By displaying the behaviors and personality traits that women are naturally attracted to, you will automatically trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual desire for you.
The more attractive personality traits and behaviors you display, the more that a woman will want you sexually.
For example, some of the many ways to make a woman want you sexually are by:
- Showing her that you’re confident and self-assured around her.
- Attracting her with your masculinity (i.e. making her feel girly in comparison to your masculine vibe, body language, tone of voice, etc).
- Attracting her with your conversation style.
- Being charismatic and charming.
- Making her laugh and smile when she talks with you.
- Flirting with her to create sexual tension.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to make her want you in a sexual way…
As you will discover from the video above, most women are open to feeling sexually attracted to men for reasons other than looks, money, social status, height or penis size.
Some women are picky and only want a guy who meets all the superficial criteria, but most women are much more flexible about what they find sexually arousing when interacting with a guy.
Without Sexual Attraction, You’re Just Another Guy to Her
You might be a really good guy and have only the best of intentions with a woman, but she’s not going to care about that unless you are able to make her feel sexually attracted and turned on.
Most guys have no idea how to make women feel sexually attracted and turned on, so they try to be “liked” by a woman by being really nice to her and trying to show her that they are trustworthy, respectful of her and only have the best of intentions with her.
Yet, that’s not what she wants to feel.
She doesn’t want to feel nice, friendly feelings, she wants to feel sexually turned on. If a guy is just nice to her and then expects that she will “give him a chance” to be with her, then he’s going to get rejected more often than not.
Watch this video to understand why…
As you will discover from the video above, being nice to a woman doesn’t make her feel sexually attracted and turned on.
It just makes her feel friendly, neutral feelings.
However, that doesn’t mean that you should treat women badly! Being nice to a woman is a good thing, but she will only appreciate it if you start by triggering her feelings of sexual attraction and THEN treat her nicely.
Guys who make women feel attracted and then treat them nicely are seen as charming. However, guys who treat women nicely and then expect to be liked enough to be given a chance are usually just rejected.
If you don’t make a woman feel sexually attracted to you first, she will simply see you as a friend, or as just another guy who is hitting on her and hoping to get a chance to feel her boobies for being so nice to her.
Understanding What Women Are Really Attracted to in Men
Most men are go through life thinking that women are attracted to men for the exact same reasons that men are attracted to women.
Basically, because men are mostly attracted to a woman’s physical appearance and are willing to have sex with a pretty woman even if they don’t like her personality or have no intention of starting a relationship with her, they assume that women are attracted to men for the same reasons.
This is why so many guys give up on getting the women they really want, because they assume that if they’re not tall, or they don’t have big muscles or male model good looks, then they simply won’t stand a chance with beautiful women.
However, that’s not the case at all and you can prove it to yourself the next time you go out.
Just look around you and chances are high that you will see many below average looking, overweight or skinny guys with attractive or beautiful girlfriends or wives. Why?
They have been able to attract the women with things other than their looks (e.g. sense of humor, confidence, charisma, etc).
When a woman is beautiful, or even just attractive, she knows that she can attract all men for sex, but that’s not what she wants.
She wants a man who can trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for a change, rather than just her making him feel turned on and she has to put up with feeling friendly or nice around him.
Yet, most of the guys that an attractive woman meets will not know how to make her feel sexually attracted. They will assume that attraction is based on looks, money or status and if they don’t have that, they will try to sneak in the back door by being an ass-kissing nice guy.
These guys have no idea that you make can a woman want you sexually by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women (e.g. confidence, sense of humor, masculine vibe, high self-esteem, charisma, etc).
Rather than displaying those traits, a lot of guys display unattractive traits (e.g. nervousness, self-doubt, nice guy act, etc) and turn the women off.
After getting rejected, he walks away thinking that it must be his looks or some other excuse that he uses to explain his lack of success with women.
Yet, the real reason why he is getting rejected is that he simply doesn’t know how to attract women when he interacts with them. He is displaying unattractive traits and then expecting women to want him because he’s a good guy.
That’s not how it works.
Women want a guy who makes them feel sexually attracted and turned on and pretty much ANY guy can make a woman feel that way.
Of course, there are women out there who will only go for very good looking guys with big muscles, but the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which essentially means, she is open to dating many different types of guys as long as the guy can make her feel attracted to his personality and the way he interacts with her.
Making a Woman Want You Sexually
To make a woman want you sexually you need to…
1. Trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you based the way you interact with her.
When you’re interacting with a woman that you want to have sex with, it is important that you make your intentions clear.
For example: A mistake that many guys make is to pretend they’re only interested in being friends and in hanging out with her.
They will be nice and sweet and polite to her, and they will avoid behaving in a way that might suggest to her that they are actually interested in her sexually.
To make a woman want to have sex with you, you have to make it clear to her that’s what you want.
For example: After making her feel attracted to you (e.g. by being confident, having a masculine vibe, making her laugh, flirting with her, etc), you can then pause for a moment, look at her and say, “You’re sexy…I like you.”
Since you have already made her feel attracted to you, she will welcome the sexual compliment. However, if a guy had only been nice to her and was pretending to just want to be friends, she’s not going to welcome his compliment.
The more ways you can make a woman feel attracted to you while interacting with her (e.g. by being confident, by making her feel feminine in your presence, by turning her on based on how you’re talking to her, by making her laugh, etc.), the more intense her desire will be to have sex with you.
Watch this video to understand where a lot of guys mess up when talking to women and what you can do instead to make a woman want you sexually…
As you will discover from the video above, a lot of guys make women feel turned off the idea of sex, simply based on how the guy is interacting with her.
This is a huge opportunity for you.
When you are the guy who can actually make a woman feel turned on and want you sexually, you will see how easy it is to pick up women and have your choice of women.
Most guys never learn this stuff and go through their life thinking that they are being rejected because of their looks or because they’re not mega rich.
Yet, the reason why they are being rejected is much more simple (i.e. they are not actively triggering a woman’s feelings of attraction) and easily fixed.
2. Build up the sexual tension between you.
Sexual tension occurs when a man and a woman feel sexual desire for each other, but for various reasons, (e.g. they are in a formal workplace, are friends, etc) they postpone kissing and sex.
Essentially, you and her both know that you’re attracted to each other, but decide to continue flirting and building up the sexual tension (for a few more hours, days or weeks) before you actually get to kissing and sex.
Women love the excitement of being so turned on by a guy, but not really knowing when the tension between them will finally be released with kissing and sex.
When you build up the sexual tension between you and a woman correctly, not only will she want you sexually, but she will also feel as though she is going to explode if she doesn’t release that tension inside her by having sex with you, or at least kissing you.
How can you build up the sexual tension correctly? Attract her and use flirting.
Watch this video for some examples of flirting…
As you will discover from the video above, women actually prefer it when guys flirt.
I’ve been contacted by some guys over the years who are worried about using flirting because they fear being rejected or being called a sleaze.
A woman will only react badly to flirting if a guy tries it BEFORE making her feel sexually attracted.
When it comes to women, attraction comes FIRST and everything else (e.g. flirting, building a connection with her, kissing, dating, sex, etc) follows on after that.
So, make sure that you actively make a woman feel attracted to you first, before you try to do anything else.
If you don’t make her feel attracted and simply behave like a nice, sweet guy who is being friendly, it will be impossible for any significant sexual tension to build up between you and her, because you’re not actively making her feel sexually attracted to you.
As long as you start with attraction, you will see that everything else flows on easily and effortlessly after that.
3. Transition from just talking and flirting, to kissing and then sex.
Building sexual tension is good, but its purpose is to lead to kissing and sex. A common mistake that guys make is to hesitate and then fail to release the sexual tension at the appropriate time.
Eventually, if a woman doesn’t get the release she is craving by being kissed and then dragged off to the bedroom, she will either lose interest, or she will just assume that the guy is too afraid to make a move.
How long should you build up sexual tension?
It really depends on where you meet the woman and what the circumstances are.
For example: Sometimes, you only need a couple of minutes of sexual tension before you can begin passionately kissing a woman at a bar or nightclub.
Yet, in a workplace, you might need to build it up over a couple of days or couple of weeks and then release the tension with kissing and sex by getting her to meet up with you outside of the workplace.
How can you know if she is ready?
You will be able to see it in her body language and in the way she is interacting with you.
- She will make an effort to keep the conversation going and to keep you engaged and talking to her.
- She may be playing with her hair, touching her neck, or fiddling with her necklace if she is wearing one, while talking to you. Why? She wants to look girly and feminine in comparison to your strong, confident, relaxed masculinity to show you that she is feeling sexually attracted and is willing to submit to you.
- She will most likely be leaning in towards you and touching you during conversation (e.g. on the leg, the arm, the face, etc).
- She will be laughing at your jokes and trying her best to get along with you.
All these (and many more) are signs that she is feeling sexually attracted to you and that she wants the sexual tension between you and her to be released with kissing and sex.