4 ways to make your ex see you as being better than other guys are…
1. Don’t See Other Guys as Competition
When getting an ex back, attracting a new woman or maintaining the attraction of a woman when you’re in a relationship, you should never look at other guys as being your competition.
You are the man.
End of story.
You are the man.
You’ve got to believe it and never question it.
That’s what women want you to do.
Women don’t go around telling men that though because most men will get the wrong idea and start acting arrogant and treating women badly.
Instead, women just hope that they can find a man who knows that alpha male secret.
When a woman finds a guy who understands this, her instincts kick in and she feels compelled to stay with him no matter what.
She knows how rare it is to find a man who believes in himself no matter what, rather than other guys who waste their life secretly comparing themselves to other guys and feeling insecure and inferior.
You’ve got to know that you are the man.
Yet, here’s the thing…
When a guy is still totally in love with his ex and she seems to be moving on with other guys, he will usually be feeling hurt, betrayed and possibly even envious that she is so happy without him.
Unfortunately, the worst thing that a guy can do when he’s feeling envious is to begin looking other guys as competition for his ex woman’s love.
He starts thinking about how much taller, better looking or richer other guys might be and it makes him feel insecure and inferior.
Then, rather than focusing his attention on showing her that he has changed and become a better man, he behaves in ways that make her think, “What is my ex doing? Why is he being so childish and immature? Does he really think that behaving like that is going to impress me and make me change my mind about him? The only thing he is doing is turning me off him even more.”
For example: A common mistake that guys make is to start talking badly about other guys that like her.
He might say something along the lines of, “I have no idea what you see in that guy. He’s so nerdy. Who cuts his hair like that? Haha! I thought you had better taste in men than that!” or “That guy might have big muscles, but I bet he can’t even add up two plus two. You’re obviously going for dumb guys now” or, “All that guy wants to do is have sex with you. He won’t ever love you as much as I do. Don’t do that to yourself. Have some self respect.”
Secretly, he’s hoping that his ex will suddenly think to herself, “Hmmm… he has a point there. Other guys just can’t compare to how great my ex really is. I should just stop looking for another guy and just get back together with him.”
Yet, when a woman sees that all her ex is doing is being critical and unkind about other guys in the hopes that he will look like a better option in her eyes, she feels even more turned off by what she perceives as his jealous, immature behavior.
Here’s the thing…
Women aren’t attracted to a guy when he is being insecure by looking at other guys as competition to him.
She wants you to know that you are awesome and to believe that no matter what she says or does to try to make you feel insecure.
She won’t tell you that, but it’s what she really wants.
So, don’t waste time trying to convince your ex that you’re better than other guys by comparing yourself to them and pointing out their bad qualities compared to your good qualities.
Instead, just focus on sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you by being the new and improved version of you whenever you interact with her from now on.
By the way…
Knowing that you are the man is not about telling her that you don’t see other guys as competition, but literally not comparing yourself to them at all.
Do not compare yourself to other guys.
You are better than them and that’s all you need to think and believe.
You don’t need to explain it, try to justify it or try to convince anyone to believe it.
Just do what alpha males do and know that you are the man without questioning…ever.
One of the reasons why it’s so important to never, ever question it is that you can always find something about other guys that you wish you had.
For example: You might want to be taller, have bigger muscles, have a better looking face, have a bigger dick or have more money.
Focusing on things that you wish were better about yourself and worrying that your ex will want those things in a guy will only make you feel insecure.
The most important thing is that you are confident about who you are, regardless of how much better looking, smarter, more successful or wealthy other guys might be compared to you.
Simply build your self esteem around the new, improved version of you.
Then, when you remain calm and relaxed around your ex and let her see that you truly believe in yourself now, she will pick up on your new, confident mindset and will naturally feel respect and attraction for you.
Even if she tries to fight it, she won’t be able to stop herself from wondering, “Why is my ex not feeling insecure and jealous that I’m not trying to get back with him and have been having fun without him? Maybe he really has changed. Maybe he finally has become a man that I can truly look up to and respect” and she feels herself drawn to you again.
2. Give Her the Attraction Experience That She Didn’t Get From You, But Secretly Wanted
A woman will usually break up with a guy without ever telling him what he really was failing to include in the relationship to make her truly happy.
For example: A woman might want her guy to be more supportive of her dreams and ambitions.
She wished that he would be more encouraging of her dreams and possibly even help her achieve some of her bigger goals.
Instead, he either just said, “That’s nice honey. I’m happy for you,” when she told him about her dreams.
In some cases, the guy just laughed at her and said something along the lines of, “You can never do that! You’re not smart enough,” or “You’ll never have the money for that,” or “You need an education to do that. You only managed to graduate from high school. Just focus on doing something that’s actually achievable.”
She might then get upset and say to him, “You don’t understand me,” or “You’re so negative.”
If the guy doesn’t realize that what she really needs is for him to be more supportive, encouraging and helpful towards her, she will begin to feel unsatisfied.
She will then think about his behavior and start asking herself, “Will I ever be able to achieve anything big in my life if I stick around a guy who never takes me or my dreams seriously? Do I want to wake up one morning and discover that I never accomplished anything because of him? He is holding me back. I can’t allow this to happen. I have to break up with him.”
If she then realizes that he’s not giving her the attraction experience she really wants, and he probably never will be able to give her that experience, she will break up with him and look for a guy who can fill that need in her.
Another example of a man not giving a woman the attraction experience that she wants in a relationship is where the guy is insecure about his value to her and as a result, he becomes jealous and controlling.
He then starts to monitor her every move and expects her to report her whereabouts to him when they’re not together.
She might then say, “Just trust me,” or “I love you and I’m here with you now aren’t I? Don’t worry, I won’t cheat on you. I love you.”
If he doesn’t realize that what she’s really saying is, “Stop being so jealous and controlling because you are turning me off and I’m going to break up with you if you keep this up,” and he carries on behaving the same way, she will eventually become unsatisfied, break up with him and look for a guy who will be more emotionally secure in his relationship with her.
So, if you want to make your ex see you as better than other guys, it’s very important that you find out what she secretly wanted from you that you weren’t giving her and start improving on that right away.
Then, when you interact with her and she sees for herself that you’ve changed and improved on some of the things that caused her to break up with you (she will be able to pick up on that based on the way you now talk, think and behave around her), she won’t be able to stop herself from dropping her guard a little bit and start believing that you can now give her what she really wants in a relationship.
3. Make Her Laugh and Smile, Especially When She Is Being Cold or Distant
Chances are high that right now your ex is not being overly friendly and open towards you, right?
She might have even be saying things like, “Leave me alone. What we had is over now and I’m moving on. Can’t you see that I’m with someone else now?” or, “Look, we had our chance and it didn’t work. I want to be single now and enjoy myself,” or, “I just want some time to be alone for a while. I don’t know what I want right now.”
Naturally, when a woman is saying things like that and being cold and distant towards you, you might feel hurt and be at a loss of how to respond.
When a guy feels that way after his woman dumps him, he might make one of the following mistakes as he tries to show her that he is doing okay without her:
- He brags about how happy he is.
When a woman is being cold, distant and saying things like, “I’ve moved on. I’m not waiting around for you anymore,” the guy might then attempt to make her feel jealous for breaking up with him.
For example: He might say to her, “Yeah, being broken up is totally fine for me too. I’ve been having a great time going out now that I don’t have you holding me back anymore. Remember how you always used to hate going clubbing? Well now I can do it all the time. It’s fun.”
Yet, in most cases, when a guy is bragging about how happy he is without his ex it’s usually because the opposite is true and in reality he’s actually feeling lost and miserable without her.
Remember: A woman can easily find out if a guy is really happy without her, or if he’s only putting on an act.
All she has to do is say something like, “Wow, okay it looks like you’re much happier being single. Pity about that…I was kind of hoping we could work things out between us. I was actually thinking of asking you if you want to try again.”
If the guy then quickly responds by saying something along the lines of, “No! No! I still would rather be with you than be single,” she will know that he was lying to her and she will lose even more respect for him as a man.
The key is to be genuinely happy without your ex, rather than only pretending to be happy without her.
Then when she interacts with you and sees that you are getting on with your life and have truly been improving yourself as a man, she will begin to feel drawn to you in a positive way.
She will see that you are now at a completely different level as a man than you were when she broke up with you and she will find it difficult to keep thinking of you in a negative way, because she can see that you’re not that guy anymore.
Another mistake that a guy might make is…
- He tries to make her feel unattractive compared to him.
When a woman is being cold and distant towards her ex, he might then say to himself, “Who does she think I am? How dare she treat me like that? I’ll show her…”
He may then put her down and try to make her feel unattractive compared to him, in the hopes that she will feel so bad about herself that she will begin to think that other guys wouldn’t want her.
She will then realize that she’s lucky that a guy like him will give her another chance.
Yet, that’s not the way to make your ex see you as better than other guys.
If a woman has experience with relationships and is confident and self-assured, she will just assume that her ex is being an insecure jerk who can’t handle the fact that she’s moving on without him.
On the other hand, if the woman is inexperienced, she will probably feel hurt and she may even doubt herself a bit, but it doesn’t mean that she will come running back to him.
In fact, it will often mean that she will begin flirting with other guys to see how many of them she can get to like her.
In the process of doing that, she will usually find herself another guy to start having sex with and she will then use that to make herself feel better and make her ex feel rejected and horrible about himself.
So, don’t waste your time trying to get one up on your ex.
Instead, just focus on making her feel so good when she’s interacting with you from now on that she can’t stop herself from wanting to interact with you via text, on social media, on the phone and in person.
The best way to do that is by making her smile and laugh when she’s being closed off and unfriendly.
For example: Imagine that you’re talking to your ex over the phone right now and she says something like, “Just stop calling me. I’m seeing other guys now. I’m not interested in you anymore.”
Rather than getting upset about it, you can turn it into something to laugh about together, which will make her feel respect and attraction for you.
When she says, “I’m seeing other guys now. I’m not interested in you anymore,” you can respond by saying in a joking manner, “Oh no! You mean you’re not sitting around heart-broken and thinking of sneaky ways to try and get me back? I just can’t believe it. I’m totally devastated. I think I’m going to cry now… boo hoo!” and then laugh.
She will most likely laugh, or at least smile when you tease her in that way, especially when she knows she’s been caught out trying to be bitchy towards you and it has turned into something that you’re both now laughing about.
When she laughs (or even just smiles), it becomes difficult for her to keep pushing you away because she naturally feels good talking to you.
She starts to feel some respect and attraction for you for having the balls to tease her in a tense moment like that and she begins to see you in a different light.
She then drops her guard and becomes more open to interacting with you and even meeting up with you again to catch up and see what happens.
That’s when you can really take things up a level and make her fall in love with you all over again.
4. Go Through the Ex Back Process, Hook Up With Her Sexually and Blow Her Mind
The main thing to remember is that the fastest way to make your ex see you as being better than other guys is to actively make her have strong feelings for you again.
When she is interacting with you and she’s feeling a lot of respect and attraction for the man that you are now, it becomes difficult for her to be thinking about other guys at the same time.
The key is to interact with your ex and continue saying and doing the types of things that are going to keep turning her feelings on for you (e.g. being confident and charismatic, making her laugh and smile, making her feel feminine and girly in contrast to your emotional strength and masculinity, using her bitchy attitude to create funny moments that bring you closer together and show her that you’re not intimidated by her or insecure and hurt without her support).
So, don’t sit around saying, “How can I make my ex see me as a better man than other guys?” and hoping that she suddenly changes her mind and comes running back to you on her own.
Instead, just call her up on the phone and let her experience the new you.
Make her laugh and smile and get her thinking, “This is odd. I feel happy talking to my ex again. I never thought it was possible but I actually want to talk to him like this. It’s fun.”
Then, get her to meet up with you in person.
At the meet up, continue focusing on making her feel sexual attraction and respect for the new you.
Pay attention to the signs that she may be giving you (e.g. licking her lips, touching you on the arm and/or leg, playing with her hair or a necklace, talking about the good times that you and her shared) that she’s open to connecting with you on a more intimate level.
When it feels like an appropriate time, give her a hug and if she doesn’t pull away, give her a kiss.
From there, if she’s open, you can go to your place or hers and hook up with her sexually.
Focus on building the sexual tension between you and her to the point where she realizes that other guys pale in comparison to how you make her feel.
Remember: When you re-spark your ex’s feelings of respect and attraction and then blow her mind with the best sex she’s ever experienced, it will be difficult, if not impossible, for her to see you as being anything other than the best.
Enjoy the great times ahead with her!