In today’s world, a woman can get her own food, buy her own home, lock her own doors and if she needs help in an emergency situation, she is perfectly capable of calling the police or fire department on her own.
She can now be a leader of men, pursue her dreams and change the world how she sees fit.
She can fight battles alongside men, be a stay at home mom, or party like there’s no tomorrow.
She can have sex before marriage, break up with a guy who isn’t treating her well and travel around the world for as long as she feels like it, without feeling like she has to settle down and get married to be considered a real woman.
The world is her oyster.
Yet, if she is like most women, she doesn’t feel safe on her own and still has an instinctive desire to feel protected by her man.
If she’s so good at taking care of herself, why does she need to feel protected by a man?
It is Still Dangerous For Women Out There
Unfortunately, despite the heavy police presence in today’s world, a woman can still be taken (and kept) against her will, raped or even killed.
Evidence of this can be found in the almost weekly TV news reports shown across in the world. This is as true for women today as it was a thousand years ago or even 10,000 years ago.
So, a woman’s instinct to feel protected by her man isn’t about our long forgotten “caveman days” or some other obscure evolutionary theory like that. Instead, her ongoing need to feel protected is simply about the fact that we still live in a very challenging and sometimes dangerous world.
The danger for women is not only about men who might want to hurt or kill her; it’s about the challenge of survival against the elements of nature. Despite our supermarkets, highways and smartphones, human societies are usually just a hurricane or tornado away from basic survival.
We’re not out of the woods yet in terms of having this reality completely under control.
Whether or not a woman is consciously aware of the fact that we’re only a hurricane or tornado away from basic survival, she is still naturally going to feel more attracted to a man who seems like he would keep her safe under any circumstance.
This is her natural instinct and it isn’t something that women will be changing anytime soon.
Hard-Wired Human Instincts Don’t Go Away Overnight
For most of human history, a woman had to rely on a man to physically protect her and her offspring.
If a man was unable to protect her, she was at risk of being taken advantage of, hurt or even killed by other men who didn’t have to worry about being sent to prison or being shamed on TV by the media.
For 99% of human history, there was no TV, no telephone to call the police and no advanced medical treatments for serious and painful injuries. It was basically the survival of the toughest. The physically weak could be taken advantage of and they often were.
Only in the last 50 to 100 years have women begun to feel safe when home alone or while walking along some well-lit streets at night without the protection of a man by her side. It really depends on the city though because most cities still have a lot of rapists prowling around.
According to a recent study, it was found that 68% of sexual assaults and rapes are not reported, so just because it doesn’t appear on the news every night, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t happening.
Despite the increase in feelings of safety while living in a modern, civilized, a woman’s instinctive desire to feel protected by a man hasn’t gone away. It’s a hard-wired instinct and it is difficult to ignore for even the most independent of modern women.
Should Men and Women Switch Roles? Should Women Start Protecting Men Now?
Reading this article, some women may think, “Why do men have to keep us safe? Many of us women are perfectly capable of keeping men safe. We can fight in wars or even in cage fights for the UFC, so why can’t we be the ones who protect men?”
I say, “some women may think” because most women still like to feel protected by a man and don’t ever plan on fighting in a war or a bloody cage fight for the UFC.
It is awesome to see women on the front lines with men and even in the UFC, but that doesn’t mean that men and women need to switch roles. I don’t think that women need to take on the role of being “the protector” of men, unless of course an individual woman chooses to do so for her own reasons.
In my opinion, women add more value to the world when they “challenge” men to become stronger, instead of trying to “protect” men from the big bad world around them.
Why Women Challenging Men is a Good Thing
If women accepted guys without challenging them in any way, it would begin to eat away at the emotional strength of the human race.
Here’s what I mean…
When a woman interacts with a guy and rejects him because he is nervous, insecure and self-doubting around her, it represents a challenge to him to fix his emotional issues and become stronger, or face the prospect of being alone for longer.
If he doesn’t improve his confidence and continues on in life as an emotionally weak man, he will continue to get rejected or dumped out of a relationship with a woman can no longer put up with his insecurity and emotional weakness.
Instead of rewarding men for being weak, women challenge men to become stronger and over time, this benefits humanity by making us all stronger and more resilient.
In the video below, I explain the real reason why a lot of good men fail with women…including why I used to fail and get rejected.
Back when I was getting rejected by women, I had no idea that my lack of emotional strength was the main reason why women didn’t like me.
I didn’t know how to be confident and as a result, I would display nervousness and try hard to impress women in the hope that they would like me enough to give me a chance.
Rather than women rewarding my emotional weakness with sex, love and devotion, they rejected me. It didn’t matter how nice I was to women, they instinctively felt turned off by the fact that I wasn’t very confident.
In fact, most women felt emotionally stronger than me, which turned them off on a deep level. It was only when I worked out how to be confident and began displaying confidence in my interactions with women, did they finally start to take me seriously.
Women Made Me a Stronger Man
It is largely thanks to the challenging behavior of women that I am able to write this article today with clarity and confidence.
Before women challenged me to become the man that I am today, I was nervous, self-doubting and unsure of myself. I had a low level job and suffered from mild social anxiety. I was still the same good guy that I am today, but I was mentally and emotionally weak.
Sometimes, usually after having a few drinks, I could work up the courage to approach women. Yet, they would almost always challenge me by behaving uninterested, asking me questions designed to make me squirm (e.g. “Why are you talking to us?”) or they would simply reject me.
They could sense my weakness and they didn’t want anything to do with it.
I felt horrible and I was deeply annoyed at women for behaving in that way. However, it wasn’t until I sorted out my emotional issues and became a confident man that women started showing me interest and respect.
Instead of rewarding me for my weakness beforehand, women challenged me to become a stronger man or face more rejection and lonliness.
When I became a confident and emotionally secure guy, women stopped ignoring me and rejecting me and began showing me lots of interest and falling madly in love with me if we happened to start a relationship. It was a nice reward to get for all the hard work I put into improving myself.
Back when I was getting rejected though, I really felt bitter towards women.
I saw them as being mean, bitchy and stuck up. I hated women and loved them at the same time.
Yet, when I became truly confident and was rewarded for it, I gained a newfound respect and appreciation for the contribution that women make to the development, strength and wisdom of humanity.
Now, I look at women with love and respect, for it is because of women that I have become the strong man that I am today.
Of course, me getting my dating life sorted out wasn’t the “wider benefit to humanity” that resulted from women challenging me. The bigger benefit was in the strong, clear-headed leader that I became and still am to this day.
Due to the massive amount of personal growth I had to go through to become a more confident, emotionally strong and socially intelligent guy (all to get women to feel proper attraction for me), I ended up getting promoted at work (three times within six months).
In response to the challenge from women, I went from being a self-doubting customer service employee at the bottom of the ladder in my office, to a respected leader of international company.
I didn’t only become a leader of just one team; I eventually became the leader of the managers and began to teach those managers about leadership. I rose above all of my prior insecurities and self-doubt and became a powerful, useful man for the world…all thanks to how women treated me.
If women had initially accepted me as a weak man, none of that would have happened and I would not be running The Modern Man today and helping thousands of other guys to transform themselves into confident, more capable men.
I always hear back from Modern Man customers who’ve not only fixed their dating life by using my advice, but have gotten promoted at work, improved their relationships with family and friends and become someone that others can look up to.
In my opinion, women don’t need to protect men from the big bad world.
Instead, most men actually need women to challenge them to become stronger and to be a pillar of strength for this world.
The Genius of the Masculine/Feminine Dynamic
When it comes to a sexual relationship between two human beings, there is always someone who is more masculine or more feminine than the other.
It is the masculine and feminine difference between two people that creates the sexual attraction, just like positively charged magnets will be attracted to negatively charged magnets and vice versa.
It’s just how nature works and it’s actually quite ingenious.
For example: In a homosexual relationship, one man is usually more masculine than the other guy and for a lesbian relationship one woman is usually more feminine than the other woman. In a heterosexual relationship, the man is traditionally the more masculine one and the woman is more feminine.
So, what does this have to do with a woman’s desire to feel protected by her man?
It helps us answer the question of why most women want to feel protected by their man, while some women are not interested in having a man give them a feeling of protection at all.
Generally speaking, a woman who does want to feel protected by her man is usually going to be a more feminine woman at heart. A feminine woman will be more interested in love and relationship that she has with her man.
Being in love and being with her man will be her number one priority in addition to anything else about life that she might be interested in (e.g. family, music, art, dancing, beauty, cooking, etc).
Of course, that’s not to say that a masculine man can’t be interested in any of those things; some of the best art and music of all time has been created by men.
A masculine man can take an interest in ANYTHING he likes (even if that means he works as a hairdresser or designs clothes for a living), just like a woman can take an interest in ANYTHING she likes.
However, what a guy needs to understand is that a feminine woman (the type of woman who likes being “the woman” or “feeling girly”) will be more attracted to masculine men who are focused on their purpose in life, who are confident and strong and who are generally considered to be a “man’s man.”
If a guy feels mostly attracted to feminine women (just think about the type of porn you jerk off to – that will tell you the type of women you turn you on the most), he will need to think, behave and take action in a very masculine way in life if he wants to attract a feminine woman and maintain her attraction in a long term/lifetime relationship.
The more masculine he is, the more naturally attractive he will be to feminine women.
Just in case your wondering, by “masculine” I am not talking about lifting weights to build big muscles. The most important masculinity (from a woman’s perspective) is in how you think, feel, behave and take action in life.
The truth is, you can be considered very masculine by women without ever lifting a single dumbbell in the gym.
Of course, not all women want a very masculine man.
The type of woman who doesn’t want to feel protected by her man is usually going to be more masculine at heart.
She may have grown up with a father who wanted a son (but never got one), so he showed more love to his daughter when she behaved like a boy. As a result, she developed a masculine personality and identity.
She might have also have been born with a more masculine energy, which is just as common, especially among lesbian women.
A masculine woman will be more interested in her career and will usually prefer a more feminine man who will essentially let her wear the pants in a relationship. There’s nothing wrong with a woman being more masculine at heart and having a more feminine man; if that’s what makes both of them happy, then go for it.
Yet, I have found that the majority of women who have a subservient man or feminine man, wish they had a more masculine man; a man who wears the pants in a relationship and naturally makes them feel safe and protected.
What I Love About the Dynamic Between Men and Women
What I love most about the dynamic between men and women is how it challenges men to grow and become stronger.
Instead of slowing the human race down by rewarding emotionally weak, insecure men with sex, love and devotion, women speed up the progress of humanity by maintaining their preference for confident, emotionally strong men.
If men were too afraid to stand up to the challenges of life and instead wanted to feel protected by their woman, what sort of world would we be living in?
Is it really the role of women to protect weak men, or are women achieving more for humanity by challenging men to become stronger?
I think not.
Men who see this as unfair simply haven’t yet experienced the type of sexual and loving bliss that comes from being a masculine man for a feminine woman. Nothing quite compares to it.
When a man refuses to be strong and happens to get a woman into a relationship, she will eventually lose respect and attraction for him and they will either continue on unhappy, or she will cheat on him or dump him.
I know this because it happened to me and because I’ve helped 100s of guys to get a woman back after being dumped for that very reason.