Not all women cheat, but cheating has definitely become more common these days because women don’t have to put up with a man for life if they don’t love, respect and feel attraction for him.
In the past, it was shameful to break up or divorce, but it has unfortunately become very common and acceptable.
If you don’t want to get cheated on by a woman, you can lessen the odds to nearly zero by:
- Choosing the right woman for you, rather than accepting whatever you can get.
- Deepening her feelings of love, respect and attraction throughout the relationship, rather than taking her for granted.
A lot of guys simply accept whatever they can get with women and as a result, they often find themselves trying to make a relationship work with a woman who isn’t compatible.
To avoid finding yourself in a relationship with a woman who isn’t compatible with you, it’s important that you develop your ability to attract women.
When you are able to attract women with your confidence and charismatic personality, you then have your choice with women and can choose a perfectly compatible woman for you.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use that to get yourself a compatible woman and then avoid being cheated on later on in a relationship…
As you will discover from the video above, it is possible to be the sort of man that a woman never wants to leave.
Not all women cheat, but when a modern woman finds herself in a relationship with a man who she isn’t very compatible with, she now has the option to leave or cheat to ensure that she has a new guy to go to when she breaks up with her old one.
Why Are You Asking if All Women Cheat?
When a man asks, “Do all women cheat?” it may be because the woman he loves has recently cheated on him, a friend has just been cheated on or he has suddenly realized that he’s been cheated on by most women he’s been with.
Either way, when a guy has been cheated on by a woman that he truly loves and is hurting as a result, it’s only natural that he’s going to question whether all women are likely to treat him the same way in futre.
According to statistics published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (USA), 57% of men and 54% of women admit to having cheated at some point in their lives when in a relationship.
Interestingly, 74% of the men surveyed said they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught and 68% of the women surveyed said the same.
With these kind of statistics, it’s fair to say that not all women cheat and not all men cheat, but clearly there’s very little difference between the genders when it comes to infidelity.
So, if you ever hear someone saying that women cheat more or men cheat more, just know that they are basing it on their personal experiences.
Generally speaking, it’s pretty much the same because I have found that most women are not willing to admit to cheating because it is more detrimental to a woman’s social standing than it is for a man.
I would say that cheating is pretty much even amongst men and women.
What Counts as Cheating?
So, what actually counts as cheating?
This is a question that many couples in a relationship will never ask one another because they don’t want to give the other person the impression of being okay with a bit of flirting or hugging when interacting with the opposite sex.
I think that it goes without saying that having sex with someone else when you’re in a relationship is definitely cheating, but what about kissing someone else, or flirting with someone else, or even just having sexual thoughts about someone else?
Cheating can be physical or it can be emotional and unless both parties have clearly agreed on their expectations of one another, there’s plenty of potential for upset.
A lot of the guys who contact me with questions along the lines of, “Do all women cheat?” or “Why have so many of my girlfriends cheated on me?” have found themselves in situations where they see their girlfriend’s flirtatious behavior as unacceptable, yet she sees things differently.
For example: One guy explained to me that his girlfriend had become really good friends with a male work colleague of hers and had spent a lot of time with him outside of work.
He felt that by spending so much time with him – sometimes sleeping over on his couch – she was cheating on him, but she couldn’t understand why he felt that way because her male friend was just that, a friend, and there was “nothing going on” between them.
If this resonates with you, you need to question whether you really want to be in a relationship with a woman who has very different relationship expectations to you.
Personally speaking, I would see that as unacceptable behavior and if my girlfriend (update: I recently got married to my sexy, 22 year old girlfriend who is 15 years younger than me) ever wanted to sleep on the couch at a guy’s place from her work, it would be the last time she would be able to call herself my girlfriend.
However, I don’t have a problem with her having male friends. She has plenty of male friends. It’s just that she doesn’t sleep over at their house! My girlfriend and I have had “the chat” about what we see as acceptable and unacceptable and as a result, neither of us feels as though we need to hide friends from each other.
What Makes a Woman Cheat?
If you’re in a situation where your definition of “cheating” is different to your woman’s definition, it’s all too easy to slip into patterns of behavior that will make the situation worse.
For example: You might become insecure and jealous when your woman interacts with other guys or accuse her of liking guys she talks to or even looks at. Insecure thinking, behavior and actions never, ever helps the situation and only makes it worse because women are attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness.
If you don’t want a woman to feel the need to cheat on you when in a relationship, you have to be the sort of man who she can look up to, not look down on.
As a man, it’s your responsibility to guide you and your woman into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction for each other. If you fail to do that because you’re too busy being insecure and trying to stop her from looking at other guys, then she will naturally begin falling out of love with you and other guys will become more appealing to her.
The bottom line here is that women are attracted to confident men who are secure in themselves and what they’ve got to offer in a relationship.
Men with genuine self-confidence and true, alpha male characteristics are men who effectively have their pick of women. If you’re that man, the woman you have chosen to be in a relationship with will be doing everything she can to ensure that you choose to stay in a relationship with her.
Thoughts of cheating on you are never going to be on her mind for very long, because she will always be reminded (because you will consistently “be the man” in the relationship) that she already has what she wants and needs.
However, any sort of behavior that reveals you to be a man who lacks confidence or a man who is insecure in any way will make her feel less sexually attracted to you and much more open to thoughts of cheating on you when she’s in the company of other men.
Today’s Women Can and Do Leave if They Are Unhappy
Unfortunately, today’s approach to relationships is not like how it was back in the 1800s where it was considered shameful for a woman to break up with a man.
These days, all levels of society actively encourage women to break up with a man if he isn’t good enough. SO, when a woman isn’t happy, she just goes out and gets herself a new man.
TV shows, TV talk show hosts, celebrities, teachers and even family and friends are saying to women, “If you’re not happy, then dump him!” and that is giving women the freedom of mind to cheat if they want to (because relationships aren’t seen as that serious, unless they are serious) and dump guys who aren’t up to scratch.
Are You Causing Women to Cheat?
Personally speaking, the whole reason I started The Modern Man was that I got cheated on by the love of my life and went through years of loneliness and depression before eventually getting my mojo back.
In the relationship with the girl who dumped me, I was too needy, I wasn’t enough of a man for her and she, like most modern women, realized that she didn’t need to stay faithful to me. So, cheated on me and then dumped me.
Back when my ex-girlfriend cheated on me and then dumped me, I too was asking, “Do all women cheat?” and was turned off the idea of relationships for many years following that experience.
The pain of having my heart broken like that was just too much. I remember thinking that I was going to remain single and alone for life because women were just too difficult.
Back then, I didn’t know what I eventually put into videos like this that are now helping men all around the world…
After going through years of pain and loneliness after being cheated on and then dumped, I eventually realized that just because you’re in a relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that she is obligated to stick by you no matter what.
If you end up being an insecure, emotionally-weak guy and don’t make her feel what she wants to feel, she will eventually have to start thinking about herself and her needs. She will warn you and request that you change, but if nothing does, she will naturally begin to stray.
Do You Have the Ability to Maintain a Relationship That Lasts For Life?
How do you behave when you are deep into a relationship with a woman (i.e. past the initial dating phase and the honeymoon phase)?
Have you been causing women to cheat on you because you’ve always slowly ruined the love, respect and attraction you feel for each other, rather than deepening it and guiding you and her into the more advanced levels of a relationship?
If you’re an insecure guy (i.e. you have low self-esteem, don’t see yourself as being very valuable to most women, you aren’t very confident in social situations, you need a woman to be emotionally gentle with you because you are sensitive, etc), then you’re probably going to become jealous of any other man in your woman’s life, even if she is just friends with him.
This insecurity may lead you to being overly-possessive and suspicious of her every move when you’re not around. When she continually sees that side of you, her attraction and respect for you will gradually diminish until she begins falling out of love with you.
When that happens, she will either break up with you or cheat on you and then break up with you. Being insecure in a relationship with a woman is never helpful. It always creates problems rather than fixing them.
For example: The more insecure a guy thinks, behaves and acts around his girlfriend, the less attraction she will feel for him.
Her lack of attraction will usually lead to her behaving in ways (e.g. pulling back her interest, being less affectionate, etc) that arouses his suspicions even more, causing him to become even more insecure…and so the vicious cycle continues.
Suddenly she stops dedicating all of her time to him and begins spending more time with other friends. He then becomes more insecure, jealous, controlling and protective and she falls further out of love with him.
How about you?
Have you ever felt suspicious because your girlfriend didn’t respond to a text message quick enough, or didn’t pick up her phone right away even though you knew she was awake and available to talk?
Chances are she was in the shower or doing something else equally innocent at the time, but your insecurity led to you imagining she was with another man or simply losing interest in you.
That kind of insecurity is never helpful in a relationship. Sure, if she’s a liar and she’s always flirting with other men, then you have reason to be suspicious, but why would you be in a relationship with a woman like that anyway?
If you want to avoid being in a relationship with an untrustworthy, incompatible woman, you need to choose your women instead of accepting whatever you can get whenever you get lucky once in a while.
Some Women Use Men For a While and Then Discard Them
Always remember this important fact of nature: Women are attracted to confident, alpha males and while they may put up with a lesser male temporarily (e.g. to use him for money, to use him to get over an ex, to use him for some attention, etc), they will never be truly loyal to him.
If an alpha male comes along and is willing to commit to her, she will jump ship so fast that the lower-ranking male won’t know what happened.
A woman yearns to be with a guy who can make her feel a deep and continuous attraction for him. This comes down to you being a well-rounded man who is able to deepen her respect, love and attraction over time.
These days, you can’t expect a woman to stick around just because a relationship felt good in the beginning.
If you don’t want to be another victim of female cheating, you need to become and be the sort of man that women don’t want to cheat on.
It might sound like a lot of work, but it’s actually a lot easier than going through a life of stress and worry about potentially being cheated on. When you know that you’re the type of guy that a woman wouldn’t want to cheat on, it allows you to relax and get on with enjoying life together.