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Choosing a Sexually Satisfying Woman
The best type of woman is one that you are incredibly attracted to sexually, emotionally and intellectually. However, for a relationship to last in today's world, she must also be a woman of good character.
Have you ever had sex with a woman who blew your mind with her beauty, sexiness and skills in the bedroom? Likewise, have you ever had sex with a woman who really didn't turn you on much at all and left you feeling unsatisfied?
When it comes to choosing a woman for a sex or a committed relationship, it sounds pretty obvious to say that you should choose the first type of woman. If you want have amazing sex and have the capacity to remain passionately attracted to your woman, you need to choose a woman whom you find incredibly attractive. Additionally, if you want to have a successful relationship, you need to choose a woman of good character (i.e. loyal, honest, good values).
However, for reasons that I will discuss in this article, most guys avoid going after the type of women they truly want and end up making what I call The Big Mistake. Before we get to that topic though, let me ask you some important questions that will help you avoid making The Big Mistake...
What Type of Woman Do You REALLY Want?
If you could choose the ideal woman for a relationship, what would she be like as a person, what would she look like and how sexually satisfying would she be for you? Would you prefer a “Plain Jane” type of woman that other guys wouldn't want to hit on, or a beautiful woman that would stick by you for life if you knew how to be her type of man?
Let’s take a look at a few random examples of women and you can decide which one sounds more appealing to you. If you could choose from the following three types of women, which would you choose for a long-term relationship?
Option 1: Plain Jane, Not Very Attractive, Low Sex Drive, Isn't Too Fussed if Her Relationship Breaks Up or Her Marriage Ends Up in Divorce
She is a woman who is plain in most ways including her personality, looks and opinions on just about everything. At the end of a day, she's usually too tired or stressed from work to be a sexy woman for her man and just wants to eat, watch TV and then go to sleep. She has a very low sex drive and rarely, if ever, initiates sex. On the rare occasion that she wants to have sex, she basically just wants it to be over and done with as soon as possible.
While she might stick by her man for a long time, it's not because she's passionately in love with him and enjoys pleasing him sexually. She will stick around because she has nothing better to do, but will be wide open to being seduced into an affair after enduring years of a boring, sexless relationship. Since she isn't too fussed about her relationship ending or marriage ending up in divorce (possibly because of her parents doing the same or the characters in the TV drama shows she watches getting divorced and being so much happier afterwards), she may just go ahead and have an affair or simply dump her guy and fall right into the arms of a new man.
Option 2: Very Sexy, High Sex Drive, Doesn't Care About Traditional Family Values, Marriage or Staying Loyal to Her Man
She is a woman who the man’s friends and family often mistake for a hooker because of her provocative and revealing attire, her slutty behavior and that she “talks dirty” and swears like a drunken sailor no matter whom she’s speaking with.
This woman is not only extremely sexually adventurous in the bedroom, but behaves in an overtly sexual way in public. She’s an easy pick-up by virtually any man she meets; especially after a couple of drinks. If the sex ever gets boring, this woman will view it as perfectly normal to go off and have an affair behind her man’s back. She doesn't care if they’ve had children together and are now raising a family, if she wants out because she's bored, she'll just leave or have an affair or two. To her, family values are for “old people” and she just wants to have fun and enjoy herself.
Option 3: Very Sexy, High Sex Drive, Cares About Traditional Family Values and Keeping a Relationship Together, Being Loyal, Honest and Good to Her Man
She is a woman who is a lady in the living room and a sex kitten in the bedroom. Her man knows he can confidently take her anywhere and she will dress sexy or formal depending on the occasion and depending what he wants to see her in. She can speak intelligently on a wide variety of topics and he knows she’ll never embarrass him when they’re out in public because she has great social skills and is a positive, respectful person.
Everyone she meets enjoys her company and, because she is beautiful, intelligent and down-to-earth, men are always flirting with her. However, when she’s in a relationship, she is completely loyal and she is also so gracious about rebuffing any other man’s advances that they don't even feel badly that she turned them down. Almost any guy she comes across feels lucky to have spoken to such a beautiful, intelligent and down-to-earth type of girl at all, whether he had any chance with her or not. She won't flirt sexually with other men, but she will be nice to them. She will only flirt sexually with her man and will be loyal to him no matter who is trying to hit on her. Then, when they get home and hit the bedroom, she has the confidence to let loose and behave like a porn star for him or be all sweet and innocent. She is open and ready for any type of sex her guy tries with her (and likely will come up with a few ideas of her own that she knows will blow his mind) and will do virtually anything he wants in and out of the bedroom.
If a man was to have a family with her, she will want to stick by him through good and bad times because she believes in traditional family values. She sees other women getting divorced and cheating on their man, but she wants to do the right thing by herself, her man and her family.
So, if you met those three RANDOM women next week, which would be your best choice for a relationship? Chances are, if you’re like most men, your choice is Option 3...and it should be! So the next question is – why aren’t you pursuing that type of woman? If you're not pursuing that type of woman, you're likely headed for...
The Big Mistake
Too many men make what I refer to as “The Big Mistake” by pursuing basically ANY WOMAN who shows them the slightest bit of interest, instead of choosing a woman that will make them truly happy and is someone they can enjoy a successful relationship with. Rather than choosing the type of woman they truly want, these men will take whatever they can get when they “get lucky” and usually end up in an unhappy relationship or will eventually hear the words, “I want a divorce” or “I need some space. I think we should take a break” or “I'm in love with someone else. It's over between you and me” from their woman. Read: Is Getting Lucky the Answer to Success With Women?
Additionally, a lot of men pursue an “Option 1” type of woman (i.e. an ugly woman or a “Plain Jane” that other men don't want) because they feel “safe” with her. A man like this hopes that she’ll make a “good wife” or a “good girlfriend” in the traditional sense of those words. However, when it comes to their sex life, he quickly discovers that it becomes disappointing, unfulfilling and boring. He then spends most of his time looking at porn to “relieve himself” and he and his wife or girlfriend begin to drift apart. A break up or divorce is then highly-likely.
The Big Mistake often turns out to be one of the most EXPENSIVE mistakes a man will ever make in his life. Not only does he lose a lot of money by having to give the woman half of everything he owns, in addition to any legal costs involved in sorting it all out, but he also loses a whole lot of lifetime that he could have been happily spending with a more suitable woman who would never want to divorce him or leave him.
Such men will usually find it difficult to get their woman to loosen up and be open during sex because THEY, TOO, are uncomfortable with it. These men get excited when watching sexy, erotic (and even hardcore) scenes from porn movies, but they usually can't even work up the courage to “talk dirty” to their woman during sex. On one hand, the guy wants to blame his woman for their mediocre sex life but, on the other hand, he knows that he has a lot to answer for as well because he isn't very confident in the bedroom and refrains from behaving how he really wants to in the bedroom. He might love the idea of hardcore sex or talking dirty, but when it comes to sex with his woman, it's usually the same old routine, same old positions and same old vibe.
A woman may try to suggest they “try new things,” but her excitement will quickly fade when she notices that her guy is still having trouble letting go and being the confident, masculine man that she dreams of having in the bedroom. To have a successful relationship, the man needs to be confident and skilled enough to guide his woman into deeper feelings of love, attraction and respect for him. If he is unable to get her to open up and be more erotic during sex, she will rarely take the lead and do it herself.
Guys like this will often endure years or decades in an unhappy relationship while feeling unsatisfied and confused about life. The woman also will be feeling the same way and, unfortunately, in today's world where divorce is no longer seen as shameful to most people, a woman will only put up with it for so long. Statistically speaking, women now initiate divorce around 66% of the time because they are less inclined to put up with an unhappy marriage compared to women of previous generations. The percentage is even higher for college-educated couples with women initiating divorce 90% of the time. So, if you're one of the guys who has been thinking, “I'll marry an educated girl and we'll be happy together because we'll both be intelligent and can connect on deep and meaningful topics and have intellectual discussions for the rest of our lives,” think again. While women from the 1800s and up to the middle of the 20th century might have put up with an unhappy marriage or relationship, many modern women have a completely different attitude.
Regardless of what type of woman you choose for a relationship, she will want to be able to respect you, feel sexual attraction for you and love you. She also wants those feelings to deepen, rather than fade away and, if you don't know how to achieve that in a relationship, you will likely experience problems in the long run. Most guys are okay at getting through the first year or so of a relationship, but it then quickly becomes boring and the sex dries up. However, there are many guys who know how to guide their relationship into deeper love, respect and attraction and that is what we teach here at The Modern Man.
Unfortunately, most guys will never stumble across this website or meet someone in their life who can truly help them become more successful with women, so they'll either become another divorce statistic, endure life in an unhappy relationship or end up getting dumped or cheated on. Unlike in earlier times when people encouraged couples to stick together (especially if there were children involved), today, most people around the woman will usually encourage her to move on. We at The Modern Man hate the idea of divorce and don't like the fact that TV sitcoms glamorize it, but we can't stop those TV shows from running. We can help by stopping the woman wanting to divorce her man in the first place, by teaching him how to guide her into deeper feelings of love, attract and respect rather than having those feelings fade away.
It's a sad experience for a modern man to have his family torn apart because his woman decides to leave him. In addition to going through the painful experience of getting dumped and not being able to see his children as often, the dumped guy will then have to pay child support, while another man comes in to his ex-woman's life, spends time with his children, influences them in his own way and possibly even tries to shut him (the father of the children) out of their lives altogether. In addition to the financial burden of a divorce, the dumped guy also will be left on his own to get his confidence back and find a new woman. However, since the divorce or breakup likely shattered his confidence and, since he probably doesn't know how to get it back, guys like this will often fall into a depression and hide themselves away from the world behind work, hobbies, TV and possibly even food. Meanwhile, his woman will get on with her life with a new man and expect the dumped guy to pay half of whatever she and her new guy want to buy for his children.
This is one of MANY examples of “The Big Mistake” that, unfortunately, too many guys end up making because they lack the necessarily skills required to CHOOSE whatever woman they want and then guide her into deeper love, respect and attraction for him. Accepting whatever you can get with women and hoping to “get lucky” and for everything to work out perfectly is the type of thinking that a child has about fairytales. In a fairytale, the couple lives “happily ever after” and everything is perfect, sweet and lovely. In the real world, true relationships require skill, true love and the right type of communication between a man and his woman if their relationship is to endure the test of time. If the guy lacks relationship intelligence, if the love isn't completely true and if the communication isn't right, the relationship will eventually break apart.
Avoiding “The Big Mistake”
While most guys would love to have an “Option 3” type of woman, they are so scared of rejection, so clueless how to get an attractive woman to like them or lack so much confidence in themselves that the idea of approaching a woman like that makes them feel nervous and even nauseous. Since they don't know how to attract a quality woman like her in the first place, let alone be able to maintain her interest, they will spend most of their lives mentally beating themselves up about it. Then, after months or even years of being alone and not having a woman at all, they will happily and eagerly accept pretty much ANY half-decent woman who shows any interest in them.
If you were dying of thirst in a hot desert and absolutely desperate for water, would reject a glass of water in a cracked or dirty glass?
Imagine right now that you are walking through a steaming hot desert and are absolutely dying for a glass of water. Your mouth feels like sandpaper and is completely dry. You're tired of being alone, you're hot and are continually losing valuable fluids via sweat. When you are feeling that desperate, would you reject water that was served to you in a dirty or cracked glass? Would you say, “Oh, no, sorry, I only drink Evian bottled water that has been chilled and served on ice in a tall, slim glass,”? Probably not! Almost every human being would say, “Please! Can I drink that glass of water! I'm really thirsty!” The same principle of desperation and neediness applies to dating and relationships, which often leads guys to making “The Big Mistake.”
The fact is, if you don't have any options with women because you're not very confident or lack the knowledge of how to escalate from dating to kissing and having hot sex with women you find attractive, you may get to a point where you are willing to drop your standards and accept pretty much whatever you can get from virtually any woman. Sure, you might not want to drink a glass of dirty, muddy water with dead insects floating in it, or accept an extremely unattractive woman but, if you're desperate enough, you may just decide to go ahead and drink from a dirty or cracked glass or accept an unattractive woman.
If you don't want to make “The Big Mistake” and end up feeling so desperate and alone that you are willing to accept a substandard woman, you need to become the type of guy who has his CHOICE of women. Right now, you have the choice to either become the type of guy who has his choice of women or a guy who is going to get so desperate that you are willing to accept pretty much any “half-decent” woman who shows you interest and then hope for the best. Unlike the past, women do not stay in unhappy marriages and “put up with” their man because they are no longer completely dependent on men and they are continually being brainwashed by those annoying TV sitcoms that glamorize divorce and affairs. If you want to have control over your dating and relationship life, you need to become the type of man who women do not want to leave. When you decide to invest in our training programs, we will guide you to success with women and show you how to avoid the painful experiences that other guys suffer because of their lack of confidence or skills with women.
If you want to learn how to create and maintain the ideal relationship dynamic where you are in the position of power and your woman continually tries to impress you and maintain your interest, I recommend that you watch The Modern Relationship. Unlike most guys who end up as divorce statistics or find themselves being cheated on or dumped in a long-term relationship, you will discover the secrets to making your woman’s attraction, love and respect for you to deepen rather than fading away.
By the way...
If you don't yet HAVE a girlfriend or wife and want to learn how to walk up to women and have them become IMMEDIATELY interested in you, I recommend you read The Flow. You will discover how to go through a natural, sexual courtship with a woman that ensures you won’t get rejected at any point along the way. As long as you follow the advice in The Flow, things will flow naturally from one stage to the next with a woman of your choosing.
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By Dan Bacon, Founder of The Modern Man. Dan Bacon on Google+
(Personal photos with women)
I dunno dan, for some of us at least, having lots of option 2′s sounds like a lot of fun. Hahahaha.
Haha…yes, definitely good for a bit of fun. I wouldn’t start a family with a woman like that though!
Cheers
Dan
Dan, you are also very right on this one. I knew the difference between the several types of women but I was never able to break it down exactly like you have here. I know that I want a sexually satisfying woman for a long term partner but I also want a woman that is of good character and virtue. I suppose that this is what is referred to as a high-quality woman. Too many guys have a scarcity mentality and often end up marrying women incongruous to their personality and lifestyle. It’s a sad tale told too often in the modern era.
Thanks for clarifying it for me.
Hi Alan
You’re welcome mate.
Thanks for your positive feedback.
Cheers
Dan
hello bacon, tnx for the elightment, infact i need to look for money and buy ds product called the flow
Hi Muhammed
You’re welcome mate.
Great times are ahead for you if you get educated about all this area of your life. You can then avoid all the mistakes other guys make that lead to problems with their dating and love life with women. No guy wants to be dumped, cheated on or divorced by a woman he loves. If you approach your interaction, date and relationship with a woman correctly, she’ll never want to leave you.
Cheers
Dan
Keep it up Dan..During the year i loved the advice about how to stick to your roles as a Man. I also loved this article that you talk about going dirty in the bedroom and not to pretend to be a gentlement..To say the truth dirty lunguage and dirty sex are quite good..
Hey Patrick
You’re welcome mate. Thanks for the positive feedback.
Yes, it’s great to just let go and be a real man in the bedroom without holding back. Women love it when they see that you’re not worried about anything and are just doing whatever you want to them. I hope to hear about your success during the year!
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan great stuff,
i just wanted to say that you my man,
are a genius your products have completely changed my life.
I now have a super hot girlfriend who is so attracted to me it’s scary.
I mean she just doen’st want me to leave, sometimes she gets so jealous when i speak to other girls.
The thing is that she is what we here in South Africa call a (mwc) most wanted chick, and everywhere we go together guys always yell her name and confess their love for her as loud as possible, even older men. Sometimes they threaten to hurt me if i dont break up with her.
I love her very much, but these guys annoy me and her too, what should i do?.
Phomolo Tshaba, from South Africa.
Hi Phomolo
Nice success story!
About the jealous guys in your country: Yes, I get that with my girlfriend sometimes too – especially when she wears her tight, pink pants and little white top (photo here) and other sexy or revealing clothes like this. The way to react is just to smile, knowing that you have a hot GF and do not worry about other guys being competition for your girl. She is your girl and she wants you to know that.
About some guys threatening to hurt you: You are either hanging around really bad people, or you are behaving, moving and reacting like a lower-ranking male. No-one has ever threatened me. Period.
Cheers
Dan
I am currently with someone that seems to be a mix of all of these options but it seems she is somewhat of a bad mix. Is it possible to be a mix of the options? I’m thinking about breaking off the relationship.
She is attractive, sexy, outgoing, down to earth, fun, forgiving, has good family values, and dresses well.
But she is Plain Jane in the bedroom, low sex drive, loves attention (borders on being an attention whore), flirts a lot, has a foul mouth, and not good at keeping long term friends.
Hi Jay
Thanks for your question.
About her being a bit of an attention “whore,” check out this article for some more examples of types of women: Is She Hitting on You or Just Being Friendly? You girlfriend sounds like Example #2.
About whether or not to stay with her: It really depends on what you want from your relationship life. Personally speaking, I don’t a woman for a relationship unless she is everything I want because if she happens to get pregnant, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life regretting it! For casual sex and casual dating, I accept pretty women who may only have half of what I want “personality wise” and likewise for “character.” You probably need to answer these questions for yourself:
- If she got pregnant and we started a family, would it stay together?
- Would I want to have a family with her?
- What would life be like if we got married?
- Is she the type of women who secretly doesn’t care if she ends up divorced?
- What is her opinion on divorce?
- Am I okay with possibly being a single dad?
- Does she idolize celebrity women who are single moms?
- Am I ready to settle down now?
Cheers
Dan
I got option 3. Thanks to you Dan. I CHOSE her from among 3 other women I was seeing at the time. All were beautiful. All were highly sexed. 1 (an ex) wasnt so very traditional. Though oddly enough was the most open about rebuffing the guys hitting on her because she was hit on WAY more often because she OOZED sexuality. I chose my current girlfriend because we just clicked better. I’d read the flow and it’s like I just did everything right with my current girlfriend from the approach and word one all the way through sex and a committed relationship. (Incidentally my ex still contacts me sending me naked pics and naughty texts).
My current girlfriend is open to anything sexually and we do EVERYTHING at least 6 out of 7 nights. Whe have a toy box we add a sex toy to every 9th of every month commemorating the aniversary of our first time having sex. We play a game where whoever curses least gets oral first that night. OMG I’m just having so much fun.
My only problem was a poor mindset. But I’ve hittin past it with better than a bad boy. I’d still be jealous or threatened when other guys showed interest in or hit on my women. I mean I was dating FOUR women and afraid I’d loose one. Lol. I had to realize that all of them were hot. Other men SHOULD want them. But most importantly these women wanted me (and still do) for a REASON. it wasnt luck. I was being attractive so they were attracted. I APPROACHED them and the saw a MAN. I connected with them and confidently moved things forward to kisses and sex. I remained a man and remembered they were women and they went BONKERS. I also paid attention to HOW guys got on my women, if the guy wasnt aware I was with the girl just to see what they’d say. How they’d do it. These guys would snatch all the rope they could. Make a noose and hang themselves lol. My girlfriend told me the otherday. Geeze what’s the point if having a boyfriend if ur gonna wander off so I have to deal with idiots like that. Apparently a real man is hard to find. Knowing how to deepen the love, I just don’t worry about things like guys finding my women attractive. Guys are supposed to because I pick HOT CHICKS NOW. Thanks for everything Dan. All the very best to you.
Hey Jason
Interesting about your girlfriend saying that. My girlfriend said something a few weeks ago which I was surprised to hear coming from a woman, “Guys who tried to talk to me at (name of the club I met her at) often spoke like girls.” She didn’t know how to explain it further, but I understand exactly what she was saying.
Cheers
Dan
How guys HIT on NOT Got On lol
Hey Dan I don’t mean to clutter up your comment section. But this is just another thought about watching how other guys go about things. My current girlfriend is a friendly girl who is nice and open to most people she meets. Other guys sometimes mistake that for being interested in THEM. Not understanding flirting at first I thought she was just a hopeless flirt and encouraging guys. But she wasnt and doesn’t because she isn’t joking in a sexual manner with them. Just being nice. Occasionally she’ll come to me like “He’s a creeper!” When a guy suddenly falls in love with her because she said hi and asked how his day was.
My girlfriend turned to me the other day and was like what’s wrong with most guys. Why can’t they be more like you. Most guys look away and then try to peek at you when they think your not looking. Try to hide right in front of you in thin air. You make a simple polite conversation they go from hi to I want to be your boyfriend. It’s like they can’t tell when someone is just being nice.
So u don’t worry about this stuff. Other guys anymore. I mean I watch other guys watching me with my girlfriend and before that watching me with more than one beautiful girl in my life and I could see it written on their face. Like how does he do it. They have no idea what to do or how to do it. Thanks again Dan
Hey Jason
Yes, such realizations allow you to avoid feeling needy, protective, jealous of your GF. Eventually, you’ll see that your GF would rather cut off her right arm than replace you as a boyfriend. My girlfriend has literally said, “I will do anything you want” and other very specific verbal commitments, to ensure that I know she’s dedicated.
Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
dan
I am in my third relationship with really hot woman since i been using this program in just 1 year.
I move on from a rocky relationship, and I am happy with my new girl,
she is kind of option 3 because she want to be in a comited relationship, she shows love, she respects herself a lot, she has many friends, she is extremely hot, and she has my kind of humour.
However she is posesive and jealous I mean if a girl writes something in my facebook wall she wants me to erase it, if I speak of a female friend she ask me if I like her and even if I say no she ask me as a favor to not speak with her anymore.
i think she is insecure because she always ask me things like:
1do you like me more than your job(which i love)?
2 if I have time without saying something niceto her, she ask me if I still like her?
3also she does not like that i have close female friends even though she has close masculine friends, telling me to stop speaking with them.
She is way better than my last gf, but she is acting rare for only 1 and a half months together.
I know she acts like that because she really like me, but I am getting frustrating.
my questions are:
1what do you think i should answer to her after her rare questions?
2you think I should break up?
Hi Pablo
Thanks for sharing your success so far.
About your question: Lol, she sounds like a handful. Yes, I threaten to break up with those type of women until they change. I’ve literally kicked women out of my house for behaving like that. They cry, call repeatedly and beg for a second chance. You then get better behavior from them.
BTW: She’s not a #3 woman. She’s a different type. There are 100s of types of women – this article demonstrated a few just to illustrate the point that #3 is what guys want, so don’t settle for less. If you do, you will experience problems.
Cheers
Dan
Man why do we have to learn so much and pratice and put this hard work?
Women have it so much easier, they just got to be hot and then they have “the power of choice” so to speak.
I just think it’s unfair mate..
Hi Tomas
Men are the ones who have the power, IF they know what they are doing. If you give women the power, they will happily take it. Most guys simply don’t know how to have power and control over this area of their life. I used to think women had it easy, but now I know that real men are the ones in control.
When you become the type of man that I teach in Better Than a Bad Boy, you will see that women are actually desperate to be with you. If you’re not that type of guy, then you’ll likely end up making this mistake.
Cheers
Dan
Pardon me but I have to disagree respectfully with Tomas. Although I do admit that sometimes it can be frustrating for some of us that these women are given special treatment, I have to say that I still feel lucky I was born a man. There are many reasons, aside from the obvious “bleeding-once-a-month” thing that most people can think of. After pondering about it a while, I’ve thought that in the end, society’s expectations on women can be quite unfair. They’re expected to be as competent as us in the corporate world and STILL be a good wife and mother. Us? We are not so frowned upon if we fail in other areas, as long as we’re good at what we do. If a girl doesn’t like someone she has to put him down gently otherwise people will think she’s a bitch. Us? Some of us even make fun of not-so-good-looking-girls that like us, and some of our guy friends will probably high-five us for doing so. Also, Society’s attitude towards sex. If a guy sleeps with tens or dozens of women, he is looked up to. For women? Most people will think she’s a slut.
Hey Walter
Thanks for your contribution.
Yes, the more you learn about this area, the more you realize how lucky you are to be born a man. I remember when I started bringing catwalk models back to my place for sex and I was living in a pretty crappy suburb, in a pretty old house. The girls did NOT complain one bit. I was shocked because I had been sucked into believing you had to be tall, dark, handsome, rich and driving a sportscar to pull a girl like that. I was driving an old Toyota Corolla! Lol…
We men have it easy because all we need to do is become confident and understand how to be a man around women and others. Women, on the other hand, are stuck and can’t do anything (other than plastic surgery) if they aren’t attractive. In fact, today I was out with my girlfriend and saw a hot, Russian girl. Then her boyfriend walked over and he was what many guys would say is “ugly.” Yet, his girlfriend was hot. Guys who don’t understand what we teach here at The Modern Man are simply living in a false reality. They think it’s about a guy’s looks, height, muscles, money, etc when the fact is it’s about his confidence and personality.
Thanks again for your contribution.
Cheers
Dan
Thanks man that explaines a lot, about what Tomas say, even though woman say an act like they want the control they have been influence by bad role model an media, but if you see history woman likes to be dominated.
Hi Pablo
Exactly. As Ben from The Modern Man always says, “Pay more attention to what a woman does and how she reacts to things, rather than what she says.”
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
I’m a young guy and would like to date older women. Do you have any advice on that? I work in an after school and there is this teacher I like. She is single with two kids. I feel like she doesn’t give me the time of day because I don’t make enough money/she doesn’t see me as mature enough for her. Can you help me out? Thanks
Hey Luis
Thanks for your question.
This article is for you: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/articles/attracting-women-older-younger.html
Cheers
Dan
My older brother made the mistake of choosing option 1 for just taking anything which he married an average looking woman who wasn’t good natured at all & caused a lot of problems for all of us, which caused my relationship with my brother to fall apart.
he was also disrespectful towards me & my mother. Now he’s stuck with that woman for like 13 years & has 2 kids.
I made an oath to myself I wouldn’t make the same mistake he did.
Hi Amrish
Unfortunately a lot of guys do that. It’s not surprising to me why so many people end up on anti-depressants, putting on weight (from eating bad food to try to makes themselves temporarily happy) and going through divorces. I hope to help as many men as I can, so they don’t make the same mistake your brother and millions of other men have made. I have a number of friends who made the same mistake before I had met them. They often say things like this to me, “Dan, I wish I had met you years ago and could live the type of life you have had with women. I just accepted her because I had no other options. I realize that now and I regret it because we rarely have sex, we argue all the time and I just wish I could get out of it but I can’t because we have kids…”
Don’t make the same mistake Amrish. Become a strong, confident man and CHOOSE your woman/women. Do not accept whatever you can get.
Cheers
Dan
I won’t make the same mistake my older made.
I will become a stronger man & have my choice of woman, never wil settle for second best or whatever I can get.
You will hear from me soon, you count on it!
Make it happen mate!
Waiting for the Amrish success story…
Cheers
Dan
Hey man, my question isn’t about choosing a sexually satisfying woman, but about status.
I have a few of your products, and I think they are great. For the last few years I’ve moved around a few times, studying courses at different places. Since last August I’ve been living at a Campus, studying at a rather isolated school. I tend to get high status at places, having an easy time making friends, etc.
This was also the case at the start of the Campus-life I’m now living.
I’ll try to keep it short.
Along the way thou, something changed. Several things added up to this I guess. I had a flirt with a good looking girl of real high status, which I then ended. Resulting in her talking bad of me behind my back. At this time I also quit drinking, focusing more on my diet (I take part in fitness competitions). Meaning I did no longer attend the weekend parties. Along with this I got into a relationship with a really nice girl, so when I wasn’t studying or working out I spent my time with her. I did no longer hang out as much with the rest of the students (a class of roughly 30 people).
Eventually things changed, my popularity sank through the floor. I heard I had been talked about quite a bit when not around, that people where tired of my arrogance. I’m now in weird position where people indirectly ignores me -when I initiate conversation they talk back and are really nice, because they wouldn’t dare to behave in any other way. I have a rather physically imposing figure. But if possible I’m avoided-.
I do still have high status among the students in other courses -I’m taking acting classes, which is done full time-, but among my fellow actors I have gotten the role of the bad guy. This might evetually ruin my relationship, a really hot girl also taking acting classes, which I got into while being very high status (this girl, previously popular, has lost status aswell for hanging out with me. She still has really strong feelings for me thou).
Do you have any tips for me? Anything I should do? My original plan was to do an add-on year at this school, but I’m not staying if this is going to be the way it is – then I’d love to study at some other place.
Hi Kim
Thanks for your question and congratulations on getting yourself a girlfriend.
About your question on status: That topic is explained in detail in The Flow. I explain social status, how to use it to get women attracted to you and to have people like and respect you. I also explain how to not take it too far, so you can enjoy the benefits of high social status, without ever being perceived as arrogant or unreachable. I recommend that you go back and read the section on status in The Flow http://store.themodernman.com/in/58e9e6c and re-learn how to fix the mistakes you’ve been making.
Being an alpha male isn’t about being out of touch with others. You’re someone that people look up to, but you’re also approachable and likeable. You’ve gone down the route of being an arrogant alpha male, which is not what we teach here at The Modern Man. I also recommend that you watch Alpha Male Power and learn how to more effectively handle your new level of confidence and control over social situations: http://store.themodernman.com/in/d2e92f
Cheers
Dan