Are you curious to know if there are places where women approach men first?
The answer is “Yes!” and I’ve put together a list for you. The most common places where women approach men include:
- Karaoke bars or hostess bars.
- Business networking events.
- Speed-dating events (before the event starts when everyone is just standing around waiting for it to begin).
- Bars and clubs in some countries where the women are poor and desperate for a man to support them (e.g. remote areas of South East Asia), or in cities where the dating scene is competitive (e.g. New York) or where there are a high ratio of women to men (e.g. Latvia, Estonia).
- Men’s clothing stores with female shop assistants.
- Prostitute parlors or brothels.
- Strip clubs.
- At a dog park if you are walking around with a cute looking dog, a rare breed dog or a very beautiful looking dog.
- At a house party where you and her have mutual friends, so she has an excuse to walk up and say hello.
- At meet up groups (i.e. via meetup.com).
- At local charity or volunteering events.
- At dance classes (e.g. salsa, ballroom, hip hop).
There are also certain situations where a woman will approach a man first, including:
- When she is drunk and is just walking around and talking to random guys.
- When she is unattractive and feels as though approaching first is the only way she can potentially hook up with a decent guy.
- When she approaches a guy on behalf of a friend who likes the guy (this usually only happens to really good looking guys).
- If the guy is very handsome and she wants to show off to her girlfriends by approaching and getting him interested in her.
In pretty much every other situation, women wait to be approached by men, and here is why…
Women Usually Want You to Approach First Because They Don’t Want to Be More Dominant Than You
Even when a woman really likes a guy, she will usually avoid approaching him and making the first move, because she wants to ensure that she doesn’t take on the dominant role in the courtship.
Most women approach dating in a passive way and simply wait for a man who is confident enough to approach and take on the role of the leader, so she can then relax into feeling feminine and submissive in comparison to his masculinity.
The more feminine a woman feels in comparison to your masculinity, the easier it is for her to feel sexually attracted and turned on around you.
If she feels like the more dominant one, it will usually turn her off completely and if she feels neutral around you (i.e. you’re kind of confident around her), it usually won’t be enough to turn her on.
She wants to be able to respect you as the more masculine one, rather than have to approach you, be gentle with you, make it obvious that she likes you and then guide you to kissing and sex.
If a woman interacts with a guy and feels as though he’s not strong enough for her emotionally (i.e. she feels more dominant than him) or that he’s just too neutral (i.e. he’s using the nice guy approach to hopefully get her to see how good of a guy he is), she might keep talking to him out of pity, but she won’t be interested in anything sexual or romantic.
If another guy comes along and joins the interaction and makes her feel respect and attraction for him based on his confidence and emotional masculinity, she will quickly switch her focus to him and open herself up the possibility of kissing him, having sex with him and beginning a relationship with him.
When that happens, the less confident guy will usually feel confused about why he is being rejected. After all, he was being nice to her and he has good intentions, so why is she rejecting him and hooking up with the other guy?
He might think to himself, “I’m just not good looking enough, that’s why. When I approach a woman, she feels turned off by my appearance and then she won’t give me a chance to show her that I’m a nice guy.”
Or he might say, “Women are only after guys who are rich and successful; I just can’t compete with that. I’m only an average guy with an ordinary job. Maybe if I was loaded with cash and looked like a model, then women would like me.”
He might then stop approaching women because he assumes that because he’s not good looking enough, rich enough, successful enough or whatever else he believes that women really want.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that most women (not all women), are attracted to men for reasons other than just their looks, money, success or status.
Watch this video to see proof of that…
As you will discover from the video above, the real reason why a lot of good guys fail with women is that they don’t even know how to attract and turn women on with their personality.
Most good guys waste their life thinking that they are being rejected because they’re not good looking enough, rich enough or successful enough or they believe that women only want bad boys.
Yet, the truth is that most women (not all), just want a good guy who can also make them feel attracted in other ways (e.g. to his confidence, charisma, charm, humor, masculine vibe, etc).
Most women, even the pretty ones, aren’t even that picky at all. They may act like they are picky, but if they meet a good guy who can also make them feel attracted in other ways, they usually hook up with him, fall in love and stick with him.
If All Women Judged Men on Looks, Money or Status, Most of us Guys Would Be Single
Of course, there are some women who will only talk to, date, have sex with and get married to good looking, muscular, rich guys who live a celebrity lifestyle.
Yet, the majority of women have what I call an Open Type.
This means that most women are willing to be with many different types of guys (e.g. bald, overweight, thin, different races, etc) and it all depends on how the guy makes her feel when she’s with him.
Basically, whether a guy is conventionally good looking or downright ugly, wealthy, or is struggling to make ends meet, tall, tanned and muscular, or is short, fat and round, if he can make her feel a lot of attraction when he interacts with her, she will usually overlook his “flaws” and will even begin to see him as being attractive.
If you don’t believe this is true, the next time you’re out in a public place, take a look around you.
Chances are, most of the guys that you see won’t be good looking, muscular, rich or successful, but they will be with attractive and even beautiful women.
So what it is that makes these men so attractive to beautiful women who could easily get any man they want?
Watch this video and you will understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use that to attract the types of women you really want…
As you will discover from the video above, it’s not possible to attract every hot woman in the world, but if you are skilled at attracting women with your personality (e.g. by displaying confidence and charisma, using humor, making her feel girly in comparison to your masculine vibe, etc), most women will feel attracted to you.
Although women go around acting like they will only accept Mr. Perfect, the majority of women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a man and what they will accept for sex and a relationship.
If you ask a woman directly, she will deny that, but you only have to look at the world around you and you will see that beautiful women are with all sorts of guys, including short, bald, overweight, thin guys who have an average job or even no job at all.
Women Are Attracted to the Qualities In Men That Cannot Be “Seen”
If women selected men purely on physical appearance, most of the guys in this world wouldn’t be able to get laid, get a girlfriend or ever get married, because most guys are not male models with a truckloads of money in the bank.
Here’s the thing…
Women feel naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, high self-esteem, determination to succeed in life) and are turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecurity, nervousness, shyness).
Of course, there are some women out there who will be willing to accept an insecure, nervous guy (usually unattractive, desperate women, or women who like to dominate men), but most women won’t put up with a man who is emotionally weak.
This is why most women don’t approach men.
Women don’t want to reward emotionally weak men (i.e. insecure, nervous, self-doubting men) with free sex, love and devotion. Women want to find a confident, emotionally strong man who has the balls to approach her and talk to her because that says a lot about the confidence he will have at work, around friends and in general life.
She’d rather be with a guy who can handle himself around other people, than get stuck with a guy who feels nervous in social situations and will likely get overlooked for promotions at work because he’s afraid to take on a more alpha role in interactions.
This is why, the only real places where women approach men are the ones where it’s part of the woman’s job description to do so (e.g. she’s a prostitute, hostess or sales woman in a men’s department store).
Alternatively, it’s because the circumstances are unusual, (e.g. at a speed-dating event, the woman is drunk and just approaching random guys hoping to get lucky, she is unattractive and has to put herself out there to hopefully get herself a guy).
In most other places, (e.g. in a bar or club, at the mall, in the library, in the grocery store), most women will not approach men first.
This is why it’s so important that you give yourself the confidence to approach women, rather than waiting around and hoping that a hot woman approaches you and guides you through a pick up.
If you need to build up the confidence to approach women, watch this video…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much or little confidence you feel.
You can either use the power of your mind for you or against you. To use the power of your mind for you, the key is to begin thinking in a more confident, positive, forward moving way and then taking action based on that increase in confidence.
Do You Have What it Takes to Attract Her and Turn Her On?
When a guy approaches a woman, she has to interact with him for 30 seconds to a minute to work out whether he has the qualities that she’s looking for in a man.
For example: If a guy approaches and comes across as being nervous, self-doubting or as putting on an act of being an even nicer guy than he really is, a woman will usually begin to close up very quickly and lose interest in interacting with him.
On the other hand, if the exact same guy were to approach her and be confident, relaxed, believe in himself and come across in an authentic manner, she will remain open and interested in getting to know him better.
His confidence will have automatically attracted to her and his ability to be real and authentic will intrigue her and keep her open, rather than making her feel as though she has to put up a protective guard because he is putting on an act or social persona (e.g. using the classic nice guy approach).
What a lot of guys don’t realize is that a woman’s attraction can be switched on or off, based on how a guy is coming across.
If a guy doesn’t know how to turn her on during an interaction (e.g. make her feel feminine in comparison to his masculinity, attract her with his confidence and natural charisma), then she will simply “switch off.”
There’s no point trying to “make it work” with a guy like that, because there’s just no spark between them. He doesn’t know what he should be saying or doing to create that spark and she doesn’t want to be the one who has to teach him.
She doesn’t want to say, “Hey, stop being so nice and neutral around me. Be a good guy, but believe in yourself. You are good enough for me. Believe it. Show me that you believe it. Be masculine, rather than being neutral. Make me feel feminine in comparison to your masculinity.”
Rather than try to enlighten him on what it takes to really attract a woman, she will either reject him, politely excuse herself from the conversation or keep talking to him until another guy comes along who can make her feel attracted.
When You Know That You Can Attract Women With Your Personality, There’s No Need to Wait Around for a Woman to Make the First Move
Many guys waste their life and miss out on enjoying love, sex and relationships due to a fear of fear of approaching women.
For example, some guys think:
- What if I approach her and she tells me to go away?
- What if she is not attracted to me?
- What if she laughs at me and thinks I’m a joke, or a desperate guy?
- I’m too ugly/fat/have a big nose, etc. Attractive women don’t go for guys like me. Why even bother approaching?
Guys like that allow negative thoughts to control them and prevent them from approaching women.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Most guys are already good enough for the majority of women out there. Most women really aren’t that special at all.
Yes, you feel attracted to them, but you can make them feel attracted to you too. As a man, you can attract women by displaying certain personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, etc).
So, there’s no need to hide yourself away and waste your life because you think you’re not good enough.
You are good enough.
Let me ask you…
Have you been letting your fears stop you from approaching and hooking up with the women you really want?
Have you been going through life thinking that you’re not good enough for attractive women, because you didn’t even realize that you could make women feel intensely attracted to you by displaying certain personality traits and behaviors during an interaction?
Stop wasting your life.
You are good enough for most women out there.
Watch this video and you will see why it is possible for you to approach and attract women at will…
As you will discover from the video above, you can actively make women feel attracted to you. You don’t have to wait around hoping that a beautiful woman will break with tradition and decide to approach you and guide you to kissing and sex.
You can make it happen yourself…and it’s ridiculously easy to do.
Most guys don’t even know (or believe) that it’s possible to improve their skills with women.
They fall into a negative pattern of believing that if they’ve been unable to approach women in the past, or if they had some bad experiences and got rejected, then they don’t have what it takes to attract the type of women they want, and even worse, that there’s nothing they can do to change it.
Yet, they are wrong.
The truth is that it is possible to attract women based on what you say and do. You can literally display certain personality traits and behaviors during a conversation with a woman and she will automatically feel attracted to you.
When you have the skill of being able to attract women, you automatically begin to have your pick of women.
Most of the women you interact with feel attracted to you and it changes from you hoping to get just one woman, to choosing between many attractive women who want to be with you.
Yet, you can’t expect that to happen if you sit around waiting to be approached by women or if you don’t even know how to properly attract women when you interact with them.