Getting your ex to talk to you again is about beginning to say and do the types of things that will make her feel respectful towards you and attracted to you.
However, before you’re going to be able to do that properly, you first need to understand why she really broke up with you in the first place.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man and creator of Get Your Ex Back: Super System) to understand the process that your ex went through before breaking up with you and what you need to begin doing to get her to want to talk to you again…
Now that you know the process she went through before breaking up with you, are you aware of why she might have decided to stop answering your calls, replying to your texts or speaking to you in person?
1. Did You Hound Her to the Point Where She Has Stopped Answering Your Calls or Texts?
One of the biggest mistakes guys make when they’re hoping to get an ex-girlfriend to change her mind and reconsider her decision to end the relationship is to hound her with calls, messages, e-mails and love letters.
When they do this, they think that maintaining contact in this way will keep thoughts of them and all the good times they shared at the forefront of her mind and she’ll come to realize that she’s missing them.
Sure, this it might be how things work out in the movies, but it’s not how things are going to work out in real life. Your ex became your ex for a reason and the more you hound her with calls and messages, the more likely it is that the only things you’ll be reminding her of are the bad times and the times she’d rather forget.
Think about it; if your ex no longer wants to talk to you, she’s sending out a fairly clear message that she no longer wants to talk about the things you want to talk about – she’s moving on because you currently aren’t making her feel the type of respect and attraction that she wants to feel.
If you go down the route of continually hounding her with calls and messages, you are potentially sending out the message that you’re still the same guy she broke up with. Remember, she became your ex for a reason and if you’re continuing to hound her in this way, you’re continuing to convince her that she made the right decision when she dumped you.
You can get her back, but you have to do it in a mature way and in a way that is focused on making her feel respect and attraction for you. In her mind, it’s clear that you want her back, but that isn’t enough for most women to want to give her ex another chance.
It’s only when she can see that you’ve fixed the things (e.g. insecurity, lack of commitment, over-commitment to her, etc) and are now able to make her feel the type of respect and attraction that she needs to feel for a man if she is going to be happy in a relationship with him.
If you want your ex to talk to you again, you need to give her reason to want to talk to you again, meaning you need to show her that you’ve changed and you’re no longer the guy you were when the relationship ended – you are now a better guy than you ever have been before.
Some younger women or women with little experience when it comes to relationships may give their ex another chance without him changing anything at all, but it won’t last. If you want to get back with her for real, you’ve really got to be prepared to grow and mature as a man.
You may already be a great, mature guy in some areas of life, but you can always improve. When it comes to getting an ex back, you have to improve.
2. Did You Make Empty Promises to Her?
It’s not unusual for guys to resort to promising an ex the world in an attempt to get her to change her mind, but words alone cannot fully change her lack of respect and attraction.
Saying things like, “I can change; tell me what you want me to do and I’ll do it” means nothing to a woman if you don’t know what changes you need to make.
Unless you can show your ex through your actions and behavior that you’ve learned from the experience of being dumped and you’ve taken action to make the improvements needed to become a better man, she has no reason to consider the words you’re saying to be anything more than empty promises.
With this being the case, choosing not to talk to you is simply her way of letting you know that she has no interest in listening to what you have to say any more – she’s heard it all before.
Most women don’t ever want to feel as though they are their man’s mother, big sister or teacher in life. A woman wants you to work out how to be a real man yourself, rather than looking to her to guide you. If you don’t care enough about her to work that stuff out, why should she want to give you another chance or talk to you again?
Right now, you have an opportunity to become an even greater man that you already are. No doubt, you’ve learnt some harsh lessons by getting dumped by your ex and you are now serious about becoming a better man, but make sure that you’re not all talk and no action.
You’ve got to put in a little bit of work to actively make some changes to the way that you make her feel when you interact with her.
Getting Her to Talk to You Again
Whether or not your ex is going to be interested in talking to you again is going to depend on what happened to cause her to stop talking to you in the first place.
For example: Some guys have gone to the extreme of cheating on their girlfriend (fiancé or wife) several times, as well as being physically violent or emotionally abusive towards her.
In those cases (about 15% of cases), a guy has to do a bit more work to get his woman to forgive him. It’s possible to get her forgiveness, but he has to be willing to be patient and go through a reconciliation process with her.
In other cases, most guys are usually able to get their ex to get on a phone call and agree to meet up with them pretty much straight away. As long as a guy is prepared and knows what to say, his ex will have little reason not to want to meet up with him for a catch up over coffee.
Is She Still Sexually Attracted to You?
Relationships break up for a variety of reasons, but when a woman falls out of love with a guy, it’s usually because she no longer feels sexually attracted to him.
This can happen when a guy ruins a woman’s respect for him as a man by being too jealous, clingy, insecure or controlling, or on the other end of the scale, he is too careless, won’t commit and basically doesn’t care about her.
It’s possible to get those feelings back though and make her want to give the relationship another chance, as Dan explains in this video…
A woman will fall in love with a guy because of who he is as a man and how he makes her feel. Likewise, a woman will falls out of love with a guy when he no longer makes her feel the same way because he drastically changes the way he approaches her and the relationship.
When you can change your line of thinking from, “How to get your ex to talk to you again” to, “How can I develop the type of qualities that make me the guy that almost all women want to talk to?” you’re making it much more likely that your ex is going to want to talk to you again.
What you really need to do is focus on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, while also making her feel understood (i.e. that you actually understand why she broke it off you with you).
Making Her Feel the Way That She Used to Feel With You
When your ex-girlfriend originally became your girlfriend, she must have felt the way she wanted to feel in a relationship when she was with you, but something about you or your attitude must have changed to cause her feelings for you to change.
Instead of hounding her with calls and hanging around in the hope that she might change her mind, decide to take action like a man and develop the qualities that will get the spark back between you the next time you interact with her.
The bottom line is that knowing how to get your ex to talk to you again comes down to knowing how to make yourself a man she wants to talk to again. Once you feel like you’re ready to get in touch with her, you need to get her on a call and get her to agree to meet up with you in person.
How can you get your ex on a phone call when she’s not talking to you anymore? It’s simple and it’s all explained in Dan Bacon’s proven to work ex back program called, Get Your Ex Back: Super System