How can you get a relationship back to how it was at the start, when you and her were falling in love and you really wanted to be with each other?
You couldn’t keep your hands off each other, you loved spending time with each other and you looked at each other in a positive light.
You had good thoughts about each other.
You behaved well around each other.
You wanted to treat each other well and as a result, you and her had a really good time together.
Well, one school of thought is that a couple should go back and do what they used to do when they were falling in love, whether that be going to the movies, having dinner, going to a certain park, going to the beach, hanging out with friends and so on.
Does that work?
Can it work?
For example: Many couples end up doing the same thing over and over again for years and even decades, so they’re already doing what they did at the start of their relationship.
As a result, that’s not going to make things go back to the way they were at the start because they’re already doing it.
Their relationship isn’t fun anymore, they’re not feeling like they’re in love and they are going and doing the things that they used to do together.
On the other hand, if a couple has fallen into a boring routine and they don’t really do any fun things together anymore like they used to, then going and doing those fun things together may bring back the spark.
I say “may” because sometimes a couple will start doing the things that they used to do at the start, but then will realize that it doesn’t feel the way it used to.
When they used to go to a dinner and a movie, it felt great.
They were in love.
They looked at each other in a positive light.
They got along.
They had a good time together.
Now, they’re just going through the motions…
Let’s go and get the car parked.
Now, let’s go and get a ticket.
Let’s eat some food.
We’ll go to the movies now and we’ll get some popcorn and some Coke or whatever.
We’ll sit down and we’ll watch the movie and after the movie, talk about the movie a little bit, go home, go to sleep, no sex, good night.
So, if a couple is trying to get their relationship back to the way it used to be and they go and watch a movie and have some dinner, it isn’t necessarily going to make things go back to the way they used to be.
Going somewhere and doing something with your woman isn’t the point.
What you need to do is bring out the side of her that existed when you first met and bring out the side of yourself that existed when you and her first met.
This is where a lot of guys go wrong.
A guy tries to get things back to the way that they used to be by being a bit more flirtatious, touching her more, hugging her, trying to give her a kiss, trying to be a bit more playful and she doesn’t immediately get on board with that.
She’s in the habit of being moody and disrespectful towards him so she keeps doing that.
At that point, some men will just give up and think that the spark is dead, she doesn’t think of him in that way anymore and there’s nothing that he can do about it.
Whereas another man might get angry at her for behaving like that.
He might feel resentful and say that he’s trying to make the relationship work and she’s not even willing to make an effort.
She is just being moody and disrespectful and he’s very annoyed by that.
Another guy might see his woman’s reluctance to be affectionate and loving as meaning that he has to try harder so he will try harder and harder to impress her.
He will buy her things, he will try to suck up to her and he will hope that she will eventually see how good of a man he is and how much he deserves her to treat him better.
Yet, those approaches don’t work.
Instead, what you need to understand is that sometimes it takes a little bit of time for a person to change.
For example: When your woman wants you to change something, even though you want to do it, sometimes you’ll make a mistake.
Sometimes you’ll slip into your old patterns of behavior and do the thing that she doesn’t want you to do anymore.
It doesn’t mean that you’re a bad man, or that you’re not listening to her.
Instead, it just takes a bit of time to change a habit or behavior.
If she’s in the habit of being disrespectful and moody and she isn’t in the habit of being affectionate and loving, sometimes it can take a little bit of time for her to warm up to that, get used to it and feel comfortable with that type of behavior again.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you should wait months or years for her to eventually change.
Instead, you can make her feel motivated to change very quickly and be more loving and affectionate towards you and really enjoy that side of herself.
For example: If a couple went back to a particular park or a beach that they used to like going to and the man is in the habit of not initiating affection with this woman because he is afraid of getting rejected by her, or he is annoyed at how she keeps rejecting him, then he needs to break that pattern of behavior.
He needs to have the confidence, the courage and the masculinity to be the stronger one in that moment, to let her see that he’s not afraid to initiate affection with her.
Let her see that he doesn’t back down and become insecure, annoyed or even angry when she doesn’t immediately warm up to him.
What happens then, is that a woman naturally feels respect and attraction for her man’s confidence, courage and masculinity in that moment.
It literally triggers her feelings of sexual attraction and respect for him.
When that happens, she starts to reconnect with the love that she used to feel for him and in that moment, the relationship begins to go back to the way it was at the start.
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
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The Changing Relationship
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that a relationship will always change over time, but a truly happy relationship is where the love, respect and attraction deepens over time rather than fading away.
Every relationship changes based on the obstacles that you and her face, the experiences that you have together and the goals and dreams that you have about the future together.
Yet, regardless of what you and her have faced in the past and what you may encounter in the future, it doesn’t mean that you and her have to fall out of love.
You’ve seen those couples who fall more and more in love with each other as the years and decades go on.
That is what’s possible.
You really can experience that with your woman, even if you and her have gotten to a point where the spark has died, the fun isn’t there anymore and you just don’t feel like you are in love with each other anymore.
You can literally turn things around and create a new relationship dynamic that gets better and better over time.