The best way to stop feeling intimidated by beautiful women is to understand that they don’t actually want you to feel intimidated. Use that wisdom to allow yourself to feel the confidence that they are hoping to see from you.
Beautiful women may appear to behave in a mean or cold way, but that is just to test how confident you really are. The #1 trait that women look for in a guy is real confidence, so beautiful women (and pretty much all other women) use disinterested body language to scare off all the nervous and insecure guys and attract the confident guys. Most guys will see a beautiful women roll her eyes or look a guy up and down in a rejecting way and think, “There’s no way she would like me.” Yet, she’s just doing what she needs to do to ensure that she isn’t approached by wimps.
Personally, I’ve met and had sex with a lot of beautiful women over the years (some photos) since learning how to talk to and attract women. Some of my girlfriends would be considered very pretty, some cute and girly, some girl next door types, while others have clearly been model material or actually working as models (I hooked up with four catwalk models over the years). Despite the differences between each woman, one thing has remained the same every time – the way I treat each woman. I don’t care if she is a TV reporter (an ex-girlfriend of mine was), a catwalk model (same again) or a dental nurse (yes, that was the one time I actually enjoyed going to the dentist!), I always treat each woman the same. They don’t get extra special treatment from me just because they happen to be pretty. In fact, that is one of the main reasons I have been able to have my choice of women. So many women are relieved, impressed and utterly intrigued that, unlike other guys, I am not shaking in my boots because of their job, looks or obvious sex appeal.
Here are four additional ways to relax around beautiful women and allow them to see the real you, instead of the shocked, nervous and intimidated version of you…
1. Don’t Place Her Above You in Terms of Value
When a guy approaches a woman that he finds really, really attractive, he usually blows it by acting like a little boy who has just met his superhero. Yes, a beautiful woman is a great to look at and she is special, but she doesn’t want to be with a guy who feels less valuable than her. A guy like that will most-likely become insecure and clingy in a relationship and she will have a hard time trying to break up with him. By placing her above him in terms of value, a guy will naturally begin to feel intimidated and will then appear nervous (which is a total turn off for beautiful women). But, you’re not that guy. You know that underneath her beautiful face and sexy body, she’s just like any other girl. She’s looking for love and romance just like the girl next door is, so don’t assume that she is above all that “love” and “sex” stuff – she wants it and she wants it now.
A beautiful woman (and most other women for that matter) doesn’t want to be with a “boy” who looks up to her in awe. She doesn’t want to feel as though she is stronger than you, mentally and emotionally. She wants you to be the alpha in the situation, not her. If you struggle to think, behave and act like an alpha male around beautiful women, work on it and become an an alpha male. If she can see that you are an alpha male and are not intimidated by her, she will not be able to stop herself from feeling a deep, instinctive attraction for you. She will be delighted to have finally met a guy who doesn’t shake in his boots around her and will usually make it very easy for you to “pick her up,” by showing you lots of signals of interest and by trying to keep the conversation going.
2. Forget Her Looks
Did you know that most women (96% in fact) do not consider themselves to be beautiful? Dove (the beauty care company) conducted a global survey and found that only 4% of women considered themselves to be beautiful. What does that tell you? It means that 96% of the women you approach secretly consider themselves average or even ugly. I was surprised when one of the catwalk models I had sex with said to me, “I don’t know why everyone thinks I’m a model. I’m ugly.” Yet, she was stunningly beautiful, had a perfect figure and walked down the catwalk with perfect grace. It was around that time that Ben, Stu and I were developing the program Mastery Methods and Mindsets and that hook up, in addition to many other pretty girls who were secretly doubting themselves, allowed me to include some very powerful, mastery level mindsets for interacting with women. When you know what we know about women, the whole game changes. You realize that, as a confident guy, you have all the power. It’s pretty amazing.
As for the women who know that they are beautiful (e.g. my girlfriend), they still don’t want you to feel intimidated. Although a woman won’t openly admit it to you when you meet her, she wants to see that her looks don’t have any power over you. She wants to know that you find her sexy, but she doesn’t want to see that you’re intimidated because of her beauty. Showing signs of intimidation, nervousness and self-doubt around a beautiful woman is the fastest way to turn her off you completely. She’s looking for a guy who believes in himself and feels worthy of having a woman like her. If you walk up and try to pretend that you feel worthy, all she has to do is behave in a cold and disinterested manner and you will most-likely begin looking nervous and unsure of yourself. She will then know that it’s just an act. If you want to be confident for real, then learn from us here at The Modern Man.
3. Make Her Laugh
When most guys interact with a woman they find really attractive, they shut down and become afraid to express their true personality and sense of humor. As you may know, you are at your funniest and coolest when you are being yourself and not holding back. Trust your gut instinct and just say and do what you feel like saying at that point in time; that’s when you are going to say the best jokes and create the most interesting types of conversation. Let her see the confident, easy-going and cool version of you, not the nervous, closed up, self-doubting version of you.
When it comes to attracting and maintaining the interest of any type of woman, laughter is very important. Relationships that stand the test of time are often held together because the couple are able to laugh at life and the sometimes unwanted circumstances they find themselves in, rather than getting all stressed out over it. Whenever life throws them a curveball, they know that in the end, they will find a way to make it all better, so they might as well have a laugh about it and keep soldiering on. So, when you’re talking to a beautiful woman, don’t come across as the type of guy who will break down if life gets tough. Show her your natural, easy-going side and bring some laughter into the conversation. She will instinctively pick up on the fact that a relationship with you would be so much more fun and a whole lot less stressful than a relationship with a nervous, uptight and overly polite guy would be. If you want to learn funny and interesting things to say when you first meet a woman, read The Flow and for loads more examples, listen to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation.
4. Make Her Want to See You Again
If you are sure that you can have sex with her on the first night you meet her, you should stay in the interaction and keep going until she is moaning your name in pleasure in your bedroom. However, if you are sure that she will require at least one or two dates before having, you need to ensure that she feels eager to see you again. How do you do that? Watch Dating Power and find out.
Going from a conversation to a kiss and then to sex that night is explained in our popular program, Dating Power. You will also learn how to escalate a first or second date to sex, if you were able to get sex on the first night. So, if you’re tired of feeling intimidated by beautiful women and would rather be having sex or a relationship with them, make sure that you learn from us here at The Modern Man. We’ve been hooking up with beautiful women for years and we’ve also taught 1,000s of guys, from all over the world, to enjoy the same type of success with women that we’ve been enjoying. Are you ready to get started?