3 Common Habits of Successful Men
Are you doing what it takes to be successful?
Successful men are routinely successful. For them, being successful is simply a habit. When something you do becomes so routine that you do it without really thinking about it, it has become a habit.
We all have things that we routinely do on a daily basis, so we all have habits. The question is, are your habits successful habits, or are they leading you down the wrong track?
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle
Old Dog, New Tricks?
You probably think of habits in terms of being either good or bad, and you most likely consider the majority of your existing habits to be the ‘habits of a lifetime’ because you’re unable to remember a time when you didn’t have them. The habits you have are all patterns of behavior that you’ve learned somewhere along the way. For many guys, a lot of their habits were picked up from their parents or from those around them in childhood without actually realizing it. So which ones are good and which ones are bad, and can old habits be changed?
The good news is that it’s always possible to change your habits, no matter how long you’ve had them. Old or bad habits can be dropped and new, good habits can be established at any point in your life. The key to developing successful habits is to recognize which ones they are. Change is always possible when you learn to focus on the positive and begin taking steps to eliminate the negative.
3 Common Habits of Successful Men
1. They create success, instead of waiting for it
Successful men create their own success, they don’t hopelessly wait for success to come and find them. American industrialist Henry Ford is a great example of a successful man who found his own success by creating it. His Model T, built in 1908, heralded the beginning of what’s now termed the ‘motor age’ as cars were once luxury items that could only be afforded by the very wealthy. He said, “I will build a car for the great multitude,” and he did; he made a car that ordinary working people could afford and then he sold it to the masses.
2. They believe in themselves
Successful men know that the only way to get others to believe in them is to first believe in themselves. Champion heavy-weight boxer Muhammad Ali is perhaps one of the sporting world’s most well-known faces and he became as famous for his, “I am the greatest,” self-belief statements out of the boxing ring as he did for his ability in the ring. He knew that self-belief was the key to achieving his dreams and to getting others to believe in him.
“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” Muhammad Ali
Muhammad Ali was actually the inspiration for The Modern Man’s Mastery Methods & Mindsets. If you need more confidence with women, you definitely need to listen to it.
3. They don’t give up
Successful men see lessons where others see failure. It took Thomas Edison 10,000 attempts to create the electric light bulb but he famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.” Men who become successful are positive thinkers and they are certainly not in the habit of giving up.
Successful Habits Create Success
If you aren’t successful at something, the fastest and easiest way to change that is to adopt some of the ‘success habits’ of those who are successful at what you want to do.
Getting the Habit
Experts in the field believe that it takes 21 days to form a new habit or to change an existing habit. Once you’ve identified the successful habits of the people you admire, decide which ones you already have and which ones you most want to acquire. You may have a list of several successful habits that you’d like to be able to adopt, but choose just one to focus on for a period of at least 21 days. Trying to do more than one at a time is a recipe for failure, no matter how keen you are to succeed.
Habits are the things you repeatedly do so to create a new habit you must repeatedly do the new thing. This means making a concentrated effort and dedicating time to repeating the new behavior every day until it becomes a part of your routine way of doing things. Once you’ve established a habit, it’s a pattern of behavior that’s likely to stick with you even if it’s no longer something you repeat every day.
Keeping the Habit
One of the most effective ways to keep a new habit is to surround yourself with visible reminders of what it means to have that new habit. For example, if you’re dedicating time and effort to developing a positive thinking habit, hang out with people you know who are already positive thinkers. When you spend time with people who already have the successful habit that you want to establish, you are reminded of why you want to adopt that habit and experiencing the positive benefits of having it can be powerfully motivating.
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Hey Dan,
I am quite interested in your estimations on how many % of guys after reading your material/attending your seminar/being live coached do make a LASTING improvement. The reason why I’m asking this, is because I’m seeing more and more often how people attend some motivational seminar, they go all crazy about it (for about a WEEK or so) and then return to their old habits with no shift in the end.
I myself know a person whose dream was to go to Tony Robbins seminar. She thought that after that all her problems will be gone. Her dream came true and she even had a 1 hour one-on-one conversation with him(he interacts with the audience and picked her). The “interesting” fact is, that he didn’t help her at all. So she found a new guru and applied for a NLP class and thinks that this will solve all her problems….
My guess is quite pessimistic – that about 10% make a lasting improvement, am I right?
And my follow-up question is, why to you think this is.
Thank you.
All the BEST,
Pete
Hi Pete
Thanks for your question.
We’ve been coaching guys in person for over 5 years. Every guy that we’ve ever taught the techniques to has succeeded. Example: http://www.themodernman.com/new_ideas_approaching_women.html
We’ve also followed up with guys who watched the Dating Power seminar and they have succeeded too. Example:
http://www.themodernman.com/dating/audio/turn_rejection_into_success.html
We’ve also had customers willingly submit video testimonials, audio testimonials and written testimonials. Examples:
http://store.themodernman.com/testimonials.php
However, one thing we have found is that the guys who do NOT use our advice (i.e. they buy it, but don’t use it) don’t get any results. That shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone though. It’s just normal. For example: If you want to play basketball and go to a store to buy a basketball, you’re not finished. You still have to go to the court and play. Likewise, we give men the techniques to approach women (i.e. what to say, what to do, etc), but it is up to them to actually talk to women and use the techniques.
As for a percentage of guys who succeed, I can only speak for the guys who’ve actually used our advice. We’ve never had a client fail to get results, even when we’ve been tested on live television (watch videos): http://store.themodernman.com/about_us.php Our advice always works.
Cheers
Dan
P.S. How about you? Have you tried any advice to improve your life and followed through on it to success?
Well yeah, I think I’m an upper-intermediate with women
– I mean I almost never struggle with them and even dated a model for a short time:), yesterday I broke up with her. However, I still have some problems (that don’t have anything to do with the techniques) and that seem for me quite hard to fix.
My appearance bugs me for example – I don’t have issues about it, but after at least 15 people said something along the lines (“wow, when I first saw u I thought u were a total nerd, I didn’t think you are so cool”) – it really makes u angry a little bit (:. I dress cool, but my face makes me look nerdy I guess. (I can’t wear contact lens, because of some sh*t with my eyes). And so I have quite low “success rate” at the bars, etc. On the other hand I’m quite successful on other places (meeting through friends, bus stops, shops,…).
Last but not least – I still don’t get it – women love guys who are socially intelligent and who are just men. How can you teach somebody social intelligence and being a man in just a few days? It takes a very long time (I took a long time for me!), doesn’t it?
Hi Pete
Thanks for your question.
The two words that make up “Social intelligence” explain how it can be taught so easily. People who aren’t socially intelligence simply don’t have the right “intel” on socializing. They may be academically intelligent, but lack the right knowledge on socializing.
At The Modern Man, we tell you what is right, wrong and weird (socially and with women) and when you follow our instructions you are seen as socially intelligent. If you do the wrong things or do the things that others see as weird, then you won’t be seen as socially intelligent. It’s not about being a social conformist, but it is about knowing what works and doesn’t work when it comes to human social interaction.
Cheers
Dan
P.S. About your appearance. Most of what people see as “nerdy” will be coming from deep within you. Who you are on the inside reflects on the outside via your subtle body language, vibe and presence. You need to become a strong, masculine man on the inside and it will then reflect on the outside. You would have seen guys who look similar to you, but don’t seem nerdy. While your physical appearance can play a part, it can easily be overridden by your vibe, presence and body language.