The secret of how to charm a woman is to first make her feel sexually attracted to you and then be nice to her.
It’s not enough just to treat her nicely. That is not what being a charming man means.
If you try to charm a woman by only being nice, courteous, sweet and polite and you skip the sexual attraction part, she will only perceive you as a nice guy that she has no sexual interest in. As a result, you will be placed in the friend zone.
To properly charm a woman, you need to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you and then give her the additional bonus of being the lucky recipient of your good, kind nature.
So, how can you make a woman feel attracted and then treat her nicely in a way that will be seen as charming?
Some of the many ways that you can make a woman feel attracted to you are to be confident around her, make her laugh, make her feel girly in comparison to your masculinity, have a masculine vibe and flirt with her.
Some of the ways that you can treat a woman nicely and be seen as charming are to give her compliments, take her out somewhere nice for a date, treat her well and generally show her that you respect her and care about her.
However, I’ve got to be very clear about something here…
It’s not enough to just be nice to a woman. Simply being nice to a woman (e.g. showing her that you respect her, giving her compliments, etc) is not the way to charm her.
You have to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction first.
If you only use the nice guy approach, it will result in rejection more often that not and here is why…
As you will discover from the video above, there’s nothing wrong with being nice to woman, but if you don’t trigger her feelings of sexual attraction, she will only see you as a friend.
Attraction has to come first and everything else flows on naturally and easily after that.
The Fantasy World of Movies
If you watch any kind of romantic movie that is aimed at women, you will usually see the same basic storyline unfold where the beautiful girl is fed up of dating losers, jerks and guys who don’t treat her right.
Initially, she rejects the nice guy in the movie, but after he saves the day, saves the world or saves her, she falls in love with him and he is portrayed as her Prince Charming that she was meant to be with all along.
Awww, how sweet.
The “charming” man who sweeps a woman off her feet in a movie is usually the type of guy who puts her on a pedestal and treats her like a “lady” in every way.
He charms her by lavishing her with gifts and tokens of affection and he does all the “gentlemanly” things such as holding doors open for her, bringing her flowers on the day of a date, picking up the tab for everything, sending her flowers the day after a date…and never ever touching her or even attempting to kiss her without asking for her permission first.
While some guys might wish that real life worked that way, if you want to be successful with women, you have to come to terms with what actually works in the real world. The fantasy world of a movie is different to reality that we actually live in.
Real World Charmers
Unlike the movies, men who effortlessly charm women in real life don’t need to save the day, save the world or save the woman from a bad guy or jerk.
It’s actually a lot more simple and immediate than that.
Real world charmers don’t need to buy women gifts, take women out on 5 sweet dates and eventually work their way up to holding her hand and then kissing her.
In the real world, guys can instantly charm women and get to a kiss and even sex on the first night or first date.
For example: A study in the USA found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date and a European study found that 70% of women admitted to having experience a one night stand before.
In other words, it’s actually very easy to charm a woman into beginning a sexual relationship with you.
These days, relationships usually START with sex and after that happens, the man and woman then decide whether or not they want to continue dating casually or become exclusive with each other.
So, if you’re looking for information on how to charm a woman, make sure that you don’t waste time trying to become Mr. Perfect who hopes to be liked by a woman because you’re such a nice, courteous gentleman of a man.
Modern women only care if you are gentleman AFTER you have made them feel sexually attracted to you. If you try to get women to like you because you’re a nice gentleman of a guy, they will simply place you in the friend zone or “no way” zone because there is no sexual attraction present.
In today’s dating environment, you have to start with sexual attraction and then everything else follows on after that.
It’s not like how it used to be back in 1905 for example. Back then, a man would have to court a woman and show her that he was a gentleman and could support her.
If she liked him enough, he could then go and ask her father for his daughter’s hand in marriage. If the father approved, they could then marry and finally lose their virginity together on their wedding night.
That’s not the way it works anymore.
In today’s world, women aren’t in a desperate hurry to find a nice gentleman who can support them financially and protect them from the big bad world. Today’s women can support themselves and have plenty of protection from the police, government and media.
So, rather than looking for a nice gentleman who can support them, almost all modern women now select a man based on how much sexual attraction he makes her feel.
If he also happens to be a nice guy, then that is seen as a bonus, but it’s not always necessary right away because sex doesn’t always mean that she will be interested in a relationship or marriage.
These days, sex is basically a chance for a man and a woman to take each other for a test drive to see how they feel. If there is a lot of sexual chemistry, they get along really well and there is also feelings of new love, then a relationship begins.
However, if it all feels a bit too boring and awkward for the woman, she simply breaks up with the guy and meets a new one. When she eventually finds the right guy for her, she will usually settle down and stick with him for life.
One of the ways to be attractive when you are charming a woman is to have what is called charismatic charm.
This essentially means that you are totally comfortable being your real self. You don’t put on an act of trying to be nicer than you really are, more arrogant than you really are, or anything else where you’re not being your true self.
You embrace your true personality and you love and accept yourself for who you are. You let that true, genuine personality come through with a relaxed belief in yourself. You don’t try to force people to like your personality, but simply relax and be yourself.
At the same time, you also love and accept other people for who they are. You don’t expect them to think, behave, feel and act exactly like you to when you interact with them.
You love and accept them for who they are and you let them be who they want to be.
You make them feel comfortable in your presence, but at the same time, you also make sure that they respect you and appreciate you for who you are.
When you use that approach and you’re also a good guy, then you will have what is referred to as a charismatic charm. People will feel drawn to your charisma that is based on your unique, one of a kind personality.
People also feel as though they can be themselves around you. They don’t have to put on an act of being someone they’re not (e.g. nicer than they really are, meaner than they really are, etc) to hopefully make you feel comfortable or accept them.
When a woman meets a man who has this charismatic charm, she becomes intoxicated by it and feels drawn to him on a deep level.
Most of the guys that a woman meets will be putting on an act, which then makes her feel awkward and unable to relax and show her true personality throughout the interaction.
Watch this video to understand some of the common mistakes that guys make during conversation that turn women off…
As you will discover from the video above, a big part of how to charm a woman into having a sexual, romantic relationship with you is to be a good guy, while also making sure that you display some of the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.
4 Common Traits of a Charming Man
If you want to be able to charm a woman without putting in much effort at all, you simply need to get into the habit of being a more charming man.
When you get used to doing some of the following things in your interactions with people in general and then also use them in your interactions with women, you will be automatically be seen as a charming, appealing guy.
Here are 4 common traits of a charming man…
1. A charming man makes other people feel good about themselves
If you think back to some of the most charming men that you’ve ever met during your life, you will realize that they had a way of making you feel good about yourself during conversation.
Rather than putting you down or try to make you feel inferior, these guys allowed you to feel good about yourself in their presence.
There’s nothing wrong with a charming man talking about his achievements or feeling good about himself around others, but always makes sure that other people feel good about themselves when they are around him.
Making people feel good about themselves doesn’t mean that you should go overboard and try too hard to kiss everyone’s ass. You just need to be emotionally generous enough to actually care about the other people feeling good when they interact with you.
2. He smiles and add positivity to social interactions
To be seen as a charming man, you don’t have to smile and be happy and joyful every second of every day.
It’s simply about being one of the people or the only person who adds in smiling, laughter and positivity to interactions, especially when other people are feeling down or being very negative.
There’s nothing wrong with having a big of negative, frustrated conversation at times, but a charming man will always be the one who has the emotional strength to bring everything back to a positive note or get people to focus on a solution, rather than wallowing in depression, sadness or despair.
3. He accepts compliments in a confident, classy way
When a guy receives a compliment and then awkwardly brushes it off as nothing important or looks uncomfortable and nervous with the spotlight focused on him, this isn’t seen as being charming or charismatic.
A charming, charismatic man will accept a compliment by confidently thanking the person and then, if there is a lot to say about what he is being complimented for (e.g. he has achieved something big) he will be open to talking about it for a short while, but he won’t try to hog the spotlight for an unnecessarily long period of time.
He will say what needs to be said and be proud of whatever he is being compliment about and will then begin to redirect the conversation away from him and into a discussion that makes the other person feel motivated, happy or confident in themselves.
4. He doesn’t try to be perfect at everything
When a guy tries way too hard to be perfect in every way (e.g. his manners, appearance, conversation style, etc), he will come across as being awkward, fake and some women will even refer him as “creepy.”
We human beings are not perfect at everything and that is okay. Some people are better at certain things than other people are and all of us make mistakes during conversation, when we are attempting to achieve things in life and as we go about our every day life.
Part of being a charming man is not being afraid to be your true self, even if that means that you make a mistake or slip up in conversations every now and again.
When a woman sees that you’re comfortable to be your true self, it’s very charming and appealing because she can relate to your imperfections.
She’s not perfect.
She has imperfections just like everyone else does and rather than feeling as though she needs to act like she is perfect when interacting with you, she can relax and feel free to be her true self; imperfections and all.
If she makes a mistake during conversation or does something that other people might see as embarrassing, she won’t really have to worry so much about you.
She knows that you are a loving, wise and intelligent man who understands that mistakes happen and that no one in perfect. You love her and accept her for who she is and you love and accept yourself for who you are and everything is just fine.
Turning on the Charm
Another big part of how to charm a woman is to make sure that you add in some flirting to your interactions.
Most guys don’t feel comfortable flirting with women because they assume it will be seen as sleazy or too forward. Yet, it’s actually the most discreet, classy way of displaying your sexual interest in a woman and letting her innocently show her sexual interest back.
Watch this video to understand how flirting works and how you can use it to charm a woman…