A woman will cheat on a man for many different reasons, some of which can be prevented.
Here are 10 reasons why women cheat, even if her man is a good man who loves her and truly wants to be with her.
1. A lack of attraction
The main reason why women cheat on a man is a lack of attraction for him.
When a relationship first begins, it’s very easy for her to feel attracted to the guy because she’s excited about all the little things she likes about him. Yet, if he is unable to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction over time in the relationship, she will eventually begin to lose interest.
In the past, women had to remain a virgin before marriage, get married and then stay their chosen man for life. If she was unhappy or if he wasn’t able to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction, she was stuck with him. She had to put up with it.
In today’s world, women are free to have sex and relationships with whomever they want for as long as they want. Unfortunately, many TV talk show hosts, movie stars and pop singers even make divorce and break ups out to be “cool.” It’s just the world we live in today.
To be successful at keeping a relationship together in today’s world, a man needs to know how to deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time, rather than just expecting that she will stick around because things felt good at the start.
2. She was worried that he would cheat, so she did it first
Getting cheated on really hurts.
It’s a hot, stinging pain that can remain buried deep within your mind for years after being cheated on. If a woman has experienced being cheated on in the past by a man that she loved and gave her heart to, she will often go overboard in trying to protect herself from that pain again.
Sometimes, she will get into a relationship and never really open herself up to the love because she wants to protect herself. She will enjoy being with the guy and kind of love him, but she will never give him her full heart of love.
In some cases, nothing that her boyfriend or husband says to her gives her enough assurance that she won’t be cheated on. A woman like her will almost always have a niggling doubt in the back of her mind that it will happen. She will imagine her man flirting with another woman, kissing her and then having sex with her…and it will make her feel sick to the stomach.
If you are with a woman who is constantly worrying about you cheating on her, then she will almost always be flirting with other guys and keeping them waiting in the wings in case she needs them to make herself feel better.
My advice would be to dump her and move on. If you don’t, you will end up wasting a lot of time and energy trying to convince her that you have been and will always be faithful to her…only to then have her turn around one day and say that she has cheated on you.
When it comes to relationships with women, the best piece of advice to follow is that you don’t put up with bullshit. You love the woman, respect her, listen to her and care about her, but if she introduces crazy bullshit into your relationship, you’ve got to dump her and have come crawling back to apologize.
Then, if she goes crazy again, repeat the process as often as you can be bothered. If she doesn’t change after a couple of break ups, you’re almost certainly wasting your time with a woman who is going to be more trouble than she is worth.
If you’re the sort of guy who knows how to attract women, then you’re not going to be worried about losing her. You can easily attract and hook up with new women whenever you want, so you begin to see her as being unnecessary.
3. She isn’t ready to fully commit to just one guy
Even though a relationship might start out well and the woman says things like, “I love you and want to be with you forever” or “I want us to get married one day” it doesn’t mean that she is making an iron clad promise.
Feminine women change their mood, feelings and desires for things like the weather. One day she likes a certain song and the next week she hates it. One day she loves the new pair of shoes she spent a lot of money on and the next week she hates them.
We men are different.
If you are a man with very masculine energy, then you are most-likely going to be a man of your word. If you promise something, then it’s an iron clad promise that you will stand by no matter what. If you tell a woman that you will stick with her for life, then you mean it.
Masculine women (i.e. women who think, behave and act more like men or “one of the boys”) are more likely to stick by their promises for longer. They are less likely to change their mind like the weather because they approach things in a more logical, manly way.
So, if you’ve ever wondered why a woman said that she loved you so much and wanted to be with you, only to then cheat on you or dump you, this is the reason why: She was just expressing how she felt in THAT moment. She wasn’t promising that she would feel that way forever, no matter what.
To keep a feminine woman in a committed relationship, you have to know how to deepen her love, respect and attraction for you over time. You can just expect that what she used to feel will be enough to see you through for the rest of your lives together. You have to actively make her feel more attracted to you, more respectful of you and more in love with you than ever before.
4. She enjoys the thrill of lying and cheating
Some women are bad, disloyal and untrustworthy people. That’s just how nature works – there are good and bad people.
If you’ve chosen a woman who has bad character, then you can expect bad things to happen.
When selecting a woman as your girlfriend or wife, it’s not enough that she is beautiful with a great personality. She also has to have great character (i.e. loyal, trustworthy, sincere, caring, loving, warm, friendly).
If you just accept whatever woman you can get and try to make it work with a woman of bad character, then you are asking for trouble. Some women have the type of character where they enjoy the thrill of lying to their man and cheating on him.
I was once in a relationship like that with a woman who was so sexy to me and had such a great personality (we laughed together all the time and got along really well). Yet, every now and then, I noticed that she told me a small lie and sometimes a big lie. I also noticed that she lied to other people and she actually enjoyed it.
After a while, I realized that no matter how physically attracted to her that I was and how much fun we would have together, I absolutely had to break it off with her. I didn’t want to end up getting her pregnant and then have to deal with having a liar in my life for the rest of my life.
It was very difficult to break it off with her, but what I did was create a Pros and Cons (Positives and Negatives) list and tried to note down as many negatives as I could. Despite all the negatives, I was still drawn to her because she was so sexy and I enjoyed being with her so much, but I did it.
I broke it off with her.
It wasn’t easy, but I did it. Now that I’m married to the girl of my dreams years later, I couldn’t be more thankful that I had the courage and foresight to get rid of the dishonest women.
If you are with a woman who enjoys lying to people, tricking people or getting herself into trouble with people, then I would recommend that you get rid of her before she cheats on you and then enjoys herself as she watches you cringe in emotional pain.
5. Her boyfriend or husband isn’t enough of a man for her
I’ve been helping guys to get an ex girlfriend, fiancé or wife back for many years now and one of the main problems I keep encountering is that the guy just wasn’t enough of a man for his woman.
Being enough of a man for a woman is about being the sort of man that she can look up to and respect. A woman will lose respect for a guy when he:
- Hides from his true potential in life behind her and the relationship. In other words, he lacks ambition and spends way too much time on things that don’t get him anywhere.
- Becomes needy, clingy, jealous or insecure in the relationship.
- Stops making her feel loved and appreciated.
- Puts her down or belittles her too often.
- Lacks confidence around confident men or alpha males.
- Cries or becomes emotionally weak when life gets tough.
- Is overly bossy or controlling of her in the relationship.
- Lets her be overly bossy or controlling of him.
- Doesn’t follow through on his promises.
Getting a woman into a relationship is the easy part, but what takes skill and wisdom is knowing how to keep the relationship together once you’ve got it.
We don’t get taught that sort of thing in school when we’re growing up and most of us (including myself) didn’t have a good enough father figure who could teach us how to be men.
In the past, a man could be a complete failure in life after getting married and his woman would still have to stick with him. Not anymore. A big part of keeping a relationship together in today’s world is to be the sort of man that your woman can look up to and respect. You’ve got to be the sort of guy that women refer to as a real man.
6. She is using it as a way to break up the relationship
If a woman is unable to break up with a clingy, needy boyfriend who won’t let her go, she will often cheat on him and then use that as a way to destroy the relationship. To really push her guy away, she might say that she is in love with the new guy and is starting a relationship with him.
I see this a lot with the guys that I help to get an ex back. In cases like that, the guy needs to rebuild his confidence and quickly fix the issues about himself (e.g. insecurity, neediness, not being enough of a man for her, etc) before he is ready to get another chance with his ex. Essentially what needs to happen is that he needs to learn how to make her feel respect, attraction and love for him again.
With the right training, many of the guys I’ve helped succeed at getting another chance with the woman who cheated on them. Yet, by the time I’ve improved his confidence and taught him how to actively attract women, he often ends up dumping her after only being back with her for a short while because he has met a new woman on the side to replace her. What goes around comes around I guess!
7. Her boyfriend or husband doesn’t turn her on or make her feel sexy enough
Most women are much more insecure that men realize. According to the global study on beauty conducted by Dove cosmetics, 96% of women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful.
When in a relationship with a woman, a man will often make the mistake of regularly pointing out things that he doesn’t like about her physically (e.g. “You’ve put on weight” or “Your hair doesn’t look as healthy as it did when I first met you,” etc).
While it’s fine to encourage your woman to keep herself looking good, putting her down isn’t the way to accomplish it. You’ve got to make your woman feel like the sexiest woman on Earth in your eyes, no matter what she is wearing or how she is looking. From that, she will feel sexy around you and will be much more keen on having sex with you.
She will feel confident in her sex appeal to you, which will get rid of a lot of the worries about you wanting another woman. It will also allow her to open her heart more to you and experience the full potential of the love that you can both share.
By taking that approach, she will then naturally want to look better for you. She will know if she’s looking fat or if her hair isn’t soft and shiny and she will put in effort to improve that. When she does, you’ve got to give her compliments about that and find her even sexier as a result.
If you aren’t taking that approach and are instead making her feel less and less attractive around you, she may get to the point where she begins flirting with other guys to get them interested in her so she can feel better about herself. The more she does that, the more likely it becomes that she will cheat, especially if she finds a guy that she really connects with and who makes her feel much sexier than you do.
8. To get revenge
If her man has been flirting with other women in front of her, a woman will often begin flirting with men to get revenge. Likewise, if she suspects or knows that her man has cheated, she will often be feeling so betrayed and be in so much emotional pain that she will just sleep with another guy to feel the relief of revenge.
To her, it doesn’t matter if her cheating on him will cause further problems in the relationship. What she is more concerned about is getting rid of the sickening feelings of betrayal and loss that she’s been feeling ever since she saw him flirt with other women or found out that he cheated.
9. She made a stupid mistake when drunk
When in a committed relationship, a woman shouldn’t be going out and having regular “girl’s nights out” without her man, especially if she is going to be drinking a lot.
There’s nothing wrong with a man having a boy’s night with his friends and a woman having a girl’s night with her friends, but it should be a rare thing. If a couple is serious about being in a committed relationship and really love being with each other, they will want to go out as a couple with other couples who are also serious about their relationship.
If a woman is hanging around her single girlfriends all the time who want to get drunk and meet guys, it’s usually only a matter of time before she makes a mistake and lets a guy kiss her when she is drunk. Once that happens, the whole dynamic of her relationship with you changes. She has now cheated on you and she’s either going to tell you about it and create huge drama between you and her, or keep it a secret and maybe even do it again the next time she goes out.
Personally speaking, I met my wife in a nightclub. At the time, both of us were into clubbing and had lots of single friends who enjoyed clubbing at least twice a week. So, when we got together, I ensured that we would both transition out of the club life together by continuing to go out twice a week until she eventually began to say, “I’m bored of going clubbing…I’m over it.”
After that happened, we began doing more things on our own and then we began to become closer with our friends who were in relationships. Now, two and a half years later, we rarely hang out with any single friends and spend most of our time with friends who are in relationships or married and with family.
So, if you’ve got a girlfriend, fiancé or wife who is going out and getting drunk without you often, it’s a sign that she isn’t taking your relationship very seriously. If she is more interested in partying without you, then it’s only a matter of time before she opens herself up to being with other guys.
The way to prevent that happening is to begin going out with her and partying with her friends. Get them to like you, have a great time with it and let your girlfriend (fiancé or wife) see that her friends like you and respect you. After a while, she will want to do more things just as a couple and you will gradually be able to transition out of the party lifestyle.
If you do continue to party, it will be together, which is much better than her going out and getting drunk without you.
10. To feel love again
Love is what we really want and need.
Now that I’ve experienced true love and am in a relationship where the love is always deepening more and more over time, I know that love is a very powerful and life-changing thing. When other women try to flirt with me, I essentially feel nothing for them because if I were to cheat and leave my wife (I wouldn’t), I would have to start from scratch again with a woman who might not even have the capacity to be in love the way that my wife and I are.
When you reach that level of love, cheating becomes absolutely unnecessary. Both of you would lose something amazing just for a quick bit of pleasure with a person who doesn’t make you feel the same way.
However, if a woman is in a relationship with a man who hasn’t been able to open her up to experience the full potential of love, she may begin to open herself up to feeling love with another guy.
In many relationships that end in cheating, break up or divorce, the couple became more like friends than lovers. By “lovers” I don’t mean that you have to have as much sex as you did when you first met for the rest of your life, but that you still feel sexually attracted to each other and enjoy being sexual or intimate with each other.
If you don’t know how to make your woman feel sexually attracted to you and look up to you and respect you as her man, those initial feelings of love can fade. Additionally, if you focus on just being her friend and treating her like one of your male buddies, you will lose that masculine/feminine attraction that made you feel so excited in the beginning.