If you want to bring back your lost love, here are 4 examples of how you can do that:
1. Reach out to her via social media
Social media is a great way to contact an ex, without putting too much pressure on her to get back with you.
Instead, it can be about just saying hello to her as a friend.
However, just make sure that your profile is looking good before you contact her.
Get rid of any recent photos of you on your own and instead, update your profile with photos of you having fun with other people and looking confident and happy around other people.
Once you’ve done that, send her a quick message like, “Hey ex girlfriend, how have you been? I thought I’d get in touch and say hello as a friend. How’s things?”
If she hasn’t heard from you since the break up, chances are high that she will be surprised and will then likely look at your social media profile to find out what you’ve been up to.
If she sees that you’ve been getting on with your life without her and haven’t been stuck at the same level you were at when you and her broke up, she will feel more comfortable about replying to you (i.e. because she won’t feel as though you reaching out to her is necessarily about getting her back).
By the way…
When she responds to you, don’t get caught up sending messages back and forth that go nowhere.
Remember: The only reason why you’re contacting her via social media is so you can break the ice.
Once you’ve broken the ice and she is replying to you, get her on a call to say hi and make her feel attracted to you (e.g. by getting her laughing and smiling).
Then, arrange for you and her to meet up in person.
So, when she replies to a message or two, you can then send her a message like, “BTW: Good hearing from you again. I’m glad to hear that you’re doing well. I might give you a call sometime so that we can catch up and say hi as friends. Cool?”
She might say, “Okay,” right away, or she might be a bit resistant at first and say something along the lines of, “I don’t know if that’s such a good idea” or, “I’m not sure about that.”
Whatever her response is though, just make sure that you maintain your confidence and continue on with the ex back process.
For example: If she seems resistant to talking to you on the phone at first, you can say something along the lines of, “Hey, it’s no big deal! 🙂 It’s just a quick call between friends to say hi. We can do that, right? It might even prove to be fun. After all, I’m sure you have a lot to tell me and I’ve got some funny stories to tell you too! So, chat soon, okay?”
In most cases, a woman will then say something like, “k” and you can then just go ahead and call her the next day.
Once you get her on a phone call with you, focus on reawakening some of her sexual and romantic feelings for you, so she will naturally want to see you again in person.
Remember: Face-to-face is where you will fully re-attract her (e.g. by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be around you again, showing her that you really are a new man now) and get her to open up to getting back together.
So, make sure that you don’t stop at a phone call, or worse, stop at messaging back and forth or texting her.
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2. Understand what kind of attraction experience will make her feel compelled to give you another chance
If you want to bring back your lost love, you first need to understand her real reasons for breaking up with you, so you can adjust and change in the ways that will actually matter to her.
For example: When interacting with your ex, ask yourself…
- Am I turning her on right now (i.e. by being confident, emotionally masculine, charismatic or funny), or am I turning her off (i.e. by being insecure, self-doubting, submissive, needy or wimpy)?
- Does she feel relaxed and happy to be talking to me, or does she feel tense, uneasy and like she wants to get away from me as quickly as possible?
- Am I making her feel like an attractive, sexy woman in my presence, or do I make her feel more like a neutral friend?
- Does she feel respect and sexual attraction for me based on how I now talk, act and behave around her, or does she feel like she could get a better attraction experience from another guy?
If you are doing it right, she will naturally start looking at you in a more positive light.
When that happens, her guard will begin to come down and she will feel drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her (i.e. because you’re now giving her the attraction experience she always wanted from you, but didn’t get).
She then starts to think, “He’s different now. He actually seems to understand me so much more than he ever did before. Maybe things would be different between us this time around. After all, he’s not the same man I broke up with. Maybe I should give him another chance, even if just for a little while.”
Then, getting her back becomes easy, because she actually wants it too.
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3. Interact with her and let her see that she feels new and exciting types of attraction for you now
For example: Some of the ways you can do that is by…
- Maintaining your confidence with her when she tries to put you off by being disdainful or indifferent towards you.
- Showing her via your actions, conversation style and behavior that you’ve fixed some of the issues that were turning her off before (e.g. if you were too needy before, you are now more emotionally independent and getting on with your life without her. If you weren’t ballsy enough before, you’re now more confident and capable of standing up for yourself to her and other people).
- Reacting differently to what she says and does, (e.g. if you became nervous and unsure of yourself and your attractiveness to her when she talked about other guys, you now relax and smile and possibly even make a joke about it).
- Being more emotionally masculine around her and making her feel feminine and girly, rather than being too nice and neutral and making her feel like a friend or an acquaintance in your presence.
The more she interacts with you and discovers that you’re nothing like the guy she broke up with, the more attracted to you she will become.
Her defenses then start to come down and she then becomes open to talking with you more over the phone and seeing you in person, to see what happens next.
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4. Meet up with her and get to a kiss or sex to reignite the physical side of your lost love
When bringing back a lost love, the main thing to remember is that the fastest way to make that happen is by actively making your ex have strong romantic and sexual feelings for you again.
That process beings with you talking to her on the phone and making her laugh and smile.
It then continues when you meet up with her in person.
This is why you can’t get stuck texting back and forth, or only talking over the phone.
You have to meet up with her in person so you can build on her feelings for you, show her that you’re a new and improved man now and then get to a hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.
For example: Giving her a warm hug when you see her in person helps break the physical distance between you and her and makes her feel a surge of sexual attraction.
She then starts thinking things like, “This feels so good. I can’t believe I’m even thinking this, but I don’t want to leave his arms. I want him to hold me tighter and kiss me. Why am I thinking like this? I thought I was over him. Maybe I’m not.”
How can you get to that point with your ex?
If she is open to you and isn’t closed off or distant, you can hug her right away.
Yet, if she is closed off, distant, cold or uninterested, you can hug her at the end of the meet up, after you have reawakened some of her sexual and romantic feelings.
When you and your ex are getting ready to leave, you can say something along the lines of, “Come over here and give me a goodbye hug” and open your arms and move towards her to initiate the hug.
If you’ve made her feel good throughout the meet up, she won’t resist it and will go along with the hug.
You can then take her in your arms and give her a warm hug that lasts for 5-20 seconds.
If she seems open (i.e. she doesn’t pull away quickly and instead, looks up at you and smiles), you can then lean in and give her a kiss on the lips.
Remember: The longer she stays in your arms, the more open she is to hooking up with you sexually.
If you’re getting good signals from her, go to your place or hers and reignite the physical side of your love with sex.
Remember: Sex speeds up the process of reconciling the relationship faster than any text, email or phone call.
Sex doesn’t fix everything, but it’s one part of the ex back process that you need to make sure you include along the way, if you want to bring back your lost love and restart the relationship for real.
4 Common Problems That Guys Encounter When Trying to Bring Back a Lost Love
Sometimes, all a guy has to do is call his ex on the phone, re-spark some of her feelings of respect and attraction for him again and get her back.
It’s easy in cases like that.
However, in other cases, getting her back is a little more difficult, because he’s faced with some of the following problems…
1. She has moved on, so he feels unwelcome to reach out to her
Sometimes a guy is too emotionally hurt to begin the ex back process right away.
So, by the time he does get control of his emotions he then finds out (e.g. via social media, mutual friends) that his ex has already moved on.
He might then think, “Well, I guess it’s too late then. I’m sure she wouldn’t want to hear from me now. She seems so happy without me. I don’t stand a chance anymore,” so he never makes the move to contact her or get her back.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Even if a woman has fully gotten over her ex and moved on, it doesn’t mean he can’t get her back.
A guy can get a woman back by making her break up with her new guy, if he successfully reactivates her feelings for him again and then follows through on the rest of the ex back process.
He has to get her on a phone call with him and regardless of how unwelcoming she might sound at first (e.g. she says something like, “What do you want? We have nothing to talk about” or, “Why are you calling me? Don’t you know that I have a boyfriend now?”), he needs to confidently use humor to break down her walls and get rid of the negative tension between them.
When a woman is laughing, smiling and having fun talking to her ex, it becomes difficult for her to maintain a cold, distant persona at the same time.
On the other hand, if a guy just gives up without reaching out to her, he may end up spending the rest of his life wondering if he could have gotten her back and recovered the love that he lost.
The next problem a guy might be faced with is…
2. Assuming that she would be annoyed if he reached out to her again
If a guy initially tried to get his ex back after a break up and it failed, he might then have decided to leave her alone for a while (e.g. a few weeks or months) to let things calm down between them, or to hopefully make her miss him.
Yet, by cutting off contact with an ex woman, some guys end up feeling nervous about contacting her again in case she reacts in an annoyed or angry way.
For example: He may think something like, “What if she’s not happy to hear from me? What if she tells me to get lost? What if she says that I’m harassing her?”
As a result, he doesn’t make contact with her and hopes that she contacts him one day instead.
Yet, when she doesn’t contact him and just continues to move on, he loses out on potentially getting her back.
Here’s the thing …
Even though your ex might be a bit cold or distant when you call, she won’t be able to continue feeling or acting that way if you make her feel attracted to the new and improved you on the call, or in person.
So, what’s it going to be?
Are you just going to wait in the background and hope that she comes back to you on her own, or are you going to make this happen now?
Every day, all over the world, men get ex women back and you can do it too.
You’ve got to be willing to take the necessary steps though.
If you’re willing to do that, you could be in bed with her next week and she could be looking you in the eyes and saying, “I love you.”
Isn’t that better than living the rest of your life with a feeling of regret, because you didn’t do what it takes to get a woman back?
Another problem a guy might face when trying to bring back a lost love is…
3. Trying to bring back the love by talking about love
Sometimes a guy sends a text, email or message to an ex woman and says something like, “The love we had was one of a kind. We had such an amazing connection. How can you just walk away from that? I love you and I want to be with you. I will do whatever it takes to make you see that what we had is worth fighting for and convince you to let me back into your heart. You are still in my heart and will be forever. I love you. Please reconsider.”
Although the guy is being sincere, saying those kind of things to an ex woman is usually a turn off.
In most cases, a message like that will be from an ex man that she no longer feels respect and sexual attraction for, so it’s not something that she is eager to hear.
Instead of being swept off her feet by the notion that he’s so being romantic and is still completely in love with her, she closes herself off even more.
The feelings aren’t mutual yet.
He’s trying to get her back because he wants her, even though he hasn’t even made her want him back yet.
The bottom line is this…
If you want to bring back a lost love, you have to focus on making her feel respect and sexual attraction for you again, rather than trying to seduce her with sweet talk about love.
Women only appreciate sweet, loving, romantic words from a man that they are attracted to.
So, don’t skip that part of the ex back process.
Attraction first and everything else after that.
Note: That said, you don’t need to send her sweet, romantic words to get the love back.
Get to sex and then allow loving conversations to begin to flow naturally between you and her.
Another mistake that guys often make when in a situation like yours is…
4. Re-approaching her in a neutral way
Sometimes a guy will interact with his ex and pretend that he’s only interested in being her friend now (e.g. he’s very nice and polite towards her, doesn’t flirt to create sexual tension, acts like he’s totally over her, seems to just want to help her with her life).
Yet, here’s the thing…
Women aren’t stupid (well, most of them anyway).
Most women know when a man is being nicer than he actually is, in the hope that it somehow grants him access inside of her panties (if he’s trying to pick her up), or inside of her heart once again (if he’s trying to get her back after a break up).
So, don’t pretend that you have no sexual interest in her.
When you re-approach your ex to bring back the love you lost, make sure that you are focused on making her feel sexually and romantically attracted to you.
When you do that, she will naturally open back up to you and want to explore her new feelings for you.