All women show their interest in guys in a slightly different way.
- A shy or insecure woman may not show a lot of obvious interest because she is afraid of being rejected by you.
- A confident woman who is looking for a confident guy might play hard to get to see if you will begin to doubt yourself around her.
- A manipulative woman might pretend to be interested in you to make your treat her nicer, do favors for her, etc.
Based on the differences in how women show interest in guys, you can’t rely on a set group of signals (e.g. she looks at your lips, touches you, etc) to determine whether or not a woman likes you in a sexual way.
What you can do is focus on making her feel a lot of sexual attraction for you, so she does have sexual feelings for you. When a woman is sexually attracted to a guy, she will rarely, if ever, reject his advances when he makes a move.
So, the question now is: Have you been making this woman feel sexually attracted to you, or have you been behaving like more of an innocent friend?
Watch this video to see what I mean…
Acting like an innocent friend is one of the most common mistakes that guys make with women, which results in them being placed in the friend zone or the woman pretending to be interested just to mess with him.
If you want this woman to want you sexually, you must focus on actively making her feel a spark of sexual attraction for you, rather than just being a nice, innocent, friendly guy who just wants to get to know her.
If you have just been friendly with a woman and you then try to make a move, she will almost always reject you because she won’t feel enough sexual attraction to justify kissing you, having sex with you or beginning a relationship.
To make sure that a woman likes you more than just a friend, you simply must focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you first and then everything will then naturally fall into place after that.
Turn Her On and Then Make a Move…or You Might Lose Your Chance With Her
Some guys make the mistake of being a nice friend to a woman and then hoping that the friendship somehow leads to sex or a relationship.
Yet, the friendship approach usually takes weeks, months or years and requires a lot more effort because the woman will play hard to get.
For example: A guy might be “friendly” with a woman for months and think that he is getting somewhere and then another guy will come along, make her feel sexually attracted right away and she will then start a relationship with him.
It doesn’t matter how much she “likes” you as a guy. If another guy comes along and makes her feel sexual attraction, she will be more drawn to him. If he also has the confidence to make a move and kiss her, he will begin having a sexual relationship with her.
You have to start with sexual attraction. When a woman is attracted to you, she will then appreciate the fact that you’re also a good guy.
However, if your main approach to women is to just be nice, friendly or polite, most women won’t feel enough sexual attraction for you to be interested in anything other than a friendship.
If you attempt to make a move on a woman that you’ve only nice and friendly to, she will almost always reject you. Why?
3 of the Many Different Types of Women You May Encounter
Although there are many similarities, women are all different and come in all sorts of shapes, sizes and personality types.
For example: Some women will pretend to really like a guy even though he hasn’t done anything to attract her (e.g. a typical nice guy who is acting like an innocent friend, but obviously has a crush on her), only to turn around and say, “Sorry, I’m not looking a relationship. I must have given you the wrong idea” when he confesses his feelings for her or tries to make a moe.
Why would a woman do such a mean thing like that? For an insecure woman, getting lots of random guys interested in her, giving her compliments and trying to impress her will boost her self-esteem so she then feels more confident around guys that she actually feels attracted to.
It may sound like a cruel, selfish thing that a woman will do, but it’s actually pretty normal in the dating world.
Here are just three of the many different types of women that you may encounter when trying to attract and date women…
Woman #1: The Friendly, Good-Natured Flirt
This is the type of woman that most guys love because she’s pretty, intelligent, down to Earth and is nice and easy to talk to.
Due to her good nature as a person, she is friendly with almost every guy she meets, which means that most guys think that they have a chance with her.
A woman like this might engage in some “friendly flirting” with you (e.g. smile at you in a girly way, behave in a submissive way around you, say that you’re cute, etc), but it doesn’t mean that she is sexually interested in you.
If she is a friendly, good natured flirt, she is a woman who likes making people happy. She knows from experience that she can bring a smile to a guy’s face by flirting, being friendly with him and making him feel attractive or at least noticed.
For her, it doesn’t matter who the guy is. It can be a waiter taking her order, a coworker in the office or the delivery man who arrives at her door with a package. Whatever the case, she will turn on her charm and make him feel like he is the most important, desirable person in her life at that very moment.
A guy who lacks experience with women and doesn’t know that beautiful women get hit on all the time, will often make the mistake of confessing his feelings to a woman who is a friendly, good natured flirt.
He will think that she is the only guy that she has been nice to, or that he is the only guy who sees her as being “special.” Yet, if she is attractive, most of the guys that she meets will be willing to have sex with her or begin a relationship with her.
Since most guys like her, a woman like this eventually gets bored of how easy it is to get guys interested and begins to wish that she could find a guy who is more of a challenge…
Woman #2: The Starved-for-Attention Flirt
This type of woman is almost the exact opposite of the “Friendly, Good-Natured Flirt” because she doesn’t flirt with men to make THEM feel better; she does it to make HERSELF feel better. She couldn’t care less how it makes the man feel.
She uses her charm to make guys fall madly in love with her and then gives them hope that they might get a chance with her…one day.
Yet, that day rarely ever arrives.
In most cases, the interest she shows in you is all about feeding her ego or boosting her self-confidence.
Guys who are inexperienced with women or who are desperate for ANY female attention, will usually lavish a woman like this with compliment after compliment, gift after gift and never really get anywhere.
However, what works with a woman like this is to make her feel attracted to you and then only show interest when she is on her best behavior.
If she plays hard to get, just pull your interest back. As long as you’ve been making her feel attracted to you, she will worry and try harder to impress you to regain your interest in her.
Woman #3: The Confused Girl
This is the type of girl who may be genuinely interested in you in a sexual way, may respond well to your attention and flirting and may even kiss you and hug you in a loving way, but all of a sudden she will pull back and go cold on you.
In most cases, a woman like is struggling with her sense of identity.
She goes through the world behaving as though she is an innocent girl who doesn’t want to have a lot of sex, but secretly she wants to be free to do whatever she wants.
When things begin to escalate to kissing or sex, she will often pull back because she wants to maintain her superficial identity of being an innocent woman who doesn’t have sex so easily.
She doesn’t want to look too easy because you might then find it difficult to trust her later in the relationship.
You might think, “Well, it was very easy for me to kiss her and get her into bed, so if a confident guy meets her and she’s feeling a bit horny when drunk, who knows what she might do.”
Even though a girl like this may want to have sex with you immediately, she will often behave as though she isn’t ready for anything to make you work for it.
When a “Confused Girl” suddenly stops showing interest, you need to remain confident and believe in your attractiveness to her.