Most people you ask will give you a “Yes” or “No” answer to the question of, “Do women like men with long hair?” but the real answer is that “it depends on the woman.” Some women love men with long hair, some women hate long hair on men and some don’t care either way. However, just because a woman might say she doesn’t like long hair on men, it doesn’t mean that a guy with long hair can’t date her, have sex with her or even marry her. Why? What really matters to a woman is the man’s confidence and masculinity.

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Confident guy with short hair. Nervous guy with short hair.
Confident guy with long hair. Nervous guy with long hair.
Confident bald guy. Nervous bald guy.



Get the picture?

Women are attracted to confident men and are turned off by nervous, low self-esteem, self-doubting, lower-ranking males. If you’re shy, nervous or self-doubting around women, it doesn’t matter if you have long, short or medium length hair – they usually aren’t going to be interested in you. Women are attracted to the strength of men (i.e. confidence, drive, etc) and turned off by the weakness. A confident man can have no hair and be irresistibly attractive to women, but a nervous, self-doubting guy with no hair will be a turn off. Get it?

“But, I Heard a Woman Say That She Hates Men With Long Hair”

When you ask a woman what she finds attractive in a man, she will say all sorts of superficial things. For instance, most women will say, “A tall, dark and handsome man with lots of money, a sports car, works as a doctor or some other high-paying profession, listens to me, buys me lots of expensive things and treats me like a princess.” Yet, when you look at the boyfriend/husband of most women, he’s just an average or below-average looking guy, with an average job and an average life.

If you look at what women ask for via their online dating profiles, they will usually ask for tall men with lots of money. Yet, it doesn’t mean that she won’t hook up with a shorter guy or guy of average height who has a normal job. It’s just what she is putting out there. The same applies to men. If you ask a guy what type of woman he wants, he’ll usually think of model-looking women or sexy women like pornstars. Yet, he will be just as happy with a pretty, “girl next door” type of woman who works in a normal job.

The point is, don’t base your life on the superficial things that women say. In fact, women usually say such things as a test of your confidence and belief in yourself. If you hear a woman say that she only dates guys with short hair, then it is usually just a veiled test of your confidence. Will you suddenly lose confidence around her because she said that, or are you an alpha male who is confident in himself no matter what a woman says?

Changing Your Hairstyle Doesn’t Change Who You Are as a Person

Hair trends come and go just like fashion trends. Some guys get sucked into changing their hairstyles to fit in with the latest fashion (in the hope that women will finally like them as a result), but changing your hair doesn’t change who you are or make women say, “Wow! I don’t care that you’re not that confident. You have an AMAZING hairstyle, so I want to get down on my knees and suck your…”

With that said, your hair and the clothes you wear can create a certain “look” for you, so it is important to consider what message you’re sending out about yourself with the way you dress and style your hair. If you have long hair, you’re going to stand out simply because it goes against the cultural norm (i.e. men wear their hair short and women wear it longer), so you need to be sure that you’re standing out for the right reasons.
Long hair can make you appear:

  • Unruly: Depending on how you wear it, long hair can mark you out as a bit of a rebel. It might give you a sexually attractive “rough and ready” manly image, but it could also make you look scruffy and unclean if you don’t style it properly.
  • Unconventional: Many artistic and creative men favor long hair as a way of breaking away from convention and the norm. When a guy is confident, wearing his hair long is a cool statement. However, when a man is shy and lacking in confidence, it can make him look like a bit of a loser or social outcast.
  • Intelligent: Long hair on a man is often associated with him being more of an intellectual, studious type of guy than an outdoorsy, hands-on kind of guy. Obviously, there are always exceptions to every rule, but sporty guys who live an active lifestyle are less likely to have long hair simply because it gets in the way.
  • Carefree: Many guys have long hair for no reason other than it suits their lifestyle. They’re not trying to create any kind of image, in fact, they’ve got far too much going on and they’re having way too much fun to worry about their hair.
  • An attention seeker: Some guys choose to have long hair because they know it will make them stand out – and that’s exactly what they want. They crave attention and are prepared to work hard at “keeping up appearances” to make sure all eyes are on them when they enter a room. Of course, getting a woman’s attention because of your outer appearance won’t help you to keep her attention, if you don’t have the inner personality or strength of character to back up your claims about who you are.

What is the Best Look to Have For Success With Women?

To be successful at attracting the types of women who are currently compatible with you, I recommend that you “dress for your scene.” This means that if you want to approach women who work as fashion models, then you need to wear fashionable clothes and understand fashion. You can still pick up those women without wearing fashionable clothes, but it will make it that little bit harder for you. At my level of skill with women, you can pick up women while wearing whatever you want. However, if you’re not very skilled at approaching and picking up women, then not dressing for your scene is going to make it more difficult for you.

Focus on Building Your Confidence, Not on Styling Your Hair in Different Ways

If you lack self-confidence and are shy, nervous and generally awkward around women, then women are not going to be attracted to you. Having short, long or medium length hair isn’t going to make much of a difference. Women are attracted to confident, masculine men who stand out as men who are secure in who they are and what they’ve got to offer. Having long hair can make you stand out in a crowd, but it’s not your hair that holds a woman’s attention, it’s who you are.

Spending truckloads of money buying new clothes or wasting loads of time trying 20 different hairstyles isn’t going to make you successful with women if you don’t have the inner qualities women want in a man. You can look like you’ve just stepped off the front cover of a glossy men’s magazine, but if you don’t have what it takes to confidently approach women and strike up a relaxed, fun conversation while being yourself, then you don’t have what it takes to hold her attention – irrespective of how long or short your hair is.

Focus on building your confidence around women and improving your conversation skills, rather than wasting time thinking about your hair. The length of your hair really doesn’t matter much at all and you will see evidence of that when you look around in the real world and notice that beautiful women are with all sorts of men (e.g. bald, short, fat, longhaired, shorthaired, etc).

When a woman first looks at you, she has to judge you about something and she will. People are always judging you, just like you are always silently judging those around you. However, the secret is to be confident in yourself. To a woman, the most attractive thing about a man is his confidence. If you have long, short or no hair at all on your head, then yes – women will judge you about it.

Yet, as soon as a woman begins to experience your confidence, masculinity and social intelligence, she forgets all about your hair (or lack thereof) and simply fall in love with who you are as a man. She may have gone through her entire life saying that she doesn’t like guys with long hair, only to end up marrying a guy with a pony tail. Why? A man’s hair is not his most important trait.