If you want to get out of the friend zone, you have to stop acting like a friend and start making her feel sexually attracted to you.
If your main approach to her is to be a friendly, nice guy, then you’re most-likely going to get rejected when you ask her out, suggest starting a relationship or attempt to kiss her. Here’s why…
You Placed Yourself in the Friend Zone
If you are in the friend zone with a girl you like, it’s not her fault. She didn’t place you in the friend zone; you did. You placed yourself in the friend zone by thinking, acting and behaving like you were just a friend to her, rather than making her feel turned on by you and then escalating to kissing and sex.
It’s not up to a woman to lead you into a sexual relationship. If you talk to her like a friend, act like a friend and behave like a friend, then you will be a friend to her.
However, if you begin triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you by thinking, behaving and acting like a potential lover or boyfriend, she will start to open herself up to dating you, kissing you, having sex with you and potentially having a relationship with you.
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Are You Always “There” For Her as a Friend?
Being there as a friend for a woman isn’t what makes a woman wet.
If you want a woman to feel turned on by you, it’s about triggering her feelings of sexual attraction by displaying the traits that naturally attract women. Some examples include: Confidence, humor, charm and charisma.
When you make a woman feel sexually attracted to you, the next step is to build up her desire to kiss you and have sex with you by creating sexual tension. When you build up sexual tension between you and a woman, she then wants to release that sexual tension with kissing and sex.
However, if you’re simply being a helpful, nice friend for her and trying to show her how good of a guy you are by “being there” for her, then she’s not going to get turned on. She will like you as a person, but your actions won’t make her feel intense sexual desire.
Have You Told Her How You Feel?
If you’ve only ever been friends with a woman and you suddenly declare your love or desire for her, she will almost always reject you unless she feels the same way.
She will only feel the same way if she feels sexually attracted to you and respects you as a guy. If she only sees you as a nice friend, a woman will usually give you a classic line such as, “I don’t want to ruin our friendship. Let’s just remain friends” or “You’re like a brother to me…I don’t want to change that.”
When a guy hears that from the woman he’s been fantasizing about being in a relationship with, he feels crushed. He might also become upset and feel confused about why she would reject him and go for guys who don’t treat her as well as he does. He will wonder, “Why does she lower herself to be with douchebags, when I am right here and I would love her and treat her so much better?”
What he doesn’t realize is that acting like an innocent friend isn’t the way to quickly get a woman into a sexual relationship. If he wants to get out of the friend zone, he needs to stop pretending to be a friend and start saying and doing the types of things that will turn her on.
When she is attracted and turned on by him, her behavior will automatically change. She will start showing him many signs of interest (e.g. more frequent touching, hugging or even just phone texting and messaging over social media).
When he makes a move, she will happily go along with it. She will feel like she’s hit the dating jackpot because she’s not only attracted to him, but she really likes him as a person because he’s such a great guy.
That can be you, but you have to make her feel attracted to you first.
Making Her Feel Attracted to You
From now on, you’ve got to focus on making her feel attracted to you.
She already knows that you’re a good guy, which is great, but unless you make her feel turned on by you, she isn’t going to be changing how she feels anytime soon. All it will take for you to be slammed further into the friend zone is for another guy to come along and make her feel sexually attracted to him.
Even if you’ve been “hanging out” with her for months or years, she will instantly forget about her “relationship” with you and kiss and have sex with another guy who turns her on. You might feel angry and betrayed if she does that, but it’s how nature works.
A woman wants to be with a guy who makes her feel sexually attracted. If you also happen to be a good guy, she sees that as a welcome bonus. However, you have to start with sexual attraction and she will then appreciate and fall in love with all the other great things about you.