If you want to have sex with your neighbor, you have to make sure that you trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you first.
Right now, you’re probably feeling more than ready to have sex with her because you feel attracted to her. Yet, does she feel the same way about you, or is she just being friendly?
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to get your neighbor feeling turned on and eager to have sex with you…
As you will discover from the video above, if she doesn’t feel attracted and turned on by how you interact with her, she probably isn’t going to interested in anything sexual because it would feel awkward (i.e. you’d be attracted to her, but she’d only be looking at you a nice guy who she likes as a friend).
You have to make her feel attracted, build up the sexual tension between you and then release it with sex.
Building up sexual tension can be done during a 5-10 minute conversation or over a few days or weeks if you want to take it slow. How quickly you will have sex with her will depend on how good you are at making her feel attracted, recognizing her signals of sexual interest and then having the confidence to make a move.
Many Women See it as Romantic
Have you ever watched a movie or TV show where a beautiful woman moves in next door to a man and they almost instantly begin hanging out at each others houses and then having sex?
In the real world, most people try to avoid their neighbors and live a private life that never includes their neighbors, but if you like a woman who is your neighbor, the good news is that it is often possible to pick her up and begin a sexual relationship.
You can be charming and attractive and make her feel like her life is suddenly playing out like a Hollywood movie.
She will then get excited about the idea of hooking up with you and tell her friends and family all about that story, rather than having to say that she’s met yet another guy in a bar or nightclub.
How to Pick Up Your Neighbor: What to Do
Here are the five steps to picking up and then beginning a sexual relationship with your neighbor:
1. Establish yourself as a cool, trustworthy guy
Most people want to be able to live in peace and not be bothered by crazy, untrustworthy or even dangerous neighbors.
As such, most people try to keep their distance from their neighbors and just smile and say hello as they drive or walk past. To get through the “neighbor barrier” that most women will put up, you have to approach her and have a quick, easy-going conversation to establish yourself as a cool, trustworthy guy.
Even if you have a great conversation and are very confident, easy-going and likeable, most women will still keep their guard up and not commit too much to the conversation, so don’t worry if you get that reaction.
The aim of the first approach is not to pick her up, but to simply establish that you are not a threat, a lonely weirdo or someone that she should steer clear of.
2. Focus on building sexual tension and developing a connection
When you initially begin speaking to her, don’t try to get a phone number, add her to Facebook or invite her over. Just start by having an easy-going conversation, throwing in some humor and letting her see that you’re a cool, trustworthy guy.
This may happen over the course of a few days (if you happen to see her often), or a few weeks to a few months if you rarely cross paths.
While establishing yourself as a cool, trustworthy guy, you must also focus on building sexual tension between you and her by making her feel attracted to you, but not actually trying to get her phone number or get her to come over to your place.
Sexual tension happens between a man and a woman when there is a lot of attraction present, but the relationship isn’t escalating to kissing and sex.
However, sexual tension isn’t everything that you need. You also need to chat to her in a way that allows you both to connect on various levels.
Without a proper connection, some women will happily escalate to sex, but to make sure that she does feel comfortable being alone with you in her home or at your place, make sure that you build a good connection with her first.
How long should you focus on building sexual tension and connecting with her before making a move?
That depends on how often you see her, how good you are at making women feel attracted to you and how worried she is about getting involved with a neighbor.
Sometimes it will happen almost immediately, whereas other times it will take weeks or months to play out. If you want to get laid on the first night you meet women, you should be going out to bars and nightclubs and approaching women there. However, if you want to take things slow with a woman you like, then picking up a neighbor can be a great experience for both of you.
3. Invite her over to your place or invite her out somewhere when the time is right
When you have built enough sexual tension, you then need to invite her over to your place for a reason such as: Coffee, Friday night drinks, or to a BBQ that you’re having at home with friends.
You can also invite her out to go and have a drink, a coffee, to go to a party that you’re attending with friends or just to grab a bite to eat at a restaurant or take away store that you’ve both talked about wanting to eat before.
If she says no to your offer initially, just go back to building more sexual tension between you and establishing a better connection. Then, when the time is right, suggest it again.
How to Pick Up Your Neighbor: 4 Mistakes to Avoid
Here is where guys go wrong when attempting to pick up their pretty neighbor:
Mistake 1: Being the lonely, boring neighbor
If the woman is also boring and lonely, then this won’t be too much of a problem, but if she is a cool, beautiful woman or a woman who leads an active lifestyle, she isn’t going to be very attracted to a guy who lives a lonely lifestyle.
When it comes to picking up neighbors, most women will hold back any signs of real interest until they can see that you are a compatible match.
She will want to know for sure whether it will be a good idea to allow you to come into her life. So, when a woman senses that a guy is a “lonely neighbor” looking for some company and is hoping that she will take pity on him, she won’t be interested.
To successfully attract and pick up your neighbor, you have to make her feel as though not having you in her life is a bad thing and that she is missing out on enjoying good times by not spending more time with you.
To do that, you should be living an active, interesting lifestyle with friends, fun hobbies and big things that you are working on achieving in life.
If you are leading that type of lifestyle, here’s how a conversation might go if she was living a fairly boring lifestyle:
- You: So, how was your weekend?
- Her: Oh, pretty boring…just stayed at home mostly. How about you?
- You: [Smile and say in a joking manner] Oh, so you’re a boring girl huh? 🙂 I thought you would have been out partying all weekend.
- Her: [Laughing] Nah, just stayed at home.
- You: Well, I’m no party animal, but I went to a friend’s house party on Saturday night and was at another friend’s BBQ on Sunday afternoon. It was a fun weekend.
- Her: Cool, sounds like you have a great weekend.
- You: Yeah, it was fun. Maybe if you ever have another boring weekend, I should invite you to some parties or something?
- Her: Yeah, that would be cool.
Of course, that’s an example of everything going well in the conversation and of you just experienced a fun weekend with friends. If the conversation does go that well, simply get her number or add her to Facebook and then follow up from there. If it doesn’t flow that smoothly, just focus on bumping into her once a week (or more if appropriate) and building up more sexual tension and connection between you.
As mentioned, you don’t have to be living a fun, interesting lifestyle is she is a boring, stay at home type of woman. However, it is always good to be able to talk about some fun and interesting things that you’ve been up to lately. Women are always more open to guys who will add more fun and enjoyment to their life.
Mistake 2: Pretending to be an innocent friend who has no sexual or romantic feelings for her
In most cases, a woman will be able to sense that you like her in a sexual way, so if you hide your sexual interest in her, you will only come across as being weird, untrustworthy and even creepy to some women.
Women are attracted to guys who have the confidence to be themselves and to openly show their sexual interest in a woman in a discreet, non-sleazy way.
If you’re attracted to your neighbor, but you are hiding your feelings behind an act of being her “innocent friend” or a helpful, nice guy act, she may begin to perceive you as a weird neighbor who is always “hovering” around her and as a result, she will not be interested.
When it comes to picking up your neighbor or any other woman, you have to be honest about your sexual interest after first making her feel attracted to you.
Watch this video to understand why acting like a friend or innocent nice guy often leads to rejection…
Once you have made your neighbor feel attracted to you, it’s important to let her know that you find her attractive too. Most women are insecure about their looks and need to be given fairly direct compliments, otherwise they play hard to get to make sure that a guy is really interested and isn’t just playing with her.
To let her know that you find her attractive, just smile at her and say things like, “Oh, my sexy neighbor” whenever you see her. If she is attracted to you, she will love it and will make herself more open and available to you, hoping that you make the next move.
Mistake 3: Being too forceful about it
Some guys do the opposite of the previous mistake (pretending to have no sexual or romantic interest in her) and instead become too serious and forceful about wanting to start a relationship with her.
Guys who make this mistake often confuse being “confident” and “being an alpha male who goes after what he wants” with being overbearing and needy. In most cases, these guys lack confidence around women and people and generally behave in a way that most women find unattractive.
When you’re attempting to pick up any woman, you must ensure that she is actually attracted and interested in you first, before you begin your pursuit of sex or a relationship. When a woman is attracted to you, she will welcome your advances and even approach you at times, which means that you won’t have to behave like an annoying neighbor to get her attention.
Mistake 4: Constantly Doing Favors For Her
Some guys assume that if they do a lot of good deeds for a woman, she will then like him and want to have sex with him.
This is a good move for a guy who is confident and alpha because the woman will be attracted to him, but if you’re a nervous, self-doubting, insecure type of guy, then it will be a bad move because she will not be attracted to you.
To attract any woman you have to be confident and masculine (in your thinking, behavior and actions) around her. You also have to be able to flirt with her and create a sexual vibe between you.
If all you can do for her is fix a broken tap, but are nervous and self-doubting when you talk to her or when she looks you in the eyes, then she’s not going to want anything more than an extra favor from you.
Of course, there are some women who will accept a nervous, self-doubting guy for sex or a relationship. However, those women are usually unattractive or are simply looking for a guy to play with for a while, until a real man comes along.
Every day, I have thousands of men coming to me for advice on how to get an ex back because of this very problem; they got lucky with a girl who just intended to use them for a while and she has now dumped him because she’s either bored and wants to find a real man, or she has already found a new man and is already sleeping with him.
I can help these guys to get their ex back, but if you want to avoid getting dumped or cheated on in the first place, don’t rely on “getting lucky” and then hoping that the woman will never realize her mistake and dump you.
How to Approach Her and Start the Interaction
Not all neighbors are the type who stand outside watering their front lawn every evening, or hanging out in the gym at an apartment complex a few times a week. In many cases, you won’t see your neighbor for weeks and in other cases, you might see her every day. So, your approach has to vary based on how easy it is to approach and talk to her.
Apartment building: Try to cross paths with her in the elevator, in the foyer or lobby, at the communal gym or swimming pool. Make sure that when you do see her you make the approach, because it will likely be another week to a month before you bump into her again.
House: Walk past her house when she is outside watering her front lawn, or getting mail from her mailbox and then start up a friendly, easy-going conversation and add in some flirting. You will need to be mentally prepared to get up and make an approach at a moment’s notice.
Additionally, if your community celebrates things like Halloween or Christmas, you could always organize to go “trick or treating” with some of your nieces and nephews or walk around your neighborhood singing carol songs with the people who go door to door.
If your community doesn’t celebrate those traditions (or anything similar where people go from door to door in their neighborhood), then you will have to rely on bumping into her at random times.
Unless you see her often, approaching your neighbor usually isn’t going to be as easy as approaching women in bars or talking to women at parties. It’s a more difficult approach to pull off, but you essentially need to be patient, confident and ready to approach at a moment’s notice.
In some cases, it will be appropriate to walk right up to her door and knock to say hello and have a chat. However, most of the time it won’t and you will just have to wait until you get an opportunity to start a conversation when you happen to cross paths.