until you make it” as a way of getting through a situation? Sure, people say that all the time and it is good advice in some situations. However, when it comes to success with women, it is bad advice and it rarely works.
You can’t fake being confident with women because they’ll simply test you (e.g. by being challenging) and see that you’re not confident after all. When they see that, they’ll lose interest or flat out reject you.
If you want to be the challenge that women are hoping to meet, then you have to have real standards about what you will and will not accept in a woman. You will only be able to genuinely stick to those standards if you know that you can easily attract other women and don’t need the specific woman that you’re talking to.
Watch this video to understand how and why it works…
As you will discover from the video above, women are only going to be interested in winning your challenge and secure you for themselves if you are able to make them feel the type of attraction they are looking to experience when interacting with a guy.
Some guys make the mistake of trying to “act” like a confident guy that they’ve seen on some show or movie.At home, they practice saying the same lines as the movie character and might even practice using the same facial expressions in the mirror, hoping to be able to fake the attitude and be more like the confident, cool guy on TV.
Yet, faking it won’t ever fix his insecurities and lack of ability to properly attract women, so it will rarely help him get women in bed. At the end of the day, he still lacks confidence in his sex appeal to women, so he’s going to feel shy and anxious and his body language is going to give him away as a faker.
Women are natural experts at reading body language and they know how to test a guy’s authenticity to find the real men amongst all the posers and fakers. Why do women do that? Think about it. For most of human history, there was no child support, no police and no media.
A guy could impregnate a woman, then simply leave her and she would have to spend the next 20 years raising a child and providing food for it. To add to that, since she was now “used goods” many men would lose interest in her and prefer to have a woman without any extra children to support.
Therefore, it’s only natural that women instinctively look for the real men amongst a sea of fakers. A woman doesn’t want to make the mistake of accidently getting pregnant to a guy who is just pretending to be confident and who will have a difficult time surviving and providing for her and the offspring.
Sure, some inexperienced women will fall for the tricks of guys who are pretending to be confident and some unattractive, desperate women will overlook the guy’s lack of confidence because they are willing to accept pretty much any guy.
However, if you want to get beautiful, sexy, hot women into bed,n you need to have true confidence to pass the tests and challenges that a woman will put you through before she goes ahead with having sex with you.
It’s Not About Being a Gentleman…or a Bad Boy
Some of the guys who ask me for advice on how to get women in bed are confused by the fact that they treat women “right,” yet women seem to overlook them in favor of “bad boys.”
So, let me make it nice and clear: There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but there is a problem with being too nice to her in the hope that she’ll then give you some lovin’. Why? Being nice only makes her feel “friendly” emotions towards you, rather than sexual emotions.
Watch this video for the full explanation…
In romantic comedy movies, you will often see the awkward nice guy getting the girl shortly before the end of the movie, after he saves the world, saves the day or saves the girl from a bad boy.
Aww, how sweet.
In real life, those guys usually just get rejected and the woman hooks up with a more confident, well-rounded guy who is not only good to her, but also has the balls to make her feel safe and the masculinity (in how he thinks, behaves, feels and takes action) to make her feel girly and feminine when around him.
On the topic of how to get women into bed, don’t make the mistake of thinking that it’s all about being a nice, little gentleman or a rough and ready bad boy. Getting laid is simply about being a cool, confident, charismatic guy who isn’t afraid to go after what he wants.
You’ve got to believe in your sex appeal to the woman and let her feel attracted to you because of that confidence. You don’t need to be embarrassed or ashamed about wanting to have sex. It’s natural and she wants it too.