If you want to know how to win your girlfriend back, you first of all need to understand what led to losing her in the first place.
Something about you in terms of your attitude and behavior must have changed to cause your girlfriend’s feelings for you to change and until you can figure out what those changes were, you can’t make changes for the better to turn things around and win her back.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man and creator of Get Your Ex Back: Super System) to understand where things likely went wrong for you and her and what you need to do to win her back…
If you approach the process of winning your girlfriend back properly, you will get her back and you will make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. However, none of that will happen if you make all the classic mistakes that other guys do when trying to win a girlfriend back.
Where Guys Go Wrong
The biggest mistake most guys make when trying to get an ex-girlfriend to change her mind is to look for “quick fix” solutions.
The problem with this approach is that these “solutions” fail to help a guy figure out the real reasons why his girlfriend broke up with him, so any action he takes is unlikely to be effective or bring him the lasting results he wants.
1. Trying to win her back by improving his appearance
One of the most popular “quick fixes” is to make improvements to your appearance in some way, whether it’s heading down to the gym to begin building a more muscular physique, kitting yourself out in some new designer clothing, or getting yourself a new haircut.
The problem with this approach is that none of the changes it brings about actually matter. A woman falls in love with a guy because of who he is on the inside, not because of how he looks on the outside, so she doesn’t fall out of love with a guy because of how he looks either.
If you want to win your girlfriend back, you need to show her that you have developed the inner qualities she’s looking for and that the changes you have made have led to you becoming a better man.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use it to your advantage to win your girlfriend back…
2. Trying to convince her with only words
Another commonly suggested “quick fix” solution is to say all the things that you think your ex wants to hear in an attempt to sweet-talk her into changing her mind.
This is a mistake on many levels but the main problem with this approach is that words alone won’t change the way a woman is feeling. At the time of breaking up with you, your ex-girlfriend had fallen out of love with you and there’s nothing you can say alone that will change that.
To change her feelings and to get her to fall in love with you again, you need to show her through your attitude and actions that you have made changes for the better in terms of who you are as a man.
For example: If you plead with her to be given a second chance by saying something along the lines of, “I promise I can change; whatever it is you want me to do differently, I can do it, just tell me what you want,” your words will do nothing to change her mind because they will only highlight the fact that you don’t know how to be the man she needs.
If you want to win your girlfriend back, you need to show her that you know what mistakes you made and that you’ve learned from them to become a better man as a result. Women don’t want to be a man’s teacher in life and have to take on the role of mother or big sister.
Your girlfriend wants to be your woman and look up to you with respect, rather than look down on you with pity.
3. Trying to win her back by giving her all the power
In the same way that a woman does not want to hear empty promises, she does not want a guy to throw himself at her feet and put her in the position of leading the way in the relationship.
Sure, the relationships in TV sitcoms and romantic comedy movies appear to revolve around a woman being happy to “wear the pants” and the man being happy to go along with whatever his woman says with an “anything for a quiet life” sort of attitude, but this is not what real women living in the real world want.
Real women want to feel like a feminine woman in their relationship with a man. In other words, they want to be with a man who knows how to confidently take the lead, make them feel girly and feminine and be the sort of guy/man that they can look up to and respect.
Why Should She Want You Back?
Winning your girlfriend back comes down to showing her through your actions and behavior that you are now a better man than the one she dumped. You also need to make her realize that you are a much better man than any of the other guys around that she may be interested in.
To win your girlfriend back, you need to quickly develop the qualities that not only make you a sexually attractive man, but also a man who makes other guys pale in comparison. Unless she sees the qualities in you that she’s looking for in a man and unless she feels the way she wants to feel in your company, she will have no obvious reason to want you back.
To win your girlfriend back, you need to give her good reason to want you back and that means making the improvements needed to demonstrate to her that you’ve learned from the mistakes you made and you have become a better man as a result.
Are you ready to begin the exciting, rapid journey of winning her back? Are you ready to become an even better man than you are right now? Are you serious about following through and doing whatever it takes to win her back?