Here are 5 of the most common reasons why a woman will say that to her ex boyfriend or husband:
1. She knows that you still don’t know how to attract her in the ways that actually matter to her the most
After a breakup, a guy will usually try and change some of the things that he assumes his ex doesn’t like about him, in the hope that she will give him another chance.
For example: A woman might break up with a guy because she feels like it’s too easy for her to push him around, which causes her to lose respect for him.
To get her back, he might say to her, “Please give me another chance. I promise I’ll do whatever you want me to do to make you happy. Just tell me what you want and I’ll do it, no questions asked.”
He’s hoping that she’ll realize how committed he is and will then want him back.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that he’s behaving in the exact same way that turned her off in the first place (i.e. like a doormat, a pushover, a wimp).
That’s not what she wants from him.
So, rather than give him another chance, she instead says, “It would never work if we got back together.”
This is why, if you want to get back together with your ex, you have to attract her in the ways that she really wants, not in the ways that you think she wants.
- Start being more confident and self-assured if you were too insecure, needy and clingy before.
- Make her feel like a sexy, desirable woman if you previously treated her more like a buddy.
- Decide to be more emotionally dominant and assertive around her from now on if you allowed her to walk all over you in the past.
Fully understand the real reasons why your ex broke up with you and then give her the attraction experience she really wants and watch her quickly change her mind about being your girl again.
2. She knows that the communication problems between you and her will still exist
Being able to communicate with each other in a way that builds mutual trust and respect, is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
So, if that kind of communication breaks down or doesn’t sync up well enough, it will create problems, lead to arguments and make one or both of them want to leave the relationship.
The same applies to communicating when discussing important issues.
In order for it to work, they need to be in sync rather than using clashing communication styles that push them further apart.
For example: When it comes to discussing important issues, she tends to be serious and focused.
Yet, he always likes to use humor and joke around as a way of easing the tension or worry.
She doesn’t understand why he does that and takes it as a sign that he’s too emotionally immature and irresponsible for a woman like her.
Another example is when a woman needs to talk about how she feels after a long and stressful day at work/taking care of the kids.
She might complain about her problems and say she feels overwhelmed.
The guy may then naturally try to fix those problems by offering her solutions.
If she then doesn’t pay attention to him and continues complaining about her problems, he might get annoyed and say, “I told you how to solve that, but you never listen to me. What’s the point of me helping you when you’re just going to whine about it again the next day?”
She then gets upset with him, because he doesn’t get that what she wants is for him to just listen and let her work out her own problems.
She wants him to just love her and allow her to be a feminine woman, rather than try to fix everything for her.
Based on the examples above, ask yourself: “What communication problems did I have with my ex?”
When you understand where you went wrong, you can change your approach to communication with your ex and easily re-attract her and get her back.
3. She knows that one of you likes the other way too much and it’s not balanced enough to last
For example: Sometimes a guy might get into a relationship with a woman he perceives as being amazing.
Deep down he might be thinking, “I have a good feeling about her. I think she could be the one!”
In the meantime, she could be thinking, “He’s really a great guy, but I’m not ready to settle down into a serious relationship right now. I just want to have fun and enjoy having someone to go out with and have sex with.”
However, over time, he might begin pushing her for more of a serious commitment than she’s willing to give him (e.g. he wants to move in together, get engaged, start a family).
This can lead to her feeling guilty because she knows that he loves her more than she loves him and she’s basically leading him on by sticking in the relationship with him.
She might then break up with him and focus on moving on.
If he tries to get her back she will then say, “Sorry, but it would never work if we got back together,” because she knows that the relationship balance is out of sync (i.e. he loves her way more than she loves him).
Note: This can also happen the other way around (i.e. she loves him more than he loves her).
In a case like that, a woman won’t want to give her ex another chance, because she knows she will get hurt if he eventually gets bored with her and dumps her for another girl.
4. She knows that both of you want to live a different type of life that isn’t going to match up in the long run
For example: One of them might want to get married, start a family and settle down.
In the meantime, the other person doesn’t want to be tied down by marriage or children and prefers to focus exclusively on their career.
Alternatively, one of them might enjoy the quiet life and is dreaming of one day moving to the country where they can enjoy quiet walks in the fields, grow their own vegetables and watch the sunset from their porch or balcony.
On the other hand, the other person loves the hustle and bustle of the city life and imagines themselves living in a high-rise apartment, going out to different restaurants, bistros or pubs with friends and just having fun socializing as often as possible.
So, even if they do love each other, their view of their future life is so different, that it feels impossible for them to work things out so that they can stay together.
Of course, when a guy makes a woman feel so much love, respect and attraction for him, nothing will prevent her from wanting to be with him.
She will find a way to compromise, just so that she can remain in his life.
So, if you want your ex back, focus on building her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
When you do, she will naturally open up to making it work, because she doesn’t want to lose you.
5. She knows that one of you would most likely cheat on the other at some point
Sometimes, a person might get into a relationship with someone they don’t perceive as being their ideal match.
For example: A woman might date a guy she’s not really attracted to, because she doesn’t want to be alone while all her friends and family are settling down.
However, deep down she knows that he’s not the man she wants to be with for life, so she secretly keeps her options open in case she meets a guy who knows how to make her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with him (e.g. sexually attracted, excited, hopeful about her future with him).
In other words, she knows that if the right guy comes along she would easily cheat on her man.
Likewise, a guy might be in a relationship with a woman, but has a wandering eye and spends a lot of time looking at and possibly even flirting with other women.
His woman sees that and she breaks up with him.
In either case, if the guy tries to get his ex back, she says, “It would never work if we got back together,” because she believes that it’s only a matter of time before he cheats on her, or she cheats on him and then the relationship would end again.
try to manipulate her into giving you another chance, it also makes her more determined to move on and prove you wrong.
Then, rather than come back to you and try to make things work, she instead puts in extra effort to meet a new man to be in a relationship with.
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